 When the narcissist sees you're happier without them. Because as we know, that is the last thing that the narcissist wants. They don't want to see you happier without them. That is the last thing they want to see. They might be able to tolerate you being happy with them for a moment. But to see that you're happy without them outside of their control. They do not like that. So yeah, when you do move on and you start to develop these things in your life. You've got a lot of things going on, things that you're happy with. Maybe you've moved on to a new relationship. You've got a new job. You're making more money. Maybe you just bought a house. You're doing all of these things, these productive things in your life. You've got a lot of things going on. And yeah, you're happy. You're feeling good. And the narcissist will eventually catch on to that. They may see you on social media, in the pictures or videos that you're posting. They will see that, yes, you have begun to move on. You've started to get things together. You're happier now. You're more confident. You're more driven. You're more motivated. And why? Because they're not around you. Have you ever noticed how things just start to get better? Once you've got an toxic person out of your life. Have you ever noticed that? I'm sure many of you have. And that is what you will find. Because when you have these people around you, and they already know the effect that they have. They pull you down. They make you feel miserable about yourself and whatever you've got going on in your life. Which is why you may find that you get very distracted. You're not spending time doing the things that you should be doing. You don't even have much of a purpose in your life. And it's all because you've got this toxic individual around you. Because I can tell you that everyone is meant to have a God-given purpose. You didn't come down to this earth for nothing. You came here for a reason. You came here to be something great. But sadly the narcissist does not want you to know that. They don't want you to be aware of that. They'd rather just give you a little something here. Do this. Do that. So that you don't think about your higher purpose and what you're really meant to be doing. Because they are trying to lead you down the wrong path. They don't want you to be great. If you became something great you would have the power and the authority and you would surpass them. Because they are actually very weak and they are comfortable with the bare minimum. They're not driven or motivated like we are. They don't really care about having a higher purpose. Their purpose is just to keep you down. And that's all they do. They surround them. They always got to keep you down. They always got to make you feel miserable. It's like it's more important to them than anything else in their lives. And that doesn't change. You may think that it's all over. I'm sure you remember when you were with them they were constantly putting you down trying to make you feel small. They were laughing at you. Marking you. You can't get this. You can't get that. You can't do this. They were trying to make you feel small. They were trying to make you feel like you can't accomplish anything in your life. They constantly devalued and degraded you, humiliated you. And they told everyone about it and forced flying monkey smear campaigns. Try to make you feel like you are completely incompetent and incapable. And when they drilled that inside your head it did have a bit of an effect. It led you to become ineffective because our beliefs have a lot of power. But then you leave. You move on. And you do find that power within yourself. You find that strength, that confidence, that enthusiasm by knowing that, yes, I am special. I am something great. And you may even come to the conclusion that, yes, I am better than you. I am so much more than what you led me to believe. Yes, you may come to that conclusion. And if you do, you are right on target because that is the truth. And sometimes it is the sad truth because you have been stuck with this individual for such a long time and they have been keeping you down. They have wasted years of your life. I know many of you who spent 10, 20 years with these people who just make you believe that you are nothing. And they keep you down all of that time. They have wasted your life. They waste your potential. And that is such a selfish thing to do because that is not just something that you could give to yourself. It is also something that you could share with other people, with the community. So they ruin it for everyone just because they are selfish. Because they are self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They are narcissistic. They ruin it for everyone just because of that. Does that really sound worth it to you? Because I can tell you it does not sound worth it to me. I can tell you that it does not. And yes, you may think it is all over because they said all of these things about you. They said you are never going to be anything great. And then you move on and you prove them wrong. You become more than what they ever thought you could be. You surpass everyone. Everyone that they triangle you with and then you think it is all over. You think, okay, they held me to an expectation. Now I surpassed it. As impossible that expectation may have been. I still managed to surpass it. I became something great. I became happier without them. That must mean it is all over because now there is no problem, right? Wrong. Because the problem is that there was never actually a problem to begin with. And when you solve this problem as they say that it is, that is when you realize that there was never a problem. That is when you realize that because now they are still coming after you. They are still hunting you down. And now it seems that the real problem is that you have moved on and become happier and successful without them. That becomes the real problem because it destroys the illusion and the false narrative. That narrative is something you may have had for a very long time. And I don't want to go into that in this video but I will talk about it eventually. But yes, that becomes the real problem. The fake problem was that you are not good enough and the reason why that is the fake problem is because that isn't even true. It is just yes, you are not good enough when you are around them because they are weak and incapable. They are keeping you down. They are teaching you the wrong things so they are causing you to lose confidence in yourself. They are causing you to lose motivation. And when you move on and you become happier without them, that just becomes a huge trigger to them. It makes them even more insecure, envious and jealous to where they become very competitive. Maybe they will go on and just marry someone for no reason, have children, do all of these things. Just to try and prove a point to you, to prove to you that you are not as good as you think you are. Or they will try to come back to you and even then it is only to try and take away the happiness and everything that you have built. And if they can't do that because if you are still confident in yourself despite everything they are trying to do to you they are trying to pull you down they are trying to make you doubt yourself and everything that you have established. But if you still be cool despite that then at that point all they can do is try and sabotage your happiness. They have to bring it down. First they will try and make you lose faith in it but if that doesn't work they just have to try and take it away. And to go into the narcissist mind right now as you know I have been doing this for a very long time so what they are thinking is they are observing this they are seeing it who you are, who you have become this happiness, the success and it is like this irritates me this makes me feel small in comparison it makes me feel inferior and it is like causing a narcissistic injury it is making them mad it is hitting them so now they have to act in what they see as self-defense where they now have to attack you they have to take away your happiness they have to bring you down because that is the only way that they can feel okay, regulated it is like as long as you are down here they feel at peace, comfortable but then when they start seeing you climbing up then they start to feel small so then they have got to bring you down to their level then they start to feel more comfortable but remember narcissists can't be satisfied so even once they have brought you down to their level then they want to bring you down beneath them and stamp on you because this all comes back to their emotions I mean come on, let's admit it everyone sometimes they may feel a little bit envious or jealous of someone if they have got what you want that is completely normal there is nothing wrong with that the problem is when these feelings lead to actions to where you are going out of your way to tear someone else down now that is not okay we don't do that because and what should stop people from doing that is the ability to look outside of themselves to look around at families, communities a higher purpose these things should suppress these negative because they are negative emotions these things should suppress that but with narcissists as we know yes, narcissists they are self-absorbed and they lack empathy they couldn't give a damn about anyone else they only care about themselves and regulating their emotions in that moment which is something that you will see all the time wherever you go when you see a narcissist they are so reckless and careless they are very impulsive it is just everything is as I said they are looking at where you are and if you are getting close to where they are you are climbing above alright we have got to bring you down you have got to come down now you are making me feel insecure you are making me feel small comfortable that is how they think as crazy as that sounds that is exactly how these sick people are thinking in their minds and that is what compels them because they constantly feel like they don't have something they are always in this state of desire of wanting more because of their ego the ego always wants more so they are driven by their egos that is what compels them to bring you down because they already know they can't get it that is why if they knew they could just go out and get what they want they would just go and do that but they can't so what they do is they keep you down and prevent you from getting it and in that way they can feel more comfortable but even then there are narcissists who do have or it may seem as though they do have pretty much everything but even then you have to remember that narcissists can never be satisfied they always want more they have these insatiable desires so as soon as they have got one thing they want now they are looking at what is the next thing they want and it is just a constant thing it is never enough which is what they project onto you and that is why you feel like you are never enough because no matter what you have got they never acknowledge it they never like well done good job they can't do that because they already feel like they are not enough and those are the feelings that they are projecting onto you they are projecting those feelings onto you I can already say it right now however you feel when you are around a narcissist trust me that is exactly how they feel they feel that way already and I can say that right now so I want you to know that if you ever feel like something is wrong with you and everyone needs to hear this if you ever feel like something is not right with you you ever feel like you are small in comparison to them you ever feel inferior they are just projecting that onto you because trust me a real person who is confident and secure in themselves they are not going to do that if they see that you are down or they are in an empathic they are going to notice that straight away and they are going to be thinking how can I lift this person up how can I bring them more to my level as long as they are near that level if they are too far down there is not much you can do about that you can't really help them but yes that is how a normal healthy person thinks the problem is that narcissists are not healthy they are dysfunctional and they are more comfortable with a dysfunctional environment one thing they hate is peace they do not like peace they can't stand it and that is how you will notice they are always the ones who make all of the noise and you've got to think if this person is really about peace and functionality then why are they the ones who are always causing all of the chaos clearly something does not add up that is what you've got to think about when you are around them because if you notice it is actually you you are the one who is always keeping the peace you are always the one who is trying to make them feel comfortable you are always walking on eggshells doing anything you can to try to please them and what are you getting out of it they are not giving anything back to you all they are giving you is more abuse and manipulation they are deceiving you, they are future faking you and at some point you have to stop and realise that I deserve more that is how you need to think because you do deserve more you deserve a lot more than that you deserve better treatment you deserve love and respect and that is what we promote on here we do not promote low value behaviours we do not promote low vibrational emotions we don't promote any of that what we do promote is love empathy understanding cooperation and moving more towards a healthy environment and the reason why we do that is because we know that we can and at the end of the day that is what separates us from narcissists because they don't know that they well not just that they know that they can't they know they can't do that yes they could try at the moment you might get a few seconds out of them but they can try and act normal and they'll always go back to how they really are they'll always go back to that and it's also the same way that they see you because when they start devaluing you they change this mental image that they have of you in their minds because you can live up to their impossible expectations you couldn't be perfect they saw some kind of imperfection or flaw within you and they didn't like that it could have just been that you confronted them or it could have been that you expected too much from them and what you really expected was just normality which they could never live up to and they didn't like that so after that they could never see you the same way now they look down on you and then when they see you starting to climb higher and you're becoming more successful you're becoming happier it's like whoa hold on a minute this is not meant to be who you are you've got to come back down here so that it aligns with my false narrative my illusion my false reality so that I can feel more comfortable around you is how they see it and yeah that's really the motive it is pretty much their own insecurities envy, jealousy which causes them to become very competitive it causes them to abandon all of their fake morals because they pretend to have these morals and are actually real and you will realise that because as soon as things start to get better from you all of these morals just seem to go out the window you never see them again then then it's gone and that really is a test of a person's faith and character it really is because as I said emotions are normal even thoughts are normal yes it's completely normal to have thoughts and emotions which may not be desired or approved of the problem is when these thoughts and emotions lead to actions when that happens that is when we have to step in and then we have to take control of that because that could possibly lead to a dangerous or undesirable outcome but when it's just your thoughts and emotions that's completely normal especially when you have been subjected to abuse but as I said you need to practice self-discipline and control you need to be able to control your actions and behaviours that's easier said than done a lot of times especially when you're around someone who is quite clearly very abusive yes it can be difficult to do that when you're around an abusive person but you need to try because trust me if you act out of alignment with your character they will hold that against you for life they will hold a grudge as they're probably already doing following the devaluation phase sometimes again another thing they might do I mean this doesn't apply to all narcissists it's only the ones who they may be quite arrogant and delusional some of them may have a lot of money they may be physically attractive they have something the ones who have something they will try to come back when they see that you're happier and you're doing better without them and then they will try to love bomb you they will try to manipulate you again but that is only if they think that you are susceptible that's only if they think that they've got a chance if they know they haven't got a chance they're not even going to give that a try they're going to leave that alone they're going to forget about that and instead they will just resort trying to make you feel less than who you really are trying to make you feel like you're missing something like you're not really happy without them they will often do that by devaluing you trying to sabotage you even enforcing flying monkeys and starting a spear campaign against you and they will even stalk and harass you as well yes these tactics are all designed to make you lose confidence make you lose faith in yourself I'd even make you lose faith in God as I've said before they can try and take you away from God but they cannot take God away from you yes you may you may lose your position with God or the universe whatever you believe in you may lose that momentarily but trust and believe that it will be waiting for you God will always be there and whenever you're ready to come back God will be waiting and I can assure you of that I can assure you of it which is why I would like to reinforce something that's when they try to devalue you and they try to bring you down that does not mean that you can't come back that's exactly what they want you to think they want you to think that you can't come back they want you to think that it's all over for you but that is not the truth you can come back you can be bigger and better than never before and of course that is why I come on you and I make these videos to remind you of that because I know there's a lot of you out there who are just like me a lot of you who have been kept down for many years of your life you've been made to feel small you've been made to feel like you're not good enough yes I have felt like that myself many times in my life I have but I always came back I found a way to redevelop my confidence in myself and now you may look at me today and of course it may be very difficult to believe that I've even gone through anything it may look like I've lived an easy life a comfortable life but in fact I too have experienced suffering I too have experienced the trials and tribulations I too have gone through hardship and that's an important thing to note as well you know when you see people and you think you know they're doing well it's unfair but is it unfair because you're just looking at the finished product you don't know the work that they put in they might have worked very hard to get there and if they're good kind hearted people then they deserve your love, appreciation and respect but narcissists as we know you're never going to get that from them you may want it you may desire it but you're not going to get it and to be honest you shouldn't even want to or desire it anyway you should want that from yourself you need to validate yourself you need to be confident in yourself instead of desiring the praise, compliments and congratulations especially from someone who to be honest could even give a shit about you anyway I'm just telling you how it is they do not care about you they only care about themselves and know that isn't going to change you're just thinking of it like because you have people's best interest in minds because you're trying to share your love your peace you're trying to build you're trying to do all of these things so you automatically assume they must want the same thing they must be trying to build with me they must be trying to cooperate no, no they're not they're not trying to do that that may be what you want them to do but as I've said you do need to manage your expectations around them you do need to do that because again even when they try to come back and they try to love bomb you they're not trying to build anything with you they're only doing it for themselves it's all about their emotions and how can they regulate that's all they're trying to do they're just trying to regulate themselves at your expense as you're looking at it like hold on a minute there has to be another interpretation for this there must be another meaning, another motive no, no there isn't what you saw that was exactly what it was what you got from them that was exactly what they were trying to give to you and that was all they had to give they didn't have anything else you need to look at it like why am I even expecting these things from someone like that anyway from someone who is self-absorbed and lacks empathy from someone who quite clearly doesn't give a shit why am I expecting these things from someone like that that's how you've got to think because even when it looks like they're coming back and maybe they are trying to build something with you they're not, it's just still all about them again and it's always going to be like that as I've said before there is no long-term purpose with a narcissist they might be good for a one-night stand but after that you've got to let them go maybe for a weekend you don't want to have anything long-term with them you don't want to do that and I know sometimes it may be tempting but you're just feeding into your desire and you've got to think is that desire fulfilling that desire going to make me stronger or weaker because most often when you're dealing with a narcissist all they're going to do is suck your energy out of you and then you're on your own again that's how you've got to think and then you've got to think is this really worth it is this really what it wants because as a confident and self-righteous individual you should realize that yes you are worth more you are deserving of something more, something more long-term you should realize that you are deserving of that but they're never going to tell you that they're going to try and make you believe that you should be satisfied with the crumbs with less than what you really deserve yes of course they're going to try and make you think that because as I said before then they can keep you down they can manage your expectations which to be honest should have been managed long ago anyway but of course it takes time for us to realize that before we can accept that yes we do need to manage our expectations around them but you still need to have some boundaries as well you can't just let people cross over and invade your space because that's what they like to do as well they like to test the waters that's what narcissists do it may look like they're just coming over they're just slipping it in a little bit but then they want to take it a bit more and then a bit more they want to go a bit further the next time it may look like they have some boundaries like they're not going all the way but they're just testing the waters they're trying to see how far can I take this how much will you accept and if you accept it then there's no limits you set the limit when you're with a narcissist other than that there is no limit when you do move on and you become happier without them yeah they will notice that they will see it and sometimes they will look at it like hold on a minute you were keeping this for me the entire time you had all of this going on and you didn't want to share it with me yes they may actually think like that sometimes because narcissists as we know they always feel like they're missing out on something and they always feel like it's unfair you should have given more they don't look at themselves to realise that they were keeping you down the entire time things that you could have provided to them because as I said they are very reckless and impulsive they're always in the moment they're always thinking about what can I get how are you going to do this for me how are you going to regulate my emotions that's how they think but they don't ever actually see it in themselves they can only project and deflect these onto you because remember you have to deal with it you have to clean up their mess and that is why that is how you will start to feel by the end of it you will start to feel like okay so I'm the one who has to fix this and then even when you try to take on that role if you still try to remain around them they're just going to give you little bits at a time and you think yes yes you're doing the right thing just keep doing that I'm starting to change I'm starting to become better and then they'll just change right back again that's what they will do to you and then they just switch back and forth between these roles of one minute yes I'm trying to be better I'm trying to change and then they go back again whereas I don't know what you're doing is not good enough or they don't care what you're doing and they're just going to be reckless and rebellious regardless look at the pattern look back at how much time has gone by are they still doing the same things that we're doing 5 or 10 years ago that's how you should know that they're going to be the same way until the day they die that's how you should know that and look back at your improvement how you've become more happier and more successful over the last 5 or 10 years that should reveal to you your potential that's how great that you can be that should prove to you everything that you need to know so yeah this video is meant to inspire and motivate you and put you on the right track if you're not already on it already because when you try to move on and you try to become happier and better off without them yeah so what they're going to try and do is try and prove to you that you're not happier because you're missing them remember some of them are very arrogant and delusional so that's all they're really going to try and do and yeah they're going to try and prove to you that you'll know who you say you are you're still the person that you were when they had their grips on you when they had you locked in remember when they were beating you down they were making you feel small making you feel like you're nothing that's the mental image they took of you and their minds when they started to devour you and in their minds that's who you are that's who you're always going to be because they brainwashed you in that moment and they got you to a sign with these traits which had nothing to do with you they were just these parts of themselves that they disowned that tried to assign to you they were expecting you to resonate with bats and if you don't then it threatens the illusion and then they've got to ramp it up they've got to try to control you even more because they're looking at it like you know you belong here just get back in the box where you belong you can't go running around free on your own and trying to develop your own happiness and success without them that's how they see it but guys I would advise for you to do that is exactly what you need to do whatever they don't want you to do go out and do it and make sure you do it well make sure you do it again and again I don't stop because whatever they're trying to keep you from doing that is exactly what you need to do that is exactly what will make you happy that is exactly what will lead to your success of course they don't want to see that they will come back to destroy it but you need to remember why you're doing what you're doing because especially if you've found my videos and if this video resonates with you you need to understand that yes there is a reason why you're doing what you're doing there is a motive behind that and you need to identify the motive because it can't just be for you there needs to be a long-term motive there needs to be something else in mind outside of yourself like how do you want to give to someone else how do you want to provide value and make someone else not only yourself happy because yes there are still good people out there in this world they do still exist and I will admit that I did have my doubts before of course there was a time where I thought it was just me but there's your proof there's the evidence right there look at yourself you're a good honest and trustworthy person you're about something for real you can't be the only one on this earth that has to be someone else just look around look at the people in the comments I mean I've got 165,000 subscribers over 40 million views that must mean that there are a lot of good people still out there which is exactly what we want and what we're looking for so that we can share a higher purpose with them which will lead to something better will lead to something great that's what we want that's what we want as you can probably see I am out here by this river just came out here for a walk it's not too hot today so I thought I would enjoy it and yes I have been having a good time I just really enjoy being out in nature seeing the birds and the lizards and being around trees and making these videos knowing that I am helping people providing value to them making their lives better making them happier yeah I just really enjoy doing that that's my purpose that's what makes me happy that's what I'm passionate about and if you haven't already I do hope that you will find your passions in life I hope you will find things that you are passionate about because I have I love doing what I do I love getting up every day in the morning and making these videos and then in the afternoons when I get on and make these lives and I enjoy reading your comments I love seeing what people have to say yeah just everything I do every day it means a lot to me you know to live this life this life that I never thought I would have because yes as I said there was a time where I was kept down and things were difficult for me and yeah of course I battled with that myself where I felt like maybe I'm not good enough maybe I'll never be anything good in my life but now just look at what I've achieved I've inspired millions of people around the world and does that mean that I'm special maybe but that doesn't mean that you aren't special too maybe we're all special in our own way and you've got to find your way you've got to find what inspires you what motivates you what you're passionate about because that will take you to where you need to be it will I can assure you of that so yeah find your passions things that mean something to you what matters to you more than anything else in your life outside of your family outside of your children I'm just going to get back in here because it is as you probably noticed it's very noisy people have been playing a lot of music and there's a lot of shouting so I thought it's best to come into the car for a moment just to finish the video but yes you need to find things that you are passionate about things that motivate you because that is what will drive you just look at these narcissists how driven and motivated they are to destroy people then you can see how powerful our motivations are so what if we were to take that and use it for something more positive but of course it has to be real confidence it can't just be arrogance it has to be based on something and you can look back and recognize your past successes your past accomplishments which is something they don't want you to do as well they want you to live in the moment they want you to think that it's just the present is now and that's all that you've got you've got nothing else outside of this because it's just designed to make you feel like you're not good enough like you're small but I make these videos to remind you that you are so much more than what they led you to believe you really are and I know that you are because for a start you're watching my video right now this resonates with you you can perceive of this information you're listening to me speak right now that means that you are already on a higher purpose you're looking for something more you're looking to become something great and that's a start already that's the first step it all starts with your belief that will take you to where you need to go just by believing in yourself and that is your defense against narcissists because everything they do it's designed to distract you to take your focus off yourself so that you become something else and then they can stand back and say you're not who you said you are then they can discredit you by distracting you because remember in their minds they don't even self reflect or look at everything that they do they don't look at all of the manipulations and deceptions they don't look at all of that they're just looking at your reaction and if they can keep you off balance and stable then it fuels the illusion the false narrative which is all they really care about they don't care about anything else it's all about manipulating and misleading you yes they already recognize your innocence and purity that's what made them target you but then everything they do in is to try and corrupt you to lead you astray and yet they seem to think that they are these self righteous people they really are and not only that but they are the working for the devil when you look at it because what kind of person wants to go out and deliberately try to destroy someone's innocence why would someone want to go out and do that that does not seem right but that is exactly what they do they don't target innocent people to try and build them up and make them better if you did something wrong they are going to look at it like okay you did something wrong in the past what are you doing now are you trying to be better now and then they will just stand back and let you continue along your path along your journey or they may even be there to support and encourage you but narcissists no that's not what they do they target you because of your innocence and then they get triggered by your inferior and then they devalue you they try and control you they try to destroy your innocence because that later becomes a serious threat to them because it reflects back to them how immoral and corrupt they are they are just trying to live in this delusion whether or not immoral or corrupt when the reality is that they are so all they can do is become more and more psychotic detached from reality that's all that they can really do and at times they will seem very stubborn and stupid as though they can't even perceive of you they can't even understand you because as I said before a lot of them they really are borderline crazy they are completely detached from reality because that's the only way that they can survive they are very insecure around you because they recognize your confidence in your own reality and they wouldn't pull that apart because it's affecting them you see if a person is really confident in themselves and their own reality they don't need to tear anyone else apart they don't need to tear apart another person's beliefs but that's exactly what narcissists have to do that's the only way they can feel confident in themselves and in their own decisions and in making you feel insecure Kian Golden says God owns the world owns the land in this world not the devil yes that's very true of course but do narcissists really think that way I mean they do always find a way to justify their actions but then at the same time I guess they must know that it's wrong because they hide it if they thought that what they're doing is okay why would they hide it and if they really thought that you're the bad and evil one why would they manipulate or deceive you why wouldn't they have pure and innocent intentions why wouldn't they have that so I guess when you look at it yes deep down they must already know that they are condemned and that's why they're just trying to pull you down with them that becomes their only purpose in life because they already know they're preordained they already know they're not going anywhere good and they don't want to see you get there they don't want to see you have something that they can't but yes it is getting quite hot in this car I'm starting to sweat now but I'm happy I put out this information today and I hope that it resonated with you if it did as always please give it a thumbs up down below it helps us support our community let me know your thoughts down in the comments subscribe and I will talk to you in another one very soon