 Thank you. You are looking nice. You are looking amazing. But, sija sema jina zen yun na takamji seme. Jua kwa na wewa, meni ambe jina pa kani gawalek. Haa? We can catch up here. Good morning. My name is Lillian Mora. Araita, a published author. Ya. Amazing. Ash published author. Okay. Good morning. My name is Lillian Onyango. By profession but I'm going by the name of Lillian Ahoni. And I'm a journalist as well. And I'm a writer. I write lifestyle and humanitarian stories and development stories. Why? Now I know what you're talking about. I know what you're talking about. Let me ask you. Muka na wa poa? Muna jo hii sila basi jukunye me tufiki siya sai? You? Mata lillian miwa na mtu, sorry. Mata lillian miwa na mtu tufiku kwa mstolen? Hhee? Because, let me even read you what that person told me. Eh? Where is this person? Ali, nya mbe ya? Umefiki watu kwa, ali nuliza mstolen niku gani tena. Hii sila basi na kimi asana. So that's a meme. Then I was like, ah, Tushafika kwa mstolen? So tu kwa kwa mstolen? Wo kwa api? Mini kwa kwa poa. So, Jala, muli pelika na outa maku yenda agi. Kia miyam, intresen tu no. Boyfriends of this generation have suffered. Why? It's really crazy because yesterday they didn't know that it's a boyfriend's day. Wow! I didn't let that night. So, it's connected to me actually. Mi, by then, nijualeo. Mijualeo say, nijualeo as a boy. Nijualeo say, nijualeo as a boy. Nijualeo say, nijualeo. Nijualeo say, nijualeo as a boy. We celebrate our boyfriends daily. Siniyo? Kamu kore una celebrate daily. Aa, sila ubaya. But then again, yesterday was a day that everyone was supposed to like. You know, acknowledge venitu na kongana world mother's day and then tu na kongatu meyeka outia everyone is posting their mothers and writing. Good things about them. Then you study on your social media, you're checking Facebook. No one is posting their boyfriend. Instagram, no one is posting their boyfriend. WhatsApp, no one is posting their boyfriend and you're wondering, okay, wait. Nijualeo tu muna say, manga muna date. But why your boyfriend? Muna date akinanani, where are your boyfriends? But then you realize this generation tumifikaile pointia. I'm not too sure if Piyae ana need date. I might be dating him, but her need date. So I'm not going to shame myself out here and post them to do the extra mile. So everyone is holding back. So you have a boyfriend, but you don't want to go the extra mile kwa like sikushuwa niko peke hangu na sikushuwa hakuna watu wengine na sikushuwa kama tia ana need date, amana niku kwa for a ride. Okay, this is a tit for tat. Kamu kuli kwa na girlfriend's day, they didn't post her. Thank you. Thank you. Do you know what they say during girlfriend's day? Let me tell you what they said. I was even saying it this morning. I said it. They told us during world's girlfriend's day at the world's girlfriend's day is a day for girlfriend's to celebrate themselves. Like you say mimi na wengu tu mele kanya wengu. So I say man, men, don't be pressured out here. Girlfriend's day is for women to celebrate other women. They celebrate themselves. So Piyae wao boyfriend's day. Boy's day out. Boy's night out. Let me ask you. How much is too much to celebrate a man? How much is too much to celebrate a man? Okay, my idea will be, give what you not will. What you aita kuma ukiluz. Like sila enya ikishuna fikiria. Oh my God, nani litu miya this amount of cash on him. Oh my God nani limfanya. Like give whatever you willing to lose but it won't pay in you. Okay, give whatever you willing to lose but it won't pay in you. I have something to ask you. Okay, according to me, I think that it's not too much when it comes to love. When you love someone, you can give what you are willing to. You can give him something expensive because that's how you are going to show him that you love them. So it's not that much. Let me, I also have something for you. I have tea for the brother of you. Let me ask you. Okay. When you say, give what you are willing to lose, doesn't that make you feel like that person ume mwikwet na they are not that much worth it? No, they are worth it. I can give you so much because I feel you are worth it nabado at the end of the day. Even if things don't work out, sit I feel like I will study it on you. Okay. And you, let me ask you Lilian. Okay. When you say, give something that is worth it. Like give something that come any expensive. Ilesi kwenye mta chana, ame Ilesi kwenye ataku take for granted. Out of feel ni kama, I also is that. Okay. What you can do is say ma, you don't have to regret. You will want to pay na. It can end in the end. Like we say, leo kama to me kusana. Yes, tu na kusana leo lafukesho ni kwa na umingine. Ama na ogat na narudisoko. So you say. Where? Where? And then you know. It's all about you. We are women of this generation. Guys, generation of women, we are nice. We can give you something and we don't. Take it back. We are giving you what we are willing to lose. Ntaku pay atu na ikisha imeisha. You know, ama na on the other hand. Eh, tu mawana watu wa tinyanga niwa iPhones. Magari zime rudishwa. Once it ends, it ends. So let me ask you. Comparing the poor, I'm stalling, I'm perfect, pokot that you have. Comparing bileye uku gift. Nabilama unam gift. On a scale of imbalasy. Would you be able to match up what he gifts you? Okay, what I can say is that, mtu na kupatia nisimbe amakununia, ame kubayawain. Na onam bayao watch. Iyo ina manisha, like even na kuret. Gift that a man is giving you, ina masya even na kuret. For example, mimi ni kubayao watch, na kubanda kubayao watch, say watch chip, let's say 20,000. That's how I rate you. I love you that much. That's why I'm showing you that. Na ukuju ni pati koinpe kiaki. Onanin rate you, maybe. But I don't care. Kama gift niki dogo amani ni, so long as my love language na juna penda gift amani ni, because kila mtu akuna different love language, maybe nantaka to touch. Maybe I just want you to be there for me. Tell me I love you or what. So I don't care. So I don't care. So I don't care. Because I tell me personally, I don't think. I think he does more of the gift. No, let me tell you. He does more of the gift. If we can actually think about it. Some men out here in Jitu Masala, we can't much up. Like, like, much up. Yeah, they're willing to spend more and more. I love you. What's the worst gift a man has ever given you? Worst. Uli feel like, oh please, you could do better. Especially if he was in a position to give you something better. What's the... Persona desina mimi. Hauna? Every gift I would receive. You see, like the way you talk about things with your person and you're like, they pick it from there as in a kongadot full gift. Like something I mentioned and they got it and they brought it. But random gift. Mimi, t-shirt. What was wrong with the t-shirt? No, what was wrong with the t-shirt? Hauna, have you ever seen me wear a t-shirt south? T-shirt landing. But let me tell you. I gave the t-shirt out the other day without having one day. No, let me tell you what happened. I had been with for a very long time. We were getting married. So they tend to not get married. You know what I know, you know what I love, what I don't love. So he bought me a t-shirt. So you remember when I'm thinking, you spent a lot to buy this t-shirt. So you buy your shoes. Do you have any original... Sneakers and stuff. Those ones. Like it's a brand. So I imagined he had spent a few thousands to buy that t-shirt. I was feeling like, I want to buy a chocolate. I want to buy t-shirt. So in my mind, I felt that was very thoughtless. Or maybe he was introducing you to something new. So he wanted to gift me which I am introducing now. I am introducing something that I want us to talk about. People that gift you in their love language. True. What are your thoughts about it? Mimi na kupia gift wasababu mimi na penda t-shirt. But siku wasababu? Uuna taka t-shirt abu na penda. Mutumunya na kupia tia, kitu he munya na taka uvae. Mutumunya taka kukuchu change. Like webi a kupendi, he want to change maybe. Interesting. Maybe wuna penda kufuva, nisa nmemi penda kufuvaewe wunye mevaewe longi. Maybe it doesn't like that. Kupia wuna penda tia. Muna tika uvaewe wunye. Muna tika uvaewe wunye. Muna tika uvaewe wunye. Awebewewe wunye. Muna tika uvaewe wunye. Muna tika uvaewe wunye. So like ana tika kukupiqchabu shengini. Webi exwa kia jagit over the ex. Ana tika uvaewe fadanena exwa. So yeah. That's what I can say. Yeah. Mora, I can see your official expression. Because I'm thinking exwa, like why you ever not do want me to look like you. But ideally I think some people are clueless. Let's just admit the fact that some people are clueless. We were brought up differently. We view things differently. So it's a matter of communication. For the first time he gives you a t-shirt and you don't like t-shirts. Speak it out. You first say thank you for the gift. At least let me get my girl something. But then again, days later you can come and be like, we've been appreciating umgeni baya viatu instead of the t-shirt. I think if he's an adult and someone with a sound mind next time he will do better. Yeah, with a sound mind. Next time I'll do better. But Iki wa ni mazoe ya, but see I think in your aspect you can learn and say. What is the next time you buy a gift, you appreciate the gift? No, that's what I've said. You start by appreciating. First say thank you. At least it was a thought on his mind. Effort counts. And then later on you can go and clarify. Okay, I actually prefer this to this. Yeah, if it's someone who is thoughtful atashika, next time I'll let her get to Greece has said she likes shoes. I'm going to get to Greece shoes because Greece doesn't like t-shirts. So it's important it's important that we ask or rather they ask what to gift someone. Yeah, I think it's important to ask because we ladies we tend to buy cheap things for men. Maybe we think that they don't. We notice the little things that they don't. Happy socks. Yeah, socks, handkerchief, because these are something that they don't replace every now and then. And if you ask them what do you want, you find that a man will tell you I want a wash and it should be expensive because you find that men discuss what their girlfriend gives them. Someone gives them this and that. So if you give your man a wash and the other one gives them handkerchief. So this one, the ego, this ego is being depreciated. You don't feel good about the gift that you give. You give the gift with love but then what did you give? You try to compare himself with the other man, the gift that other man received. So it's okay to ask. But why they comparing? Why they comparing? I don't know. Men do talk about the gifts we do give them. Hey! The same way we do it. Hold the thoughts. Hold the thoughts. Hold the thoughts. What you do now what you want to come to now and I say to my nene Joshua Mulendo and I say to my watching out my you guys. Thank you Joshua. Watching out I need to ask Mr. Wazeri and I say watching out to Kisumu and let the iPhone 15. Man! Men, we have to sit here stand up here. I'll be I say ma wihiga mago center tuned Thank you Tismo and I say ma Donny representing Val Val Val atakuja Ustijali utamauna pa next week. Val, kuna mtu ala kumis mahali. Joshua Mulendo and I say ma good morning then Johnny K.E. And I say those babies made my day. Watching from Olkarrol. you more. Thank you so much Johnny. Lean sana from Kaganda Murangam. Then purity so ita anasema watching life from Limuru Massive. Then there is Kamao Musenangu. Anasema good morning. Pamoja sana hapa kiyomongi division Gatundu South. Thank you. Then kandomaina anasema watching JJ. Anasema mombasani watching then someone else saying watching life from Ilasat. Then paradise anasema watch milimani estate na kuru pamoja addita mati na mamdriliat na male. Then uh someone is asking valentine will you marry me? Val. Let me ask you someone have anasema a letter iPhone 15. That brings me to the next thing that I'm thinking about. What makes a gift touching? Like is it because it's expensive? Is it because it's what makes a gift touching? Because ntrolas ma paleta iPhone 15. One there's someone who will say iPhone 15 such a good gift because it's expensive. Then there's someone else who will be like should have bought me something else. So what makes a gift sensible should be the question actually. Hmm. For me it will be if they can take it as a personal anasema aji. It they can relate with it like um you have to say me a guy who likes listening to music right and then you get him these nice brand bluetooth speaker that he can use whenever he's going wherever he's going to listen to music. I think they will find it very thoughtful and they will appreciate it. Like find what someone likes get them something in line with what they love. It will always be appreciated. It doesn't have to be more of me expensive or not like me. I like writing. I journal, I write, I do everything. So I remember there's a time a boyfriend just randomly picked some nice notebook and brought it and then it was customized. Trust me I was so happy like at a salea me how much it I would have wanted a phone. It's something like I know I will put into use in inside Yahapa. I think it's more of how can I relate with the gift in human pair. Okay. How can she relate with the gift in human pair? Lilian. I think I'm going to support Lilian or I'm going to support her. Okay. Gift is all about I know this person. I know what they want. How can I make sure that they know how I feel? So you go back. I don't know back on the stage or in the market or whatever the place you're going to go back. Maybe you go sit back in your mind. Maybe after you've known this person. Maybe you've been watching. Maybe they love respond or what. Something that you think they love the most. Okay. Go back and then give that gift to them. It doesn't have to be expensive. It's all about love. Yeah. I think the best gift should come with love. Okay. Come with love. But as well. Something she can relate with. Yeah. But as well. Come to think of it from another aspect. Imagine you have this rich guy. Then she's going to give it to you later to give it to Flaani. Funny, funny to her. I'm not having an issue in Kenya. I'm saying later. You don't even look when I say ma, you know they can afford more. Yeah. They can bring you better. Mm hmm. Come on. Kiyatu unajiwa. If he is to go to but get me a certain type of shoe, he can afford it. But amyamua, hkwa kwa street. And I'll be wondering. Bano umyamua kwa kwa chukwa izizi zi kwa kwa street itao na how is it kwa. Like something new. Oni later it's more of umeni reitaji. Kuna eleya. You don't want to spend on me. Kuna pinyo umeni eka paha hali. Pia at some point I add up if you have this much man yandere unashina. Amyamua kwa kwa hali kwa kwa hali kwa kwa kwa. So if they have money they spend it. Yeah. Is what you think. What you think. Okay, you know those women? Okay, I think I come from a very different of women who feel a type of wearing a spend a lot of money on me. Oh. But one is like. Uhum. Uhum. Wachakuni anani? Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. But let me tell you something. And those women, you buy me something expensive and billek. Anakunua? But I'll be like, okay, that money we could have used it for something. I enjoy life. I enjoy life. It's a great thing. It's a great thing. Kwa kwa musikun yota, kwa kwa kwa kwa regret. Great thing I need to tell you. It's a day. It's a day. It's a day he brought. It's a day he brought me this expensive earbuds. Uhum. Niki Google na una Amazon is a earbuds are a few hundred dollars. Niki Kuwaitu Kenyan money na una ni forty four thousand. And you think he no more earphones will have dandruff, right? Eh man, they got your earbuds. E expensive ones. E earbuds ni menda kusiba hiya kaaba. This kiki, ini tradini this case. Case na mzuwa one thousand. Niko, like they money for my in this case is nishi for my another earphone. Likin suha araba? Okay, then in a moment I'm thinking, no if you give to me with this expensive. I'm no reported. Man I can't buy earbuds that forty K, my dear. I... Sometimes they don't need to measure up with them. Medin sa zingina wa taki, hawa na aja They just want to They're doing it just because they want to You have money man Almost certainly So you feel like umtu akifanya iwo anataka yu reciprocate No, no, no, I don't feel like umtu akifanya yu reciprocate because he doesn't want me to reciprocate anything I mean I can't reciprocate anything that man does for me was his gifting is out of this Ya, his birthday was just the other day Nili taftaki to kumbeyan kakosa But then you know I didn't gift him for his birthday I did not because I could not buy anything I was imagining kama ni shoes alava shoes is at my 1000's is at 20 I was thinking me am I going to buy 20,000 to buy shoes If it's a watch, he already has a watch worth over 100K So I'm imagining You know Umbaya socks So I didn't buy anything I did not like kumbeleka out I didn't get the option By taking him for lunch or something Ni kajua Sabah, ee meisha Nasa sa lunch for him No more lunch for him Ni sige So you know So for someone like that How do you gift them? Ok maybe umtu nyanak patia gifts Maybe love language is a gift So say I can love language Ni gift, that is my problem Ni gift He is love language And that's why He is love language Because he will always be buying something Buying something I think It's difficult kumgift I feel guilt talking patia something less But have you been studying before? No A bit right No just try You'd be surprised Ni kwa kwa na teka kukufanya Even when the extra woman Because I think When we talked about How much do you want to spend In moment I'm thinking So don't put me in that position How much I want to spend for you He was like how much do you want to spend on a gift Do ni kwambia nibayi a nini Usi nibayi kitu ni nini I was like What do you want No you tell me how much you want to spend I was like 5,000 Niki dongo Ureza ntaftia He didn't say niki dongo He was like look for something shu related By shoes from Stointown But in moment I was thinking The shoes I have seen you wear You're telling me to go buy shoes for some time I was like 2 dinas But here You get it Women are at a place where We don't know how to What is enough What is good enough should be the question What is good enough As we wind up This conversation It depends on the person you have It depends on the person you have It depends on the person you have Lilian what is good enough It depends on the love The person you have You just made the effort If for effort If for effort Kendo go to Will you buy a man Will you take a loan To buy a man something No we don't take loans to buy this I can never do that Will you take a loan To bail out your man out of a serious Financial issue No you're not buying him something You're bailing him out of a financial crisis He's a husband Yesawid Boyfriend No Okay Lilian Yesawid is washing I don't know what to do I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know Okay I have no idea This is a loan This is a financial crisis And then you take a loan To bail him out of there I'm not sure if you're going to take a loan I don't know He's saying he will be husband I don't know if he's a husband I think I would of that for my husband For boyfriend And then they say You know they're type They find another type premises this will be finally opened should you not invest it has nothing to do with you this is not the end of the conversation I will say I want a gift for giving birth to more than 20 children 20? kwa nikiwa? Kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa nikiwa? Nikiwa hapana kwa na maesi inbungoma counti, Thank you, then Hesruna nma watching live of Abenda sa na tu na kupa nazi pia, Nyakakanda ana sema me nyeri, then Nwawero ana sema Danny, Thank you Pita ana sema. Hue na maela gift ya kumana, Nuwewa 20 children, so I think ana try to explain ana sema, and I'm a waka gift yakumzaliwa what it was idea twenty. We're inna nita kwa tojiwa. Mugi na nasema real and nasema mikuwanza hiwa ya kupiwa ima ni malizaka besa okay that was about the real we were watching. Acha tu ni nya maze but anyway ni kondani na shio na wakili shabungoma county thank you. I'm Serem from Eldorat Morning thank you. Walker is saying following thank you. Jera is saying ginger. Mugi na nasema Edgar nasema nyahuru ruchun. Thank you so much for giving us feedback for talking, for commenting, for liking everything. We love you. Thank you for coming. What this I think we need to to to to to have a part two of this segment of gifting. We need to we have not exhausted everything there is to gifting boyfriends and commemorating the world boyfriend's day but tell us. Ukananpo nataka kusalimia. The you can give us a parting shot in 2020. That's your camera. Kusalimia yung poa. No, I'm not salimia yung poa. This is just a reminder for everyone to be kind to people out here and love your partner according to your love language, to his love language or maha love language. Usimpe gifts na apendi gifts. Labda na apenda quality time so. Be attentive to what they prefer. Amazing, Lillian. Yeah, what is big enough? Okay, so. Misina ampua. Umem kata on television. Misini me kata. Ngekwa na ampua, ngekwa na ring kwa ampua no. Like? Batsuna ring. Oh, maisha mamkua makatun pake leskenye to la ring kwa. Before, lewe hea. You see kusasa. So as long as badom tu jentoha kwe tu. Yeah. So what I can say is that what is big enough. I mean the gift that has weight is the gift that come with love. So if you have someone out there just know them. What do they want, what do they love and give them that gift. Yeah. That is what is big enough. Well, thank you so much for coming. For you out there. Misina ampua. I mean. Thank you so much for keeping me company and keeping us company. The whole day has been such a vibe. My name is Grace Mind. You do have a lovely day. God bless you. See you tomorrow, same day, same time, same everything. Love you.