 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at CommitmentConnection.com and in today's video, we're going to talk about three female mindsets, three confident female mindsets that drive men wild. And if this is your first time to our channel, make sure that you go and hit the subscribe button to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you've always wanted. So you probably hear a lot about how confidence is really attractive, right? And so what does that even mean? You know, what kind of confidence, what makes you confident? How can you kind of develop this confidence that's incredibly attractive to men? How do you do this? So the first female mindset that really is powerful is this mindset of, I don't need you to make me happy, right? I don't need you to experience love. I don't need you in order to feel fulfilled in my life. A lot of women come to relationships and they're like, Oh, I need a man, right? I need a guy in order to make myself feel happy. And then she ends up getting with this guy. And it's like this constant like barrage on him about like baiting him for compliments and baiting him, you know, to make her feel good. And if he does the wrong thing, all of a sudden he's, you know, in the doghouse or whatever. And to a guy that is extremely draining, right? When a guy experiences this, it's like, you know, it's like having his soul sucked out of him, right? It's like, it's like nothing I, you know, you'll hear a guy say nothing that I ever do will make her happy or nothing I ever do is enough. And it's a huge cause of frustration and breakups and divorces because a guy, you know, he comes into it and he's like, Oh, I've got all these things that I can do, which is great. You know, he gets invested. But what ends up happening is he ends up feeling like it's just not a good relationship for him to be in long term. So the second female mindset that is really powerful and attractive. And I've got one more and the other one's really, really awesome as well. So make sure that you stay tuned. So the second one is that you're not just looking for any man, right? You're looking for the one. And the one isn't, you know, a lot of women kind of take some of these different things to extremes, right? Like they'll have this checklist of like, you know, the 175 things that a guy needs to be in order for her to be, you know, in order for him to be the right guy. And then there's this other extreme where it's like, Hey, I'm just trying to find a guy and I'm going to latch onto any guy that I can. And both of those kind of mindsets are really, really toxic, I think, and really prevent you from having the man in the relationship that you want to have. And instead, what you're looking for is a guy to invest in you. You want a guy who's willing to, you know, and I'm not saying that, you know, some of these things, like you shouldn't look for certain things, right? Like a guy to share values or a guy that you're in alignment with, or, you know, certain different types of things that are really important, or that you shouldn't ignore red flags. What I'm saying is that there are certain things that are important, right? And one of the most important things is that you feel like you're a catch and that the guy, and not in a fake way, like you feel like, like you just deserve all these things needlessly, that we have a big problem in the dating industry right now where men and women both feel like they deserve the best, but they aren't willing to be the type of person that deserves this best thing that they want. And that's also a problem. But instead, what we're talking about here is feeling like, you know, I'm not going to give myself to this guy unless he's a guy who's willing to invest, unless he's a guy who's, you know, willing to connect with me on an emotional level. Basically, what you're doing is you have standards, right? You have boundaries around those standards that deflect guys that are good for you. You know, not this, you know, mystical, made-up guy, but like, you know, a real genuine guy, a real genuine guy who's good for you, who's willing to step up to the plate and be the man in your life for you, who's willing to, you know, do the little things that are really what keeps a relationship together. So the third female mindset to really have that is incredibly attractive to men is this mindset that you want your man to continue being the man that he is. A lot of women end up getting into relationships with one of two things. One is like this, you know, nurture the baby bird type of mindset where they're like, oh, I'm going to go in and fix this guy's problems. You know, he's emotionally broken and I'm going to fix him, which is just god-awful for both people because, you know, the guy's like, I don't want to be fixed. And the woman's like, but you need to be fixed. And, you know, so they end up in this big fight. And then there's this other one where a lot of times women will like fall in love with this idealization of a guy, right? So this isn't who the guy actually is. It's who he could be if he turned himself into this idealistic man that she has in her head. And so both of those are really toxic. What's really attractive is, you know, falling in love with a man for who he is and encouraging him to be that man instead of like nagging him or shaming him or trying to punish him for being the man that she met when she first met him. Instead, you know, encouraging him, you know, encouraging his independence if that's, you know, something that's really important to him. Really, it's about not trying to like persuade him or coerce him or convince him that he needs to move forward with things immediately, but instead leaning back and allowing him to chase and pursue and convince you to get into the type of relationship that you really want to have. And so those are the three really attractive female mindsets. Thanks for watching this video. If you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted, click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website.