 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder of commitment connection calm and in this video We're going to talk about how to get a boyfriend So I've got kind of there if you don't know how to really go about getting a boyfriend You could be single for a very very long time And so it's very important that you know what's going on and what kind of steps You need to take in order to get a boyfriend and so here are four very important steps that you need to take in order to get a boyfriend and The first one is to get the attention of a guy that you like now I just want to kind of preface this and say that you need to be careful here a lot of women mistake attention and Attraction right? So getting a guy's attention doesn't mean Necessarily that he's you know fully attracted to you, especially emotionally. He might just be you know Getting you might just be getting his attention because there's a sexual interest or a sexual something going on there, but men need Most men need you to show a man some kind of indication that you want him to come talk to you and Be interested in you. Otherwise, he won't approach you And so you need to get him his attention in some way and sometimes this could just be a look could just be a smile It could just be something very simple I talk a lot about how to get guys to approach you in other videos and podcasts and different things on my website Um The second thing that you need to do is to encourage him to pursue you By showing some interest but not coming on too strong Right, there's kind of these two this duality where that you're like, you know coming on way too strong And then there's this other side where you're not showing any interest and there's there's a middle ground there that you want to be in where you're Showing a man that you're attracted to him and you're encouraging him to pursue you But you're not like, you know being crazy and needy and stuff like that and the best way to do this is to Tell him it's hot or attractive when he does things that you want him to do so if he you know now opens a door for you or he you know Calls you or something you can be like, oh, you know if he calls you you could be like, oh, I love I just love hearing your voice Thanks for calling me, you know, and it's just being encouraging or you could say Your voice sounds really sexy or your voice sounds really hot like that's Very encouraging and it's kind of sexualizing it and it's showing interest, but it's not coming on like super strong Which is where you want to be The third thing is making sure that he's interested in something long-term a guy can be interested in you But only want something casual he can treat you like a girlfriend But only want something casual and so you need to find out whether he's interested in something long-term or not the best way to do that is to Talk about people that are in long-term Relationships and just tell a story about it and you know talk about how attractive it is and Just see what how his you know what his reaction is to that And if he's you know tries to avoid the topic or doesn't want to talk about it Then it'll tell you a lot about you know what his thoughts are on Long-term relationship type stuff So the last thing that you need to do is make sure that He has a deep emotional connection with you before you sleep with him a lot of women make this mistake And they end up getting guys that ghost or disappear or whatever you want to call it pull away from him if you want a guy to stick around after You sleep with them You need to make sure that you have an Emotional connection with him and I talk a lot about that in other videos and on my website and tons of different places That's it for this video if you want more information on how to Attract a quality man into a committed lasting relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon