 The first live video of five or six weeks, I've been on here for a while, as many of you already know, I was targeted by the narcissist, but I can't say too much about it because I don't want to experience any more financial trouble, as you know I have been targeted. But yeah, what I would like to do is get things back to normal on you and just start doing things the way that I did before. As you know I am very passionate about helping people all over the world, improving your lives, helping you to overcome toxic people. That's what this is all about. So yeah, I'm just happy that I can get back to doing that. So let's just get into this. Why does the narcissist come back again and again? When they discard you or you leave them, why can't it just be over? Like a normal relationship? You have problems, disagreements, fights, you'd think it would just be over after that, but no it doesn't work that way with the narcissist because let's say you left, you chose to leave the narcissist, they look at it like you can't just decide that on your own. Like they have to agree to it, they have to say as well okay fine it's over, that's the way you look at it. But also if the narcissist discards you, it's never permanent, they could discard you in one moment but then they just come back like nothing happened, as though they never did any thing. They just come back again and again, they come back because they're not finished with you. Maybe they want more supply, think that you may still be susceptible to their manipulation. There could be other things, maybe they want money or place to stay or it could be for sexual purposes. There's a reason why they keep coming back, they're getting something out of it, it's fueling them in some shape or form. If that was not the case they would be long gone and you would never hear from them again. They come back because they're getting something and if they weren't getting nothing then you see even in situations where you would think there's no reason for them to come back. Like let's say in many situations people lose everything when they're involved with these narcissists. They lose everything, they're miserable, you would think they have nothing to give but the narcissist still comes back because that's fuel for them to see you down and miserable about fuels the narcissist. They want to see you down but then even when you're up they're still coming back even then because they can get something out of it or they can sabotage it and that fuels them. There's always something. The only time the narcissist won't come back is when they're too busy occupied with what they perceive to be something better and that's when you want to see them for a while or the other option is they just want to make you think they don't need you. It's one of those two things. It's either they're occupied with something else which they think is a better option or they just want to make you think that they don't need you anymore but otherwise they will keep coming back. They will keep coming again and again and they'll never leave you alone because you have what they want. You have it and they want it and that's all you really need to know. Now they're just not going to stop. You have what they want. They will just keep coming back again and again and you'll just be wondering when is it going to end but now in many situations it just can't end because you're like their life support. You're keeping them alive emotionally. If they lose you, if they lose you themselves because you are validating their false self, you are supporting the illusion. So in many situations, of course, the only option is to come back again and again and if they can't access you in person or on social media, they'll talk to people who know you and then that's keeping them going because there has to be some form of access to you because otherwise they wouldn't last a day. Narcissists can't go even a day without some form of contact even if it's indirectly there has to be something otherwise they would go insane. They wouldn't be able to cope unless, as I said, there's something that they think is better that's keeping them going or they will just play that waiting game with their acting like they don't need you or secretly they're hoping that you'll get back in contact with them again but you know come on let's just let's be real here like you're all just sitting back hoping they stay away. I mean you know you're all probably sick of validating the illusion you don't want to be involved in that anymore but yeah you know the Narcissists doesn't get it they're looking at it like you need them but they're only thinking like that because that's what validates the illusion deep down they know you don't really need them they know they've got nothing to bring to you they're aware of that deep down but on the surface they have to cover that up to protect the false self and to survive emotionally that's the purpose of the disorder because yeah it's as crazy as it sounds you know the disorder does have a purpose there's a reason for it it's to protect them helps them to cope and it defends them against these feelings and views of themselves that they don't like the disorder has a purpose but the disorder doesn't function very well when they're on their own without a source of supply so of course yeah they will keep coming back again and again and again not gonna stop all you can really do is protect yourself and even family members and friends yes you may have to cut them off as well if they're in contact with the Narcissist it's just something you have to do emotional health because otherwise you're still indirectly and it's still going to have an effect on you it's a lot worse than a normal relationship it really is a normal breakup is hard enough but this is a hundred times worse because you just don't even know when it's going to end it's like it feels like it's going to go on forever and sometimes it does last for entire lifetimes until one of you dies because they just don't know when to stop a lot of them can't stop it's like a life or death situation for them to leave you and many of you will see that and how they react to you when you try to leave you cut contact with them just look at how they react they go insane and that's how you can tell how desperately they need you it's for their emotional security and stability when you leave that's when you'll see how unstable they really are that's when you'll really see the disorder because as long as they have their supply that's what's keeping them in order but yeah that's why the narcissist keeps coming back again and again that's why anyway I hope that this video has been helpful for you I'm just out here at the beach and there will be many more live videos coming soon I want to do them more often now more often than before and I just have to say thank you to all of you for supporting my work I was gone for about five weeks and it really shows you know what a strong community we have for me to go for five weeks and still every day we had about 20,000 views per day and I didn't post a single video for about five weeks and now I've come back and straight away it's jumped up to over 30,000 views a day and I know that it's gonna keep growing we have a really strong community on here and I'm so grateful for all of your support I know I've helped all of you but honestly I don't know where it be without you so thank you all for supporting our community it means a lot to me it means a lot to all of us and I will talk to you in another live video very soon