 When you ignore The narcissist They're going to do this Go a no contact Ignoring the narcissist Yes, this can be an excellent way To protect yourself Because when you're involved with a narcissist Things don't typically work in your favor. You will end up with a short end of the stick You're not going to gain anything or value You're gonna lose your value. In fact, you're gonna lose everything from being involved with them You're gonna lose all of your time your energy Your money and resources the longer that you spend around them because remember that our statistic. They're all about themselves They're self absorbed that they like empathy. They don't even care about you They're not about doing anything for you or trying to make you happy It's just all about just draining you of whatever you've got. It's just what narcissists are like And if you are ignoring the narcissist or you considering doing that Then clearly you've started to catch on you've started to realize But they really have nothing of value to give to you All they've got is the illusion the false self Where it makes it look like they have something of value to give to you, but you never actually get anything It's all just a simulation They never actually do in anything other than just lying and future faking As I said before it's all my all manipulation All they can do is manipulate you And everything they do Everything that comes out of their mouth every action it is all manipulation It's all an illusion and an illusion is the best you will ever get from them You're never gonna get anything real It's only ever going to be fake the only thing that is real is you Everything you did everything you brought to their lives that was very real And that's why I'm so glad to have you here on my channel all of you who are watching this right now I'm sure you were all very real for the narcissist Gave everything you had to them you got nothing back return That's why you're watching this video right now But yeah, you may have lost so much of yourself so much of your life already And you're just thinking As you're looking at What if your time energy and resources being depleted? It's just getting worse worse for you, and you think how can I make this stop? How can I stop this from getting any worse because it's like as time goes by Things are getting worse for me, but things are getting better for them Because they're draining me of everything I've got and I'm getting nothing back in return And it's like what is the answer here? How do you save yourself from being depleted of everything? And of course the only answer is to just cut them off They can all of them go to contact I mean, what else can you do? It's either that or they just drain the life out of you And of course by the end of it they're gonna blame you for that as well And I'm sure you can already see that coming so the only logical Conclusion the only possible answer and what you can do is just pull out at the earliest opportunity Don't get too involved with them because all that's gonna happen is they're gonna drain you of everything Everything you've got and you're gonna get nothing back in return You're just gonna be waiting Holding on to their lives and future faking but nothing's ever gonna happen for real They're just around you because they're getting something out of you. That's all that there is So you presume that the best thing to do is to ignore them and yeah, I mean what else can you do? What other option is there to protect yourself to save What little you may have left But even that option does not come without any effects or consequences Because if you ignore the narcissist They're going to do this It's going to cause a narcissistic injury and that is going to be followed by narcissistic rage To where they will get very angry And they will seek to tear you down They will try to sabotage your progress in moving on from them In whatever life or future that you are trying to build after they are gone Or whatever person that you may be with or that you may be seeking Yeah, they're going to prevent try to prevent all of that from happening. They will try to get you fired from your job They will try to target you financially To try to keep you financially dependent on them and they'll try to cut off any support that you may otherwise have By assassinating your character smear in your name In forcing their flying monkeys to do their bidding on their behalf and you just got away your options. I mean, it's like What's worse if I just stay with them for the rest of my life Be miserable having no freedom Never find in peace or happiness and instead just being this person's little pet But they could just use and abuse whenever they like Just suck the life out of you drain you out of everything you've got It's other point where you literally have nothing left to give at all And if you don't know by now sure when you know when that happens They're not gonna be there for you They're gonna be blaming you they're gonna be saying yeah, it's all your fault It's all your fault that You ended up going insane That you were driven into a mental hospital Or that you lost your job. You lost all your money. You ended up homeless or One day you just couldn't take it anymore you snapped Maybe you did something you regret You ended up in jail They're gonna blame you for all of that So you weigh up your options and it's like do I just stick around and wait? Until something like that happens because of course there's only so much a person can take Till you start to lose your mind you start to go crazy You start to even lose the ability to function or to work or to control yourself and your emotions You start losing your mind you start becoming more and more reactive And you know you're gonna be held responsible for that. They're not gonna be there for you at all They're not gonna examine the cause You're only going to look at the effects your actions in response to what they have done Rather than what they actually did to you which caused it so you conclude Okay, I've got to take some personal responsibility. I put myself in this situation or At the very least I kept myself in it. I Mean, yeah, they manipulated me. They tricked me. They deceived me. They lied to me the future faked They did all of these things But maybe if I was wiser I was more knowledgeable If I trusted my own intuition, I didn't overlook the red flags Then maybe I wouldn't be in this mess So maybe I should take some personal responsibility And I'll get myself out of this situation Right That's what we're thinking at this point We just got to get ourselves out of it. Well, that's the thing even when you do Decide to take personal responsibility and try to take yourself out of it Now they're coming after you They're threatening and intimidating you. They're stalking and harassing you They're coming to your house to show up at your work They're harassing your family or friends They're everywhere trying to destroy you because now you've rejected them You've made it clear that you want nothing to do with them and they do not like that They do not like it when you stand up and you think That you can take back control of your life And they want you to just sit down and let them Control everything for you. They wanted to just lay there Well, they suck the life out of you drain you of your energy and resources of everything that makes you you And they just don't want to answer to anything and they don't want to have to reciprocate anything back to you They just want to be a leech in your life a Parasite a bottom feeder Well, you're doing all of the work and they're just sitting back with their feet up They don't have to worry about anything. It's just only you They want to pile all of the duty and responsibility on you Well, they could just act like an unruly child without any responsibility for anything in their lives Which essentially it does disable them So at some point they will get their karma. They will get it in the end It will come back Because they're disabling themselves by being a parasite a leech a bottom feeder Instead of taking some personal responsibility for their lives take an action And making something of it instead of heavily relying and being dependent on you So things weren't won't turn out well for them in the end Right now. I know it's like, what do you do? You're stuck in this situation and it's like No matter what you do, you can't win. It's a double bind It's like you're down if you do down if you don't You remain in this situation The life gets drained out of you and in the end you still get blamed And they'll still come after you even then The other option is you leave you ignore them you go to contact Again, they're still gonna blame you. They're still gonna come after you So either way, no matter what you do, there is no getting out of that situation I mean the only way to do it really This works especially if you're in the love bombing phase otherwise It's best just to leave like a thief in the night just disappear Don't even tell them where you're going Move far away change your phone numbers Delete your social media maybe just Discard your devices Sell them Because they could be tracking you there as well. They may even have a track device on your car They may be monitoring your Computer your laptop your phone your calls your texts. There's no telling what they might be doing Because yeah, they know how bad they are They know that aren't something that you would want to be around And they're probably already suspecting like you are planning your escape Because they know that they are no good for you Of course these leeches these parasites when they're around you when they're sucking The nutrients out of you and they're giving nothing back to you in return Of course, they know that of course they know that they're no good for you when they're doing that Of course, they know that at some point you want it. You're gonna want to get away from it Of course, they know They're not stupid and they know we're not stupid Who in the right mind wants to be around someone Who has no value Whatsoever to bring to you and it's just you you're validating their false self their illusion It's not even real so you get nothing back. You just listen to their lies. They're future-faking Bullshit, of course, they know you don't want to sit in that mess for a long period of time Of course, they know that Yeah, they are delusional, but they're not that delusional That's why They're always paying attention to your reactions the scanning your facial expressions body language and tone of voice for threats for signs of disapproval Well that you may reject or abandon them Even if you don't come out and actually say it we don't reveal your exit plan or strategy They're waiting for it. They're looking for it because they already love it. There's no way you can stay in that for long At some point you're gonna get fed up. I mean you're getting nothing back in return That is draining you you're validating the illusion Of course, they know at some point you're gonna look at it and it's like Hold on a minute. How is this situation? Any good for me What am I getting out of this? Is this not just draining the life out of me and Pouring everything into you. Yes, they know They're not stupid of course They know that at some point even as impasse we're gonna come to this conclusion We're gonna realize that this is serving them more than it's serving us Yes, of course, they know that at some point we are going to come to that conclusion They do know that And they're ready they're already prepared They're waiting look for signs of disapproval and they may have already Talked about you behind your back to other people. They may have already smeared your name Because they're preparing for that and they already know that they're no good Yes, they know Their personality their character It's absolute garbage. It's no good for you in your life. They know it and Many of us we wonder is it real Do they really know They are garbage. They are no good for you They're just waiting around just get what they can out of you Do they really know that they're no good for anything long-term Do they really know that they have nothing of value to provide to you? Yes, they know that and Here's how you know that they know that Just stop for a moment forget about what you're giving to them Or what they're trying to get out of you and just look at the past the time that you have spent with them Notice this one common thing across all narcissistic relationships By asking yourself this question What have they invested into me? Because here's the thing They're coming around you because they know you're a valuable person you have something of value to bring to them If they did not think that they wouldn't be around you They would never put themselves in a situation not even for a short period of time if they believe that It's going to drain them Rather than it's going to benefit them in some way So yeah, they already know that your high value that proves that if you're around someone of high value I mean, let's just consider stocks and shares investments if you know that it has High return it's high value You're going to invest something into it Because you're going to be expected to get something back So here's the thing Why don't they do that with us? Because they do know that we are of high value. That's the way they target us. That's where they come around us so why not Invest into us into our relationship together Course the reason why is because they know I mean for a start Many of them they have nothing to invest anyway But even what tiny morsels they may have to invest they look at it like They're not going to get anything back Because it's them Because they know they're no good for you they're no good for the relationship so They already know it's going to go to shit if they're a part of it and this is how you know a person's value I've said it before Person's value is not determined by what we consume. It's determined by what we give what we share with other people Because that says a lot about a person if a person is willing to invest a lot into another person and a relationship That really reveals to you that They must have enough confidence faith trust and belief in themselves a Personality their character and in what they can establish in a relationship They must have belief and confidence in that To be willing to risk an investment into it Think about that for a moment. This is why empaths do that Because yes, we do know that we are empaths They kind we're given we're camera compassionate And most people commonly know that someone like that is going to be very successful in a relationship, of course Narcissist we know Narcissists do not succeed in relationships because they're narcissistic and That's where they withhold On investing time money effort energy into us That's why they don't reciprocate Even in those rare cases where maybe they can and yet they choose not to That's why because they already know it's not gonna go anywhere If they are a part of it They already know that if they are a part of something It's gonna fall apart at some point They're going to ruin it. They're going to destroy it so they look at it like The best opportunity for me the best option is to invest as little as I can to minimize What I will lose and they could pick the best person in the world Someone who has everything together and yet they will still choose to invest as little as possible Because they already know that if they are a part of it, it's not going to amount to anything good They already know that That's why from the devaluation phase onwards It's all about just bringing you down It's damaging and destroying you from that point on because they already know It's not going to go anywhere good for them anyway As long as they're around as long as they're with you And they especially want to keep you down and destroy you When you're trying to move on without them Because they already know if they don't do that if they don't intervene Then things are going to go perfectly fine for you. I mean nothing's completely perfect But it's gonna go a lot better than how it did with them They know that I mean just think about it If they really believe that you were so bad You're so crazy They're just gonna leave you to it. They're gonna leave you alone They're not gonna have to intervene if you're that bad things are gonna fall apart on their own But no they do have to intervene when you ignore them They have to come after you to try to destroy you because they know just how great you are Yes, they see it they recognize it If they didn't they would just leave you alone. They would forget about you. They wouldn't even care They would be glad you're gone They wouldn't be so bothered about trying to take you down when you ignore them Yeah, they will do this. They will come after you They will try to sabotage your life and for that reason Because they know you're gonna be so much better off without them But that reveals to you exactly what they think of themselves They know that you're gonna be so much better off without them That's why they have to involve themselves and try to sabotage your life Because they know that they were the problem all along They know that they were what was keeping you down making you miserable And that's why when you ignore them when you go off on your own That's why they go from being this lazy person who never did anything for you to then pulling out all the stops and Effort to try to sabotage and destroy you because they're already thinking like It's like all of this time they catch you locked up in a cage and They starved you they didn't give you any food And I was like you found a way you open the cage you flew out Now you can just fly away You can live your own life By your own means To your own resolve You could do everything the way that you like But they automatically already know yet it's gonna go very well for you If they do not intervene if they are not a part of it because they already know that they're no good They already knew that from the very beginning Of course they knew that that's when they had to manipulate you That's where they deceived you that's what they lie the future faked They give the false character the illusion. It couldn't just be real and authentic because they already knew They're no good for you So if they showed you exactly who they are You wouldn't want anything to do with them Of course as time went by you started to catch on and realize who and what they were and that is when they began to devalue you Because it's like whoa whoa whoa don't you put that over on me Yes, I am Causing problems in your life Yes, I'm draining of your time your energy your money your resources Doing all of these things to you, and I'm giving you nothing back in return And yes, you're starting to wake up you're starting to catch on and realize that And then it's like we've got a torch and you're shining the light on them It's like what don't shine that light at me And they try to put it on you they try to point out these Imaginary flaws or the exaggerate things about you And it's like what you really got to do is look at everything that you've done in the past Over the past few months or years everything that you've achieved accomplished Look at what they've done for you Nothing You're the one who is doing all of the work All they've got is an imaginary false character and an illusion a mirage They have nothing else What we have is real The things we put out the things we gave to them that was real So yeah, they knew from the very beginning that they were no good for you They knew that That's why they manipulated you is why they give the false character the illusion That's why they lie the future faked That's why when he started to catch on they began to devalue you and it's also why When you finally get fed up and you realize it's not going anywhere You realize that they have no value and you try to move on without them It's why they come after you and trying to tear you down and to prevent you from moving on And from a reflecting back to them that they were the problem all along They were what was wrong with you Because they'd rather just live in a false reality for the rest of their lives in this delusion Where nothing is wrong with them and everything was wrong with you Even though they already know that that wasn't even the truth They just want to live in this denial This illusion So that's it This is what will happen if you do ignore the narcissist They're not going to take it lightly because you are the power source for the false self for the illusion Your power in it you're giving it your energy you're keeping it together You are the glue Take that away and it all falls down like a house of cards Because it has no structure. It has no foundation It's built on lies It's an illusion It needs you for it to exist Without you it ceases to exist Because it isn't real. It's fake That's why they go so crazy when you ignore them because then it has no audience Anyway, that's all I've got to say for this message. I hope it was helpful to you But if it was as always you can show your support down below by giving this video a thumbs up Helps the YouTube algorithm Gets this message out there to other survivors who may need to see it as well And you can also let me know your thoughts at the comment section down below I reach your comments every day Hit that subscribe button and click all notifications to be notified when I upload a video in the future And if you would like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me Just go to my website. It is narksviver.co.uk You can also follow me on Instagram. It's narksviver YouTube All right, thank you all for joining me on another narksviver live video. 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