 How the narcissist will describe you to other people. I'm sure when you read the title, you could already guess that it's not going to be something positive. It's not going to be something good. They've only ever had bad things to say about you even while you were together. So, yeah, after they leave or you leave, they're not going to have anything good to say. They're going to continue with the smear campaign. They're going to bad mouth you to other people. They'll make false accusations. They'll spread rumors. It's just going to continue. It's not going to get better. It's going to get worse. There are some cases where they will say positive things about you. And they know that may not make any sense right now unless you've already been through it. But let me go deeper into that so that you understand what I mean. Because, yes, sometimes they will say positive things about you. And most often this will be with their new supply. This is how they groom their new supply. This is how they train them. They do it by saying that you did all of these amazing things for them. You took care of them. Or at least that's what they're going to say later on. In the beginning, when they first meet the new supply, they're going to say that their ex was bad, crazy. You did all of these horrible things. And now they need this new person to save them, to protect them. But then as time goes by, then it all changes. Then they start to say how actually you are so much better than them. And you did all of these amazing things. Yes, as Amkaka says there in the chat, to make the other person try and compete with what you did. That's exactly right. That's what they will try and do. But many of you may not be aware of that if you're not still in touch with them. You may not know that they're doing this. But sometimes they will re-idealise you and then that leads to the hoover. And they may have done that with you. When you first met them, they may have said their ex is crazy. Their ex is a stalker, a psychopath. And then after a few weeks or months, suddenly that was you. Now you're the crazy one. Now you're the one who was bad. And now their ex is this perfect person who did everything right. And then you're just scratching your head thinking, what the hell is going on? It's so confusing because how can these people be so bad and crazy when you first meet the narcissist? And then without any contact with them, they just suddenly, the story changes and now all of these people are okay. And you're the problem. And you need to do better. It doesn't make any sense. But this is how they operate. This is what they do. So yeah, you need to be aware of that. But that is another way that they might describe you. It's in a positive way to the new supply. But not initially. In the beginning they're going to say that you're crazy. They're going to say that all of these things are wrong with you. But as time goes by, they're going to flip the script and suddenly you become this amazing person and now they have to leave this new person so that they can come back and be with you. That's when they come in with a hoover. And you're thinking, what have they told this new person then? If they can just leave them and come back to me, what's this new person thinking? Well, that's it. That's exactly what they're thinking. They're thinking that maybe you're actually a great person for them after all. And you're so much better than them. And that's why the narcissist has to leave them to come back to you. But you may have cognitive dissonance as well. I mean, everyone who is involved with the narcissist, they all have cognitive dissonance because the story changes again and again. I mean, there's only two different stories and it just switches back and forth between each one. That's all it really is. It's like first they're telling you this story and then that story and then this one again, then that one, then this one, that one. It just keeps going back and forth. And when you're being fed these two stories, which are contradictory, it just spins you out. You just can't even think straight after that. It will drive you crazy because even when they're giving you this story that you may not prefer, then you're fighting, you're trying to win them over for the story that you want. When you just got to step back and look at it like no. These are all just stories anyway. It's just something that they've made up in their heads. It's got nothing to do with reality. So why does it even matter? But that's just it, isn't it? If you want to be involved with a narcissist, you have to leave reality and enter their fantasy world that they made inside their heads. And then when they finally get rid of you and you've got to go back out into the real world, they're looking at you like you're crazy because you've been living in this delusional world for such a long time with all of these alternate meanings which make no sense in reality. It only makes sense while you're with them, while you're denying reality. As you can see, I'm in another new apartment again now with this really fun hammer queue. If you're having a lot of fun with this, Nala's just laying down watching me. Yeah, it's very relaxing. I think I will make a video here in the morning and got the swing here as well. I think the hammock is a bit more comfortable. It does surprise me though how this can hold my weight. It must be about 100 kilograms. Somehow it doesn't come through the ceiling. So it's pretty strong. This is what it feels like to be involved with a narcissist. Spins your head around. What else have I got to show you? Durian. Has anyone here tried durian before? Let me know down in the comments. I had to pick some up. This is the Musang King Durian. Very tasty. Sometimes I find it hard to believe that it's a fruit. It's got the texture of a dessert. Like custard or something. But yeah, it's really good. Really high up. Yeah, so that's all I've got to say. I hope it was helpful. Let me know your thoughts on this. Do you agree or disagree? Have you experienced that? Maybe you quote them out when they were saying nice things about you to the new supply. After everything bad they were saying about you. Because that's often what they do as well. Even while they're still messaging you and saying all these horrible things about you. They're telling the new supply a completely different story about how you were so much better and you did all of these things. And there could be a smear campaign going on at the same time. A narcissist could have 10 people in their life and each person knows a different side of them, has a different version of events. It's really crazy. But yeah, that's just how they do it. Alright, thank you all for joining me tonight. Please give the video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it and I'll talk to you in another one very soon.