 but what I mean to say is dating is no long, dating today rarely has a purpose behind it because when men, and this is looking back in history, when men were in their 20s and 30s and they were single, they oftentimes wanted a wife, they wanted the mother of their children, they wanted to start a family with someone. So there was a definitive purpose in the process of getting to know someone and they wouldn't waste time with someone that wasn't a fit for them because they were driven by this purpose. The purpose of dating should be to decide if you want to be in relationship with someone, but more importantly, if you want to eventually get married to this person, I think that should be the purpose of dating.