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I'm going to spell that for you. S-I-O-B-H-A-N-N-I-C-O-L-A-O-U.com. With that, I welcome Siobhan to the Dare to Dream show. Welcome, Siobhan. Great to have you. Thank you so much. That is like an Irish name and a what name. How did that happen? Well, actually, it's an Irish name. It's Gaelic, and so it's not really common over here. I'm not Irish at all. I got my name in a golf club deal. Nicolaou is a Greek name, and that's ex-husband's name, and we have all these names. But yeah, Siobhan is more of a vibration to me, and I got the name given to me. Beautiful. I think it's really interesting in your bio where it says you're a natural, clear sentient, clear voyant, clear audience. I am clear sentient and clear voyant. I don't think I'm clear audience. What does that mean by natural before those words? Well, I feel that there are people that go to have go to classes to develop these skills and which everybody is to a certain degree. Absolutely. It's just we have emotional energy in the way of accessing them a lot. How much we're conditioned when we're a child. Absolutely. Can have an effect on our ability to utilize our gifts as we get older. I was just always this way. I was wide open and a natural medium, if you will, and energy was, I was very much influenced by my environment growing up. It was very hard to live in my home and then feel my way out of it. Oh my God, I relate to that so much. Yeah. It's very hard. It's hard when you go up where there's a lot of darkness. Yes. And then for anybody, obviously, but then on top of it, when you're an Uber sensitive. Correct. I don't know about you. I didn't know. I didn't understand what the heck. I didn't even really, I don't think very much. I'm in the mindlessness category. I don't even know what mindfulness means. It's like a trend or something now. I think it means self-awareness in my world, just being more self-aware. And no, I didn't know anything. I didn't know why I was sick all the time. I didn't know why I was shredded emotionally. I didn't know why I chewed my fingers to bleed. I didn't know why I was sick, you know? And it was just that my being didn't know how to process the amount of intensity in my environment. So I manifested illness and experienced seeing my first spirit. Well, the first time I experienced it or remembered experience, it was at seven years old. And, you know, before that, I'm sure I was seeing all kinds of things, but not knowing what I was seeing. Amazing. Yeah. We're going to talk about a lot of things today. Okay. One of which, including, but many other things because you offer so much is your book. And here we are, The Absence of Evil, and this is Siobhan's book. And this is a memoir. And it takes the reader on a journey with you in your life and it goes from innocence, innocent chewing little child, sick little child, to the awakening being that you are right now. When you were writing the book, because I'm a book writing coach, because I get fascinated, was it hard for you to remember so much of your life? And then if whatever that process was, was it hard for you to share your story and get it out? Well, I wrote my first edition of this book. I wrote it all out longhand and burned it in about 1998 because I was still working through so much that it was just about the story at that point. I was still in the process of learning how to transform emotional energy to free myself from the bondage of illusion. And so I burned it. And of course, the mother and we moved and life has moved extremely fast for me, it always does. And so it really fast forward to, and then I wrote another manuscript and I hung on to it and hung on to it. And I just compiled all these dream journals, like hundreds of dream journals. I think the way I'm able to remember my experience as a child so well is because I am so sensitive that I literally imprint everything on every level. So if I'm looking, I can experience a bowl with salad on 12 levels if I want, because it's just not salad. It's so many feelings and so many other things to relate to about salad or the C, the A, G and C. It's imprinting everything with my senses. So it was the cyclical counterparts to my outer senses were very, very developed when I was young. And so it leads to being able to recall it from a deeper level than just the mind or the memory. And so I wrote another manuscript and then life got really busy and raising my daughter and making sure she's all set and all that. And it wasn't until she graduated from college that I literally felt this weight lift off my shoulders physically, I felt it lift. And then I was inspired to pick it up again and go for it and then it became what it is. And published, so that's a big deal, I know. So I know that Albert Einstein's quote is important to you. You cannot solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it. What does that mean to you, Siobhan? It is, there's so many wonderful sayings and they're so wise, but to me it's not enough to just agree with something. It was really important to have the experience of something and then be able to agree with it. And people say, yes, it's higher consciousness, yet they still continue to argue and fight on the battlefield of duality, trying to change the world. And what we work with in this teaching is just non-resistance and that's how you overcome non-duality, self-love and non-resistance. You just can't recognize duality and be fighting in it and be whole at the same time. So when you become self-aware, then we have tools to transform that emotional energy that's just simply a byproduct of coming into physicality. If you take on a body, you're gonna have emotional energy. It begins being, you begin being influenced by it and permeated by it from the time you're conceived. So as soon as the form starts to take shape or conception, then the emotional energy that's in the environment that is part of the world begins to also be created within the physical form. And so by the time you're born, you're just vibrating all of these waves of energy from a lower band of frequencies, a band of lower frequencies. And then they start to create and bring back your reality to you. You start to experience it as if it's a real. And then about the time you're eight, that's one of the greatest things from Bruce Lipton some many years ago. He said pretty much the same thing, but what I've discovered through my experience of it is he's absolutely correct. And then it's about eight years old when the mind starts to form. And then you split off from how you feel and learn how to survive in the world. So all of your emotional baggage in this life is created from the time you're conceived till you're about eight. There's a whole episode in your book. And it talks about the difficult marriage that you went through. And the family that was attached to that marriage and just catching me up to right now based on everything I read here, I would assume you're not still in touch with the mother-in-law, but I'm just checking in with you to see, are you free and clear? Well, it's so funny after all those years and when I began my healing, she was really a huge reflection for me in my soul searching because beyond just the initial emotional energy we come in with this life, it's all in resonance that we bring back the soul that we've left here before. And so every time we pass, we leave another imprint of emotional energy behind. That's what the soul actually is. That's the way most humans normally experience the soul. You can transform the soul. The subtitle of my book is Love's Reclamation of the Soul. So you can reclaim the lower soul by turning it back into the love it doesn't know itself to be. And that's what we teach people how to do and that's what I've been doing for years. So when she showed up, it was a real interesting time on the other side of that I found these tools and then doing the deeper work, I discovered the part of myself that was her before. And my emotional energy I left in what they want to call past lives that really don't exist. It's all the now. It catches up with you and then you get reflections in other people that most people want to blame for their experience rather than own it and heal it within themselves. And so we teach people how to take responsibility for what shows up and how to transform it from the inside out. So to answer your question, no, I don't need to have anything to do with her. I got the best daughter in the world out of the whole deal and she's just amazing. But other than that, no, the family, you just bless them and let them go. I did find all these years later, probably about three years ago, well, when I was in California when I left Boston, I was lying down on the bed one day and I saw, it was like the twilight sleep that I'm often in when I experienced these things. And it was someone standing over me and put a black widow right in my third eye. And I woke up kind of startled and I went, well, that was interesting and I didn't think anything of it. I didn't connect anything. I don't think about it. I just thought it was interesting. So probably five years later, I was relaxing at a cabin in Tahoe that was really beautiful in the winter and I was listening to something that was taking me very deep in front of the fire. And I felt this web break around me and the spider fall to the floor and I just saw myself smash it and her face showed up. So there are energies that people, their thoughts and their feelings will hang on for a while. So I don't know what she's still hanging on to do but I'm pretty clear now. Yeah, can I have a question because you use the word we a lot. Yeah. We don't need that anymore. Who are you referring to? Well, we is the collective. Like my spirit is source energy and they are a part of a whole of who I am. You know, I am all part of a whole of who we are. And so it's not really me. I don't identify with a separate personality. I am that, the collective we. Okay, makes sense. So before we go forward because you do really interesting work and reading about all the stuff you do, God, it made so much sense. Thank you. So share a little bit. So folks understand what is the work you do today? Well, if I'm working with someone, I mean, it doesn't matter what they come to me with. We focus on the origin of the issue and it all begins and ends within your emotional body. And so if you work with a problem on the same level of consciousness that created it, then you're never gonna get over the problem. And so there's that saying again. And so what we do is we work with helping them get connected to the love that they actually are and then working with that consciousness consciously to overcome that which doesn't know itself to be love and appears as a negative emotion or a bad experience. We help people focus inward to solve a problem rather than trying to manipulate it in external reality. The tools that we use are golden light and meditation. Oftentimes I mean, spirit is really running the show when I give someone a reading or they come to us for a problem. If they come to us for a reading then we kind of condense things. Oftentimes the spirit will have me give them an activation depending upon where they are and what's going to be most beneficial. And then we just do what we're inspired to do. Oftentimes it's starting them with a meditation or helping them connect the dots within themselves. We have a whole lot of different things that we do to help people and it's all inspired in the moment. And talk about the home piece because I think what you do at home. Well, it's interesting that I've found over so many years and spirit as you can tell in my book has just moved my life very quickly and putting me in a lot of scenarios to just do the work. I never thought about it. I never went to a class. I just, I don't know how I knew what to do but I didn't. And so houses are like bodies just and they accumulate negative emotion just like a body does. So here we have this beautiful home on a virgin piece of land which doesn't really exist on the planet. But you know and say it's just people move into it with their stuff. So they take their emotional energy with them and all their dramas are filling that home. And so you can have everything from emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, all of that and it's dumped into the home. You can even have a family that seems to live pretty calm but yet they're in their head a lot and generating other energies while they deny their feeling level. And that all becomes part of the house. It becomes the air of the house, the energy of the house which is invisible yet over time it will permeate the walls themselves. There's been few times I've gone into house and just touched the wall. I know the room I'm standing in. I know what's been said, I can hear it in the walls. The emotional energy stays in the walls. So what we do is very unique because we transform the energy. So we transform even the structure of the house. Can you do it remotely too? I do a lot of work remotely and it's really profound. It takes a lot of energy that you have lots of testimonials to that. What does that look like? Cause I'm really fascinated. Like how, is it one session or how? Well, if someone comes to me with a house that's upset or they're buying it and it has a history. I can tune into the house while I'm talking to them and see it inside and kind of feel where things are within it and kind of get an idea of what happened. I just make an appointment with them to either visit the house or work with it remotely. So they get a consultation on that and we kind of talk about things that are happening and spirit guides me as to whether I'm supposed to show it physically or not. And it takes a lot more energy to do it remotely because it takes time to be able to focus. But yeah, we've done some amazing work from thousands of miles away, clearing energies of murders and other things like that. And it's not just the soul. People say, oh, you just clear the soul. Well, it's really not no clearing going on. It's transformation of everything there just and including the land and the structure. So we work with it continually for the minimum of three months after I do the initial work on the house. Beautiful. Yeah. When you use those words, what is the difference between a spirit to you between a spirit and a soul? Well, I feel that spirit is, okay, in the normal human experience, soul is negative emotion. Transformation of the soul reclaims the light of the soul which then becomes the highest part of itself which is spirit. So they're really not in truth separate but the human experience is separate. So because most people never take the time or bother to love themselves what that really means and the transformation of the negative emotion, then they end up just the body just dies and their imprint stays and the spirit is the purest part and that is just everything. So there is a highest frequency of you that does leave this, we'll not really leave the dimension but it goes into everything else that to a spirit. I find that spirit lives with inside love in this dimension. That is what I've discovered that it is a dimensional difference. So we have the realm of spirit which is the white light truth but it's a different vibration than love itself. Love is a tool for humanity to overcome the duality to arrive at the truth of spirit. So in a normal human experience they're gonna say, okay, the soul is just hangs out on the earth plane which it does until it's reclaimed and the body just dies because that's what the body does. Well, in truth, when you transform enough of your emotional energy you're literally reclaiming the light within the body. The scientists have now proved that the body is made of light, everything is made of light. And so you can reclaim it as such instead of just knowing it. You really, there's a whole process we show people how to do to reclaim the whole of the self and leave nothing or a very little behind if you want. So spirit is really the life-giving source of everything including love. And in this realm, spirit is an aspect of love that lives within the love and gives love life. In the higher realms of spirit, love is an aspect of spirit. And when you say emotions are the root of what causes everything. And so that's what you suss out. So my understanding is that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, meaning that probably the majority are an emotional situation or belief, et cetera. But also there are people who are like, why is this going on? This is so strange. But it's a past life or a parallel life or... Well, it's all the same, it's all now. And all that a past life is, is an emotional imprint you've left behind. The only reason why I'm bringing it up, Siobhan, is because I think that can be very difficult to suss out if you're not living it in this 3D reality right now to understand like what the F is going on when in fact, right, it's an imprint. Right, because people are mostly focused in the external world. And so they're all looking for the answers out there too instead of within where they live and everything has looked within. And you're like, yeah, well, you know, there's a process of deepening your experience and knowing yourself as the consciousness you are, experiencing yourself as the consciousness that you are. And from that platform, you can recreate everything. You can let go of the illusion of disease and, you know, things like that. You really literally get to feel and experience yourself as consciousness. When I do my home that I live in, no matter where I live or whatnot, you know, I make the consciousness within it conscious. Same with my car. So I'm having a completely different experience with this in reality as being, you know, I feel the essence of it as myself. We have a relationship as consciousness. And so people can do that if they want to know themselves first as the consciousness that they are. And therefore having a different experience with everything in the world as more like themselves and separate from it. And it is hard for people to understand because you can't really think this material. You've got to do the work to arrive at this experience and, you know, experience teaches. Yeah. That's... So with what you're saying, how can people make the consciousness of love their dominant vibration? What can you share that might help people who are listening to you? Well, the way that I did it is to begin to work with the golden light. Before I became... Before I was literally told by the beings that I was channeling back in the 90s that they were gonna govern my information because they really wanted me to get that I was the information I was seeking outside of myself and I was like, okay. Well, when I heard about the golden light and it was brought to me, I just hissed at the recorder of my ego who had so much invested in knowing everything. But my life certainly didn't reflect my knowing, which is a lot of cases in a lot of spiritual people. And so working with the golden light tools got me in a golden light meditation to begin, got me to bring it into the body again and again and again and again and again. When you do something, when you see something, and I mean, at first, if I can do this, anybody can. Like I was so mental that I saw myself over here. I couldn't even align myself with it. So I didn't eat, I had no guidance. So I just did what I was shown, you know, where I was. So I was seeing myself over here outside of myself, meditating with the golden light pouring through me over here. So that's how it began for me. And then one day after doing it, it just shifted and I felt it really within me. And so it was a process for me that took sometimes chunks of time in order for something to shift and then lead me to the next step. So we've been cultured for these past 30 years to really help people right now get on the fast track because we're really, we're on a fast track now. So we've been cultured to really get people to open up, wake up, get the tools and get moving. And so the golden light over and over and over. Now that's even evolved into meditation now, which we recommend that people realize that it's not the old times of sitting and meditating and getting up and disconnecting and then sitting back down and meditating again. I laugh at ourselves thinking about how we did it decades ago because it's more of a way of being. And so we work with a set of tools that encourage people to realize that the golden bubble of their being, you know, to work with it consciously every single day and every moment that they can throughout the day to keep it beneath their feet and working with a breathing of the golden light while their eyes are open while they're at work, while they're talking to people, while they're driving their car, while they're in the plane going somewhere, you know. So you continue to make the consciousness you are conscious throughout your day. So the meditations are a lot shorter these days. We work with people on realizing that that being was the consciousness you inhaled when you were born and it's connected to your solar plexus. So that's the spirit or the consciousness we're talking about that higher consciousness you inhale your first breath. That's what they call it the breath of life. And so then it's anchored in the form and it's like a child that's never told when to go to bed at night. It just drifts out of the body, you know, because we are not aware that, you know, hey, pal, you've got this whole temple. How you've got the whole house here just, you know, occupy the whole thing. And so what it teaches one how to do is to get out of their head and you know how humans are really caught up in the mental and how everything looks and external. So the bubble of their being is floating up here usually in the mental and spiritual realms and all of the rest of their physical body is left in the dark, if you will, which, you know, most of the negative emotion lives below the line of the solar plexus. That's why people don't like to occupy, you know, be grounded because then it puts them into feeling mode. And if you don't know what to do with the feelings, it becomes emotions and then you're not wanting to go there at all. So we show people how to stay contained in that presence of their loving being and through all the different disguises I've seen ignorance and, you know, show up. In the unwavering presence of love that I have made conscious within myself and around me, there's only one thing that it can do and that's transform, period. So, I mean, we did the, when Spirit put me in position to transform the energy of the Boston Strangler and how absolutely aggressive that was on Beacon Hill, I had no idea I was being set up for that. I don't look things up, I just don't want to know. I just really don't want to know. So they put me in this place, I had no idea what had happened in the neighborhood actually right across the street and there was a couple of other souls I helped transform too, but that energy was extremely aggressive. And, you know, I just didn't think about it. I just, it would literally was like this huge vortex that would swipe me all the time and try to knock me off and do things to get my attention. And I didn't even know what I was dealing with for a while, but I was seeing the murders in the back of my head while I was trying to work. And were you brought in professionally to work on this house? This was a building, a business and I was going there for a job and I had no clue what went on and I couldn't tell anybody what I was doing. I mean, this is the East Coast. People are not as open as Californians, you know? So I just don't, I don't talk about my work a lot to, you know, the jobs that I go to or anything like that, I'll put it into a book or use it as teaching material, but you just really can't go in and go, hey, guess what? You know, you've got this going on because the look at you like you're crazy because they're not having the same multi-dimensional experience that I am every minute of my life. And this was a pretty intense one. So I stayed there and watched the whole place. You know, the last chapter of my book, Redemption is all about that. And it was really profound how it transformed all the way down to them, you know, figuring out I guess through science that he actually was the murderer. So we really helped it transform through the whole time that it was all discovered. And then, yeah, it was just interesting, very interesting time, but non-resistance is the key. And when this energy became really small and finally left my right shoulder, it was kind of clinging to me for a while and I didn't care, I just do my work and meditate and not pay any attention to it. And one day I just finally said, you know, look, all there is is love and love's here to stay. So if you're gonna hang out, hang out. But if you do, you're gonna succumb to love because everything does in the unwavering presence of love. So if you wanna hang out and transform, great. And if you don't, she's gotta hop off somewhere else because it couldn't vibrationally stay. And so as opposed to it being a ghost that was interacting with you or getting your attention, it sounds like what you're describing was more the energy that was left behind from this being. That's all it is. Yeah, since we incarnated, but the energy had not been neutralized before you. Correct, it has to be transformed or it's still active. And that's why things people don't understand because emotional energy isn't visible. And so they don't really give it a lot of credence. They just think this is the way we are and this is the way it is. And it's just not so. So yeah, that emotional energy of a murderous aggressive male energy who is intimidated by women of some kind, I have that effect on people. Just, I don't know, was trying to harass me and trying to get in my head and trying to do this and that and it just didn't work out. So I just did what I know how to do and transform the whole thing. Brilliant. Yeah. And you're bringing up emotional energy and I know that's like a trademark of what you do. Yes. This transformation. Can you talk a little bit about the science and the metaphysics of it? Yes, that's all gonna be in my second book which I wanna get out by April of this next year. Yes, when we look at things in terms of energy and frequency then they have varying frequencies. This is why people say, well, I meditate with white light and I'd say, great. Well, that's a super high vibration. Everybody wants to be that. And so instead of transforming themselves to bring that about, they split themselves off and divide themselves and stay in the upper part of the aura. So white light is beautiful and wonderful. However, it creates its polar opposite in this dimension which is darkness and then pushes against it. So law of physics, which is what the world is limited to in that way for most people, it's push and it'll push back. So golden light really taught me how to get out of resistance within myself by being able to move through the denser parts of my being which is the emotional body and actually awaken it within the physical body itself. So the golden light, again, it's a dimensional difference. It's a different frequency and what people are, we're coming about, we just did a video on this the other day. What people aren't realizing right now is that love isn't the end result. It is a step in the evolution of consciousness because once you get past the need to be loved and you are that love, then you come into the realm of truth which is completely different than the vibration of love that people require, i.e. the golden light in order to transform the duality within them to come to the spirit within the love. So how does it, how does the essence of itself restore wholeness and peace within the emotional, the mental and the physical bodies? All right, so golden light is love and it recognizes everything as love. It just doesn't know itself to be the love that it is. So negative emotion doesn't know that it is love. And if it's called evil and dark and bad, you reinforce its own feelings of unworthiness. And so it keeps you in the game by the way you resist it. So anytime you play in the realm of duality, you're feeding that. So when I just stand there without having any forethought or any afterthought and just be the love that I am with the awareness of what is around me or then it just, if it can't get a reaction out of you, if it can't get you to judge it, it has nothing to hang on to. And so, yeah, that's really the key. So emotional energy, people are afraid of it. They have shame, they have guilt, they have unworthiness, they have this, they have that. And they don't wanna feel that. But you see, love doesn't care, love just loves. And there's, when you're grounded, which is what we teach to in the golden light, your energy is not then bringing you up to create an emotion, it's a feeling. You are able to be present to the feeling as the love that you are wherever it presents itself within the body. And then the key is to allowing that part of you to express itself, to express the energy within the grounded presence of your being so that energy doesn't go out to become part of the problem in the world. Can you give an example of somebody that you worked with that made this kind of transformation? Myself, but I work with people who are pretty good at getting that together. So what do you wanna know, their process? You know, what happened, what they were like before, maybe how you took them through the transition, transformation and what the result was on the other side. Well, I'm seeing it a lot now in the people that I'm working with that tend to be younger. So breaking down the ego is what we do. The sort of truth is my spirit, which then it works to, you know, cut into people who want that level of healing. It's not an easy path for people to learn how to show you what's there to bring love to it. The people that I work with who's sticking with it transform very quickly. They're coming into themselves. They're just not mimicking the language or parroting the words. They're coming to this consciousness within themselves. So I have one young man that I'm very proud of. I work with his brother as well. I've been working with them both for almost three years consistently. And one of them just came to me and wanted to start off and thought, well, he didn't really have much direction and he had a lot of things going on in his life. And we started working with him and he utilized the tools and we absolutely activated him and we work with him every week. And now he is so good at being able to manage his energy, extremely sensitive kids. They learn how to manage their energy, their lives change. Everything is different. He's now has his own production company. He's just become just blossomed into this by working consciously with his spirit and co-creating with it as a result of the transformation of his emotional body. So he's not reactive and he's stable and he's opening up quite nicely. And then his brother, which is very different from him, he was on much more of a mental track for a while and we had to really work with him to help him overcome the resistance to what he was asking for. And we get that. We get people who come in who say they want it and then it's just, there's a lot of pushback. And so we're used to dealing with kind of pushback and how do you deal with pushback? You don't push back. You teach him what love does. And it's not the sappy thing. It's a consciousness. It holds them and they stick around because they know where it's coming from. So yeah, we're seeing the younger kids open up their lives tremendously. I work with young women who are in the corporate world who are becoming empowered instead of just powerful women. Powerful women is different than an empowered woman in a powerful position. And the more we get women who are whole within themselves to lead the rest of the women out of the conditioning that binds them and it's really encouraging. And it takes so much courage to learn how to deal with the egos of the world without using the ego. Cool. Can you also demystify this notion of ghosts or demons or paranormal activity? Yes. How that might relate to emotional energy? Well, I have found that all of it is emotional energy period. And it's been brought to Hollywood and glamorized and sensationalized and turned into these ghost shows and all this kind of stuff. And first, years ago, like 14 years ago, I kind of got irritated. I'm like, what's going on? It really kind of, because my work, there's nothing glamorous about my work, okay? This isn't something that I just go out and glamorize. It's so not that. And so I thought, well, wait a minute, they're putting all of that information into people's minds who would never otherwise look at a book or go to a bookstore or anything like that to know that what they're experiencing has validity. So there was a lot of that. And then it just spiraled out of control. Every demon I've ever experienced is emotional energy. It is at its worst in the way that it feels about itself. It believes it's evil. It wants you to believe it's evil. And it will do anything to try to convince you because as long as it gets you to judge it, it's owns you, it's got you, okay? So demons, emotional energy, it actually begins within your own aura. You need that if you're in a really negative spot, you're going to attract it. Well, the world is made up of emotional energy. If you're vibrating, say, religious conditioning, which is where I find a lot of those demon cases come out of, then they are feeling this within themselves. And because there is emotional energy, like inky spots everywhere, if people could see it, they would realize what is surrounding them, what they're attracting, and how it is resonating with them because it's energy and becoming bigger in their experience as a result. So what they're talking about as an attachment is another blob or ripple of negative emotion that someone is actually drawing to them. And so as it becomes resonant with that person's aura, then the person becomes, it magnifies through the person. It just becomes larger because it needs energy to feed on, it needs energy to be big. So you've got this person who's freaking out, totally ungrounded, religiously conditioned, believing in Satan, and then here comes this energy to then become even animated within their experience. And if you take them out of that by not trying to get rid of the demon, but by working with that part of them, they can overcome that. Quite, it's, well, they have to want it, let's put it that way, but they can overcome it quicker than you think. So there's that. And then paranormal activity, like I say, it's emotional energy left in home. If something is flying across the room, it needs energy to feed off of in order to do that. And so people go in there, they're not whole within themselves. And so things quite energetically will move or react because there's resistance, there's interplay. There has to be something for it to play with or there's no playing. And so when you get people going in there with crosses and holy water and all the stuff, you're of course, you're gonna get resistance, right? Yeah, it's all emotional energy. It's like a movie. It is a movie. It's this giant show of duality here where people don't wanna understand that for some reason it's so hard for people to grasp of what's actually going on here, that it's all emotional. And if you were just whole within yourself, there wouldn't be any pollution in the sea, there wouldn't be anything, no wars. So if you don't mind me asking, what can you tell a story about an experience you had with a ghost or paranormal activity? Well, gosh, there's so many of them. Well, the first, you know, Boston Strangler was a great example of that had just been around us. Yeah, give us another one. All the time with that. Well, I had someone I was working with that was connected to a property where a lot of weird things were happening on that property. And I noticed that when I become aware of something, it also becomes aware of me. And sometimes it's aware of me before I'm even aware it's there, but then I have a way of knowing that it's aware of me. Like we're all in this understanding that it knows that I'm there and I'm aware that it's there. And so I had this image kind of show up in my living room that had a specific look and feel and it just stood there and was looking at me. And I knew what it was related to. And so it's like, hey, you got nothing going on here. Just you can hang out if you want and just let it be. So I have those things quite a bit. A ghost when I was small, my first experience of remembering, seeing something, I was about seven and there was a, you know, quite emotional freaked out. Nobody in my house knew it was wrong with Siobhan. There was always something wrong with Siobhan. And they threw like a checkerboard across the room. And we had a dormitory upstairs and they kind of switched it across the floor and it terrified me. And after that, I started manifesting asthma. And yeah, so another ghost experience at a house that I cleared was quite dramatic. A lot of experiences with houses that I've cleared, transformed rather than cleared. It sounds like you're unfazed. Like whatever comes to meet you, because I mean, you know, when you're talking murder or demonic energy, I mean, for most of us that's overwhelming. That's not, it's not gonna happen, right? And for you, like what do you attribute that to that you can go into that space? I don't know if it's just a golden light space, but of utter knowing of the essence of who you are that you're so unmoved. Well, you know, knowing myself, going through the pages of my soul's history and reclaiming the light within the times that I myself have been the murderous one. And I have been that dark witch in England that murdered my own child for the sake of these powers I never got and was hanging out with people like the soul of Mick Jagger. I mean, you know, there's just a million different examples of that. And when you are able to face that which in yourself that literally physically made me sick at times. I mean, you know, one of the things in my book is if you wanna, it takes a lot of courage to unearth those things, to dig them up and then turn it over to turn your stuff into the richest compost. So you're turning lead into gold. You're turning garbage into compost. You're turning it into something that is fertile ground. And there were a lot of aspects of myself through my soul history, which has been very vast where I've had to come to terms with these parts of myself. So every time I would hear myself judge something I know there's an issue there. And when I would go down and, you know find things within me, I find myself as a pope knowing exactly what we're doing. So now I still have issues with the Catholic church because I know what they're made of. I help write the book that they're continuing to perpetuate now. You know, I've offered my services to go over there and help rectify the situation and help perform it because, you know and yeah, that's a whole other thing in itself. I mean, it's just countless things throughout my soul history but I've just come to terms with them. When you do that, you really become the love that you are. You're no longer in judgment of yourself and creating that resistance that would have you judge something external in your experience. That's completely logical by the way. It's metaphysically logical. And I, as somebody who's a big fan of Dolores Cannon's work and I follow I don't know if you know her stuff, but my God it's brilliant. She dedicated her life to these quantum healing hypnosis techniques and I mean people, she went in it to heal people and people reporting creators of universes, past lives, you know, ET experience and family and star seed, very deep stuff. And one of the things in one of the books that I have read absolutely leveled me and it is what you're saying. We have truly been all things. All things. We have been the murderer. Well, we are all things. It's not even have been, we are all things. And I don't read, I've never read other people's books on any subject in the spiritual realm. And the reason that I didn't do that is because when I was told that everything I needed to know or wanted to know was inside of me, I was kind of cocky in that. I'm just like, oh yeah, well I gotta prove that to myself. So I did the work to find out that it's absolutely true. So it's, you know, yeah, it is. And so that's how I know everything is emotional energy. There is no such thing as ghosts. It's an emotional imprint from the past. If it's left here on this planet in this realm, it is gonna continue to be active until it's transformed. Amazing, I have such, I'm so fascinated by what you're saying and how you operate. So for somebody like me, I probably, I know I've, this is just uncomfortable. Anyway, I think I shut off the thing with dead people. Let's just say it that way succinctly, okay? Cause I was young and it was very traumatizing. It is, yeah, it is scary. Just a lot of people when they're young, yeah. Yes. And I relate Claire, Sandy and Claire, Claire. Claire Boyant. Yeah, no, Claire, Sandy and Claire cognizant. And I don't know about the rest. Doesn't matter. But the point is, if I have somebody come to me and they get very excited when they hear that, I'm like, okay, can I have a reading? And it's like, no, like it so doesn't work like that for me. Clearly someone can come to you, click, you're in, right? I can't operate that way. And I don't know why. When I have clients I work with downloads. I get stuff like, woof, I can't even talk fast enough. And other times just in life, I'm like a computer and someone's plugged in a USB and it's like, I know what's going on. I know about people and situations. So it's a bit of an anomaly for me. And so I find it fascinating that you can be so on purpose with that. And for me it's kind of like, I get it when I get it. What do you attribute that to? I don't know, I was made to do this work. I was built for it. And my whole life is just a testament to that fact. As fast as it's moved, the darkness I was born into, the darkness that I married right out of home, which was so funny. I'm like, wow, there was no variance between that vibration and what I married into is just crazy. And, you know, but it really laid the groundwork for everything I'm able to do today. And I mean, it's experience after experience, after experience, after experience through healing houses and helping people. I mean, I'm called to England. I give somebody a reading. You know, I've never been in London before in my life. I go and see this beautiful young lady who, huh? I'll bet in England you see her. Yeah, and, you know, it's just a friend of a friend. She said, you know, you could go over and give her some advice or something. So I went over there and gave her a reading and I didn't know I was gonna go over there to help, you know, remove this entity from her body. I mean, this poor woman was just so old looking and she was a young person. And, you know, I just do what I'm guided to do. I don't even know. There's no method to anything. It's so in the moment and it's so unique per person. And I just worked with the energy up the spine. And when I've done that before, I've had people on the ground like just wailing, all kinds of whatever is coming out of them and working with their energy until it's gone, whatever it is, I don't care. Love doesn't care, it just loves. So I'm just holding the space for it to happen. Although I do have tear stream down my face, I can feel it, but other than that, I don't think about what's going on. I just, you know, create the space for it to transform. So I, you know, worked with this woman's spine and it was just this horrible slimy thing it was like, if you were to look at a Drano commercial with all this stuff in the pipe, that's what her spine look like. And what do you mean by readings? Giving someone, what kind of a reading do you give? Well, if someone says, you know, I need a reading for this or that, we go into the root of the problem. It's all energy. We can very clearly see where the patterns began. We can give people tools, how to, if they want to work with us, you know, how to use the tools to overcome those patterns. People sometimes want to understand it first, but other people just go right into the work and it's about just letting go. So when we give a reading, it can be a past life with someone else. And we just remind them that that's happening now. It's just reenacting itself. We can deal with it now. You don't have to go back in the early days of my work. I would go all the way back to the past life or the energy acting itself out now with this person in a different time that I remembered and kind of transform it there. So it had the domino effect up to now, but we don't have to even give it that much energy. It's not the story anymore. You know, those of us have been healing since the 90s. You know, we remember the story and how important that was. And it's not what happened. It's how we felt about what happened, period. So if we can learn to get out of the head and to know the why of it and who, what, where, why and when and just get down to how we feel, which is the negative emotion that the child is holding onto, then we can just work with it that way and keep the head out of it even more. So we help people get to the root of what their patterns are and help them shift their patterns. We do that with, you know, if I'm tuning into someone and their home gets my attention at the same time, there could be things on a structural level that require feng shui cures and that would be the fastest, the most powerful way to help support them in their life because of course your home reflects you and the patterns of your home absolutely support you or don't support you. And it's funny how people don't realize how big of a deal that actually ends. So your home is like your body and so you have emotional energy going into the home too. And so the patterns that you move into are still reflecting the patterns in you. And if you shift one, you shift the other, but the cures are a very good way to work with the physical and emotional aspects, which both work hand in hand, both in the body and the home. So even a physical condition, you can go in and find the root cause of it? Absolutely. There's always an emotion that created that dis-ease in the body always. It's always emotional energy. So we work with people to help them get out ahead of it. If you just manifest and make conscious the love that you are within the form, then it won't be able to vibrate what people into disease and people say, well, what about genetics? I'm like genetics are energy. These are familial patterns that are emotional that create a physical pattern within the form. This is not just genetics, there's no, not at all. Can you also talk about how the audience can reclaim their personal power in any experience and how they can begin to dissolve the division that creates chaos in their world? All right, well, on that, we would work with them on how to stabilize in their inner being. Again, remember the inner being is like that ball of light that is attached to the solar plexus in a chord and it doesn't know what to do and it stays in the mental and spiritual realm. And what that does is it leaves the whole rest of the physical body open to play off the emotional energy that's around it. So when people are ungrounded, they feel like they're taking crazy pills a lot because they're being influenced by the energy on an emotional level within their body and with the rest of the world. And when you learn how to work consciously with your inner being to stay down below the feet and stay buffered. See, golden light creates a buffer. It doesn't create resistance. It's not saying, I need to keep myself in this white light bubble to keep that away from me. It just says, I'm contained in the love that I am and I'm aware of what's happening but I'm not thinking about what's happening or thinking about what I feel, I'm aware. And when you have that sort of awareness and you're in control of the situation, you are confident and clear and stable. And an example of that where that really works, we show people how to consciously work with that bubble of light and then take that golden light breath down the spine, open the base of the spine and drop anchor as fast as they can. And I've been in situations before where on public transportation in Oakland, going through Oakland, California and always standing when I had to make that commute, I would always stand with my glasses and just with my back to everybody looking out the window. I just can't, I can't. And one day I got corralled behind a seat and I was just going, okay, and just keeping my energy kind of inward. And I was so grateful at that moment looking at everybody on their phones and this was rush hour. And so I felt something happen. I wasn't sure, because I don't go to my mind for the answer. What I do is I drop my energy field. So I work with that bubble of being of love that I am and more consciously to keep it down in the form, you know, down below the feet as much as possible. But at that time I was feeling something and my energy field started to respond to it. So what I did in that moment was I just dropped it to the floor, inhaled a huge golden light breath, dropped anchor and then I started to profusely sweat. And that happens when I'm in the midst of something. It just, my back turns into a water wall and I was stabilizing in my being just feeling where this is coming from. And I kind of looked up not with my outer eyes, but just to kind of get a feeling through the buffer of my being, what's going on. And I looked to the left and there was this really tall black man, young kid, young kid, young man standing there. And he just took his black cloak and put it over his face. And I thought, oh, that's where it's coming from. You know, I didn't think, but I felt I knew that that's where it was coming from. And then I was inspired through this because listening to the silence is where I get my information. I don't hear it in words very often. I hear it sometimes, but that's when they're giving me an order. I knew I had to give somebody a message and then it ended up to be him. So I just followed him out onto the platform and tapped him on the shoulder and said, you know, your angels want me to remind you that you are the light. And he took his black hood and he pulled it back and he had these beautiful eyes. And he literally lifted up on the balls of his feet and kind of made, you know, and he had me reiterate what I said. And what I realized in that is that, you know, I am with a collective that is holding me in the way of being able to do what they need me to do for them. And when I go out, when I went out with this young man who could have shanked me because he was from the hood, it didn't really matter because I saw, well, I didn't see feel synonymous with me, but I felt how it held him long enough for his heart to open, receive the message and then make it back on the train and we go our separate ways. So that really taught me that no matter what I'm being asked to do, that I'm okay. Everybody's okay, situation's okay. So, you know, I would definitely recommend people learn how to work with their inner being. We can show you how to do that. We can give you all these techniques. Some people work with me in four week blocks. So they say, okay, I want to work with this inner being. How do I do that? We give them a ton of different tools, different breathing exercises, encourage them to work with them throughout the day and they do these little things and come back the next week and how is it advanced? And then we give them the next level of that. But really stabilizing in your being is really powerful because you're then not, you're not out here, you're inward and you're just listening. You're present, nobody knows what you're doing, but you're there in a different vibrational way. So, and that different vibrational presence has everything to do with what's gonna happen around you. Amazing. Where can folks find you, Siobhan? Well, my website is a good place to begin. My name.com. So SiobhanNicholau.com. Should I always spell that, huh? Yes, please. S, as in Sam, I-O, B is in boy, H-A-N, N-I-C-O-L-A-O-U.com. I have a Facebook page, SiobhanNicholau, the sort of truth. I'm on Instagram, have a lot of great sayings that we come up with on there. Yeah, that's where you can find me. You can order my book on my website. You can order my book on Amazon. And what are you next, Stare to Dream? This is Stare to Dream. What are your future dreams and goals, Siobhan? Well, my dream right now is to solidify all the way back to the West Coast, which is happening as we speak, because it's all happening by the end of the year. Right now, I'm kind of between LA and Boston. And get my second book out and work as much as I possibly can. My dream is to make as much of a difference while I can for the rest of my life. That's my dream. That's beautiful. Thank you so much for coming on the show. It's been great talking to you. Thank you. I end today's show with this quote from Lady Gaga. Do not allow people to dim your shine because they are blinded. Tell them to put some sunglasses on. Subscribe to the Dare to Dream podcast to hear this weekly number one transformation conversation. If you're listening on a podcast, go to YouTube, youtube.com slash Debbie Daschengar. So you can see myself and my guests. It's worth it. And next week on the show, I am featuring Suzanne Ross Stargate to the cosmos. She's based out of Sedona and she does healing, emotional trauma and clearing mental blockages and way, way more. Let your friends know about the show and if you have dreams, now is the time. Now is the time you came here to be a light at a really amazing time and the planet and humanity really need it. So be the contribution, be the service you came to be with your particular gifts. And I look forward to reading your comments and hearing from everybody and join us again next week. Thanks for being with us today.