 About two years ago. I went to this party in New York City and it was seeing some of my old high school friends now at the time I was about 28 years old and I hadn't seen most of these kids since high school So really since 17 18 years old and we walked up to this apartment in Brooklyn and we knocked on the door and I was with two other friends from high school we were meeting all friends from high school and The guy there shook two people's hands the guys in front of me And then when he got to me he said hi What's your name and this was a guy that I'd hung out with a lot in high school And he didn't recognize me because my physical appearance had changed so much now for me Part of that was deliberate. I had reinvented myself dramatically from 18 until 28 And that was because I was nothing to be proud of to be honest now in this video I want to share a little bit about what I did to reinvent myself And if you maybe aren't on the right trajectory you want to be on in your life what you can do to actually change that starting today What's up guys Alex Hine here author of the book master the day and milk the pigeon now what my friend didn't recognize that day was that First of all it was physical, right? He was used to me being this short little skinny kid that got bullied a lot in high school I'm six foot two now. I'm not really that skinny anymore still on the thin side But 50 pounds heavier than I am naturally because I was like a stick now What I also reinvented was the way I carry myself the way I speak in terms of my Conversational skills not my actual voice But also the way I just relate to people and the way I actually feel confident about myself Which is then projected when people talk to me and you know when I was young what really drove me a lot Was the fact that there was a lot of stuff about my physical image that I wasn't comfortable and happy with I hated looking young I hated looking more like a boy than a man. I hated seeming because I was so small very Non-dominant I hated basically all these world traits associated with being a dork and not being like a dominant male Which basically our modern culture idolizes quite a lot. It's like the prototypical alpha male, right? So part of that was that was how I wanted to reinvent myself But it was also deeper than that when I realized that you know I You know the biggest pain for me as a kid was in dating But for me I wanted just like every person wants that 10 out of 10 woman But I wasn't the 10 out of 10 man So that's why that whole story of me becoming the ultimate dude came to be and I've shared that in recent videos But in this video I wanted to stay practical So what I do is what I started to do to reinvent myself was of the all the various categories of my life I needed to reinvent Fitness my style my conversational skills and being more interesting going after what I was passionate about Travel I picked three things So three domains of life with three goals One habit for each so one habit one habit one habit and then I put them on one piece of paper That is my three three one rule for reinventing yourself So the first part of this three three one rule is coming up with what your three core goals are going to be for the year Now for me I'm no longer a huge believer in setting actual goals But in setting directions you want to move in because if you know a direction you can constantly every way chip away at it Whereas choosing a goal you don't always know the timeline it's going to take So for me when I first kind of solidified this rule the first thing I did was picked my three goals Which were to gain 20 pounds to figure out what I was most passionate about and go after it and also to make new friends Because I wanted to have more ambitious friends. I had moved recently back from China I didn't know anybody where I was living so I picked those three goals gain 20 pounds start going after what I'm most passionate about and Make new friends that were fun and ambitious The second step there was to actually turn around and break each goal into one habit So what that looked like for gaining 20 pounds was all I was going to do for the next three years Was track how much I ate on a daily basis because I knew that if my goal was to gain weight Progressively I was in no rush. I would have to eat a little bit more or change what I ate And so I found that just by tracking the calories. I suddenly would be like, oh, you know, I need to have two or three hundred more By trying to find my passion the ultimate goal or the daily ritual the habit to get there What I ended up doing was dedicating a two-hour block at the end of the night Which was what am I most passionate about? How can I test it? Who do I have to meet? What do I need to try out and then the third part here was to actually Go out to an event per week meet one person that I thought was cool Or I might have a connection with and then invite them out for drinks or for dinner And that was the way that I figured what is the one habit? I could do to make tons of friends that I could do anywhere in the world pick one thing and focus on it So I had my three habits I had my three goals and I put them on one piece of paper and you can do something as simple as this for your Third step for me. I've actually shared that if you've bought my book master the day You've gotten the book bonus resources which have my daily envisioning checklist the core rituals the core habits the action steps Quarter by quarter that is also I've included down below But the key thing is it's simple three goals It's clear one habit for each goal only three habits you look at on a daily basis three things and from there You know exactly what you have to do because it's on one piece of paper that you review daily And mine is actually right there on my desk. You can't see it, but it's right there Now the other way you can do it is I actually am a big fan of keeping a goal card in my phone So in the back of my phone case I will actually have the goal card stuffed in there and I've showed it many times before Either as that as a laminated little card You keep in your pocket at all times or as just something you have on your desk that you look at twice per day So I hope that helps a little bit about clarity on how to reinvent yourself what to really focus on my story doing that and Honestly, if there's something you don't like about your life it can change and you should change it Obviously, we should accept the things we don't like but if you can change it why not accept it and change it I mean that's always been my personal philosophy. So before you go. I want you to leave a comment there below Let me know for you. What is something that you really want to reinvent about yourself? 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