 sometimes you have to create your own closure in life. You have to curate and tailor in a bespoke way what looks like closure for you. It may not be what you first anticipated it would look like because what you anticipated and your preferred version would have involved someone's cooperation. The best closures are like that I think but many closures in life cannot be that way because the person that you need to give you that perfect closure either can't because they've passed away or they're not capable or able to because of some physical disability or something in the aging process or you can't find them and they're not contactable or you can but they don't want to be participating in it which is my father's case and so you can't rely on their cooperation to give you the kind of closure that you really wish you could have.