 It is the most powerful thing in the world and rarely do I ever talk about this but I should talk about this more and rarely I almost never hear anybody talking about this. Today we're going to talk about how to change your identity and this is actually the first episode of my first ever three part series. So I'm going to do three episodes on how to take action and the very first one is going to be today where I talk about how to change your identity. So when I talk about this you have to realize when I talk about your identity what I mean by that is the story that's going on in your head at all points in time about yourself about your presence about your past about your family about the world around you and everyone around you as well. So when I say your identity it's literally in my mind the most important part of you and who you are. The problem is most people have an identity that doesn't line up with the future that they want to create. I promise you this if you have an identity that doesn't line up with a future that you want to create you will never create that future. The only way to create the future that you want is to first change your identity. So you have a story an identity that's going on in the back of your head at all points in time and it's just a story none of it is actually true. It changes the you know what you do everything that you don't do it's everything that you think about yourself everything that you think about everybody else that's around you the importance that you place on your history and your past and everything that's happened and the importance of your current circumstances that you're currently stuck in and it will dictate the future that you're going to have. Once again it is the most powerful thing in the world for each person because it will shift the way that you work in this world and rarely do I ever talk about this but I should talk about this more and rarely I almost never hear anybody talking about this. I don't think people understand the importance of changing your identity. When I work with somebody or when someone comes to me with an issue or a problem or some of my past coaching clients that I've had before I listen to them but when I'm listening to them I also try to identify the story that they're telling themselves behind that because at any point in time someone's always telling themselves some sort of story some sort of story of this is how I am this is why I will get out what I want this is why I won't get what I want so I'm listening to them but I'm also trying to listen to what's going on behind the scenes and if somebody is usually talking like if you're in a conversation with a really good friend and it's a long conversation and they're venting to you you can listen to them but also when they're on a long tangent usually their subconscious their identity their story will be very blatant if you're listening for it and you can hear maybe a victim mindset you can hear I'm not going to get it because of this or I'm not as good as she is or I'm not as smart as he is you can hear it behind what they're actually saying but once again it's all a story beautiful thing about that is when we become aware of it we can change that story when we change that story we change our identity we change our identity we change our action we change our actions we change the results that we get in our life so why is it so important because your life and the results that you have in your life will always align with the identity that you have for yourself your life will not change if your identity does not change let me give you a few examples of what I see very often and these will probably hit home with some of you or you know somebody who's like this I guarantee you so I'm gonna give you a few different examples that I see often somebody who's overweight right often a lot of people who are overweight they're not overweight because of their genes they're not overweight because of anything else other than the identity that they have for themselves let me give you an example what I mean their story might be well I'm just a fat kid I have a really good friend who struggles with losing weight it goes up and it goes down it goes up and it goes goes down because he still subconsciously sees himself as a fat kid and he's become aware of it and as he's become aware of he started to shed that that identity that has himself or it could be my whole family is overweight so it's in my genes so I'm just always going to be overweight it's just in my genes or losing weight is hard for me have you ever heard somebody say that before have you ever said it before or I'm just not athletic I didn't play any sports when I was younger have you ever heard that one have you ever said that one or you know if I had her body then it would be easier for me to look thinner you know if I was taller then of course I would look better have you ever heard that have you ever said it so you have to think about this oh yeah I'm shorter so you know weight just gets on me a lot easier than it does for people who have different body types right whatever it might be and I'm not saying that some people don't have different body types I'm not saying that some people don't have different genes what I'm saying to you is it's just a story and if you latch on to that story you'll never actually change your life so you've got to be very aware of the story that you're telling yourself whatever it might be it's all everything I just gave you it's all the same excuse but it's all just different flavors of the same excuse the excuse is I will never look the way that I want to because of x and we're taking the blame and putting on something external versus going you know what maybe I don't have the same body as her but I'm still going to get the shape that I want to maybe I don't have the same genes as him but I'm still going to get into the shape that I want to maybe you know I don't have uh I wasn't raised athletic and I never played any sports but it doesn't mean anything the trainer that comes over to our house and works out with my girlfriend and I she was never athletic she told us that she never played any sports but if you look at her now she looks really damn athletic because she just decided that she was going to get into fitness so you've got to think about that way you know if we take the example of the overweight family my whole family is overweight it's just in my genes it's just the way that I am it makes somebody think it is in my DNA it is absolutely unchangeable if it's unchangeable why in the hell would you ever eat healthy because we all know that most of the time like are there good healthy things you can eat for sure absolutely but hey pizza tastes way better than salad I don't care pizza tastes in my opinion pizza tastes better than anything you have to think about that if you have the choice of should I eat healthy or should I eat something that tastes really good well if it's in my DNA and it doesn't matter then why the hell would I eat healthy so then what do people do because their story their identity that's going on in their head is I have this in my genes it's in my DNA they automatically make the choice aka the actions go towards well I'm just going to make a choice that's going to be easier it's going to taste better because it doesn't matter what my choice is I'll always be overweight same exact thing if you're if you're if it's in your genes why would you ever go and work out working out some people like working out I'm not a fan of it I force myself to do it but it's not like I'm like oh my god I can't wait to work out today it's like no I'm going to work out because it's good for me and it's good for my body that's the only reason why I do it right and because I want to look better that's it but I'm not like oh my god I can't wait to go wait to go torture myself today if your story is my whole family's overweight it's in my DNA then why would you ever force yourself to work out no way screw that sit on the couch and eat a pizza you know hang out drink a beer do something else so if it's in your story in your identity why would you ever take the actions for a better body if you think that you're completely unchangeable the identity changes your actions your actions change your results your results go back into your identity and you'll say oh yeah we'll see look at me my body's overweight that's just the way that I am your identity your thoughts your feelings in that identity will always dictate your actions or lack of actions which will always get you results which are either the results that you want or the results that you don't want it's the identity of yourself bleeding into your actions always go into your actions your actions go always into results and here's a key point your results will always line up with your identity unless you go with what I'm about to tell you in just a few minutes your results will always line up with your identity it's the way it's going to work when they line up with the identity they reinforce it so let me give you an example if I'm overweight and I think my whole family's overweight and there's no chance that I'll be overweight well then I'm going to take actions like not working out like not eating as healthy as I could and those are going to give me results and those results are going to line back up with my identity of I'm still overweight look at me I'm still gaining weight because I'm not obviously I'm not taking the actions that I need to but I'm still saying to myself I'm still overweight see it must be because it's in my genes that is then reinforcing my identity which is making my identity stronger which is reinforcing it at every moment the beautiful thing about your identity it's not concrete but the more that you get results results results that line up with that identity the more it reinforces it it makes it stronger and you think I will always be this way and this is just the way that I am you know I I don't have the body that I want because my genes aren't correct because it's in my DNA you know I wasn't dealt the right hand maybe next time around I'll get get into a family of better DNA whatever it is right and your identity becomes fortified and too strong to break unless you're really willing to work to break that identity but it's just a story it's literally just a narrative that you're telling yourself in your head and none of it is true we make all of it up let me give you another example if my identity if I think to myself because of past things that might have happened to me in my past and failing tests and not doing great in school or making it hard to graduate if I tell myself in my in the back of my head is I'm not smart I'm not as smart as everybody else or I'm not good at math a lot of people say that I'm like well I'm not really you just you could get better at math if you really wanted to you know if I'm not smart think about this for a second let's say that when you were younger you went and you took a test and you take a test and you go and you're writing it all out you're making it you you're excited about you think you did really well you studied really hard for this test when you're you know eight nine ten years old you study really hard you did really well you thought you did really well and then when you get the paper back the teacher has all there's all red marks all over it and you look at it and then you see your friend's paper next to you who you know doesn't seem to be as smart as you and actually they seem to be kind of dumb let's just say that they're the kind of like a dumber kid and you look at their paper there's nowhere near as many red marks well then you're going oh my god I'm dumber than my friend that I thought was dumb I must be really dumb imagine how that identity placed on to somebody can change the actions that they're going to take if you're dumb why would you ever study for a test because you're automatically going to fail if you're dumb why would you show up for school because you're not going to do very well if you're dumb if you're not as smart as everybody else why would you ever put in the extra effort and study longer or put more research into something because you already know the results the results are you're dumb so that one event can change the way that someone perceives himself and that would change can change your identity now let me give you the exact same example but let's change it around a little bit let's say that when you're leaving class the teacher pulls you aside and says hey wait for a second wait till everybody leaves I want to talk to you and everybody leaves and the teacher pulls you aside and says hey you know I got to talk to you I think that you're the smartest kid in the class and the reason why I marked up your paper so much is because I want to challenge you to get better because I think that you're better than what you did I want to challenge you because I think that you're the smartest person in this class and I want you to do even better you did really well in this test but the reason why I graded you so hard is because I know you can do better I know that you're smart I know that you can you can be the smartest kid in this class how do you think that would change a child's perception leave in the class as if the teacher didn't talk to him it's the exact same situation the only difference is the child leaves the classroom thinking I'm dumb in the first situation and I'm smart in the next situation so if that child now thinks that they're smart that's their identity the story that they're telling themselves how do you think that's going to change their actions later on in their life maybe they're going to study harder maybe they're going to show up earlier maybe they're going to ask the teacher more questions maybe they're going to pay more attention maybe they're going to put more time into research simply because their identity is different I'm dumb versus I'm smart the actions that come from I'm dumb are going to be different than the actions that come from I'm smart and if the actions are different the results will be different and the results will go back into the identity and reinforce it whatever it happens to be but once again it's all all of it just a story and that's the beautiful thing about there's a story of a of a guy who was in high school like 20 years ago never did get in school never did go on any tests none of that he skipped school a lot didn't hang out with the best people and his mom wanted him to take the SATs which is you know just the a test here to get into colleges and his mom was like hey go take the SATs like I'm dumb there's no reason for me to take the SAT and she's like please just try to see if you can do it to get into a college so he goes and takes the SAT and the SAT is out of 1600 and he comes back and he gets a 1480 and his mom's like holy crap you just got a 1480 and she's like did you cheat he's like no I didn't cheat she's like are you sure you didn't cheat he goes yes I'm positive I didn't cheat and she goes oh my gosh well you might actually be a lot smarter than you thought you were and so it clicks in his head of oh my god I'm smart what the hell have I been doing for all of these years so he starts changing his actions his identity has shifted from dumb kid to smart kid his actions change because of that he starts hanging out with people who go to school and actually pay more attention some smarter kids he starts stops hanging out with the kids that aren't going to school and partying too much he starts showing up earlier instead of skipping classes he decides that he wants to do to put more effort into all of his studies and everything that he does he ends up getting into an ivy league school and here in America and with that ends up doing really well in ivy league school because his identity change means his actions change and then ends up becoming a ceo of a company super successful and then 12 years later he gets a letter in the mail from the sat panel and they actually messed up on his sat's he didn't get a 1480 he got a 740 and they accidentally doubled his number so instead of doing really well on the test he did terrible on the test but what happened just the thought of that test coming through made him think i am smart that i am smart changed his identity changed his narrative changed the story he was telling himself naturally made him change his actions his actions changed his results and his results reinforced the identity of i am smart i am smart actually i am smart man when i do show up when i do study when i do put more time into it i do really well his identity shifted simply from a test score they came back incorrectly a lot of people have a money story we all know somebody who has a money we all know somebody who says i'm poor all the time they make jokes about how they're always poor if they always make jokes about that guess what that's their identity they're going to take actions of a poor person not going to work as hard not going to try to get promotions maybe they're not going to save their money if their identity is i am poor they will always be poor that's just the way it's going to be so if we want to change our results in life which is why you're listening to us which is why we're here we want to get better results in our life we must change our actions that we take in order to change our actions we're going to need to change our identity of our self and our identity can shift at any moment it's the story that we're telling ourselves we've just got to become aware of the story and when the story pops up we've got to be there to change it your identity is just your personality that you place on top of yourself your personality is just personality the word personality comes from the root word persona which is a greek word which is the mask that actors would wear when they would go on stage that's what personality is persona is just a mass that you wear of who you think that you are i'm smart i'm dumb i'm overweight i'm fit whatever it is that you're telling yourself so what's the story that you're telling yourself do you know and if it doesn't line up with the future that you want you must change it otherwise you're always going to get the results that line up with your identity you got to change the way to talk to yourself you've got to notice the negative thoughts and they come in you have to replace those negative thoughts with the thoughts that you actually want so instead of you know seeing a girl when you're going through instagram and seeing a body and saying well that must be nice i wish that i had her jeans you look at her and say good for her i am going to have a body like hers see the difference in the way the story the identity shifts instead of oh i wish i had her jeans it's i'm going to have her body i'm going to work really hard as well i'm working really hard to have a body like hers i'm working on my fitness i'm working on my health to have a body that looks like hers i'm willing to take the actions needed to have a body like hers instead of like oh i wish i had those jeans oh poo poo on this person because they look better than i do no it's good for her good for him i'm going to work hard and have a body like that as well that's how you shift the identity through the mind you got to change your mind about yourself your story your narrative in order to change your actions and change your results but the problem is people don't talk about the identity very much now there is another way to shift the identity that's through the mind the other way to shift the identity is through the body where you don't have to believe in yourself in order to take any actions that's the beautiful thing about actions you don't have to believe in yourself i don't have to believe that i'm going to get fit to go work out but if i force myself to work out five times a week my body is going to change doesn't matter what my mind thinks so you can either shift through the body or you can shift through the mind or you can shift through both and that works even better because that's twice as much you get both of them you get the body and the mind in there so the other way to shift the identity is to force yourself to take actions that you know you need to take in order to get the life that you want so if you let me give you an example if you have a story of oh i'm poor i'm poor i'm poor i'm poor but you want to make a hundred thousand dollars this year and you look at your numbers and you say okay i need to make a hundred cold calls a day and i'll make a hundred thousand dollars this year you can still tell yourself you're poor but if you show up to a hundred cold calls every single day you're eventually going to make a lot more money because you're just simply willpowering and forcing yourself to take action if you think to yourself uh it's just you know it's just how my family is they're all just overweight but you force yourself to meal plan to look at your macros to make sure that you're eating the right stuff to get rid of all the crappy food to give up alcohol to give up sweets to give up anything that's not healthy for you and you force yourself to only eat things that are good for you and you force yourself to go to the gym five times a week you will get the body that you want and when you start to get the body that you want your identity will start to shift if you're still working through the mind that's the important part you can't let the mind just the story just stay the same you've got to start to look at your body shift and go you know what i am start maybe it's not my jeans maybe it's not my jeans oh i am getting the body on i am getting the body on and when you use the mind and the body together it makes it so much stronger we have to consciously be changing our stories at all points in time because we all know we all know people who have lost a hundred pounds and then gained it all back within the next two or three years why they forced themselves to do it through the body but they didn't also shift the mind so we have to constantly be forcing the body constantly be forcing the body but also shifting the mind at the same point we all know people who have won the lottery we've we might not notice but we all see that people win the lottery 70 percent of people who win the lottery end up losing all of that money spending all that money within a few years why they got the actions they got this the results that they wanted they were just placed in their bank account but their identity never shifted their actions never shifted to do the things that a wealthy person would do so in order to change your identity fully you got to shift it through the mind by shifting the story that you're telling yourself and you've got to shift it through the body by forcing yourself having the willpower to just show up and take the actions that are needed in order to get the results we want to in life and if we force the mind and the body to change the story and the actual body itself to move and change the results will change and those results will start to change our identity and that identity will get stronger and stronger and stronger and stronger so if you want to change your life you've got to shift your identity the question that i have for you is what is the story that you're telling yourself what is your identity is it that oh my family is overweight oh i'm always going to be poor oh i've always been stupid oh i've always been pretty i'm not good enough i'm not smart enough i'm not pretty enough i'm not whatever it is what is your identity that you're telling yourself ask yourself is that identity going to line up with the future that you want and if not what is the identity that i need to have in order to get the future that i want because it's all just a story what's the story that you need to shift you to tell yourself to get the future that you want you shift your identity through your mind you shift your identity through your body if you do this it will make it so much easier to take action towards the results that you want that's why this is episode number one on taking action out of the three episodes we have coming out this week hey thanks so much for watching this video if you want to learn even more about mastering your mind click right here and watch this video as well a lot of people like to go through life and not make the decision to step up to not make the decision to step up your life and to take control of it is still a decision you realize that right