 Honestly, it's a month's problem. Why is it a problem? Do you know why? Anafaku jarebu. Anafaku jarebu. I'm a student. I love to share. You can see maybe I'm doing as children. So I'm a journalist. Meaning the next two to three years, I'm going to a top of a better future. I say. But this is how it is. Asha make it. Ako 30, 35. What am I supposed to do? That's enough. I find it. Okay, but you know. Apart from kufu liza, I find. You know why I feel like this story has hold a little bit. Yeah, I made sure to effort. Mimi nimi wana wanome wana travel. Distances. Kuna tu de moja. Moja tu. Yeni ujituai nairobi. Ata ujiwe yuta rudi. Bora tu fike umone. I've seen people flying in just to see other people. Yani. Ndege. Ame save, save, save, save. Iwi tu. Udi aniwone trivi afrai. Yeah. So kido ga puna nipima. Okay, asa kusemati. No. I don't know one thing about men, this boy's child. They can put effort. Ni wagu muskuizi. Uh-oh. Si ku dagani. Oh. Just tell them that need to make a credit at 50. Onajua atasi jali parent. Onajua. No, no, no. I'm going to make a credit at 50. I don't need to give me such craft. Number two, like, I will try. I'm taken. But you can talk to me for a lot of stories. I'm going to talk to you. In any pro book. What's the need of me having you? But also sponsors. They don't say, they're different kind of sponsors. Kuna wala utu mazaizo. Aama kuna wala. They'll just see that text. Napaise kota patalabdo. Si ku ama kenshi. There's no difference. So you're talking to me? The main point is, there's a big difference in action around me to do here. Me, I'm talking from experience. I have this neighbor of mine. Whom, in that scenario, a kuna those two types, a kuna boy chel mune, he'll tell you to ma fair, emaze, me am hololi, kum boy chel ana jile, ana jile tana. A kuna this guy will is kum kum ta futa, and I'm spoiled. But they can love so, and I'll peda boy chel sana. But she there here is loyalty. You're not loyal. You see. Whether it's we're not loyal. Yeah, ladies are not loyal. Kusamu boy chel ana. Things have changed. But you're loyal for a kum. Mr. Sir. We'll continue to fair to you later. But for you, you are double dealing. Una tumia, manu me fair kweni? Una mene kutumia kredo, kweni? Wow. Nimi CAZ, tumia manu me pesa unless, unless ame finika kabise. Mami yo pesa, yo pesa. Watcha ni kwenbe keta fanyika. Atakwenbe, let's go home. Meme beta nukome gombana jan. Nene yo home nimi mebe kwa ke. Ame place ana kaka. Yo baby, let's go home. Unenda kumpea. Kwanzuna me lipea first. Okay. Yo fair, iniangetumia. Analipa kwenda kuna side trick afterware. Okay. Ujifanya mizuri, umbe ya chakula. Nga, sauna jebenim janja. So, baya ati, cha po dondo, kenye na faku malizua sayo. Nambe asti maiai, asti nini. Atazi beba evo vio, teveni umbe. Ape neke kwengine. Nana tana me provided. Kwenye me toaka? Asma baby, maja nandu ku letea. I knew, I was thinking about you and uli fuli ango poa sana jana. So I just had to say thank you. By the way, from my own experience, ala, I dated a guy. Oho. Yes. And then, I don't know, kamili kuwa batim, zuri ama batim, but the other day, I was always broke, you know. And I was still in campus, dad used to support me in everything. I used to stay in a bed-seater. So like, if it was Friday, he calls me. He was homeless. He was homeless. So me and like. Asha pika gate. Yes. That's affection. Weh weh. Affection. Weh weh. Affection. Listen to me. Oh. And then, he used to come up with a block. I was like, actually I was in the U.N. I was like, tunawana. Tunawana. Tunawana. But I only had 50 bb. Mm hmm. So me and like. Lazi mani danga nye mzaia, gasimisha, sinadoya, shopping. And then, he told me, I'm like, don't worry, we can just support you. Oh. Because what I felt for him was, real. That's true. Yeah. And then, imagine, we can put you out. The next thing, we can get your status. Status. I'm a Facebook. Tuko na ma drinks, na my ex. Wasana chafuwa, nambia boys, itisha na kumkulipa. And then another time, he told me, I need like 10 Gs. Mm hmm. Una jabuda kwa kosawa. See, maybe you can. Nika, mi, 7 Suzan guni, kwenazo, mi neza kupatia, kwa he said, healthy fund. Oh God. And because of love, I gave him the money. Yeah. Do you know what he did? I didn't know what he did. I didn't know what he did. I didn't know what he did. Potrait, with 6000. Potrait, we used to stay at seasons. Mm hmm. And then he called me kwa nambia, hi, mi kwa pa equity. That's right. There's something I want to tell you, whether I've never loved you. Ah ah, why? I swear, that's what he said. I've never loved you. I've been trying to love you, but he may fail you. Ah ah, I prefer. I've told you too, me fanya. Wait, wait, no, no, ongoja, ongoja. Okay. He was forcing himself to me, into me. Let me explain to you. In fact, this is, I'm really glad you brought that up because this is why we're on this topic today. Now, imagine, ume jipa, like you've given your heart and your body and your mind to someone like that. Nuna jo kipenda, ni kama woni. It's like a cloud, especially when it becomes physical, when you become intimate, physically intimate, wezi rizon atisana, but I used to have a friend who used to tell me, ui atokpate tu gono rea manze, achatu nae. Naskuwa, unalani chevra. In fact, I wish tinge nika mali kwa it was exactly the truth. Girls, when you give yourself, it's not the same as when a guy gives himself. Sisi tu kuna, sizi widi, ni tu na deposit feelings, na tu juiziku apu. Yes, he starts me. Let me tell you. You start him. No, we ladies, na pena na rohoe tu yote. Na sisi main. Na sisi main ni, na sisi wabi. Na sisi main ni na kwa kwa opposite. Mwenyo na penda, kwa pendi. Me think nisa God mas. Na wana naka kwa penda. Na wana naka kwa penda. Na wana naka kwa penda. No, na kwa penda. Yeni, that person is always there at... Sisi, you up up again. Up up again. Up up again. Ana kwa kupendwa na mependwa. Up up again. Nimeu sure. Nimeu sure. Sisi yoni level of maturity, sisi sasa guys. That's another level of maturity. So what kind of maturity is this one? Nga, We started with financial gain. Let's go to Demand Commitment. Ushai kana, weni wena address asa. Ushai kana de mivi o maonana, but of course manome kamawe wana kakwa na supporting agents. So piya wana wana awo. And then suddenly she decides she wants to be the main chick. Na danyana wana to seal this deal niku gawa kujipa ya ni, physical intimacy. But that's not the same for you, is it? Aposiyu kutisama tu, eh, tuliku wana eja ano siku. For the guys, kujigawa, you're in contention of being the main chick. For the guys, if awo maname, jigawa kwa ko. And the leading contention is called the main chick. So I'm not sure if I'm the lady. Okay, before you continue with your comment, umeske beno munkia, so now it should be a race. So kwa wana wana awo wili, mwenyata gawa kwanza ndiata kwa. We say if I'm not having the same amount of time on them, financially piya on them, and she or Uyu, I like you, start hugging me tight, kissing me. Ata kwa na lead on the race. That's natural. All right. But ula ki kawiya, wana kawiya wana libo. But piya, as my territory as a man, I want that power to make sure I get both of them. Thank you. Thank you. Because once you fight your sister at it, to get this one money. Okay, you fought your sister. Umem tukana umo mwambia, I am better than you. I can do this better than you. Eh, we fight. Aya, usha gawa na naku. Ata chokatu na wewe, immediately after umu nyesa na ringa. No, no, no, no, no. Let's tell the truth. Let's tell the truth. Because mwana mwano ume anezaka na mstana na nashletokim sumbuwa, just because she said no. Like, you need to drive. Eh, you see. America, Ajay. Ajay. Ajay. Ajay. Ipaka ni gongi manze Ajay. Telling me no. But kuleze niwa wana gongi na nabaki na kunae niwa na Peters. Sir, it depends piya. But wana wana fanya igo by the way. That's so unfair. So na feeling niya Ajay. Chikni, spanya niya. And this is why I am able o na i mean. This meme is important. Girls nowadays changing boyfriends like I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it. Jumuna tusumbuwa iitaun. That is true. Waja, wana iiki tu jaana. Nime siya kumbewewe mne bawa mwini, mfa ni sa jaana niti kuwana e. And like, let's say siji ni po. Ni nisi jii. It's a good language kutume lakini. Anapitei processi nene. You want to be intimate with someone. So, since I stayed with my girlfriend. Nene fikia wana optima, wana feel like he wants a guy around. So, I want to feel kind of jealousy or something. So, like, aka ansaku, aka kolbo icha. Uko api kuja. Ani kuna exams I can't come. Aka kolbo mingini. Uko api kuja. Niki spati kani leo. Baka Friday. But she was insisting anataftam tuwa. Your time. So, girls are like this these days. Ipia aki kusahu yu. Ananda kuahu yu. Aki kusahu yu. Ananda kuahu yu. Jumuna tusumbuwa maze. No, that's what I say. You cannot control expectation in a dame's cuisine. Kus they are not loyal, they cannot be trusted. A limit of correction. They are not loyal, you cannot be corrected. Ku ym demo kujaim korrekt aka shikala ei ni? See, demo yung neighbor. Segima indiisina dhe moa ni. HeIDI. Ya! See, you are still a real girlfriend. Kwa korungenini? Okay mama, ezoこれは kusu na dame tu nata kimi hataka. Ma exclokiyo na kumbe acha hii. It's bad. Na acha, wu shei mumbe ka kachaku skia? Is she not loyal to you? She is, I feel she is. How sure are you? You feel she is. I'm sure as a man I know. That means you're still insecure about her. Insecurity is part of the relationship. And again let me tell you, wu neza seima sisi ma dem we are not loyal. Girls are different. We have different categories. Yia anakatu wa with several guys, but anona to know I have to stick with this one. Atu kim call, atu um text adyeshia never respond to that text. Not every girl is just loyal by the name. So you see that's what I was saying. Sometimes ladies don't like staying the relationship for long. They don't try to try to try and try and try with the man. You see like her, the boy was using her for a man financial game. But unge kwa umtua ma ana ma umtupua unge manage financial. Unge muleza this is wrong babe. Fanya evi, take this, use this. Pull up, pull up, pull up, pull up. What did you just say? Atu ange kwa wama ana. A relationship we are about to teach you sir. When you are a man, okay. Let's know one, no one. Ni kwa ma ana bado. Ni veneha kutambua nili kwa wama ana. But it was wrong for you to just pull off relationship because of finance. Do you know what I did? Actually I tried. I swallowed everything. Like nili pretend. But you're not doing. Sijui, sijui. And then the guy was rude. Smya ke ane katua apo. Ane sevulem ginebeb. Mini neseviwa masi Jackson because my dad is Jackson. Haya. Yes. La ni kifitia asibu kwa bafu ni bae. Ni kwa kwa apu ni bae. Inama adi screensaver. Hame muika like they were together. I don't know where. Nako kwa kwa? Yes. No lima nge jaji kana. Do you know what I did? Nili e na nyumbani. Atani mafunga shule. I sobbed. Nili e na ni convinced. For almost three weeks. No communication. And then I was like. Beb modo me nyamaaza mi am like. Oya we need to talk. Onaja ni kikasiri kaya. Let's use those. Oh yeah. I'm like. Oya we need to talk. And then his friend ali ni koala. Kanembe ya. By the way, uboi. Be very careful with him. Manasima tua kwa apu just for the sake. Uhu nama sa idea. Uhu nama boost. Kanembe ok. So I was expecting that guy to tell me the truth. Ako nama dem. In fact, same dem. Ma dem. In Dikeiwat. In Maselo. Bebi. And Eldorette River. Eldorette Kodi. But apart from finance. Ako nama fadikula kitu. And defend. Yeah. Ya na uli zaka li kwa na service visori. That is what I ask. You come to my house. I take responsibility of everything. I feed you. Na kunu. Are you imagining the class kuma hatya skumoda? That's right. Alafu alafatembe kwa kukapa niya. Uji ujiwi. Anakapu wiki moda. Oh my gosh. Why is it wrong for a lady to finance the guy? It's not wrong. It's not wrong. But you're not... She was being... It would be wrong the other way around as well. So it wasn't right for a guy to use her for financial gain. And in the same way it's not right for us to use someone else for financial gain. Sponyo anataka kumia pesa na minataka ku receive pesa. So are you right now in a good relationship? Ya. I mean a very, very perfect relationship. I'm about to hug you. Because everything that comes after nonsense like that is goodness. We know what happens after you in a very messy relationship. Mwenyuna pata. We are always open by the way. Mambia mimi kwenye ni metoka. I wouldn't want to repeat. Traumatized. If you're heading there just let me be. Natu nga time ya kwaise. And some days I'm very understanding. They're like, hey, I'll try my best. I cannot promise you the best but I'll try. That's what happens. So easy. In fact that's due to an anikwa al pakase. And I'm like, hey, can I see you? I'm like, no. I'm busy. You'll see me in heaven. Mwenyuna jibuneza payapu boychaz. Because everything they did to me. Bado na ikumbuka. So there's no way I can just sit around with such a person. It's good to forgive. But it's important to not forget. Like we're kumbuka. Usi sahoundoji. But oh my God, he still loves me. We are meshed to be together. We are so meshed. But what happens to giving chances? Giving chances. Haiva. Tabia zili kwa zama chali. Se sama demo mech kwa yote. Mi misyoni difference is crazy. What to what any players. Do you think that's true? No. No. Let me say something. Say something. For us ladies, not all ladies are players, by the way. Not all men are players. Yes. That's what I believe. If you treat your girl right, if you treat your girl right, there is no way I talk to her, by the way. Yes. I'm sure your affection, love, yanyuna jali. Everything unam. Adi eguni explaini. Pohi ni say na kumbuka. For example, stop going around with other girls. Number one, maybe that's important. When you're giving attention, you give her make her your first priority. Attention kuskiza. You're my queen. Yes. Teach your queen like they way. You're my queen. My queen. All right. Guess we're about to finish. Oh my gosh, time has run out. So we pick one more. And then I hope we can have a part two about this. Which one do you want to pick? Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha. Pia prisha uanzia maybe up in high school, when we're starting to discover ourselves wise to nii knituna memory, oh my gosh, wise to ya change, change cones, wise ununa ka,hluka. And then maybe you're developing faster than me and me ba ronii kon Ng Comp ashoqa na to sport na wealsha nii. Noibhooka Zeroاخa n servitik waz o skya. Tata nii, ine starafs Gibrae complicated malzai. Whether nii will quenya. Wuduji. And then now Nga nama Meiwa, krumazi niya kama kata, kwa na kutaki, nakawezi niya kwa na kutaki, nakawezi niya kwa nakawezia. Nga wama na kutati, nakawezi niya, noi wama na kutati, na kutati na Nga survanti na A man. Nga wama na boomen, kwa kutati, nakawezi niya kwa kutati. Fulmisha nakawezi niya kwa. Umeskem tu anapenda, bakata anapenda 2 pesa na umingina nanda kufaia fiaia viitu. Na pemin menfkani kia by the, siyati. Oh, you must understand, it's not about not giving completely, like in a perfect waltz tu ngegoja siwote, we marriage and then we do the thing, but it's not a perfect world. So you have to guard your heart, you know, you must be, I can't emphasize enough, you must be careful. Muskeven, you anongia, yeah? He's a don't care, he's a don't care. In fact the guy who, one of the, no it was just one, ali kwa na niyembia, you know Valme stopped caring a long time ago and I used to be so impressed and like wow, you so brave, you don't care about what people think. It means he also doesn't care what you think and how you feel, okay. Mek shuwa, you shake, guys. Can we wrap this up, your last words before we go? Tweeti shepaj tu. Okay, my parts. Ngependa kusema about intimacy. During the old days, during the old days, tulikwangagad na, our grannies were guided with, iso moral, sunacheki, but nowadays we copy from the western culture, we are like kamao na fanya, mbonasi tu si fanya. Like kwa zungu at 16, you're an old person. Na sisi we are still young. So we tend to like copy from other culture. Tungi kwa tunafuata iso nomsinza kitambo, like in the centuries 19, tungi kwa saizi we are still those respectable women in the society, we are still intact until marriage, of which saizi ningumu because of so many things kwa achizi ma programs usina to spoil. Mewo. Always be careful. I like to say to jupenda, let us love ourselves. Kijupenda, you know your worth. Once you love yourself, you know your worth, you know your value, you won't want anyone to bring you down to, like shatter your dreams down, juia, izibtinda gundoge relationship. And I like to tell my fellow guys and girls out here, say no to sex before marriage. No, sex before marriage is bad. No, I'm staying, I'm staying. There is okimu yukweinja, kila ugunja yukweinja, wait for that perfect guy on Mr. Right, atakuja tu. There's never Mr. Right. He's on the left side, you just drag him to the right side. Yes, Mr. Right is okimu. But there's never, you'll never find Mr. Right. Mr. Right is okimu. A bow, wrap up. Nani miskea, boichi al ruko jwa kusugia bako. Boichi al nuna kahawa, nuna lunch, kenda sana nuna dina. Don't overdo it. Don't kill yourself. It's only dating. Sex is part of the relationship. I am an advocate of sex myself. So sex is part of the relationship.