 Welcome back to my channel. It's your girl Coco styles and in today's video. We're gonna be talking about leveling up Yes, leveling up your life mentally physically and socially I have 15 tips for you guys that you guys can actually incorporate into your lives today and Probably two bonus tips. So I'm just gonna jump right into the video and don't waste any time I do have a bonus tip for you at the end. That's really really important So if you stay tuned to the end, you'll get that juice from this whole level up tip Tips that I have so the first thing I'm gonna say is I am like I said, I am looking at my laptop Because I did jot some things down that I did not want to Forget to tell you guys so my first tip is get rid of any negative thoughts that you have in your mind about yourself Okay, some of us may be at a certain age and we kind of feel like we kind of missed the buck on either going to school Or getting a great job. I don't know whatever it is. Don't let that hold you back Okay, some of us grew up in single-family homes, you know, it may feel like, you know Why wasn't my mom or either my dad wasn't there? Don't let it don't let it hold you back I am a firm believer of things that happen to you happen to you for a reason It is to shape you to who you are today. So anything in the past that happened. Let it go Yesterday was the past whatever happened yesterday. Let it go the only way for you to move forward and be the best version of you Is to let things go in the past, you know, sometimes we hold on to things We bury it from years ago and we kind of forget about it But we also need to address those too before we actually become the best version of ourselves So that's my tip number one get rid of any negative thoughts that you have about yourself in your mind tip number two Reading I love to read any book that I feel like that will help me that self-help books It can be manifestation books. It can just be changing your mind. It can be books about God, whatever Reading reading reading reading will help you clear your mind. It will give you a sense of peace to me It'll educate you, you know, even etiquette books pick those up, too Like sometimes we think that we're doing something properly like holding a wine glass You know pick up an etiquette book if you want to level up thoroughly Do things like that. That's gonna You know make you become a better version of yourself So that's tip number two reading reading reading reading reading self-help books. They will really help you And I have a couple that I can actually recommend and I'm gonna put them in the description box because I love these books I sometimes read them more than once to which is so crazy But I am gonna link those in the bottom for you guys to take a look at and purchase those So tip number three therapy Ah Therapy therapy therapy a lot of people do not like to go to see a therapist I don't know why but I feel like you know a lot of people go to church and stuff like that But sometimes that doesn't really always help you I don't know talking to a physical person Could actually help you heal from things that happened to you as a child again a lot of us grew up in single-family homes and you may not have been able to deal with what happened to you as a child or Just dealing with the fact that you either watch your mom be a single mom or your dad be a single dad and talking to somebody can actually heal Some of those past hurts and stuff So number three is going to see a therapist and getting through those problems and healing Healing yourself within because you can look good on the outside, but if you're not good within None of this is gonna even matter So that's tip number three tip number four would be Meditate okay Meditate go to church pray Journal all those things all those things are so positive for yourself at the end of the night I try my best to write five things that I am grateful for okay. I don't care what it is I'm grateful for waking up today. I'm grateful that I was able to walk down the stairs today I'm grateful that I was able to turn on my computer and work my job. I'm grateful for the Sun today I'm grateful that I have food just be grateful for the things that you have because listen There are so many people out there that do not have Anything be grateful for what you have gratitude is everything Okay, so that's tip number four, you know, you want to like I said you want to center yourself and be Just be at peace you want to just be at peace. So Tip number five We're gonna go into your body your body your body your body Okay, so I'm gonna tell you again that I am a vegan so my eating habits are Very extreme and the reason why my eating habits are like this. I told you guys before breast cancer They say run in my family. So to me, I only get one body Let me take care of it the best that I can and if that means taking some stuff out of my diet I'll do that. I want to live. Okay, so I'm not saying become a vegan Like your girl, but what I am saying is just kind of eat things in moderation Be mindful of the sugars that you're eating be mindful of the salt that you're intaking Be mindful of how much alcohol you drink if you smoke be mindful of that You know, all these things can just affect your body just all together, you know, and we're not getting any younger So the more you take care of the body that you've been given I'm sure the Lord will bless you, honey He will bless you So tip number six is Exercise now, I'm not gonna lie guys. I do not go to the gym every day Now ever since corona has been out here in these streets I have been just like kind of haven't been at the gym however, I have been doing Pilates and It's not the most strenuous Exercise, but it's something to do. I go to the park sometimes and I walk I am not really a big nature girl So when I see bugs and rabbits and stuff running loose is a bit much for me However, walking, you know around the neighborhood and stuff like that It'll make you feel a little bit better that you did something for that day Kind of getting out of the rut of your normal every day just going to work and just coming home and stuff So working out is also another key in your level up journey So that is tip number six tip number seven is your overall health Stay up to date on your for women your GYN visits your dentist visits and Your PCP visits, okay, and if you're in your 40s, make sure you're getting your mammograms Okay, I know what's scary to go. You know, nobody wants to go It's very scary to go to smashing your breasts and stuff. Nobody want to deal with that But it's important. It's important for you guys to take care of yourself and know what's going on with your body It's nothing worse than not knowing what's going on with your body I know a lot of people that do not go to the doctor and I just for the life of me I don't know why but I I truly believe that it's a fear of You know finding something out that you may not want to find out You know, but you will be at ease once you know your status. What's going on with your health? Trust me, you will be at ease So to me, that's a part of leveling up staying on top of your health is Numero, no, okay, because if you're not healthy, guess what you ain't gonna make it to your next the next step of your level up journey Okay, guys So tip number let me see seven That's so tip number eight resting resting resting resting, okay All right guys A lot of us have day jobs a lot of us do YouTube as a full-time job Okay, and I know you guys have to create content and stuff every single day to make sure that you know You're you're getting your stuff out there, but when your body is telling you to rest Please rest. You don't want to faint out there in these streets You don't want to faint of being dehydrated. You don't want your body to conk out on you, you know You want to make sure you're good. You don't want to take like What do you call those things like? What is that thing that people take that they put they mix it with drinks? Um red boom You don't want to take that stuff. I don't feel like that stuff make your heart start racing and stuff But anyway, just like just rest rest your body I know you people have businesses that they're trying to do and stuff like that But I do feel like resting your body when it calls for it It's a must you don't want to wake up and being all tired like I know a tad in the face Stuff like that. So resting your body is a number one key to me Also when it comes to leveling up because if you don't feel good You know that that plays a major role in it. You're gonna walk around like and sluggish and stuff So resting is very very important So tip number. I think that's number eight. I don't know. I'm gonna I'm gonna link. I'm gonna put everything there Your image, okay? So image is fun. You can dress nice. You can do your hair You can do your makeup and stuff like that. However, I will not tell you to go out there and buy All designer bags or designer clothes. I will not say that but I will say this Present yourself like you want to be addressed. Okay, so don't go outside with a head scarf Don't go outside with slippers on don't go outside with pajamas on those things need to stay in your house Okay, I'm not saying you need to be dolled up every single day But be presentable look clean iron your clothes all these little small things that you can incorporate today Do it, you know for the young ones, you know When you start changing your friends may think there's something wrong with you because you're not dressing like them anymore And that's okay. That's okay. That's okay. Be your own person So your image is key and I want to actually touch on that a little bit further So a lot of us have social media and have regular jobs out here So you have to be mindful of what you're putting out there into the internet world because once is out there is going forever Okay, there are companies that do Google you to see what you're like online and they will not hire you Because of that. I've seen it happen. So just be mindful of what you're putting out there and stuff like that Don't be don't smoke in videos. Don't just don't do certain things that you don't want your employer to have a problem with Okay So the next tip is we're gonna talk about socially now. I consider myself an introvert I do I Do however when I do get to talk to a person. I'm just a ball of fun I cracked jokes all day, you know, I try not to take things too too seriously, you know, so if you have friends that you grew up with and you find that You are trying to change certain things, but you feel like you keep getting pulled back to that same behavior Sometimes it's just trying it's time to shift from those friends. Okay Also, those same friends may not be happy for you changing. They may start saying stuff Like I said, why are you dressing like that? Why are you reading those type of books? The naysayers you have to let them go and it's okay. Even though you knew them since she was two years old, honey It's fine. Let them go. You you will find new people in your life that Will fit where you're trying to go So sometimes let let them go let go of jealous jealous friends Let go friends who always compare themselves to you like those are not healthy traits to have in your circle when you're trying to level up your life Okay, so tip number I think that's nine There's nine Surround yourself with like-minded people. So again, if you find yourself not connecting with friends that you have since you were a child It's just time to just Find other people that you can kind of grow with okay, or even learn from So if that means just placing yourself in different Environments, then that's just what you have to do. So place yourself with like-minded people The next tip is can kind of actually go with the last one frequent new places, okay? So whatever city that you live in, maybe you want to travel to another state or out of the country, you know Place yourself in new environments and learn new things different cultures and stuff. I'm from New York City. So I am used to Multiple cultures being around so when I move to my new state You know, I made sure that I was around a mix of people because that's what I'm used to I can't just be around One race of people. It's just not gonna work for me. I need to be around a mix of people I need to hear Spanish music. I need to hear Indian music. I need to hear reggae. I need to hear all of this stuff Okay, so, you know, even when you're traveling when you're traveling to other countries and stuff like that You end up you learn about different cultures. It's a beautiful thing Honestly, you know how people live and it also it also makes you feel a lot It makes you feel really really grateful for what you have in your country because some of these countries are very very poor And it'll just make you think about what you have as an individual and be grateful for what you have All right So and then the the tip number I think that's number nine That's not number nine. That's number 14 number 14 Making new friends. So in your travels You being in new environments and frequenting new places and stuff. You're gonna meet new people Okay of different races different cultures and stuff like that Be open to it. Always be open to meeting new people. I will tell you like I said working in New York City I've always had All types of friends from indian to asian. I don't care who it was Those are my those are my my peoples. Okay And it's just what it was. I didn't care what skin color they was. I didn't care what their background was Those are my friends at work, you know Going to lunch with them stuff like that So meet new friends, you know people who are again Further in life than you because you can learn from them. Okay You don't want to always be the smartest person in the room all the time because I kind of feel like it stunts your growth So placing yourself around people who are above you that'll definitely help you And actually this is tip number 15 a juicy tip. Okay dating Level up in your dating life. Okay I will say this Sometimes you have to take a break from dating if you find yourself keep meeting the same type of men all the time Okay, different body Same type of man. You're doing something wrong. Okay, so With that, I would say take a break from it reevaluate. What are you doing wrong or what what aren't you doing? Right, you know and just try new things date other Date other races of men, you know, you never know who you're going to end up with I would never say stick to your own kind. You just never know who you are going to end up with Who's going to make you happy? Who's going to sweep you off your feet? So level up your dating life date men who are at minimum On your level, okay At minimum because if you don't you're going to feel like you're carrying the relationship You're going to feel like It's almost like dating a beta male. Like you don't you don't want that you want a masculine man You want a man who is a provider and a protector? That is when he is thriving his best that way you can really rest in your femininity So again, that was tip number 15 Your dating life level up your dating life. Also, that's also a part of this whole level up journey and for those of you guys who stayed to the end and my final final final tip is to drum roll Most importantly keep your level up to yourself Okay, I made the mistake of trying to You know bring some friends along with me and it just didn't work out I just kind of felt like I was being kind of pushy with them Just stuff that I was learning and I'm just like, you know try this try this and It just didn't go too well, you know So I just kind of fell back on that so to me keep it to yourself Especially if you have not reached your goals and where you're trying to be keep it to yourself They'll see you at the top. Okay So that's my final tip guys if you guys stayed to the end of this video Let me know if you did comment in the comment box We see you coco and I thank you for joining me today and I see you in the next one. Bye