 Hello my YouTube family, welcome to another NARC Survival Live video. I did one earlier today for the Chosen Ones and now in this one we're going to be talking specifically about Narcissus and what they do when you leave because what they do, their actions are really based on their envy and jealousy of you and I've said this before if you look back even at my earliest videos and of course many other YouTubers have mentioned this as well of how the root cause of narcissistic behavior is in fact their envy and their jealousy, it's what triggers them, it's what fuels them to do what they do when you leave the narcissist and they may have been envious and jealous before but they will become even more envious and jealous even more bitter and resentful despite what you may have done for them throughout the relationship despite everything that you may have given to them freely and out of the goodness of your heart they're going to see it as though you have abandoned them and as though it is unfair because they're envious and they're jealous they view you as their possession as this object that exists to serve them and meet their needs as something that belongs to them they fear losing you as their source of supply they fear losing the benefits and conveniences that you once provided to them because they envy you for your qualities, possessions or other desirable attributes they envy you for everything that you have and they're very jealous of your life experience they develop these fantasies in their minds of you moving on and living a perfect life without them and in some cases that may actually be the reality as well that you may feel so much happier so much more free without them in your life because this jealousy causes them to be very possessive and controlling and you will notice that when they were with you how they were always putting you down they would never recognize or celebrate your achievements and success they always made these sarcastic comments they tried to sabotage everything that you were doing and they may have flaunted things in front of you and tried to make you envious of them because they want to project these emotions on to you they have all of these feelings inside of them and they have to try to find a way to deal with that and they do that by putting it on to you by trying to make you feel the way that they do so yes they are very jealous and controlling and this does not stop just because you've left in fact that makes their jealousy even more pronounced to where they will seek to possess and control you even more and they will try to punish you they will spread rumors about you start smear campaigns try to isolate you try to prevent you from establishing a support network or destroying the one that you already have if you already have one they may try to get you fired from your job they may target you financially they will do anything they can just to prevent you from moving on and it's because they're jealous because their happiness is not like yours the narcissist that you're dealing with they may have their own privacy and their life of their own their own freedom but they're really not happy with that their happiness is not like yours even if they have everything they could have loads of money a nice house a nice car but what good is that if they can't enjoy it people who are narcissistic they can't enjoy anything in life our happiness does not come from having and consuming things it comes from our gratitude and from giving and sharing that's what brings us happiness and it is no different with narcissists that's why they're always so bitter and miserable that's why nothing you do ever makes them happy there's always something wrong they've always got a problem because they want to project their internal condition onto the external environment and this is the crazy thing about it because it's like I have to wear everything you've been through with them and I've said this before when I look at victims of narcissistic abuse everything that was taken from you I mean your life was robbed from you if anyone is justified in feeling envious or jealous or even developing this grandiose sense of entitlement if anyone is justified in that it's you I mean after everything you've been through everything that you had to put up with you really deserve the best you deserve it all you deserve all of the good things in life after all of the suffering but narcissists what do they do they just put it onto everyone else and that's why they really don't deserve anything that they have because they cheat they lie they steal they deceive to get the things that they do have and that's why they really don't even deserve it and I could never understand this mentality I mean I've spoken about it in past videos but I haven't really talked about it in detail about how I was raised and what I grew up with I mean from the very beginning I was born into a good home from what I remember our first home we lived in a four bedroom house with a pool a swimming pool and we had four cars we had two Mercedes a BMW and a Nissan and even after that we then lived in a six bedroom mansion which was separated into three properties and after that we then lived in another five bedroom mansion with four floors we had a lot of nice things cars Mercedes we had two Aston Martins I had a lot of nice designer clothes I was in private school all of my life so I had a lot of good privileges in my childhood there was a lot of abuse as well a lot of suffering but there were definitely good things too but of course what people don't talk about is what some might consider to be the competition in these environments in environments where there are the wealthy and the powerful and even the famous at times I mean the street that I was raised in as a teenager going into a young adult we had Premier League footballers living on our street I remember one guy he was just 22 years old we were the same age and he lived in this home this multi-million pound home with four floors and a swimming pool and he had all of these cars he had a Mercedes CL 63 AMG brand new and a Bentley Continental GT a Range Rover he had a beautiful wife children everything and also we had three Premier League football managers living on our street as well Roberto Martinez Palo Sousa and also the ex Liverpool football manager Brandon Rogers he lived next door to us for three years when he took over the Swansea football team and I've never mentioned anything about this before on the channel I'm not one to name drop or to brag and boast about I mean I can't even really say that they're my personal achievements I mean this was just the effect of being raised in a wealthy family so it's not really anything so much to do with me it's not something that I worked for that I earned myself but aside from that someone being raised in that type of environment and seeing all of these things seeing such young people with multi-million pound homes supercars just having everything and especially just from playing football of all things and earning that amount of money every year I can see how that could cause someone to grow up to be quite bitter and envious I could definitely see that and I can understand but at the same time we have to accept that people work for these things they earn them even the footballers I mean they do they do go through a lot of trials themselves it's highly competitive in that industry there's a lot of stress involved and not only that but other people could decide to play football and to try to enter these teams themselves if they wanted to or if that's not your thing you could do something else you could work hard but that's not even what we're talking about with narcissists I mean of course I can have some compassion for someone like that who's worked hard all of their life and they didn't get the type of success or what they expected to receive from it of course I can completely understand the injustice in that I mean the world isn't that fair for a lot of people and I get that people are raised in unfortunate environments there's a lot of inequality there's people who are experiencing wars and through no fault of their own people dying every day starving and of course none of that is fair and that's why myself I support charities there's one that I've put up on a few live videos already to donate to the kids in Gaza I've always been in support of people who weren't dealt a good hand in life things were unfair for them from the very beginning whatever it may have been especially with disabilities I mean of course that's not fair but with narcissists they just believe that they deserve everything they have this grandiose sense of entitlement and it's like they've never even done the work they've never done anything to earn it I mean fair enough if you've put in the work every day for years of your life then yes you do have the right to expect a certain level of treatment and to expect certain privileges I'm all for that myself and I believe that that acts as an incentive for people to work hard and to contribute to our society instead of us just having a bunch of lazy people who all receive equal treatment even though they haven't put in an equal amount of work and haven't given out an equal amount of value so I'm all for hard-working motivated people and of course those who are suffering with certain conditions and they may be depressed I'm all for the support of those people as well so that they can get back on their feet and get back in the game so those are my personal beliefs on that but narcissists they are very jealous and controlling even when you try to leave they will micromanage everything that you do they will try to control you they will try to prevent you from having anything from being happy from being successful and it's because they're miserable it's because their happiness is not like yours and this could be because you have better qualities because it's easier for you because you're better off or another thing as well even in situations where they have more and they could have a lot more than you and I've actually seen this in my own experiences as well where people have had so much more than me and you would think that I would be the one who was envious of them when in fact I was all for them I thought it was great you know you've worked hard to get to where you are in life you deserve it you deserve everything you have and my praise is all yours for that but they were looking at me and they could see that I was happy with so much less and that really irritated them as well so you may notice that too with narcissists that they are envious of you even when you have less and they will try to make you feel bad about yourself they will try to target your self-esteem they will try to isolate you they will try to damage you psychologically to prevent you from just having the fullest experience of life and you've got to look at it like this with their behaviors anything that they're trying to do that's already how it is for them it doesn't matter what they have it doesn't matter what they're displaying to you look at what they do that reveals their emotional state because a person who is pleased satisfied and contented with what they have it doesn't matter what someone else has they can still be happy for them and even if they do feel a little bit of envy that will only motivate them to work harder on themselves and their own lives I think people who are really envious and they want to destroy you it's because they want what you have so bad and yet they genuinely believe that they're never going to get it not unless they cheat they lie they deceive they steal and that's typically why they resort to doing those things because if they could get it by not doing that then they would probably do that instead but this is just how it is with narcissists and some of them may just completely disappear altogether and you'll never see them again and that can be out of their own jealousy because they don't want to see you happy they don't want to witness your success and they want to hope that they're taking something away from you by them disappearing and you not hearing from them again well some of them will just never leave you alone they'll remain a constant presence in your life meanwhile they are just dripping you of your happiness they're doing everything they can to take that away from you because yes they are envious and they are jealous and that's just how it is with them they're always going to be that way the older they get the more bitter and resentful they become and yet it's not like that for us despite everything that we've gone through through I mean the things that you've been through and yet you don't attack them you don't feel any need to get revenge they just become even more bitter I know the sound has gone off there but yeah they don't do what we do they just become even more bitter and resentful and then they try to take it out on us so yeah that's just how it is with them so yeah just be cautious when you do leave because you never know how they might react with their envy and their jealousy but yeah I just like to thank you all for joining me on another live video you can hit that thumbs up button down below to show your support I appreciate you all and as always I look forward to speaking with you in another live video very soon