 ومن آياته أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا لتسكنوا إليها إذا كنت مرحبا، إن شاء الله تعالى عن أنسى رضي الله تعالى عنهم قال قدما عبدالرحمان بن عوف المدينة أناس بن ماريكنه يسأل عبدالرحمان بن عوف كامتو مدينة فأخى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بينه وبين سعد بن الربيع الأنصاري فأخى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فأخى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بينه عبدالرحمان بن عوف والسعيد سعد بن الربيع الأنصاري فأخى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لأن كما تعلمون، عندما مهاجرين يأتون من مكة ويأتون إلى ماذا؟ يأتون إلى مدينة يترك كل شيء، تركوا ديارهم وأموالهم حتى they even left some of them and left their children behind so they came to Medina with nothing in hand so what the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم did was place one onsari with a muhajir in order to find a place to stay you know pay attention here you're going to be amazed so everyone one person with another another with another from the two that were bonded between the two of them was عبدالرحمان بن عوف and سعد بن الربيع الأنصاري look what Saad said to his brother عبدالرحمان he said to him I have money and I have a wife a wife I have two wives so he said to him I'm going to divide my wealth into half I'm going to give you half and I'll keep wife half as for my wife I've got two wives I've got two wives choose whichever one of those you want that amazed me that amazed me the brotherhood between these two صحابي the love they had for one another فقال عبدالرحمان and now what even amazed me more the brotherhood of Saad towards his brother and the love of Saad to عبدالرحمان amazed me but what even amazed me more is the wara of عبدالرحمان ابن عوف رضي الله تعالى عنه he said to him when he said that to him سدبارك الله لك في إحلك ما الله bless you in your family أن يوالث ومالك أن يوالث دلوني شومي وما دلوني شومي على السوق يشومي the market I want to know where to make money where's the market that's why I wanted to go to the market to make money trade and business فربيح شيئا من أقاطين و سمنين عبدالرحمان ابن عوف he found dry yogurt and butter for a very cheap price and he sold it for it he added money onto it and he sold it and he tried to trade that are you with me the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم السواع عبدالرحمان ابن عوف فرأه النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بعد أيام the prophet saw him days after وعليه وضر من صفرة the prophet saw him and he had yellow stains on him زعفران فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم the prophet he said to him the prophet said to him عليه وسلاته و السلام محيم meaning this means what is that يا عبدالرحمان what is this قال يا رسول الله it has a watch too he said oh message of Allah I got married امرأة من الأنصار I married a woman from the people of Ansar عبدالرحمان is what he is a Buhajir right who is he marrying this is how they were towards one another the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said فما سقط فيها how much maher was she how much maher did you give فقال وزلو نواته من دهب I gave one date stone of gold فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم the prophet then said to him او لم ولو بشاته the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said offer a banquet even with one sheep now what we don't want you to think is that it's a condition there has to be a chat at least because او لم is a فعل امر now we don't want to go into that technical because this series is not meant to be technical احكام or whatnot it's just so everyone can understand او لم even though it's a command some of the foqa has said no it's not it's not it's not wajib and a lot of the scholars they said it's wajib there has to be a wajib because the prophet commanded عبد الرحمن معه he said so there's a khilaf amongst the foqa heart regarding that like in ترجيح right now which one is of those strongest and whatnot is not what our series is about and the fact that we already know people are going to do a wajima regardless people are going to do it they like it anyways but it's a سنة of the prophet the minimum of force if we take his wajib that is higher but it's not a شارطة it's not a condition in the wajima كونوه من لحم there doesn't have to be there doesn't have to be there doesn't have to be need necessarily there it doesn't have to be but what it is is على قدر الاستطاع based on your ability and what you're able to do because the prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام he's marriage of صفية was what كانت حيسة من أقاطن وتمرن وصملن وصملن sorry the messenger says marriage of صفية was what it was just dry yogurt dates and butter the prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام also it is permissible for people to help you because صفية is wedding she brought what she could and the prophet said brought what he could and that's how it happened so it's permissible for both parties to help one another in the agent community who does the wajima the man does it what is the other one that you do رقصتي the woman does it in our culture عر it's bad the man brings everything some holy community the man brings everything he does the wedding he does the everything it's upon him the agent community they they're good in that regard they're good like that but what we want to take from this حديث is that is no condition for meat it's based on your ability it can be a hundred pounds it can be a thousand pounds but because the شريعة has spoken about the issue of israf and the ayah ولا تجعلي يدك مغلولة إلى عنوقك ولا تبصطها كل البصط فتقعد ملومة don't open your hand too much and don't close it too much the believer is always of that one والذين إذا أنفقوا لم يصرفوا ولم يقتوروا كان بين ذلك قوامة تبريب زاليكتا عباد الرحمن اللهم يفكرون لا يعطون too much أنهم لا يوجد شيئا لفتاة أخوانهم الناس يفعلون إنه لله وإنه إلى راجعون ويستخدمون كثيرا في المدينة ثم when they get together after that wedding is done they go home the man can't even buy his wife the food for that day he's got nothing in his pocket finished all his money is gone or the man is put in debt for that wedding لا ينبغي والله that's not right that is not right because you know what you have to understand sister is you're going to suffer with him in this financial crisis you are going to suffer with him you've got a husband who's stressed out you've got a husband who's not financially well off trying to impress others that my wedding was so big but then you what you end up home with a husband who has nothing and you don't have nothing to eat you have no money after that على كل حال the Sharia urges that a wedding is done a Waleema is done does the Waleema have to be after or can it be before this Hadith explained it to us because the Fouqaha they differed some Fouqaha said it before it has to be done before some said it has to be after some said if he's if he's already got married to her then the Waleema it's not sooner for him to do the Hadith of Abdul Rahman Ibn A'aw showed that he was already married and the Prophet said to him even if you're married and you're together you can still do a Waleema you can still what you can still do a Waleema if you have the opinion that it's wajib to do the Waleema then of course the wujib doesn't drop and you have to do it also what it shows you is that also the Qadiyah and the issue that the scholars talk about is the issue of I'lan announcing it taking it out in the open did the Prophet ﷺ know Abdul Rahman Ibn A'aw got married I didn't know you see so what's the what's the Thursday for I'lan announcing all of that is is an issue that we're not going we're not going to go into Twitter we're not going to go into Twitter the last which is the 13th Hadiith it is the last Hadiith for the fourth chapter إنه بيوتيفيكيشن للأسلحة و للأسلحة على الوضع اليوم أناس رضي الله تعالى عنه أنه يتحدث عنه في زوادي رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بصفية بن تحريي أناس رضي الله عنه أنه يتحدث عنه أنه يتحدث عنه بصفية بن تحريي أم المؤمنينة رضي الله تعالى عنه هم يتحدث عنها فالمدخل صلى الله عليه وسلم يتحدث عن صفية بن تحريي يتحدث عن مؤمنين فالمدخل صلى الله عليه وسلم يتحدث عنها و then he married her و she married her و she was based on the manumission و the freeing of saffia that was how he married her فقال له ثابت مولا و his slave boy said to anasim numalik يا بحمزة ما أصدقها what was the dowry the prophet gave to her قال نفسها her dowry was her nafs he mean he freed her and then he married her عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم حتى إذا كان بالطريق he was on his way صلى الله عليه وسلم و muslim took saffia bint huhyay from the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and she prepared her she beautified her she worked on her فأهدتها له من الليل and she brought him to the prophet she brought saffia to the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم at night and the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم became a arous عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم he became married that night to her then the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said to the companions he said من كان عنده شيء في اليجي أبي anyone who has anything to eat or anything please bring it و بصطة نيطع عن and the cloth was spread فجعل الرجل يجيء بالتمر أه one man would he went and he brought dates و جعل الرجل يجيء بالسمني another one came and he brought refined and butter و أحسيب خذكر السويقة and another one he went and he brought and food and stuff فكانت وليمة رسول الله the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم وليمة it became like this so this hadith shows us the مشروعية the permissibility of تجهيز النساء للمرأة تجهيز النساء the preparation that a woman could put into another woman تجهيز النساء للمرأة وتجميلها لزوجها that another woman can beautify another woman for her husband but مع مراعات الضوابد الشرعية the principles of the sharia have to be observed now this الضوابد الشرعية they have to be observed they have to be looked at is that of course عدم للطلاعي على ما ليحل فقط she can't say oh i'm gonna beautify you and then she looks at part of her body that isn't allowed for her the woman is not allowed to and of course a man can't even do it he's not allowed to do it also she's not allowed to do things that are haram like placing extensions on the woman's hair and fake nails she can't place on her things that are حرام شرعا such as حرام شرعا حرام شرعا is she allowed for example if she's an old woman and she's getting married and she's got white hair is she allowed to color her hair and change the color the جمهور العلماء of the opinion now وفيه من أباح and there are those who permitted it also the man has to make sure he looks good as well if you're getting married that day she looks sharp look beautiful because أم المؤمنين عائشة رضي الله يتحالى عنها إنسخحية مسلم she said and this is the problem we have it's a reality it's a truth that a man doesn't really care about his appearance when he's in the house he looks all scuffy you know he'll stay in the house all day without brushing his teeth do you see in his own house the minute he wants to go out of the house bomb he looks different the same with the woman all day she looks raggedy she looks unappealing she's been called out for a wedding she looks different her husband starts desiring her now she gets rid of everything she makes herself look good but before that what happened she looks like a babysitter and the same is with the brother same with the brother he doesn't brush his teeth he doesn't look after how he is he's wearing the bajamas all day in the house you see he sleeps with his socks on at night and not changing them that's a reality and Abdullah Abbas said I like to beautify myself for my wife the way I like her to beautify herself for me so this is and this hadith when he entered the house what is it that he used to start with look what she said he used to start with he used to start with he used to start with with the siwak brush his teeth so it is a sunnah when you enter the house to brush your teeth to wash your hands you see to come across clean and cleansy for your spouse your wife also this issue of this issue of beautification what is permissible are you with me what is permissible for a woman to do how can she beautify herself صحيح is she allowed to do an implant for instance if she's had so many kids she's had so many kids for her husband she's got stretch marks she wants to now go and she wants to do an operation and she wants to get herself back together again is she allowed to do it you see liposuction as they call it what's the ruling regarding that is in شاء الله تعالى series i'm going to do احكام مزينة لينمرأة the a hkam of beautification for the woman anything which i have said that was wrong فإنه مني ومن الشيطان والله ورسوله بريان منه سبحانك اللهم بحمدك اشدوا اللا إلهي لله استغفركوا اتوب الي