 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection calm and today We're gonna talk about what to do when he doesn't text back. So here's what you should do So let's first talk about why guys don't text back sometimes and and here's a few of the reasons why a guy might not text you back One is that he's busy, right? so he might have other things going on in his life and he's You know taking a shower or he's at work or he's got something that's important going on that he needs to pay attention to and so he Can't contact you back Another one is that he thinks that you're acting needy So a lot of times when a guy feels like a woman's acting needy He'll just cut off contact and just be like oh god I'll just wait until she's not acting needy and then I'll try to talk to her which can drive you crazy but It's something that you should know is that a lot of times guys won't contact you back if they think that you're acting needy So when he isn't really that into you, he might not contact you back. He might not text you back and and That's also an important thing to know If he's not near his phone, so maybe he left his phone somewhere Maybe he's doing something and he left his he didn't want to keep his phone with him So if he's not near his phone, he's probably not not gonna I would assume that he wouldn't be able to text you back then Or if this is kind of a Rough one, but it could be if he's with another girl So if you're just casually dating each other you first met each other and he's with another girl He might not text you back in that situation So here's what you shouldn't do when a guy Doesn't text you back. What you shouldn't do is you shouldn't shame him or condemn him a lot of women do this because they think that I Don't know that this will work. Has this ever worked. I mean, does it ever work long term? I've never seen shaming or condemning anyone ever work long term But people still do it and it doesn't work But it will probably lead him to never wanting to talk to you again more than Doing what it is that you want him to do and and it what it could also do is make him start hiding Things from you if you condemn guys or shame guys for doing things that you don't want him to do a lot of times Just start hiding that from you Which isn't good. You don't want that So Yeah, I mean treating him Another thing that you shouldn't do is you shouldn't treat him like dirt Because he didn't respond sooner like treating him badly or or just you know being passive-aggressive about the whole thing that's Not a good thing to do it's not attractive and it could make him pull away and disappear all together So here's what you should do Have something else that you can put on to put on your mind, right? Have something else that you can focus on and and You know if If he Isn't texting you, you know and you're starting to freak out about it or get obsessive about it go do something, you know go Do something that you like right and which kind of leads into the next one Which is having passions and hobbies right if you have passions and hobbies that you're interested in you have a life That you live that's really interesting Then you know if he doesn't text you back It's not a big deal because you're doing things and you know, what's the big deal if he's not texting you back? And the the third one is have have friends that you can go and hang out with Right like have people that you can go spend time with so that you can again get your mind off of texting him and You know when he doesn't text you And then the last thing is when he does end up contacting you So like let's say that he hasn't contacted you for a couple days when he does contact you Tell him that you're happy to hear from say oh, it's so good to you know hear from you a lot of times women a Guy will pull away and then he'll come back and then the woman woman will shame him And what she doesn't realize is that she's basically Punishing him for coming back and Re-initiating contact you want to do the opposite you want to reward him for coming back and starting to talk to you again And so if you if he comes back and he starts talking to us a you know It's so good to hear it from you and that can be a really powerful way to get him to continually Contact you so that's it for today if you want more information on how to attract a quality man Into a committed loving secure relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon