 and then you see all this stuff on the internet telling you about like as soon as you crack and as soon as you you break down or you get upset or like something bad happens and you're like down about it they're gonna leave you and they're gonna see that you're not this rock of a person and like some people are like that but you don't necessarily want to be with you know it's not reasonable it's not like you know for the majority of people we're not all emotionless rocks so you can just take on board everything and not crack once in a while.