 Number three is the one that most women don't want to look at but it's also a very very important one which is that you're giving off an impression that this is what you're looking for and you know I want to say this at first because this is the big complaint that I get all the time and it's that men are responsible for their behavior men are always responsible for their behavior and so are you and it's one of those things where if you want like if you show up to a job interview and you're like you need to just accept that I'm a serious candidate even though I'm showing up in a clown outfit right it's like okay well how am I supposed to take you seriously when you're wearing a clown outfit and there's actually a Dave Chappelle skit about this where he was talking about wearing like a police police officer's uniform and somebody comes up to him and they're like hey hey you know can you help us like when you're a cop right you know like you need to come and help us and he's like well just because I'm wearing a police officer's uniform doesn't mean that I'm a police officer right and the point of the skit was that he was it was like a joke like if you're if you want to give off a certain impression you you need to make sure that you're you're dressing the part of a person that wants to give off that impression right if you want to be taken seriously by men as something more than just superficial then play the part of somebody who actually considers something else going on with them and so the point is is if you want men to take you seriously don't show pictures of your butt and half-naked photos in your app or online dating profiles it just gives men the wrong impression second set boundaries in your communication with men so that men know where your boundaries are and then stick to those boundaries right the whole thing about exclusivity before intimacy and making sure that you're setting boundaries in the right way right communicating it in an effective way I have a program called how to talk to men or how to talk to a guy I think that's somebody else's program how to talk to men mine is how to talk to a guy and I've got a program about that if you're really interested in learning more about setting boundaries and some of the those kinds of conversations that you want to have with guys third show aspects of your personality if you don't go deep and wide with your connection with men and you're just kind of like this one dimensional person right it's it's don't be surprised when a guy is only interested in hooking up with you because it's like well I can't really find any other dimensions to a personality so what else is there for me to fall in love with what else is there to connect to what else is there to really be with here other than just the simple things and I you know and I know that there's a lot of like complaints around that but it's like you know how you know if you're meeting guys and there's a lot of women out there that are like oh yeah you know I met this guy and he's just so boring right and there's nothing going on with them and it's the same thing right if you go and meet a guy like it's he feels the same way right he's like yeah you know I don't know she's really hot you know that's what he ends up telling his friends when he goes home she's really hot because that's all that's going on here right and so you want you want to have more there you want to have more going on there