 Ladies and gentlemen, y'all know the country boy Let me know if y'all can hear me Now y'all know the country boy Don't use this technology But I'm gonna try Hopefully y'all can hear me Okay, you can hear me So I'm using the different thing to stream on Just to try something. I don't know how this works Let me see share. I see okay y'all hear me Send this link to your guess you may also want to share your Instruct share our instructions for guests. You can have up to 10 people on screen at once Copy the clipboard So I'll put this link in here in case y'all wanted to Come in here. I Don't know if it worked for your phone probably complicated. And you know how Apple like to do you know Apple got the MacBook so I'm on the MacBook and Apple their browser is Safari, but the streaming software does not work with Safari. You got to use Google's thing which is Chrome So Apple just try to always be Incompatible with everything so that you just can only work with them It's crazy how they be doing that stuff But I want to pop on here just cuz I'm at practice You know my son so I want to make use of my time and I did this video the other day We only have about less than an hour. I did this video the other day Now let me ask you something I'm Britney. I've seen Britney pop on here Now May I ask you something so you know what you're doing on here Britney shake your head? Yeah You don't know what you're doing. So you just popped on here. See now can't have you on here You don't know what you're doing now Britney. I could see you a little bit though. Let me see here And so I wanted to pop on here. Let me see if I'm gonna add you to the stream now Britney keep your eyes on the road now No, it's just so Britain on here. Then is it ari ari shake your head if that's your name Almost shake your head if I say ari Now let me unmute you now, Britney. Let me unmute you now. All right say something Britney Hi, mr. Gass and sorry doing good evening. I'm going to the gym right now. So I'm in the car. Excuse me Okay, okay, what city are you in? Let me out. Are we on here? I'm in I'm in the Jersey You're gonna land to okay Okay Oh So what's one of y'all doing that? Okay, then y'all mute your mic. All right so I want to pop on here and All y'all in the dark Need something spinning on your desk Let me see so maybe if you So now If I'm mute your mic if you got a pain on this. Oh That's you might have to turn off the multiple devices So if you got on your phone or you got on computer and a phone or Maybe if it's playing through your speaker phone on there, um, Britney through the car Let me see how this work Now how are you on I post the link in the chat but um But you only could have ten people on here now So Jada So y'all unmute y'all might So I'm curious just to hear what y'all thought about that post that went viral Jada what you think now Jada what you come on here and you eating and everything I'm sorry. I know I'm being I'm being a little ghetto, but it's dinner time. I just finished cooking So you see did you hear about the post that's um where the woman says she's saving herself till marriage and then the man said He's saving his money for his wife. I Didn't see the post but I saw the video that you did with um Caleb and the other guy Okay, okay. Yeah, so what you thought about that that what the guy said Oh, I disagree you disagree Because my my stuff is worth more than than that I mean Mm-hmm. And so the woman's saving herself from sex until marriage and the man said well, hey, I'm saving my money Until marriage. Let's go Dutch Right. That shouldn't even be equal though because money does not that's not on the same level as my body Right. Okay. Okay Right. I can pay your money back If we need to take it there you can get money back. I can't take away, you know, if I give myself to you I can't get that back Right. Okay. I see I see And so that is a good take on that now now do y'all think that was real like do you think that was a real Post was made up because something I people would think talks with Tony is fake That's the real because I think I've met men who think like that so I know that that is a real post Really, okay. Yeah, that was my first time. That was my first time hearing of that Oh And I thought it was clever like that man. That's a good comeback like sound like a guy that like to argue Because I would have never thought of that. I'm like, okay, this guy know how to argue now but um So hmm That's a good point the body a woman's body is greater than a man's money and a man should be ready and willing to Spend his money but now Realistically if you met a man Let me put Brittany back on here. I got you back on here, Brittany if you met a man not realistically speaking and Not just hypothetically speaking Everything that you wanted in a husband as far as his character integrity and those things and he said hey You know, I don't know if I'm gonna marry you or not But if we do get married, I don't want to have wasted thousands of dollars on other women when that could be a down payment on our House that could go toward our wedding So I would rather go Dutch Until you know, I get married and he was what you wanted Realistically speaking with would it be a deal breaker or would you give it some thought? for me I Probably would give it thought it depends I guess on the nature of the relationship and if I know that we Have communicated throughout this whole time while dating and we're working towards that end goal. I mean, I don't See that's been an issue because I'm not looking for your money in the first place. I have my own money so I think if we work towards that and we both have that end goal then Between within that time frame, we should know whether we want each other in that way or not. So I Don't think it would be a deal breaker for me And now You could offer a compromise like Caleb was saying You know, some dates don't have to cost any money So when you're going out, you could possibly Two out of the three nights you blow out go by the lake and just talk and spend time with each other Mm-hmm and now a question now if if y'all were if you were the woman who That money was reserved for would you appreciate that like would you be like man? So man, it's still spending a few thousand a year on dates. You mean you went Dutch With these different women you dated You and now you got this pot of money if you were the woman that were the beneficiary of that Would you would you appreciate that or would you be like man you crazy? Of course, I'd appreciate it for sure. I mean especially with the long-term goals, you know As far as getting a house together saving for a wedding kids all of that. I mean the money would definitely be an investment What do you say Jada? Are you saying That the guy wouldn't spend any money on me until we got married Is that what the question is right right so like it y'all Yeah, yeah, so y'all going Dutch and Any other date he doing he's going Dutch and he's saving that money and then you and him Get together y'all dating and then y'all get married, but he saved all that money from dating if you were the beneficiary of That mindset him saving his money for his wife Would you appreciate it or would you still think He was full of it um I would appreciate it, but that just doesn't sound realistic because I think if if that's his mindset then Something is a little off about that. I think because it It may be somewhat of form of selfishness. I don't that I'm only going off of my experience and I don't think that's realistic for a man to not spend money on a woman until they get married. That's I would think that's odd. I would think that's there's something off about that and he might It's hard. I think it would be hard to turn that on when you get married right I can't agree to do Right, right, right And honestly, I honestly the reason why I'm doing this and y'all know I never share a camera and bring people on because I don't know what people gonna say, but I really can't wrap my head around it. I honestly can't wrap my head around it. So it's just so modern It's so new that it just makes no sense to me because as a man I kind of see Spending money on dates as a part of the courting process And as a man what I would do is I would spend a decent amount like a normal amount of money Like I wouldn't go to the most expensive steak restaurant And you know, unless I just my heart was moved that way, but if my heart wouldn't be moved that way I would go to a normal it may cost 75 dollars And then on that first date, then I'm gonna know If this woman has wife qualities And then that'll lend to a second date and a third date And then I would be spending money intentionally because It leads to I know it could lead to something but just You know, so I can't wrap my head around this and that's why I'm asking questions because when stuff go viral I don't know if y'all realize how real social media is I think we should but when stuff go viral people really start to enact those things in their life Like they really start to do that And so Didi what you say you you hopped on here And y'all just unmute your mic if you have something to chime in Yeah, for me, I think I can see it from both sides because I feel like if a male come with that perspective They may be dealing with some trauma that they haven't healed from because I know they've spent money in the past To make them even think that way And feel like they wasted a lot of time and money on this certain person that didn't even work out So it would make me question too Have you healed from that do you think because everyone isn't the same and if you Come getting to it thinking that I'm a different person, but I'm going to do the same way someone in the past did that could be unhealthy as well. So I think there are a lot of review points for this particular conversation Now what type of woman would y'all say? What a woman be if she said hey, I'm saving myself until marriage and then the man said Hey, well, I'm saving You know myself until marriage, but I'm also saving my money until marriage for my wife And then after a month or two The woman gets tired of going dutch So she comes off The sex she she sleeps with the man What what type of woman would that be like what would she have had to what would be her mindset? I Think I don't want to say weak, but I mean because if you stand on something if this is if that's what you are That's what you say. That's what you want to stick to Then just make sure whatever decision you make is a decision you're making because of your own Opinion or something that you truly want to do. I mean if it's your standard your belief then you need to stand on that No matter the situation Sharda say it's a lot of women out here who just want money so I can see where this came from and That that's that's picking up that's picking up Y'all know how to unmute your mic I see kimberley on here. Did you unmute your let me see or do I have to unmute can't unmute Your guest because they have they chose to mute themselves kimberley. You got a pain on there She may have to enable her mic on the app Okay, you might have to turn your mic on Kimberley. Oh, it won't let you let me see Okay Can't unmute your guest because they chose to mute themselves kimberley say you got your Self muted. Let me see if leila So arey is it aria airy? It's airy airy. Okay. You don't you don't want to know how to work your mic Let me see There you go Is it la la la la la? What's your take on this? Um, I just joined in so you just hopped on here. You don't know what we talk about What was the No, no, I went for youtube because I watched your youtube video watching them and I saw your But I joined Yeah, come on now. Come on la la The question is, um We're talking about the woman who's saving herself until marriage and the man said That He's saving his money until marriage. He's he wants to go dutch until marriage Let me see davante. Does your mic unmute? Uh, yes, it does. Okay. What's your take on this davante? Well, uh, I think, uh I mean, there's so many different ways you can definitely look at it And uh, one way that I would look at it like is um, you know as a man, I think it's important for us to You don't know what we want in a woman and know what a good woman looks like. So In terms of letting a woman and approaching a woman, we should know who to approach And um, once we approach that woman, you know, we talk to her and we start, you know, getting to know her and that sort of thing And um, you know, as we're started as we're starting to date her That is something that I like, you know, we can explain to her that I am wanting to save my money until marriage And then based off that being the woman that you need to uh be with and knowing that that's You know, you've, uh, chose the right woman You guys can uh date around and then uh build a uh A foundation in terms of looking forward to Being married and um, yeah, and I think just spending money just while y'all dating is just kind of something that's going to happen um So, uh, but I think ultimately At least you guys know that you guys want to get married So then you guys can uh come together and have that same mindset of knowing that okay This is what he wants to do and then i'm fine the woman i'm fine with that So we're gonna be working towards that but you know, you know, he still can spend money. He still can uh You know buy certain things for her and that sort of thing. Um, but yeah, yeah Right, okay. I see dimples. Um, she says as you say tony we independent until marriage then interdependent So I would respect the man's decision to hold his money just like i'm keeping my legs closed He must respect my boundaries and that was something that I just thought of is I was thinking like To to say that you're abstaining until marriage That's a big big big thing and if a man is not a virgin if he's used to having sex if he's had sex Then he's giving up a big big big. He's making a big sacrifice Because he's saying this is my wife. I'm gonna respect her wishes and I'm gonna wait But if he says that he's just withholding money Money is much smaller. It's a much, you know, it's it's less important than sex and so To be fair it sounds like The woman could say well, all right That's a new spin on things. Um I could I could respect that because I'm not giving you sex and then you not spending your money on me because I might not be your wife They're not the same but it seemed like it could be You know respected because the other is being respected and so it's something to think about Now this is the thing that me as a man, I just Unless somebody come from up under one of these financial guys, I really can't see a man saving his money like okay This is 75 dollars. I was gonna spend on this date. I only had to spend You know 37 50 because I just paid my half this other 37 50. I'm gonna put into a etl for Some, you know, some type of savings account that has a high yield so that when I have meet my wife This money will have grown like I can't really see A man doing that like some men but very you know one out of 10 or one one out of 50 So it's almost like the man is To me it sound like poker face like a man would be saying hey I'm going to Save my money, but it's really like okay. Let me see how this make you feel For me to take something back for me to not have something in the relationship Now you get that little feeling And then if money is what makes a woman feel taken care of and appreciated and respected And if sex is what make the man feel taken care of appreciated and respected If she takes hers off the table, he takes his off the table Now I'm guessing The guy is saying that's that makes you feel but it's her account Okay Now unmute your mic if you have something to say I think too With that situation for the guy to say that I feel that he needs to genuinely Know that he wants to be a husband and is ready to be someone's husband and is really on that journey And not just saying that just so he can try to manipulate or get what he want out of the situation regardless Right because that That will bring the loose booties out if you say I spend no money and then that woman say Oh really and then after a few dates of paying her own way She go to hugging and kissing and they go ahead and get to that bedroom But then That would be something now if that happened and then the man said hey I said i'm saving my money for my wife like just because we fell in the sand like we slept with each other That don't mean i'm gonna start spending my money now. She didn't play it herself. All right Now davante is that something you would say now that you didn't heard this That this man said this is that something you would say like what would be your take on Or would you just put a budget on your spending on the dates or? Yeah, I think I will uh Probably put a budget on that because I just think having a budget is I think essential in life just to begin with in every area of life because I think a budget Promotes, you know structure and stuff like that So yeah, I will put a budget on it and um and since I would You know continuously be on the in the process of uh, you know becoming financially stable. I don't think money is really Money wouldn't be such a thing for me that I would be thinking about So so yeah, because I love you know spending money. So If I if I know that I know I have to continue to make it So I think uh, I think a budget is something that I would definitely utilize Right, right. Um I see a lot of people say they agree with something brief said and brief said if men actually paid attention to the caliber of women they were asking out This would be a non issue and that's you know I think it's kind of You really don't know the caliber of a woman until you sit down at a date and you talk to her because a woman could look Amazing and she could look classy, but then be you know somebody that sleep with you on the first night And then a woman could be dressed In some leggings with you know, booty jiggling And be waiting until marriage, you know, I've noticed that too I was one thing I noticed in coaching and stuff that a lot of A lot of virgin women dress seductive And I'm kind of like I didn't know Understand that because I would see and meet women who were actually a virgin But they would be dressed with you know All their stomach out or all they leg out and it was very interesting to see And then you'll see some women who dress completely covered up and they'd be right by that bedroom quickly And so I think that too It is kind of a gamble today You know, it's a gamble today with social media and everything going on Elizabeth say he ain't going to save that money. It's a play. I believe that Let me see siku donny. I see you join. What's your take on this you you caught up? Yes, um So I think um that This is the importance of why you say to not Tell a man that You know before Well, really at all, but like not before anything has been established because Then you get stuff like that and then it's like well now people are playing games, you know, so I think that's like this quote showed me Why it's important to just move the way that you move and be about it instead of talking about stuff because then Like you said, that's how man come come at it and I definitely think it was A petty move. I don't think he really meant that Like that's what he does, but I just think he was like just trying to be you know Rude or whatever It it sounds petty to me that that's the feeling I get that I don't I don't really think this is a real thing I don't think man really doing this It doesn't sound like a real thing not not a serious man who's intentional about marriage Because I feel like it's kind of like Anything that you want an ultimate goal. There's an investment multiple times over So it's like when we apply to college every college that we want to get into we got to pay an application fee so Anything that we want to do is we got to pay for If we try on different Services out we've trying to find the right trainer every trainer You didn't pay that 30 dollars for that hour session to see if they don't want So I feel like it's the same thing with dating and courting Is you paying up for a date and that could be the only day to do But now if you do a second date that mean because you see potential you're dating intentionally And so this is not just squandering money now it is In investment now It's intentional like the money is going where you know, you could see some fruit You know something could come from it Yeah, and I think it's like something too You know to be excited about you know, I think it should you know Bring some type of excitement to the point where it's like man, I'm excited to spend money because you know you Got the goal of of marriage in your mind. So I think it should be more of a exciting type of moment, you know Mm-hmm Kim you can unmute your mic Yeah, I figured the microphone thing out. I'm new to the whole social media thing But my take on it from somebody who's made just about every wrong choice there is to make and then finally gave my life fully to christ To me it kind of sounds like it's a person who's looking for a reaction They just wanted to see how society and people in general We're going to react. It wasn't even a statement that's necessarily based off truth But more of let me just see if I can get certain people worked up or certain people offended or get more views You see it went viral. So I really don't think that there was really any Substance to it. It was more like let me just say Whatever is going to get me the most views and it's unfortunate that so many people Are now probably going to put that type of mindset into reality Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's scary Oh, yeah, it's definitely it's definitely about to get you Definitely about to get you All right I'm sorry If a man actually voices that He's gonna end up Getting married and she's gonna take his money. I mean if that's something that's voice He might meet one that's okay I'ma marry you And I'ma get your money So That's I mean that's definitely not even wise even For me to voice that because it would it would just be a game And then she's gonna play it. She's gonna play a role right And you know what because there are there are women who have They've been through enough in life to where They just want security. They just want a man that's gonna have a job and Gonna pay the bills and so you right that guy may attract the wrong type of woman Who who may be like, okay, you saving your money for your wife. All right I'ma play that role and then I'ma I'ma get it all and then we're gonna be dating in Turks and Caicos and everything And she plays that role whereas I feel like a woman who is more intentional Wouldn't be wrong in taking offense to it because courting and a man Paying for dates is a part of the process. It's almost really like Showing a woman. I see you as A wife like I see you wife potential in you. So I'm making this Investment like I'm spending this money to show you that This is worthwhile. This is intentional this serious, but if a man doesn't spend money Then he has no skin in the game. It's almost like if he doesn't pay for the date then he's not really Invested he's not saying I'm willing to be a provider. I'm willing to to show that And like Jada said in the beginning it's really no comparison between a man spending 35 75 dollars on on a date and a woman giving her body Which she could get pregnant. She could catch a disease She's gonna have a soul tie It's it's no comparison between the two. So That is something I should say is giving manipulation. I agree with that There's no reason to get offended though either if you a person who's whole on the inside and somebody says anything that's based off of emptiness Dust that off and keep right on moving Right, right. Yeah Let me see. Um, Erica. I see you down there, but it don't have a It don't have your camera. You don't have your camera So, yeah, there's something to think about and it's crazy, you know with this media and how stuff pops up and just But i'm telling you I just see social media is so strong and that now this fit This is gonna be a whole thing. It's gonna be a whole argument And it'll be a lot of men that agree with it. It sounded clever to me, you know, as I thought through it I'm like, okay, it's not really the same. You can't really equate the two But it did sound like a clever response. Like somebody had a good, you know comeback Say, what about if he spins up front then becomes cheap after marriage And that's the thing life got a lot of ifs life got a lot of ifs, but That's really rare because if a man willing to spend on a girlfriend somebody he's dating it's very it's rare chance that he will become cheap after marriage because It's a lot more at stake in marriage than it is when you dating So if he willing to spend in dating it kind of said something now, i'm gonna tell y'all something that's funny and not funny But i'm gonna tell y'all something So and this one thing I want women to think about and y'all ladies help me understand this now y'all help me understand Because today because i'm a married man and you know, I don't talk to no counselor or nothing like that But y'all ladies can help me understand this but you kind of have to put your mind in another In another space So let's say You have let's say your man has a $5,000 credit card And you getting ready to go out for an event And he say hey go buy this your husband. This your husband. He said go buy some clothes And now the woman goes and she spent 4,000 Now of the 5,000 and the man said hey this money is our money Now what is it with women and y'all ladies be honest with me now, especially in marriage What is it with women and spending money? If especially if the man is the provider is different when you provide for yourself But do y'all ladies see a man's money what he earns what he's providing? Do you see it as different than your money? Y'all answer that jade you second your head I'm you tonight I think everybody does yes Okay Say that again. I said I've been married. So yes, I definitely viewed it as his money But I was also reminded that it was his money. So I haven't experienced the side of Him truly feeling like okay, we're one and it's not my money. It's our money right And lakisha, what would you say? I would say I think everybody kind of loses that um The idea of it not it being our money when it's someone else's money Because If you give me a hundred dollars, I'm not going to look at it as Me working for that one hundred dollars So I think that and also she spends four thousand dollars of the five thousand dollar credit limit That's also. I mean she's your wife now. So there's nothing you can do about it But that shows the lack of financial Having this that you have so it's maxing out a credit card Yeah, that's what I was just going to say too. I think A lot of time it depends upon your knowledge of financial literacy because for me I'm not getting your utilization of that high Because I wouldn't do it for myself and that's our money. So it's going to affect the both of us, you know so Right I just always hear man. I've always heard men say man. I've never seen a woman good with money And I always hear men say that and I always notice when a woman Is not working I go to birthday parties and stuff where the the woman may not be working and the husband is, you know, he's working And but the woman has control over the finances and it'd be a lot of extravagant stuff going on And so I'm just trying to understand as a man does is it the woman having faith in the man? Like I know he's an earner. I know he can make this. I know he's going to get it back Or is it just like A stimulus check. I did his money. So I'm gonna just spend it. Wow. But if it was my money, I'd be saving for the future I think it depends on the I feel like if a woman is gonna Just outrageously spend his money. She'll do the same with hers Like and I know and for me I think it could go back to how what you grew up around as well because with my family The men in my family, they've always been providers. Like I never saw my grandma work a day in her life my brother and his wife she doesn't work but They don't spend like just crazily like I just so for me and I work in finance too. So and I have a lot of financial literacy. So for me I think it would just depend on your background as well so Yeah, I agree because It took me my my parents have never been good with money. So it took me Like living to get better with my money So it would be a lack of discipline on my end if I was just spending someone's money on whatever and not really being mindful of it And so with when it comes to money because that's what the man say he's saving his money until marriage How do y'all feel it should be when you get married? It should be our money or should it be his money her money And then they put it into an account for house money Every situation is unique So that should be a conversation had before marriage to make sure both parties are on the same page because What fits one person what fits this relationship might not fit the next so I know women that are happy Having no financial responsibility and their husband makes all the money and pays all the bills And I know women who work that are married and they go Almost dutch with everything even as married. So that's really an independent Conversation before marriage to make sure everybody's on the same page. So it doesn't become a problem once you are married That's a good point and rightfully so but if we had to decide, you know, what do you think what what's y'all take on that? The ideal situation Um I feel like I'm talking so much I like how you I like how you and your wife do things Yeah, I I think that's for me that would make me comfortable to Have our own accounts a joint account that you know the household expenses come out that joint account and I have my own account And I know you were talking about, you know, not liking the word allowance, but um I like that because it makes I think it makes everybody feel more comfortable For me it would I don't know about anybody else, but I like the way that y'all do things um So that's what I would want um Go ahead Duvarte I said it just makes a lot of sense that way. I mean, I think people make it harder than it needs to be Uh, it's I mean y'all together. So I mean I don't even feel right saying being married to my wife and saying this is my money I don't even I kind of uh, I don't know about that. Anyway It's our money. We a team we we talking it all together like let's do it Yeah, I actually just had this conversation with the system law Last friday and she was because she isn't working right now and my brother is the sole provider Well, she was saying how she just started and we're like little side She just wants her own type of income coming in just because she was like I do have my own bills that I go out and create my own And I don't feel right making him pay for those even though he's okay He's never like complained about it But she was like I feel guilty because I go and create these small little bills that we don't necessarily need or have to have So I feel like I need to get some kind of money on my own and that's just for her own comfortability So I think it just On the situation and the person as well What makes them comfortable I see and now how much should if you are a wife, you know, if y'all not a wife right now If when you become a wife, how much Do you want and if you're gonna have children or adopt children and you're gonna be home with the children As women how much do you want? Would you want that man to earn or get up to or try to get up to So that the house could be comfortable y'all give me some numbers um I guess I can't really say I have a set number, but I do know that For me, I feel like we would need to be equally. Yo if I'm making six figures I mean, you don't have to make exactly six figures But make enough to be able to afford the lifestyle that we both agree on that we want so Now I need a number now because you know finance it really how many children Let's say two children, you know 200,000 Okay, who said that Erica Okay, I see Erica. I see 200,000. Um airy Yeah, if it's going to be like a four person household, we would need at least 200k because And for me, I really like I look at numbers but More so multiple streams of income like we can have this stream going towards this one thing This next one going towards that and just building and investing like that because and the thing because I say that I'm into investing too. So you can come with this little bit of money We're gonna flip it and make it something for the long term I mean as long as we can afford right now and we're building for the long term in the future I don't really just see like a set number Like of course, it can't be too low, but it needs to be enough for us to afford but We can flip it You know what airy you said something now now you say you work in finance. You got a little financial literacy um So what that mean like working in the banks or working in well, I'm in corporate finance. Um, well right now I'm in it now, but my background was accounting and finance. Actually, that's what I went to college for and um I've been working in corporate for the last about three years now So I do more of corporate finance. So dealing with the big companies And predicting finances more for predicting the future like I'm seeing our current numbers And what can we do do we have enough to invest in this much? In the future Right, okay Um, may I see you on here? You're might working may It's boy. Can you hear me? Oh, that's my best friend Oh, yeah, I can hear you. I can hear you I can hear you boy. Did you have something to say? No, not as of yet. I was chiming in in my head, but everybody's saying everything I was thinking so Okay, okay, awesome. So that's one thing I I'm now Erica said 200 and that was bolder her to say that and that's what I wanted to hear because Always when I talk to women I'll say well, how much do you want the man to make and they'll say well I don't know But then you get with the man and then be mad if he's not at a certain level He can't do certain stuff. And so I think that's important to understand and to figure out that number but then also, um Erica, you made me think of something and forgive me if I'm saying your name wrong You made me think of something that I think would be good for every woman That see foresees a point in life of being married having kids or adopting kids and wanting to Be home with the children. I think it would be genius for every woman to Get a level of financial literacy literacy Knowledge to assist Your husband in investing his income because not every man will know that or see it the same way And so like what airy says she was like I'm into investing and so I look at streams of income So if we got a t-shirt business and if we got a selling place on sunday business And if you got a corporate job Now you got three streams of income you earning money Different amount from each one, but you also have investments Kind of flipping your money and you working on your credit And I think that's a huge thing because what I'll say as a man It's a lot of pressure On men to have to earn the money Learn how to invest the money But then also give a family everything that they want I was just talking to my sister who was a single mom and she's her 18 year old is graduating And her 18 year old want a mac a mac book Which is like $2,500 and a iPad mini which is another three or four hundred dollars And that's three thousand dollars and then she want to drive a sprinter that i'm in She won't she want me to drive a sprinter to drop off at college And and this is a single mom. So just think about that. That's what she asking of her single mom So imagine when a dad is in the home to what the kids be wanting And then if the dad is the the one who is you know working at the time Or if the woman is working whoever that is that's working So the other one could be 100 focus on the kids. That's a whole lot of pressure It's a whole lot of pressure and i'm seeing that in coaching and talking to people and one of the things I keep noticing With this is and I think that's why I was a question So the lady she said hey, i'm saving myself to a marriage then when the man said Hey, i'm saving my money until marriage. She's like, whoa, hold on now. Hold on now. I ain't not what you be you say to your money You can unmute your mic kimberley And um, so it was kind of like she was taking her back like whoa Now that money mean a whole lot and that's what i'm noticing in marriage Is that i'm seeing it's a lot of arguments over money his money her money or our money The lack of money and how money is spent and it's just It's bad i had to stay at home You say there kimberley somebody else was speaking as well. They can go first I think they clicked off. Okay, so I can only speak for myself I had to stay at home mom and my dad worked a full time 12 hour a day construction job my entire life and when I turned 16 17 and I wanted my own car. He said okay get a job and walk to work and i'll meet you halfway Whatever you save i'll meet you you save a thousand i'll put in a thousand and when I finally was able to Purchase my first vehicle my dad paid half. I paid half and they're like, okay Well, how are you going to pay for insurance now that you have a car? I had to get insurance in my own name as a teenager they did not add me to their insurance plan So I really think it's just a matter of like Like my children when they want something special that's not on our monthly budget. They pull that out of their own Chore money. It's not like they get an allowance. They have to earn their chore money. So it's really just A materialistic stuff can't make you happy. We see millionaires that commit suicide all the time. So realistically it's just What's the one what how's it say? One hand open and satisfied instead of forever reaching for more the next newest outfit the next newest car the next newest house There's no satisfaction in that In my opinion Are you right? That's a real point. Yeah, let me see Some men real disrespectful when they have a check and you don't yeah, that's one thing I notice, you know With with us men When we had that money It's my money. Hey, I work for this money and but see my thing as a man though When I say it's our money That money go to getting spent And so I feel like Do I need to go back to it's my money? Because when I say it is our money and so I just but one thing I've learned as a man, which has motivated me It keep me motivated. It's it's my wife. She likes she loves she enjoys convenience in the sense of She likes To be able to have what she needs when she needs it and that's a luxury But she also know how to Thug it out like the vante said, you know, we live with a 99 dollar bed No furniture in the living room On food stamps she was smiling and she was happy then we started earning money smiling and happy and The thing is is sometimes when you're dealing with money Stuff goes up and down especially if it's an entrepreneur now you work in corporate You get the same check every two weeks or every week however works But when entrepreneur stuff goes up and down and so if you create a lifestyle at 100k, but then Some happen like the pandemic and then now your 100k is 50k, but your lifestyle is at, you know 100k Now some adjustments have to be made and if that means turning in a car Or kids got to get out of private school go to public school. That's really embarrassing That's a huge thing and I think that's what's driving a riff in marriages is just money And those those walls around money and just sometimes not feeling like teammates So whoever has the earning feels like they got to say so and then whoever isn't working Feels like the other person money is their money. So if they get access to spend it They spend it like they spend in somebody else money. They spend it like they spend in a stimulus check instead of spending it like They work for it. And so what we work for we treat it totally different. We see it totally different Then if somebody come hand us Like what like what did you do with your stimulus check? And I think that kind of help us understand how we'll view If our partner is The breadwinner But I think this is a something that I would love for the singles to think about And even with the couples too to think about money and how we view it Is this Is it a healthy viewpoint because it is they say the number one cause of divorce is money and I could kind of see That sometimes Although some other things may be in them from disrespect some cheating But that money is like the thing that kind of is a riff Well, I have a question Tony Yep, go ahead Is it is it just the new generation where Boys or men today are not being taught to be providers for families because I mean, I was once married. I was married for 10 years He talked a good game, but he was not able to provide you. He just It never came to fruition for him to be a provider And so that's the thing that Scared me when y'all said That's the thing that scared me when y'all said A man have to make 200k because That right there. I've heard the average man in america makes 45 Thousand and so 200k is really hard to get to it's really hard to get to Um, and so and I don't and I think 90 percent of men will never get there And so that's something to think about. I seen somebody said 80k So it's really like you could live on any amount of money just depending on You know You could live on any amount of money just depending on the lifestyle you want to have So we lived on 20 000 to 40 000 a year and it just was a different lifestyle And then we lived on 150 000 a year. It was just a different lifestyle And so I'll say that to say this there's something to do some inner work about and oh man I'm supposed to turn on the thing But I got to get going I'm gonna try this some more times and maybe later at night Because my son get out of practice in five minutes and I'm teaching a class tonight on healing Um at 9 p.m. So We get done here 7 30. I'll be home eight. I got to be on zoom at nine So what I'll do because y'all on here and I held you I'll leave the the healing class open for Another 15 minutes for anybody who didn't get to join because I was holding it. Let me on put the link in the chat I have So we're gonna have was a good talk tonight 10 steps of healing that we'll be talking about And so thank y'all so much for being on here And I'll try this, you know some other times when it's like a when it's a topic for You know the culture for the country something that's going viral something that's happening And we need to talk about you know as individuals get different perspectives I'll try this here and then these people have got my money So I'm definitely trying to stream a little more because you have to pay for a year in advance So this costs 250 dollars. I need to get my money to work And um and and thank y'all to those of you on patreon today is the first so with patreon With that support we're going to be creating another season of titles lord willing We also I'll put some castings on patreon today, but you have to be a patreon supporter to see the cast A couple of unscripted shows and um for youtube And so I put that link in the chat as well. It should be in the link in the description of some of my videos but um I appreciate that and the first is always the best day if you're going to join because It charges you on the first of the month each month So god bless y'all and thank y'all everybody who came out here all the y'all who was bold enough to get on video I really appreciate that Thanks for having me. Thanks for having us. All right toss