 the people who have known you the longest are the most threatened about you changing. Because they fear that if you change too much, they may not have the same place in your life anymore. So they have a vested interest in you not changing or you know is, I just do not have the time anymore for those conversations. I'm not interested. I don't know if there's any jizz in my life. I don't want to see for coffee every week and we talk about people all the time. I don't want all of that. So you realize you're changing because your energies are shifting. Your attention is changing. What you want to be around is changing but you don't know how to say to people, I won't be there.