 Have you ever seen this or maybe this or maybe even this? Today we're gonna be talking about the five most common eye shadow mistakes that women make over 40, yes, but really I don't think these look that great on any woman when they happen. So let's get into the video where you can see the mistakes but you can also see how to correct them. Hello there friends, I am so glad that you're with me today, we're gonna be doing something very fun. We're going to be really over exaggerating the mistakes that are out there about eye shadow and we're going to be seeing how we can do it to where it can be age appropriate, but I get it. I would have rocked a really dark bright eye back in my 20s and 30s, but today I want something a little bit more refined, a little bit more polished and that's what we're gonna get into. Now I'm gonna put a timestamp right here where that starts because we always talk about what I have on and many of you just wanna see the tutorial, let's just get to the meet. So go to the timestamp if you want to and skip right over this intro. Now I have on today a really cute shirt that is a ribbed waffle knit shirt. I love this shirt because it's so light and so airy. It has a tie in the front, it's very light so I can very easily see me wearing this on into fall because it can go very easily underneath something. It's very thin, it's very light, it's not too heavy but it does have the long sleeves so if you get a little bit colder you can pull the sleeves down, you can throw a jacket over it, whatever you wanna do. It does come down over the rear so that's nice, it completely covers your butt too. And I wanna show you my earrings, super light hoop earrings. These are a bigger hoop which I really like. I think I wanna say that they're the 40 millimeter. I think I got the 50 in a rose gold and I like them, they're just a little bit too much unless I'm really wanting to get dressed up and then this fun little necklace is just a chain that I found. It's flat, I believe it's 925 silver. I love how it lays on the neck and I love that it catches the light so it looks almost like it's diamond cut a little bit but it's so pretty and it is very light and very dainty as well. As always I'll make sure that I put my rings and my fingernail polish and any makeup that I have on that I don't talk about will also be listed and linked below. Speaking of the links, number's gonna come up right here. That number is going to correspond to one through however many products that we talk about today. It will correspond to whatever I'm doing at the moment. So if it's a brush, if it's an eyeshadow, eyeliner, whatever it is, it's going to correspond to that. You don't have to worry about remembering what the product I hold up is and saying, Melissa, you forgot to tell us what shade it was. All of that will be listed and linked down below for you so that you can just go down there and next to number three will be the product, the color, anything you need to know about it along with the link and you can shop that way if you would like to. All right, that didn't take too terribly long. Let's get into the meat of the video. You're gonna see me with all of my makeup on except for I don't have any eye makeup on and we're gonna get into this tutorial. Keep in mind that this isn't just about eyeshadow. It's about the entire eye area and we're gonna get into the mistakes and how to correct them and we're gonna do that right now. Okay, mistake number one. You need to use an eyeshadow primer and so many women skip this step. Not only is this eyeshadow primer going to grip the other eyeshadow but it's also going to cancel out all this discoloration and then it's going to make my eyeshadow vibrant. So you're not going to look muddy and I think that's so important and not all eyeshadow primers are created equal. This is my very, very favorite because it does have that tone of being the white and for so long, so many people have used just like a really light concealer or something like that, don't be fooled by that because what the primer does besides, I mean, look at the difference. Look at the difference in the two eyes already. You can tell that this eye is just, you know, really got a lot of darkness and the other eye is just completely canceled out. A lot of people's eyelids, they sweat like mine and so putting this on mattifies and it helps grip and it helps look, your eyeshadow look vibrant. There's so many things that a good eyeshadow primer does. I go back to Honest as the Beverly Hills all the time for primer because it checks every single box and also it just isn't that expensive comparatively to the others. And you know what? I wasn't going to put any of the right thing on this eye so now I have to go back and take off that primer. The next thing I want to tell you is that you have to do something with your brows. I know that so many people, they just skip their brows, they don't do anything with them but you have to if you want to have a more youthful look. And if you look at a little kid, their brows are full. They have a lot of brow hair. I mean, you know, they have hair everywhere around their eyes and it's a youthful look. So I do have a lot of issues with using different brow products. So I choose to use a brow product that just has a teeny tiny spoolie on it. This one happens to be the Essence Make Me Brow. It has a little tiny spoolie. My favorite one is from Ulta but they're out of almost every color right now. So I'm not even going to send you that way but this spoolie will do just fine. I'm going to just take off a little bit of the extra product off of there. I don't do eyebrows normally on camera. As a matter of fact, in my last tutorial I said, I hate doing eyebrows on camera but this is important so I'm going to go ahead and I'm going to show you. What I do with this spoolie is I'm just going to fill everything in. If I make a mistake, I'm going to wipe it away because of how bad my hands shake but you just have to take what you have and you have to brush as much product in there as you possibly can get. I do want you to be careful not to go below. You can go above but don't go below where that natural brow sits because if you do, you're going to lose a lot of this valuable real estate that we have on our eyes. And then I just continue to brush. I will go and I will try to catch as much hair as I can. I just continue to brush until I've got all of it in there. Sorry about the yellow on my hands. I was working with turmeric this morning and it's really got a lot of yellow on my hands. Hopefully you can see how I've just painted those eyebrow hairs so they are standing kind of up. That's the look that everybody is going for right now where they actually paint in the hairs with a pen. And if you don't have eyebrows, you might want to get one of those pens. And here's the last tip. Do not bring the eyebrow down, okay? Always bring the eyebrow out. You don't want that tail to look like it's downturned. You want to go out. So for me, this is the easiest way to build a brow, to make a brow to where it would sound like build a bear. To make a brow look fluffy and not have to put so much effort into using just an eyebrow pencil. I don't know why I'm doing the good side first. I need to switch that. Okay, our next product, we're going to switch that. And then I'm just taking a NYX microbrow. There's nothing wrong with this product. As a matter of fact, the tip of this is so fine that if you don't have any hair and you want to create that look, you can definitely use this for the strokes that you need in order to create a fake looking eyebrow. As a matter of fact, I will just kind of use this one to do that a little bit and show you. Now, this is what I used to do. This is the wrong thing to do. Okay, so you can see your eyebrow and you want to make sure you paint it in. But let's say that you feel like you've lost a bunch of hair in here that you've plucked forever. So you decide, well, I better come. Wait, sorry about my shaking. So you bring that eyebrow way in and you paint it in and you think, well, okay, this is good. So you got a square eyebrow out here and then we're going to go in and we're just going to follow what the eyebrow hair does, but we're not going to make it any fluffier. It's much too thin. And then on the tail right here, bringing it way down. So can you see the difference? This one's brought way too far in. I mean, I'm exaggerating, obviously. But there are people that bring their eyebrows in way too far or they have them way too far out. If you bring your eyebrows in way too far, you're going to look angry. And if you have them way too far out, you're going to look, I mean, the beginning of them. If you have that way too far out, you're going to look surprised. So, you know, both of these aren't good. You need to find a balance. That's mistake number two, that's the brows. Mistake number three is using a brush that is much too big and applying eyeshadow that is much too dark in the beginning. So I'm going to take, I don't know, let's try this one right here. This is the Smokin'Roses palette from ColourPop. So we're going to try this berry right here. That's going to be over exaggerated, but you'll be able to see what I'm talking about because I would never start out with a color this dark normally, but you'll be able to see what I'm talking about. So we're going to take this color, we're going to go all over the whole eye. That's another mistake, but the biggest one is that we're using too fluffy, too big of a brush. We're going to go all over the eye here and then we're going to go right out here and we're going to take that color and we're going to use it as our transition color. Oh my goodness. The other thing is because this brush is too big, it's depositing it where I don't necessarily want it to be deposited. It's going too close to the eyebrow and that is a very hard thing to correct. So that is a huge fluffy brush. So let me show you what I use. This is a refer oh one. You've seen me use it a million times, but it's so much less dense and it's so much less fluffy or big. It's still fluffy, but it really has a precision to it that helps. And we're definitely not going to use that dark of a color to begin with. We're actually going to go in a much lighter direction than you would think. We're going to take this pink right here and we're going to load this brush and I am going to take it quite a bit up towards the eye, but I'm also not going to go all over the lid yet. I'm going to be careful to not go clear up to the eyebrow and I'm going to give that some room. The other thing I'm going to do is I'm going to take it in more of a straight line out towards the tail of the brow. This gives you a lifted look and it gives you a little bit of room to work with. And then inside this tip, I'm also going to tell you that you must blend more than you think you need to blend. You need to blend, blend, blend, blend, blend. So in this eye, hardly any blending, wrong color, too dark, patchy, it looks just like I've got kind of a bruise on my eye there. And then this side we're beginning to build and we're beginning to lift. All right, the next one would be to now go in with a color that you wanted to do, darken up the outer V right there. And this one would be for me to be using a brush that was actually too dense at this point. So this is a BK Beauty brush and I use it all the time. However, I don't use it where I'm gonna show you right now. So I'm going to take another really dark color in the palette. This is kind of a dark purple. I know it looks almost like a gray and a black. But what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna bring it too far over. That's one of the big mistakes and I'm going to push it into just the crease, okay? So just the crease, what does that do? That immediately brings, if I'm pushing into the crease, that immediately brings it down onto the lid. And that can be a problem. So to change it, you want to use something a little bit more fluffy. This is my favorite brush to do the outer corner with. It just works so well for me. It's an angled fluffy brush or an angled shader brush. It's from BK Beauty. I'm going to actually use this color right here, which is a soft taupe. And I'm going to mix it with this pink color right here. Just the two of them. I'm gonna go out here in the outer part of the lid and I'm just going to lay some product down there and see how this brush so gently is pushing that up as I'm laying it down in the outer corner. It just, because of its angle, it works so well. You can turn it over and you can push even more of that product towards the tail. But what you're doing is you're using a light hand for one thing and you're using a product up above the crease. You're not going down into the crease. Now I'm just going to push it gently about two thirds of the way over just above the crease. Now I'm gonna go ahead and clean off that brush that I was just using on this side. And we are going to use a darker color. And I'm gonna go back down into that purple color that I used on the other eye. But what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna take much less of it. I'm gonna tap my brush off really good and I'll tell you what else I do. I just dab my brush into a towel, a tissue, whatever you have, so that I can make sure that I'm not using too much right off the bat. And now I'm gonna go in right here and I'm going to build the outer V or the outer corner darkness. And this helps because, see how I just turned the brush? I turn this brush like four times. I turn it when I'm wanting to go up towards the tail of the brow. I turn it when I'm wanting to push inwards. This brush is just magic. So I guess another tip could be, and this isn't one of the five, but another tip could be use the right brush for the right purpose. And you can tell how much lighter this is because I didn't use as much product. And I definitely am using a lighter hand. Back into the palette now. Let's try this pink right here. I'm gonna try that one. And I'm going to put it on the eyelid on this eye. And the thing that I'm gonna do is I'm going to bring it down here, but I'm not going to blend it. I'm just going to lay it there. So if you didn't blend, that's a problem. That's definitely a problem. I always use my fingers at this point anyway. And then I'm gonna take a brighter color. I'm going to try this pink right here and see what happens with it. And I'm just going to just lay it all the way across my lid. And I'm gonna go up. I'm gonna go up towards the other eye shadow. And I'm bringing it all the way into the inner corner. Now I want you to take that shader brush that you used and just really blend that with everything else. I mean, we're out of control over here, I feel like. So the next thing I wanna talk to you about is all this darkness that is in here in the inner corner on both sides. And that the shadow has come up to the top of the eye. I use the Benefit High Brow. This isn't anything new for most of you if you've been with me for very long. So I'm gonna take away all of this darkness. First I'm gonna start right here in this corner. And I'm going to lay down that product. Now lots of people like to use a very high shimmer in here. You can if you want to. I personally just prefer this pencil because it brightens and yet it doesn't look too shimmery. So I just really like it. I think it's one of those pencils that's indispensable for anybody. And then I'm going to go right up underneath the brow. And I'm going to give the brow a little lift. Did you see how I just did just like a third of the brow? But I went right into the arch area. And what I'm gonna do is I'm just going to blend it with my finger and you're done. It's so quick, it's so easy. But look at the difference. Like this eye looks bright and light and lifted and this eye looks like, yeah, it doesn't look very good. It looks dark, it looks overdone. The eyebrow looks like, you know what, it's just not a good look. Okay, this is the last thing with the eyeshadow. So I'm gonna go in with that original color and I'm gonna mix it, wrong eye is what we're doing. I'm gonna mix it with the darkest one we did. So those two are gonna get mixed together on a pencil brush. And then what I'm gonna do is I'm just gonna go in and I'm going to line this eye. The mistake I'm gonna make with this eye is I'm making it too dark. I'm making it too big and I'm bringing it over too far. Here's another mistake. Lining that waterline with black. I didn't even have a black pencil anymore. I don't use them. But I do have this dark navy that almost looks black from Stila. So I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna line that waterline. That brought that eye smaller even further. Occasionally I will put a nude color in there. I'll just put a new color in there for the purposes of today's demo just so that you can see how much brighter that eye looks. Now for the liner, just going to take and I'm gonna clean that brush off. By the way, this is a refer 03 brush. Refers are all on sale. Buy one, get one free if you're interested. Next I'm gonna take that color that we used for the liner on the other side as well. But I'm going to go into a little bit lighter and I'm just gonna try and make it a little bit lighter than it was. And then I'm going to only take it to the outer like third. You might need to go in. I feel like I need a little bit more color there. I like eyeliner. I know that a lot of people don't even do eyeliner on the bottom anymore, but I do like eyeliner. So I'm gonna go back in and I'm gonna pick up those two colors again. When you do this, push up towards the tail of the brow. Again, and after you get the saturation that you want on there, you can just run it very lightly into the inner part of the eye if you like that. That's totally up to you. I like it a little bit more. Okay, so the tip number four was doing in the waterline. The correct thing that I do for myself is I do the top line. And the reason that I do the top line is because I want my lashes to look a little bit thicker. Now, a lot of you do up underneath here and you do waterline that's underneath the lashes. That's perfectly fine. If that's something that you've been doing, then keep doing it. Don't think that I'm the be-all and the end-all. I'm just showing you what works and what I've seen for a long time. I'm taking a really super fine liner from Maybelline and I'm going to, as tight as I possibly can, line this eye. And the other thing is don't cheat yourself by not going clear down into that corner. You don't want to start it out here. If you started out here, then what it would look like is your eye would look smaller because you wouldn't be using all of the space on your eye. So make sure that you go clear down and yes, I will shake. But I'm just touching. This kind of helps a lot because if you do have a trimmer or you do have problems with eyeliner, just stamp it. Kind of go in in stamping motions instead of pulling it. It really will help you because you'll be able to feel the lash line and you'll be able to work all of this into the lash line instead of having it stop. Now, I usually stop right here, but recently I've been doing it all the way down but I've kind of been kicking it out with the tip or flicking it out with the tip so that that becomes just a little bit wider, not trying to make a wing, just making it a little bit wider so that even though I'm going down on my eyes and I actually don't go clear down into the corner, but even though I'm going down on my eyes, I am making that a little wider so it looks just a tiny bit more lifted. Now let's do a liner on this side just for giggles. This is a good liner. You just have to be careful because it can get too thick on you. So I'm going to do a really thick line. See, I'm just trying to pull this across and even though I'm doing a fairly good job of keeping the line even, it's getting really thick really quickly instead of if I were to just lay it sideways and stamp. So again, we're closing that eye up instead of opening it. Okay, mistake number five is not taking enough time with your mascara. And I feel like this is such a huge thing. I'm going to put one coat on here and this is a new tube of CoverGirl Exhibitionist which I love, but because it's a new tube, it's going to also give me a few little clumpies. So if I was just to put one coat on, it's going to look fine, but it's not going to look like what my normal eyelashes would look like. Okay, on this side, I am going to take the elf. This is, let's see, lash it loud. This is one of my favorite mascaras. I absolutely love this. This is a new tube of this one too, but I like this brush because it really does define and lift and that's what I want right now. I can go back in in a few minutes and I can do the thickening or the volumizing, but right now I just want it to define and catch every single lash that I have. I pay a lot of attention to the root of the eyelash and I pay a lot of attention to these little bitty hairs on the inside. I also really, really brush through and I try to get every single hair coated and separated because I have long lashes because of my eyelash serum, but I don't have a lot of lashes to begin with. Now, I also will go underneath my lashes or on the top of my lashes, I guess, and I will pull them down because I want to tip those lashes. Then I'll bring the mascara under again and pull up the lashes once again. For me, I always feel kind of naked if I don't have lashes on the bottom, mascara on the bottom, so I just do that. I'm also going back in with a second coat to catch everyone and to tip these lashes really well so that they get their most length possible. Okay, we're done. What do you guys think of the five mistakes? I really feel like this could really aid you really fast. This eye is bringing it up. It's really working with what's natural but enhancing what's natural. I feel like this eye looks softer. It's a more youthful look. This eye just looks punk to me. It really does look like the punk ear that we used to do. So I hope that you did enjoy this tutorial today. It was all kinds of fun for me. Tell me what you think of the two looks. Tell me what you feel like could have been done better, could have been avoided on ear eye. If you don't like this, I've been let me know that too. I would love to hear that from you. So I hope that you're all doing well. I love you very much. We're gonna put up a video right here that will be some more tips and tricks on aging eyes and I'll put that up right here for you so that you can see it. Thanks so much for being with me today. Take care of yourselves and I'll catch you in my next video. Bye, my friends.