 Welcome to every way woman. So ladies I love you but sometimes you can be our worst enemy. Women are tearing women apart the more successful they become. So you look so bothered by this. I am. Every time I hear this topic or this conversation it bothers me because one of the things that we have we relate to as women are being women that that camaraderie that camaraderie excuse me and to think and to see and to witness and to personally experience women not having my back because I am successful is very difficult. How did that make you feel? Well I can use in my current situation right now in my job women who I thought would should have my back are very condescending. In what way? In that I'm the assistant director so I will give a directive and because they don't necessarily agree with it they will challenge it. However we have a director who is also a female and they challenge her yet her boss is a male and what he says is okay and oftentimes they've had conversations with me that say I want to make your money I just don't want to do what you have to do and I find that appalling I just and I guess it bothers me because I'm hurt by that that you would work with me you would feel that about me that you don't support what I do so I'm shaking with this one. I think part of it is the male-female relationship I have a boss who is above me who is a man and I have a lot of other co-workers some men mostly women and I had a female co-worker come to me and ask me questions about what she should do on her job and I said well you know I think you should do this and she goes well our boss who's a guy says this and this and this but then the boss above him said we should do something else so I went well we should do what this boss says and instead they chose to do what the guy said to do and guys they got in trouble. That crab in the bucket mentality and women have so many things to deal with in general we cannot continue to afford to not support each other particularly when one of us arises in a position that can be helpful. What I find interesting too is that even in when women are in the workforce that their other roles are then attacked so then it becomes not only the decisions you're making at work well she's working so many hours what's happening with her husband what about her kids well look at what she wore to work today. I mean don't you feel like men don't have to deal with all that but women don't because I have to tell you I've never heard a guy talk about another guy and say oh that guy got that job because he's got nice pecs. Let's take it to what everybody knows reality TV these housewives of so-and-so show I know those shows because most of the people on them are successful and they have these women going at each other and we glorify that we as women we're the the ones we're watching it and we glorify that and that should be an abomination no woman should be on TV or anyway pulling down her sister and we show that to other young women and so we perpetuate that and I'm passionate about this because this is just real raggedy and jealousy too is what I think I mean these women are just jealous of what they have or their success and so it comes out as this resentful bitterer perpetuates that jealousy just oh we all do because it's bored it's a topic of conversation you mean jealousy insecurity I think it's jealousy insecurity kind of go together right hand-in-hand when you feel insecure you can feel jealous about what somebody has done correct accomplished well okay I'll use myself I had a situation where there was a person who was over me a successful woman over me and I can tell you for a moment I did feel insecure and I found myself in a conversation slamming her so that's why I don't want hypocrite in front of you found myself slamming her and the person that I was talking to said Stacy you are so wrong right about now because I know where you sit and the same thing that you're saying about her someone has said about you and that really put the like look at women who are running in politics of any office I mean they're getting criticized on all these different levels that men are and mostly by other women right well you know I've women have very strong political views and sometimes they have stronger views than men do so what they're not talking about politics they're talking about the suit she's wearing we're in you know an economic crisis and the you know president's wife is wearing a suit that's $2,000 and everybody's gonna critique it and talk about it and same thing with you know but again I'm just I'm just so bothered that as women you guys know we have a lot of things that we have to contend with and we don't support each other we particularly when we reach we reach a certain level we don't support each other and we got to do better and we have to start educating yeah but because you're sick insecure then you attack me do deal with you differently um you know it love yourself just be confident in yourself because you can't love yourself if there's no example of women around you who love themselves yes you're absolutely right okay so we got to teach the lesson I got to teach you as being a mature woman just like you're enough and when and when Madison does something well I got to celebrate her and then turn off the housewives recognize what you have and celebrate it you can't always just want what you don't have you have to want what you have and learn to love it and celebrate each other yes you know I'm when I go into someone's home and they have a beautiful home I don't walk in and start trashing their home and saying oh well they've got this so you know I mean I might make us our camera mark about there are people who do and it's the exact same thing they'll walk into someone's beautiful home ago oh and then they'll start trashing it instead of just saying hey I appreciate your beautiful home thank you for sharing it with me I'm so glad that you can have this so that I can come here and share you can share and the reason why that's important is because as women are successful it's important that we reach back and continue to pull women up so again I would hope that and I shared my own story both how I'm experiencing it and how I participated in it to say that it's true and it's out there but we have to make a change we have to do something different and we have to teach our young girls to start complimenting their friends at an early age right about how they look you were pretty you did a great job congratulations on that a I'm so proud we got to start early that's that's how we change that to your question or your daughters her friends you know I'm really proud of what you did that's what you do we'll be right back with more every way woman stay tuned