 What's going on y'all? Welcome to the single guy channel. My name is Lloyd So we're gonna talk about a subject that I see on the internet all the time I get emails about this and why do women leave good men? I mean, let's be honest men leave good women women leave good men But why is it? Let's we've all been there. You probably are thinking of a certain example maybe someone in your life a friend loved one whoever it was who they did everything seemingly right in the relationship and You know the girl still ended up leaving them. Well, okay I can't predict every single situation there are times women will make a legitimate mistake for weird crazy reasons Maybe she's insecure. Maybe she's not ready for it right then and there Maybe she sabotages everything on purpose in their life women do this all the time by the way They sabotage a good thing, but are there times where a guy who seems like a great guy has everything going on? Will an intelligent well-mannered mature women leave this person and the answer unfortunately is yes I have seen this happen, you know There was a smart girl who was with a guy who I knew who they stayed together for a very long time And this guy did everything for he was a very nice person, you know, he took care of the kids He do the chores every single day everything she asked he would do He was like basically the perfect husband and all shapes and manners in terms of that and she still Left him and to be honest. She really didn't feel that bad for him They were together for like maybe 10 15 years or something like that and when they did leave and he was totally devastated And you know, he took him he's still Still recovering from it. Why is it that she did that, you know, why would she put him through something like that? It wasn't fun for her as well, too Why would she go through that? Is she just a really evil not good person? I Don't know. I don't I'm not gonna say whether she was good or bad But I can't tell you why it happened. Do I think could have been handled better? Absolutely, though, you know, like these things happen. You could probably think of an example in your own life Why do these things happen? So what I'm gonna be talking about in this video is I'm gonna be talking about Why these things go down and what you can do to make sure that the situation that happened with my friend Never happens with you, you know, it really pained me to see more guys being put in this position because it's happening more and more You know when it comes to relationships Marriages especially two out of three divorces are instituted or instigated by the woman meaning the woman is going to the guy and Demanding a divorce and a lot of times the guy's blindsided like my friend was and he has no idea No idea why this happened even though he seemingly did everything correct Okay, it really comes down to Desire if he's doing everything right, you know, most women say they want a kind generous Caring affectionate, you know supportive Husband and all that stuff when you actually Look at all of those qualities, you know, my my friends seem to have them There's something missing from this list of qualities that women are looking for okay Yeah, maybe his confidence could have been a little better, but it wasn't bad enough that it was a It was something to be worried about it was they don't talk about What it means to be a man Women are into men they desire men But when you start doing everything that your partner or you start your girlfriend or your wife or whoever It tells you all the time and you're just this kind of obedient docile little puppy you stop being a man and Although you might make her happy in that moment Although you might avoid an argument although you might make Mike your make your day just slightly better at that time You are slowly killing your desirability. I Don't know if you've noticed but women all the time will stay with a guy who they don't like who pisses them off all the time they'll stay with them for years and It's not the fact that the guy is pissing them off. That's why they're staying with him They're staying with him because he's acting like a man or he is a man. They see him as a man They see him as someone that they desire they do not see a guy who does everything they tell me They can walk all over him disrespect him Continuously especially in public They can't respect that guy and as a result they won't sleep with him in a relationship in a marriage in all those things You have a decision at certain times to either be liked or respected Too many guys are picking. I want to be liked I want my wife or my girlfriend to like I don't want her to get mad at me I just don't want to get in trouble the I don't want to get in trouble guys You might win that battle you might escape an argument But you're losing the war Again and again every single day with every decision that you make that goes in that favor And a lot of times you know what these situations are Sometimes she's getting out of line sometimes the person that you're with is acting totally and appropriately Do you just let it slide? Do you let her talk badly to you? You have a decision to make at that point. This is my opinion In relationships and in love and in and all that stuff I would go for I would go for respect I would try and be someone that you your wife your girlfriend can respect Men prefer respect women tend to prefer love Okay, and there's a reason for that because women will sleep with and desire men that they respect and They won't with guys that they that they like or you know, they can love you They can recognize that you're a good father. They can recognize that you're doing all these nice things for them A good parent a good friend that does not make you into someone that they desire And as a result when they spend time with someone who they are continually not seeing as a man who they are continually not Respecting who they disrespect on a regular basis. They become angry and bitter They're like I've spent all my good years with this guy from age 25 to 38 I've been with this guy all my good years were used up being with him I could have I could have gotten a better man. I could have gotten somebody else I could have been happier and I've used up these 15 or 13 whatever years being with someone who You know, I'm just not really into so no matter how nice the guys They still get kind of bitter and resentful and they don't feel sorry for me It's it's a very cold and unfortunate position to be in but here's how you avoid it The way you avoid it is by doing what I was saying Which was when you have a choice whether to be liked or respected I would always go for respect and this doesn't mean yelling back at them. This doesn't mean shouting Hey, you need to respect me. Hey, I'm a man. No, you sound like a child doing that You need to act the way that you want to act. Okay. It's not your responsibility to solve all of her problems It's not your responsibility to constantly be making her happy Make yourself happy first if you're happy the relationship will be happy And if you're still happy and she's not happy at the end of the day, you are the one that needs to walk away It's not your I'm not into fixing women. That's not my job People need to fix themselves and if they can't find a way to fix themselves They need to be with somebody who's going to help them do that and it's not going to be me Okay, if you're in the business of doing that if you're in the business of constantly trying to make the people around you Happy all the frickin time. You're going to make yourself crazy and they're not going to respect you This is true of friends. This is true of you know, even even family members people need to figure themselves out So I know that we have grown up in a situation and I see this happening all the time with men Where they learn permission seeking behaviors from women in authoritative positions like when you're in school You raise your hand to go to the bathroom You ask permission to to do anything with your mom You're trying to not get you're trying to not get in trouble with these authoritative female figures And so we apply that principle into marriage. Oh if I just listen to my wife and do whatever she says, it'll be perfect No That's exactly the way to lose her That's exactly the way that you thinking that you're being a good little boy Is going to make her run for the frickin hills. She'll never want to sleep with you and she'll never want to be with you She's gonna try and at a certain point. She's gonna break and just want to leave So and I know this is a harsh truth. I know there might be some people who feel like they've been lied to You have been lied to unfortunately with society. They don't tell you the truth about this. They don't tell you Um that if you act like this or if you just follow all the rules things won't work out for you You won't live a good life So you need to become empowered and make your do the things that's going to make you happy put yourself first I always say this if you're in a relationship, man, you should not be putting your girlfriend first You should put you first your career your friends and family and then your girlfriend should be after that And if you just started dating your your best friend should probably go before then too All right. Now if she does become family, then she gets upgraded to third, okay? So if you're in this position you guys, please I understand it's a tough truth to to kind of get through your head or maybe you kind of already knew this and you just Wanted confirmation that's okay too But if you're here right now, I offer you a choice You have a decision to make either you can continually lose the bat Continually win every single battle, but lose the war and as a result lose your relationship and you know Be unhappy Or you can do what it takes to maybe temporarily lose a few battles Make yourself the number one priority in your life make yourself happy And eventually you're going to win the war and you're going to have a great relationship And you're going to do amazingly well with women because all my clients all my students they understand this To a to a core like there's no There's no confusion about this issue. Once you see it and it's clear It becomes it becomes very very easy to implement So being an authentic man being an authentic your authentic self and living your life that way That's how you're going to solve this issue and that's why you know Even though I hear messages and stories and all these things with my friends I am absolutely 100 not worried about it because I know i'm going to do whatever it takes to make myself happy And as a result that's when relationships are going to succeed So thanks for watching you guys if you made it and consider subscribing I come out videos like this every single week Good luck out there