 stop allowing wounded men to take advantage of you so we I keep running into this scenario with women in our community where they come up and they're like oh well there's this guy and he's really great and he's so amazing and he's awesome but he had this thing that happened in this past and these this woman really hurt him and so he's kind of scared of a relationship and so I don't want to freak him out so I'm not pressuring him to get into a relationship but we're having sex and we're you know doing all these other things and I'm just gonna hang out and wait until he gets better or I'm gonna try to fix him or I'm going to you know help him out and work with him and try to figure out what's going on with him and this almost never works out because what ends up happening is when you try to do this with a guy who's really wounded what happens is that one of the big motivations that men have for kind of healing themselves and figuring themselves out and getting a lot of their emotional and mental things worked out and figured out is that they want to get into a relationship they want to be connected with a woman they want to feel loved they want to have that nurturing feminine energy around them and so they'll end up healing themselves and figuring themselves out and getting their stuff together for a woman or for the possibility of getting into a relationship with a woman so if you're giving a man all of those things without him needing to fix himself beforehand what ends up happening a lot of times is that a guy will end up never fixing those things because he doesn't have that goal anymore he doesn't have that need to do it because he's already getting his needs taken care of so if you're falling in love with a man's potential but he's not giving you what you want right now you're in for a really rough time and you need to stop doing that