 Thank you very much. I really enjoyed your speech and I had a question like we you mentioned earlier about free choice and also how others make you feel guilty and how it's okay to be selfish but then where does responsibility come into that like for example let's say you have like a sick child or a child who needs special attention or maybe you might have aging parents and are those responsibilities that you have to take on are you socially excuse me are you socially obligated to take those responsibilities or should you have the free choice to say no I don't want to do those things and I want to pursue whatever I want to pursue. So I don't believe that you have any social obligations other than to leave your neighbor alone that is not to infringe on his right to pursue his happiness but I don't consider a relationship with a child or relationship with your parents a social they your relationships they your obligations if they are obligations. Now I think there's a difference when you're talking about with a child or with a parent and I'm gonna say something controversial and my son's in the room which makes it even more complicated. I don't think children owe anything to their parents I don't think children owe anything to their parents except to the extent that they love them. If you love somebody then that love determines your relationship with them but you don't owe them anything for bringing you into this world you didn't ask for it. There's no contractor right you are not obliged to your parents other than you know you have to do it they tell you to do up until a certain age and if they pay for your college and stuff then I think you owe them something in gratitude for that but if you don't love your parents and I think there are plenty of people who don't love their parents I think there's a biblical commandment that they'll show whatever to your parents but that's just a commandment most a lot of people not most people a lot of people don't love their parents because their parents didn't own it the parents are not that good they're not nice people you shouldn't love people who are not nice you're not automatically obliged to love anybody anybody everybody's love needs to be earned so I don't think so if you love your older parents and you feel you know part of your happiness is in helping them out when they're sick then do it absolutely you should do it but it has to be in the context of your happiness if it's a sacrifice to help your elderly parents you should not do it it's your life your life is not theirs you own your life not your parents so you know you should help the parents to the extent that it's part of your life now I think most of us love our parents and want to help them and don't want to see them suffer most of us would help our parents but I don't condemn somebody who doesn't who says you know what I don't like my parents I'm not gonna help them when they're old fine I think that's perfectly it's different with children you brought them into the world they are your responsibility even if you don't like them even if you don't love them you took on an obligation when you had them you didn't have to have sex you could have used birth control you could still in this country have an abortion right once you chose to have the child you have taken on a mountain of obligation it's a mountain don't have kids if you're not willing to take it on you don't sleep the first couple of years they cost you you know I did the calculation once it's an astronomical amount of money particularly if you're gonna pay them for college they're a huge huge responsibility in buddhan you should only do it if you really want to but once you do it you're locked in it's like you know you you you you you sign a contract to buy a house you bought it right you signed the contract you bought you might hate the house after you move in you might regret doing it but it's your house with a child you can't sell it without you can sell so but that's why having children is such a huge deal nobody should have children until they are committed to having children nobody said children until they're sure that's what they want that's why I think it's actually a healthy thing that Americans are having children later in life because I think they're more mature and they realize what they're doing and they're taking on the obligation much more consciously versus sixty seven years ago when when people would get married in the in their late teens early 20s and just have kids automatically and then suddenly realize oh my god you know I've taken on this obligation without having the maturity the wealth or the other or the thought that that's involved in doing it so I think it's a very different type of relationship children you are obliged because you took on that responsibility but you chose it you can't say somebody forced me with parents you don't have that obligation but it's certainly part of most of our lives because we do love our parents