 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel? I am Lloyd, but I am not necessarily the single guy So what we're going to talk about today is why so many guys they spend all of their time Watching videos about how to get girls about dating about self-improvement, but they never actually start taking action They never do anything about it. Okay, and I know this subject very well because I used to be one of these guys So what I'm gonna talk about today is I'm gonna talk about what my experience was like being in this why I think so many guys fall Into this trap and what you can do to actually start getting results in your life and start taking some action How to motivate yourself? Okay, what I'm gonna talk about today is my story So back in the day a long time ago back in 2010, I think I was really really into the self-development scene I was just watching a bunch of videos primarily from a company called real social dynamics I don't know if anybody Knows that they don't really do as much as they used to back back then, but they were all over like the pickup Scene and so I was watching tons of videos all the time not doing anything. I got zero results with women I didn't know what I was doing and well Actually, I thought I knew what I was doing because I was watching tons of videos But I would never actually do any of it Okay, and what I think the reason was why I was watching so many videos was because I got a little bit of an Emotional high from feeling like I was learning feeling like I was getting better But not actually facing my fears not actually taking any action So I watch hours and hours of videos on doing stuff like this and it Didn't make me any better with women. I'll be honest with you. I thought I knew what to do I thought I knew everything I thought was okay I just need to implement all the stuff, but I had a million things going on in my head I was too scared and there was too much anticipation for what I was about to do and it up Just coming off as a weird, you know If I just acted like a normal guy for half the girls that I talked to I'm probably I probably would have gotten way Better results than what I got at that point in time But unfortunately I was so in my head with all this information that it didn't actually help me So what I actually did at that point was I was like, you know what no more videos. I'm not gonna even go on YouTube I'm not gonna check anybody. Well, they didn't people were only really using YouTube at that time I wasn't gonna use anything else. So I basically took a break I took like almost a year two year break and all I did was go out at that time All I did was talk to real people meet people in real life go out to bars or whatever like ways to meet women Okay, I would do all of that stuff and I didn't look at a single video and I got pretty decent after doing that Okay, I actually improved my social skills. I was able to converse with other people I was able to be charismatic and get with charm women But it wasn't and there were certain things that I was missing and then that's when I came back to some of the videos That I had watched before now I didn't just watch the rsd stuff although some of those videos may have helped but I watched other things I watched a variety of different subjects and topics about just dealing with people, you know being a better guy overall And I think what I learned during that time was there was a lot of things that were missing from the videos that I saw last time But even if that stuff was there, I felt like it still wasn't gonna be enough to motivate me to get me to do the right things So if you're a guy who can relate to my story where you you're constantly watching videos and you feel like you need to take a break I you know sometimes taking a break can help, you know I know I shouldn't be telling you guys this but getting off the TV getting off the Your phone or however you use to watch my content might be a good idea for you And the other thing that I did too at that point was I decided to put some skin in the game I decided to actually pay somebody money to do it now You don't have to pay somebody money But then you do have to find a way to put some stake into making a difference because right now when you're consuming Things that are free. I'm sorry to say you don't have any you're not losing anything if you change if you don't change Okay It's not enough of a pain if you don't put any money down or you don't put anything you don't put any risk into it Then it's not gonna work like if I came to your house and I put a gun to your head And I said hey, bro, you got to walk outside and you got to talk to five women you'd probably do it Okay But there's nobody doing that to you for me the only way that I figured out how to do it was I paid somebody money to do it and I did and My results went up after that What really helped me was having a guy keep me accountable Making sure that I would I would have to go to the meeting every single week And if I didn't he would yell at me if I didn't do the things that we talked about he would just you know We had some interesting meetings. Let me put you that way So that got me to actually go out and do something so whatever you need to do to motivate yourself It has to be more than what you're doing now Okay, so put some skin in the game, you know figure out a way to motivate yourself You know when I used to go out dude, I used to give my friend I would give my friend $50 which at the time was a lot of money for me And I would say hey the only way you're giving me this $50 back Is if I go and you know talk to that girl at the bookstore or I go out tonight And I you know at least to talk to five people Whatever it is 10 20 people whatever, okay Have a stake in what you're about to do and I really think that that's going to be the difference because most guys They take the easy way out I have videos where I talk about how guys mostly mostly take the easy way out and if you're one of those guys That's always doing the easy thing and not actually putting any risk into it. Don't expect to have any actual change Typically guys that go all in, you know, they call it burning the boats are the guys that make it You know in business too, you know, you see a guy who like risks everything to try and make something work And a lot of times it happens because he has so much to lose because he's done everything he can To try and make that happen if you're already sitting in the mansion It's really difficult to get motivated to go through the grind to start a business And so very frequently you see a lot of kids that grow up in rich households They just don't have the motivation to be able to do it You know, it's only certain cases where you see that but same thing a lot of you guys are living in that comfy home And you know your life isn't you don't have enough of enough of a drive to go out and do it So give yourself that drive and for me that was putting some money down for you It could be you know keeping yourself accountable with a friend. Whatever it is. Okay, but that's what I invite you guys to do If you're one of those guys Make the step and if you want to get help from me, you know, there's a form down below You can fill it out at the very least if you're not at that point yet I want you to download one of my free guides go through it and that will help you You can go to my free trainings. We can talk about how to motivate you for that sort of stuff as well, too Cool. All right. Well, you may as well consider subscribing you guys