 Like, why did so-and-so do the how-could-they appalling? What's wrong with them? Someone pulls out in front of you into traffic and the reflexive response is, what's wrong with them? I wouldn't have done that. Asshole. None of that is based on truth. In fact, if you were that person, you would have done it too. You would have pulled right out there. If you were in a hurry, if you were fighting with your spouse, if you just got yelled at by your boss, I don't know, whatever the situation was. So blame, then, is replaced by curiosity. What happened to you? To turn you into somebody who would do that. Curiosity leads to creativity. That's the alternative to a world of endless war.