 When the narcissist is forced to accept the feat Narcissists are very sick twisted people They do some horrific things to their victims They will abuse you for years and never get tired of it because it fuels them It regulates their emotions It distracts them from their own miserable lives they will say horrible things about you They will physically abuse you They will sexually abuse you They will deliberately try to drive you insane They will minimise your accomplishments They will sabotage your success And if despite all of the abuse You're still able to function like a normal person They will smear your name They will change other people's perceptions of you But when they do that It should reveal to you that you are very strong The smear campaign is their last resort It is their last attempt at keeping you under their control They would rather continue with the abuse It's much easier for them to do that But if the abuse isn't strong enough to overpower you They're left with no choice If they continue against yourself They will turn the world against you So that despite all of the abuse you had endured You are still being punished Because now you can't live a normal life But unknowingly to the narcissist They've actually handed you the keys to what makes them tick They've revealed to you everything that is important to them Everything that they are envious and jealous of Which is the very thing that will help you to defeat them Narcissists are only concerned with superficial things So if you want to defeat the narcissist You need to work on yourself Go to the gym And become physically healthy Eat better foods Drink more water Start your own business and make lots of money Buy a big house Buy a luxury car Date a model It may sound shallow and empty to you But these are the types of things that narcissists value That's what's important to the narcissist They respect money and power They respect expensive things They respect powerful and attractive people And you can defeat the narcissist With the very things they value and respect So much By achieving those things And then preventing them from gaining access to them Because when it all comes down to it That's really one of the narcissist's greatest fears After everything they've done to you They fear that one day you might achieve everything you've always wanted And everything they've always wanted But after everything they've done to you You're not going to want to share it with them You're not going to want to cut them a piece of the pie Because deep down they know they're not deserving They know they don't deserve to be a part of your life That's why they had to keep you down That'd make you feel like they were better than you Because they already knew That you had the qualities and abilities to achieve great things And that was the last thing they wanted to see One of the narcissist's greatest fears is your potential Your capacity to develop something in the future Because your development equates to the narcissist's relevance Once you become successful And you achieve great things They're no longer relevant Because they were never there for you They didn't support you They didn't invest anything into you So why should they deserve to partake in the fruits of your labour And they know this Which is why the moment they see you progressing in life They know it's all over for them They know they can't come back At that point You have defeated the narcissist Not only because they value superficial things But because of the emotional effects it has on you Success has an emotional effect on us It makes us feel more confident It makes us believe in ourselves It boosts our self-worth and self-esteem And that is the ultimate threat to a narcissist That is what defeats them Your self-love is like kryptonite to a narcissist Which is why the entire time you were with them They tried to keep you down They tried to make you feel like you weren't worthy They tried to put out your light Because they knew that might would eventually reflect on them It would reveal who they are But when you choose to move on with your life And you become stronger and more confident in yourself They become irrelevant They're no longer connected to you As long as you have doubts It gives them an opening to come back Because then they can still have some level of control Over your emotions That's what forms that attachment Because at that point You're in agreement with them that you're not enough But when you're optimistic and self-assured They can't do that They lose They're forced to accept defeat Thank you for watching I hope this video resonate with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Couching inquiries You can email me and coach an arch-survivor at The Colour UK Thank you for watching And I'll talk to you soon