 How do you break your addiction? Whether it's to alcohol or whether it's to coffee or whether it's to the love of your life Some guy or girl you're trying to just get away from how do you break addictions? I'm here with Ty Lopez How you doing Ty? Yeah, how are you? We're just driving in his Ferrari spider 45.8 spider. There it is there Down to Anaheim on the what freeway we on? The 91 there you go this guy recognizes you look he's Like hang on. Let's get it one the window down one the window down There you go So I think they recognize me actually Ty wasn't you So how do you break addictions Ty? Well, okay, I think The thing about addictions most of the addictions that exist. Let's take alcohol I was talking to a scientist who told me that people get addicted to alcohol. There's an evolutionary reason for it It's people we sent we develop instincts many thousands of years ago to be able to detect very sugary ripe fruits so they're a long time ago if you were good at tasting sensing and kind of liking these fruits that were Over over ripe You had an advantage now in the modern world if you like over ripe fruit Which is basically what alcohol is wine and even in some ways what beer is? You know nothing wrong with you, but we live in a world By the way, we take the 91 right? She's not yeah, but not not not this one. Yeah, we don't yeah We're gonna keep a stay on the 91. Yeah, so in the modern world the problem is you and I still have This our ancestors ability to detect fruit and ripe fruit But now there's liquor stores everywhere that are trying to sell you alcohol and you get too much So the first thing I think for addiction is to realize almost all addictions in moderation There would be nothing wrong with them, but in the modern world There's too much. It's you know, it's like sugar sugar is good for you But now every time you pump gas at a gas station, there's 50 million candy bars sitting there waiting for you Right, so you gotta not freak out. I think people Beat themselves up and go was I born with this horrible curse? It's not a curse or anything like that It's just a shifting world and we still have an old-school brain So that's number one because I think if you start hating yourself and beating yourself up too much, then you'll paralyze yourself and You actually Do more harm than if you go okay? I get why you have this. I always find for myself Understanding helps me change when I don't understand stuff, then I don't can't get the motivation police reported ahead so Then number two once you have the knowledge that you're someone normal And number two you realize the only thing that will break addictions is Either a lot of pain focusing on a lot of pain or focusing on a lot of reward So I kind of like how Tony Robbins approaches it where he goes, you know, write down a list of everything That is horrible that happened because of your addiction. Let's say I'm all And then dwell on it for a while now I will tell you the one thing that I find is that sometimes that's not enough. It won't work Sometimes let's say you hurt people in your family or kids Like some of us some people are built to not really care like they do care obviously care But you don't care enough to make a change so that leads you to be you can go What's the reward for my life? If I can break this addiction And some people will react well to that like the most part you're not gonna do big things in life if you You're gonna lose your for example Financial security for the most part if there's not many people Addictions that are doing amazing things So if a reward for you is to make a million bucks and do this and that and that you can use that as Motivation you got to know how to motivate yourself. I guess is what I'm saying right So those are two and for some people even those two don't work Some people we've got a mother whatever it takes to motivate yourself like some people motivate themselves By going I'll just never go to a bar again in my life And some people have to do that like alcoholics anonymous sometimes like like once you're had this Alcoholic issue just don't ever go like because you won't be able to motivate yourself, but in any other way So you got to know you're motivated it took me up like I found out with myself I wish someone had been told me a long time ago. This is just my particular personality Not everybody has this maybe 10% of people will be like this like me. I primarily motivate myself by logic So like if I read a book that presents a good case Like this is why you change then I'll change if what doesn't work on me is as much of the emotional stuff So in the my or break test I'm ENTP so I'm a team which is a thinker and thinkers tend to generally are Motivated by logic. So but you might a lot of people like James I think you're an F. So F's are you I am an F. You're an F, right? Yeah F's are usually motivated by They want to feel a certain way so they need to be I don't need that so you got to know yourself I find those people I find those people if ever It'll take them 50 years to figure out about being themselves. Then you're too late. You're already too old to care Right. So I took a 30-day break from alcohol back in 2010 and I just kept going so I'm about five and a half years as we're recording this this video for me it was The pros or the benefits that I got from not not drinking far outweigh Any immediate pleasure that I got from drinking, right? And since then I lost about 13 pounds of fat and made more money and my friends my romantic Relationships have been a lot better and everything has just been better since I I I quit the alcohol and it all started from just taking a 30-day 30-day break Is that something like just take like resetting taking a 30-day break whether it's alcohol or whether it's anything else? Is that something that can actually trigger the human brain to make meaningful change? I know you've got the 67 steps and it's like 66 days, but can something like that really reset the human brain To then go and live like an optimum life I think yeah for sure You can do a 30-day challenge then like I said do it again do it again and do again Some people can bring my grandma. She she said In half a mile, exit to exit Bloomfield Avenue I think it's sign here. We got we got an exit on Bloomfield Avenue. I think I wonder if this is that In the 1950s my grandma said she read something that was put out by the Surgeon General that said alcohol You know basically I mean cigarettes are bad for you and so my grandma said She just decided on one day and she's never smoked since then so my grandma is a little bit like me My grandma was motivated by Logic somebody presented to her my grandpa on the other hand he can listen and of course my You know unfortunately my grandpa died of emphysema because he would not Go ways and Google Maps going off a hundred miles an hour here, so My grandma knew now. She knows it's pretty simple for my grandma to fix herself Needs a case presented Somebody should have been I wish somebody wouldn't know how to motivate my grandpa like maybe my grandpa needed, you know To be yelled at are you actually gonna take Bloomfield? Oh, you're just gonna stack the stick on here. I'll stay I reckon. Just stay Turn right on Bloomfield Avenue and turn left Yeah, I think we just stick on this then for so Can you change in 30 days, you know some people like my grandma change it one day well I changed in 30 days because I kept I kept going like I lost 13 pounds and 30 days and I'm drinking alcohol and my skin got better and I started sleeping seven or eight hours of deep Restorative sleep and my head a lot more mental clarity, so that changed for me I just kept kept going a lot of people who've done the 30 day no alcohol challenge Just keep going some people do it Then they go and have a few drinks right and they re-explore their relationship with alcohol and for the rest of their life Everything's fine. They just enjoy wine and champagne and beer on occasion Other people come back and they say you know what I want to do it again because I got hung over To exit 19th you should make a remedy. I think the way I would approach that is Do the do 30 days and then that gets you club The main thing that a 30-day thing does is it let you know yourself knowing yourself is you know That's the oldest of the situation. Yeah Try to experiment So The experimentation mentality is almost always the winning one So if you do 30 days and you're like James In 900 feet At the end of the 30 days you go and turn left. I never need to do this again Because I now have full control over myself then the experiment's done Turn left on Park Plaza Drive and turn left on Shoemaker Avenue Then after 30 days you really you take one drink and you feel horrible and you feel like you're back to the addiction Now, you know next time when you do the 30 days you should go through two cycles of it. So that's what I'm saying I think more important and anything is Now this is assuming you're not having catastrophic alcohol stuff where you're like driving drunk killing people and stuff then you might have to be more extreme But assuming you're not quite at that stage yet or everything's It's gonna take us time. It's gonna take us tells the term left We're like lost here ways of sending us in a whole lot of different places And it's gonna be like get back on the 91 Yeah, no, but we should have just we'll just stay on the 91 till we get to the five remember That's what we should have been doing Can't order the mile turn right on Arteja boulevard turn right on Arteja boulevard It's telling us that's telling us to get on and off the whole way And I will wrap this up and we'll check but turn right on Arteja Yeah, yeah, I think you use the 30 day as the first step in Experimentation and people experiment the most usually win in life people experiment the least We're afraid to test. It's all test test test. That's how the world was built Man, that's how medicine's built. That's how this Ferrari's built That's how in most people are like tie. Tell me how I cannot test 2.5 miles There is no way did not test at least 30% of your life should be a test and 30% should be you know doing Contemplating the test and then the last 30% of your life is like enjoying the fruits of a good test and finding a winner, you know, right 30 days is a good long All right, so there you go Go ahead and do a 30 day no alcohol challenge experiment. See how you feel keep going if you feel great Check out ties 67 steps. Thank you. Ty. Yeah, Dr. Shea that we're from somewhere We don't actually know where we are because why is it need to Carmina and Cerritos Cerritos, all right. That's where we are. So from Cerritos. Did I say that correctly? Yes, that eat those Cerritos Yeah