 Hello. Welcome to another Aughty Time stream. Now on Thursday today, just for this time. So I know I realize that it might be a bit of a surprise to a lot of people because usually I do these things on Friday. I do have something on tomorrow, so I'm going to have to move it to Friday today. But that means a stream earlier in the week. How are you guys doing? Hello, Angela. You are very, very quick on the joining. Appreciate it. How are you doing? Mealight says hi. It's so nice to see you. Nice to see you too, Moonlight. Welcome to the stream. Caroline Joy Artist says hi. Hello. We have the very awesome Mr. Austin Henshaw. How are you doing, man? Bring me gravity. How are you doing? I was pretty right with my prediction that my mental health was improving because this week has been even better. So I've had quite a few ups and downs. I think if you follow my... It's going to shut the windows. Sometimes there's cars that go by. Yeah, sometimes very up and down. It's not always a very... It's like a dip and then it goes back up. It's always like a really squiggly line with a lot of mental health stuff. But yeah, I had a situation at the gym the other day. You probably would have seen it if you follow my other page, the one that... The new one that I've created that's going to be focused on more of the gym modeling stuff. Basically more of a personal account for me so that I feel I can have a little bit of creativity with my posts but also keep the main autism content on my Instagram page. Where was I going with that? Yes, I had a pretty bad pre-meltdown experience at the gym recently. Basically what happened is my headphones weren't working. These ones I've got in right now and the noise cancelling was broken a little bit and one of the earphones was not playing as much so I spent a lot of time trying to fix it and I got myself very worked up. Decided to go into the gym. It was later than I expected. The noise cancelling wasn't working, there was a lot of people. I had to kind of take a break. I didn't go home. I sort of went upstairs, found like a quiet place to kind of chill and sort of recuperate. Things like that do happen, especially when you go out to do things. Hello Matthew Hall, how are you doing? A.K.A. Frozen Wings, hello. Austin says I'm flying to L.A. tomorrow. Wow. Why are you going? Jack the light says what's going on. We are doing a stream on a day but I don't usually do it on. Instead of tomorrow. Yeah, that's what's up. Austin to her, yes indeed. I'm very happy about it. I'm not the most like, I generally have a very sort of pessimistic kind of negative approach to life which actually to be honest helps me out quite a lot as someone who has, you know, we talk a lot about this idea of toxic positivity. I very much experienced that a lot in my life. And a lot of the time if I kind of embrace how I'm feeling and just my thoughts and such, I mean, it kind of, it helps me kind of temper my expectations for things in life and myself, which I think can be quite helpful. But, you know, when I'm talking about things positively that I am I am being truthful about it. So it's it's I think it's good to acknowledge as well when things are doing a little bit better. We have Joshua G. G. Williams and Maggie St. J. Back at our hydration manager back in back in the chat. Make sure everyone's staying hydrated during this very, very if you're in the UK, very, very warm day, muggy day. It's been awful. Work up like really sweaty and like gross. So looking forward to going to the gym and getting a shower after. It's gonna be good. When got my haircut done. Trying to go for like a skin fade at the moment. So it's my my head's feeling very smooth in parts. It's very strange. Yes, lots of water indeed. Indeed. Thank you, Mr. Joshua G for buying a batch. You have been absolutely amazing with these badges for in the the live streams that I do here on on Instagram and YouTube. Much appreciated. Does help me kind of once while I'm wanting to pivot more to doing like live live stream things. So it's it's definitely encouraging for me. I'm considering doing it as a bit more like a regular thing. So I appreciate it. Roger says I hate going to the gym late. Well, I've tried I've tried going in the mornings. Like I used to when I was training in Taekwondo when I was like full time like competing and things like that I had to get up very early in the morning to train some days. It just doesn't really work for me. I might like my head's not in the right place to to like really grind things out. But at the end of the day, it's kind of like a little treat for me because I enjoy going. So it's like, I get to get all the frustrations get all of the energy out that's been building up over over the day and just like release it in a session and then feel chill after. You've had meltdowns of technical issues to 100%. Hello, Mr. Aspie world. How are you doing? Nice to see you man. Seeing people in LA. Sounds good. Sounds good. Your hair is looking very nice. Thank you. It's a constant like battle to tame it at the moment. Like not in the way that it's too curly. It's I actually have to like because it's so straight like getting it to have any kind of hold or style is become it's quite a difficulty. Stoic Zoyas is high. So does Rex Potter. Nice to see you. Gulak Melon says hi. We good. Good to hear you're feeling better. No need to answer should you feel now but what would be your best advice for food whilst working out? I think that the answer that I would give to generally to people is to try and have a lot of protein. I think that's a good place to start. There's lots of other like nutritional things that you can do and you know obviously whole foods are the best. But if you always just speak from an autistic perspective you know struggling with sort of executive function and feed preparation and things like that. Try your best to find lots of easy like on demand alternatives to whole foods. So like Greek yogurt is like a big one for me. You know try and put protein powder in anything that you can kind of thing. To be able to say I do have protein tricks. I'm out of the habit of it. A bit of the moment because I'm trying to cut weight down. But it's actually really good for like satiation. So you'll find that you're less hungry when you eat protein. So I should really get back on that. What a nice surprise to see you mate. Indeed. You've got a very personal hydration reminder from Joshua G. The G. K-1 for cops as a glad typical ended. To be honest I didn't watch it. Like it might sound really weird but I don't like shows where autism is kind of like the main focus of things. Like I find that it's like the best representation that I found in in terms of film and media is when it's not and it's just one of the characters is autistic and it's you know there's just an autistic character. It's not like the focus of the show. I think my best character that it's like an autistic representation would be really weird really out there kind of series called Hannibal which is obviously from like the film and movies and stuff but it's it's one of the coolest like representations because the main character is autistic and he's kind of like this detective person and he's like really hyper empathic. So it's really like you know far ahead for the time that it was made and the whole thing is kind of this weird dynamic between the autistic lead and Hannibal Lecter who's like obviously a psychopath. So it's a very very kind of interesting dynamic to to see like in film. I thought it was really really well done to be honest. Thank you Iqra Best for buying a badge. Really appreciate it. How are you doing today Iqra? There's only one Jay in my username. Oh yes at the start of course. Where do you get your hair cut? I get my hair cut at a place called Starbeck Barbers which I will give them a shout out because they're awesome. So if you're around kind of York Leeds, Harrogate Area go check out Starbeck Barbers. A Stoics area coming in with one of the first questions. Do you make lives with other people? I'm an autistic girl from Brazil. Hugs dude. I'd say I'd be open to it. I think like these autie time livestreams that I try and do every week usually on a Friday. These ones for me are kind of an opportunity to kind of talk to you guys. I don't really want to have much of a back and forth because I have like my podcast where I have guests on and stuff and I think once I get into streaming a lot more on YouTube there is a possibility that I will bring people on to kind of commentate and sort of chill and chat with might be quite cool but not for the foreseeable future. However, if someone is wanting to invite me to do a live with them I'm very happy to do that. Not all the time though. It'll depend. Thank you for another bad jicra. It's much appreciated. How are you guys doing over on YouTube? K14Cops says do you hate it when an account uses neurodivergent slash nd in their name but only if it's just ASD and ADHD related things? I wouldn't say that I hate it because it is you know under the label I guess it would be better labeled or HD I suppose but neurodiversity is such an overarching. I mean how many neurodivergencies would you need from someone to consider like them able to use that label you know? Because I don't know where the line would be using that kind of train of thought. Thank you very much Mr Austin for another gifted sub to Hilberry Bilbury. I hope you managed to find Austin for that. Really appreciate it man. Aikers says hi I hope you're okay. Do you want to compete again? I think he's incomplete maybe maybe compete. I'm going to say we compete possibly. There is a possibility that I will start competing again. Yeah OCD, BFD, CBC or etc all neurodivergencies. I suppose so. If you but then again like you could just kind of lump that into psychology you know which I suppose is not. Yeah I mean if you kind of generally talking about neurodivergencies and you're not talking about it from a personal perspective then I suppose you could like fill each kind of talk about each neurodiversity from like a scientific kind of outsider's perspective I suppose. But no I might compete it depends. I'm very much enjoying my bodybuilding gym stuff at the moment you know trying to grow my business so that's it's kind of on the back burner for a bit but there is a possibility that I might get into it sort of later on. I can't leave it too long though because I don't want to like miss my athletic window but yeah possibly definitely. Scrumptious Pumpkin says good question do you know your boundaries well slash is that a problem? I think it's something that I've become more apparent to me what my boundaries have been in later life. I used to have very like weird kind of harsh boundaries with people in my life when I was young. I just did really like random things that I would just enforce very heavily but I think in adulthood I definitely what I won't tolerate but the way that I enforce my boundaries is by not necessarily like you know because the idea of enforcing boundaries we always think like oh be confrontational but sometimes it can just be as simple as removing your time from someone or like doing that kind of thing. I'd say that I don't have an issue with it if it's someone that I really care about it can sometimes be an issue because you know obviously I care a lot about their opinion of me and so it's sometimes a bit more difficult but I'd say that I'm pretty good in adulthood. You're okay I went to the gym it was so warm yeah I'm not looking forward to that. I'm hoping that it's been sufficiently air-conned when I go when I go for a workout that would be great. Yeah the lights are neurodivergent Lou I think her account is called for example yeah no I know what you mean but they are neurodivergent you know so it may make sense but if maybe if you use the term then perhaps that would be you know if you're like a neurodiversity page like you at you would you'd probably have to like pull in different experiences from people no yeah it's it's um allow you I think neurodivision Lou. Brie says hello from the gym right now wow very jealous probably gonna after after this live stream probably gonna like go get some food before I go um I've had a bit more success with that at the moment sometimes I'm not always the best with like keeping on top of nutrition um hydration and things like that beforehand uh leekswift32 asks do you have a coach for your programming or do you self-program your workouts I self-program um so I learn a lot from different youtubers online um I try and video myself give myself some critiques you know work on my form things like that um it's very much like a special interest of mine so it doesn't it's it's not the most difficult thing and um when I was in school I think I did an A level in PE I know that's not enough for like becoming a coach and stuff but for me it was you know it kind of gave like a bit of an outline to how to go about like programming things so I did that did that um but it's it's only a personal preference I think if I wasn't so much into it then I would probably like pay someone for like a program or something you can get some very like pretty good um online programs the only thing with those programs is that there will likely be some things that just don't work for you you know and so like you know if you if you think you know I have to follow this program to a T and sometimes you do and there's no like ability to switch out things try different things then sometimes you might just be missing out on an exercise that just works a lot better for you and that um is less injury causing for you you know so you got you got to try different things Austin says um I said it before but I'm willing to review programming for a hypertrophy perspective I've helped with research and muscle building programs in the past well if you are interested in in um in that kind of thing yeah go go check out mr Austin Henshaw much appreciated that dude Bree says um how do you explain uh to family that not everyone is neurodivergent and that's not more than before just more education about it um um yeah and that's that's kind of a difficult one because I think a lot of people's lines of thinking when they say that say things along the lines of well everyone's a bit ADHD or a CD or like autistic that their idea around that is that they want to make you feel less alone and that if you feel like they can you don't feel like an outsider someone that they can't relate to um but uh it's not the most helpful thing because quite often they don't know the first thing about it and you know it's um it's a very common response that I that I get when I tell neurotypical individuals just like out and about if it's just just comes up in conversation happened recently actually today um and it's it's said with that view of being like okay you know it's you know you're not you're not that different it's it's okay um you're worth something kind of perspective but it just comes across really unhelpfully because they don't understand it and it's it'd probably be a lot more productive to be like okay right we can relate to each other on these things but those things they'll tell me more about those things that are different for you that would be a bad way of doing that but you know uh iola edwards says hey dude how are you doing iola how are we feeling today they won't take that as an answer um yeah I don't think the thing about the the education thing it's um very much the case that there's a lot of reactionary content online about fake disorders you know things like that there's quite I think I've seen a few youtube videos on it a couple of like reddit pages that talk about this kind of thing and um it's it's basically a response to um you know rightly so there's there's a lot of undiagnosed people um who kind of slip through the the net as as it be um when they younger or even in adulthood and they kind of they do need a lot of um support and guidance and it's like likely that they are um neurodivergent and it's it's this whole idea that people who kind of will kind of use it as a as like a fashion staple you know but I think the majority of people you know just looking at some of the the more common um issues that come up within the autistic community for people imposter syndrome is a massive part of that so it's kind of it's it's kind of um you know you have you have those two elements and they don't they don't really fit together and sure people can think that they're autistic and not be some people can think they're radiogeal and they're not they're not be or you know but people can think that they're depressed and they're not or think that they are that they're not depressed and they are you know the thing is with anything that is based in psychology based in um like the brain and based on traits and signs and things like that um is that it's very open to interpretation and there is actually a a thing that psychologists have to do when they propose a new diagnosis um to check if the diagnosticians can actually tell people who do have the the um thing trying to think of a good word for it um or not you know so and and a lot of the time a lot of the more common things that we'd think is kind of a case closed thing like um um measure depressive disorder I think it's it's it's it's it's just past kind of like half in terms of consistency and being able to diagnose people properly um and even like even things that you'd think that are very obscure and think that people would fake a lot like you could for example uh disassociative identity disorder um multiple some people know it as multiple personality but it's not it's dissociative identity disorder um where people have multiple identities and that is actually much more likely to be diagnosed properly than like other conditions and that you would think so it's you know so so there's there's all of those elements to it and sure like raising awareness of it and encouraging people to um dive into themselves their life learn about autism ADHD um it's definitely a positive thing of course there is going to be always concerns for people using it as like a fashion fashionable thing to have um so it's it's it's one of those things you know it's very dependent on on the person deciding the environment uh Joshua G says I hope everyone is staying hydrated hope you have a great day so far as your hydration reminder from Mr Joshua G I've been very naughty today and I have not got myself a drink so I'm probably gonna down like a big glass of water after for you Joshua uh Dr Stacy says you're live on Thursdays too um this is this is kind of a one-off one because tomorrow I've got something on so um we're doing it on Thursday this time Brie says I think it's funny that neurotypicals are the weird ones for us yeah I really love the the whole like reframing of things which I've actually heard from you know other people as thinking like thinking of it as like a really strange thing to do but if you're part of a community of neurodivergence autistic ADHDers and and so on and so on then in that community people who who aren't neurodivergent are the like the outsiders the people who aren't um who are the weird ones so it's all it's all about context isn't it and it depends it depends on which way you frame it I guess you know I mean to be to be honest I like the label weird it's um probably not a stance that a lot of people will get behind me on but um I like being weird like I'd say that I'm weird not not just because I'm autistic but just because I am a very strange weird person and I embrace that fully it's lovely I hate me I would find it more of an insult for someone to call me normal honestly like uh no BS on that definitely well um if you guys have any burning questions that you want to ask no matter how silly um strangely worded um please go ahead ask ask away no no no wrong questions um if it's a question that I don't want to answer then I just won't I'm not going to flame me for it normally screw you god damn it uh Selmy Scow says uh me too happy to be weird thank you very much for that Charlotte weirdos unite that's so cool you love being weird too yeah well it's just normal people don't normal people literally scare me I would say the idea of normal I know there isn't a normal but like kind of mainstream pop popular not popular but like pop genre kind of people um yeah I just I just don't really I do get them but I just quite often cannot connect with them on any kind of meaningful level or find things about them interesting you know I like I like different people different people who have different experiences different backgrounds different brains like it's so nice just to have a bit of variety in the human race you know Joshua G says I hope you're having a great week so far Thomas hope you've been staying hydrated as well I will try my very best um I'm gonna have a nice big glass of water water uh Selmy Scow says I think that's because um because we feel tolerated instead of accepted that is a very good point you know and there's this idea of tolerances you know I would argue that we don't even get tolerance you know to some degree you know tolerance is not the the ideal outcome for me but I find in a lot of situations um because it's it's kind of it's dependent on you being the negative um part of the dynamic you know so if if you were to you know to be tolerated it means that you're doing something wrong or you're acting wrong or you're you are wrong as a person uh which I think is I don't think is really right the right way of framing it in in my head you know I would prefer not to be tolerated I would prefer to be um accepted understood worked with um rather than tolerated and maybe you could make the argument and make me thinking about the the actual word a little bit too much but you can be tolerant of each other just to some degree and you know you could say that in kind of a stranger scenario perhaps that would be a bit more applicable very true about tolerance couldn't agree with that more yeah well it's it's definitely not the case that we we get enough tolerance and um I'm hoping that with time with some um growth and maturity of the autistic community over time um as it becomes a little bit more apparent to the mainstream media um that we will be able to um get across this idea of acceptance and meeting people halfway instead of you know I gave this this example I think on a podcast recently you know most autistic people um in a in a relationship in a friendship in a in a whatever with a neurotypical individual um it's kind of expected for us to be meeting that person with their communication style preferences their preferences in in life and in lots of different domains um literally like like 95 percent of the way like there's there's like a five percent kind of level of effort from people because obviously we're autistic we know what it's like to be around neurotypicals and some degree communicate with them a lot better than they can with us um so you know um it makes sense um but a lot of people don't even meet you like five percent of the way the very kind of you know um strong strong willed about their position about what should be right and wrong and right behavior and acceptable behavior and such um whereas the ideal would be that you know people meet you halfway and it's it's it's to the point in my life where you know before I would be happy with people tolerating me and you know I would apologize a lot for the way that I am um the way that I work um the way that I communicate nowadays I'm very much you know say I'm a bit more strong willed about making sure that people do meet me halfway of my communication and that doesn't mean that I'm being aggressively like enforcing self-advocacy upon people like um telling people off or like um flaming them for being ableist or like anything like that but it literally just means um I communicate to people what I would like and why I like it and then they can do with that information as they wish if they do that then great like what a great addition to my life someone who wants to understand me and work with me that's that's brilliant um but if they don't then it just doesn't doesn't tend to feel as connecting I guess not as genuine not as close as I would I would want to have it and it's also kind of to the point where it's very it's for some you know we've talked I've talked a little bit about like the autism radar stuff most of the time I can I can very easily tell in conversation if I'm talking to another autistic person when things just flow well and like people people on the outside they kind of think that um you know because they see autism and they see it diagnosed in the criteria it's like a communication things things to behavior things to century things and they think okay right they're just bad at communicating but it's it's actually not the case because autistic people are actually just as good at communicating with autistic people than neurotypicals are neurotypicals it's just when you combine them together that problems happen or like misunderstandings happen or miscommunications or judgments get get happened get happened you know so it's it's very dependent on your environment and I think that's what's powerful about reframing because you know it's um if you're approaching the world as an individual you should want to to to have people meet you halfway with or at least fulfill some some sort of preference that you would have for um engaging with them socially you know I feel like I'm ranting a lot this this live stream thank you salmi scow I think that was charlotte thank you for buying free badges wow thank you very much much appreciated uh just reduce says uh and we do got a lot of ableism as well unfortunately very very unfortunately yes um it is rampant um especially actually within the us legal system one of the reasonable adjustments for autistic people in the workplace is to fire them if they can't do a job which is I think is absolutely apparent I don't understand why that is part of like things that the government tell organizations to do like I'm pretty sure that that just happened anyway through in businesses you know they'll find some way of firing you if they want to do that and and try and attribute it to something other than your neurodiversity or your disability but they definitely do do that but the fact that it is plainly said within the advice around reasonable adjustments just is absurd honestly it is mad living in a crazy world well we have about 13 minutes left so if you have any burning questions that you want to ask please do not feel shy um at all I know there's a lot of people who are actually actually outside new hashtag um actually outside of the communities who um they have a very big like like strong tension around asking questions about autism because I think nowadays you know I think it is important to maintain a dialogue with people who don't understand much about neurodiversity or autism because a lot of the time you know we need those people to be on outside of us and for someone who's just kind of newly initiated into communities they don't particularly understand the language that we use the ways the ways that we talk the things that we are worried about the things that we do and don't like it can be very hesitant to to to even ask questions sometimes which I think is very unfortunate you know and I've experienced this a lot in in other situations you know being an atheist you know if I've gone to a country that's quite heavily religious you know I'm very tentative around asking certain questions about um religion you know or it could be things to do with culture could be other neurodivergencies you know I experienced the same thing and the point of me saying this is just you know with with me ask away you know questions do not upset me please go for it yeah that sounds horrendous like imagine telling someone to fire someone because they've got a disability yeah they're just out out rightly just going for it you know not even just under the wraps slide behind the table kind of action just fire them for a reason if you can find one that's crazy thank you again for another badge I really appreciate that scrumptious.punkin says will you see the Barbie movie well I will have you know um I have already seen it I saw it like a few weeks ago I think not very good with time at the moment getting kind of quite a lot of time dilation because of not not being on the ground on the work whatever you want to call it um but I've seen it yeah it's interesting I don't think it was really targeted towards me but it was it was a very well produced film. Selmy Scow says I I think we're reluctant to ask questions because we are programmed to be concerned that we might ask the wrong thing yeah and um yeah I because asking questions it presumes that you don't know the answer to it and so so sometimes it can provide a little bit of anxiety around like just asking the question which is bizarre it's a very strange human behavior that we have you know we don't understand something so hesitant about asking questions about it it's like it's mad crazy I've been so much been much more brave since my diagnosis that is very good to you it's important uh it well being open about it um it's definitely like a brave thing to do you know self-advocate for yourself it's not an easy thing it's not like a it's not always the the easiest to convince people of your experience and perspective in life without being gaslight so you know you got you got to keep that out but I think um in terms of like finding friends like finding um relationships it just it just tends to be that you just you just got to find the right person and they're not necessarily neurodivergent you know they like people who have an open mind and who are intrigued about you and how you work and how you behave those those tend to be really good ones to hang on to ones who ask questions you know want want to understand what life is like for you so that they can better um appreciate how hard things can be you know because if if you just kind of have perhaps this situation uh wait I'm going on to an event and I'm with someone they're not really involved in the autism community they're just kind of some person who works at this like event place or something and um their their their role is to make sure that I'm okay um they they perhaps might not realize the extent to which sensory things might affect me so because because they don't have the knowledge of like of of like the the appreciation for how difficult or how easy or how um like regular things are for me um it's very hard for people to like accurately empathize with you you know they've got to understand what it feels like to some degree they've got to have some kind of explanation for it you know and I do that a lot I I willingly offer it to anybody who asks me a question in real life it's not always understood and it's not always agreed with which is weird or accepted or remembered but um you know anyone who shows a level of intrigue about autism or um how we work or how I work as a person I'm always willing to kind of share my thoughts and experiences around that I mean it's a good way to be it's kind of kind of my way of self advocating without you know calling people out you know sometimes they do that it depends on the situation but um most of the time it's a lot a lot of explaining and and I wouldn't say that that that is a requirement for you to be self advocating as an autistic person if you don't want to explain things to people then well it's definitely the way that I go about things uh yes the unmasking is real yeah uh joshu g with the uh hydration reminder here uh yep hashtag self advocacy bigger parts bigger self advocacy indeedy indeedy um I did say that we had 13 minutes left but I realized that I have not like started on the hour so we have about 15 16 minutes left for questions so please please go ahead um this is not one of my usual um kind of live streaming sessions for anyone on youtube um I do have uh live streams over on youtube where I uh commentate or I react I don't like the the whole like react thing but um give my thoughts on different pieces of autism content on youtube I do have those going on I'm trying to do about one a week at the moment as well as these live streams which I am hoping to in to increase over time as my mental health improves um so it will definitely be a reality at some point so if you if you're on instagram please go ahead and and check out my youtube and sub and get the notifications and you'll be able to to know when I go live with that stuff it's really good it's really fun it's nice like watching things about autism under like learning with with with other people you know it's nice for me I enjoy it drop the skincare routine why joshua j williamson says uh why are you doing a live stream day earlier instead of the tomorrow uh usually do it on friday don't you always just change with this week just to change with this week just a random change no no particularly reason I just I've just got some stuff on tomorrow to do um we will be back to normal uh live streaming schedule next week so it will be on friday next week hopefully I haven't checked my schedule yet Rita says hi and all of us be here have you ever been bullied I've been bullied a lot 100 percent it's it's one of the reasons why I've developed my mental health conditions alongside a lot of different things um yeah uh it's one of the reasons why I started doing martial arts actually because it was um it was a lot I haven't experienced a lot of physical bullying but I've experienced a lot of emotional bullying um that has happened both in the workplace and relationships at school within friendships so I have experiences from all of the all of the domains in that sense um as well as the the greater kind of I guess um you know things things like harassment and things like um like public humiliation that's something I've experienced quite a lot so listing it off like it's some kind of accolade but no it's it's not I just want to um give you give you some basis to go off I guess for another question scrumptious punkin says last time you said that one of the most important things in talking to an autistic person is to be direct I thought about this a lot there's so much indirectness in society indeed and it's not just about being direct with us it is about interpreting what we say as direct as well and not indirect that is that that is that is perhaps the the most difficult element there you know it's you know I think people can be direct if they want to a lot easier than they can forget like they will readily very easily forget that what we say is what we say you know and it's not necessarily got this undertone or over tone or body language or facial expression around it that would contort it into something that it isn't um that's that's quite hard for people to to really like remember long term I found Angela says I gave up on love and my autistic boyfriend to and to we met in sugar for a common friend of us and it just clicked now um now we're five months together I'm very happy well I'm very glad I'm very glad for you Angela that is awesome you're very welcome Rita you you're very welcome to ask me any questions about it I'm very open about my experiences Angela says bullies are horrible some got attacked um it's six that's awful I'm sorry to hear that your skincare is fresh I love it yeah I don't know what um Ayala what do you mean about dropping the skincare routine I'm just I'm interested I don't know what you're meaning by that are you saying that it's nice like my skin is nice or that my skin is not nice and that my skincare routine is bad I don't know uh Selma Scow says I think it's Charlotte again um it's odd that we all experience being bullied but we talk about it like it's normal yeah it's got a list of the word this this and this you know tick that one off like which trauma do you have many of them Max says uh thank you for your streams I was recently let go I'm sorry to hear that you told me that I made people feel uncomfortable um is it my job to make people film around me feel more comfortable because they make me feel very uncomfortable yeah and this is kind of what I'm saying about you know people meeting you halfway because a lot of a lot of jobs they're not even tolerant to the degree that they will understand that you're not being nasty to people or like anything like that they're not even tolerant to that degree let alone accepting you and trying to understand your communication style and why you are the way that you are you know so there's there's no real way to to bridge that gap unless people start having conversations about it and we we like to have this this label of disability confident and having all of these um you know say we've got a program for introducing or like autistic people into the workplace or something well has that person been maintained within the organization for two years for what for one year you know who knows they're saying that it's nice okay good I appreciate it um I I actually just use one thing um I don't really want to give them a plug because it is like a medical company but I I do get some uh like scientific research backed creams that I use on a night I don't have like a morning nighttime regime literally just I have a scrub that I use when I'm in the shower and then I have like this cream that I use that's it hello andreos youtube joshji says uh yeah I remember getting bullied a lot like basically every day a few years ago in high school to the point where I had to leave the school the school dealt with it very badly which is very frustrating I'm sorry to hear that joshja that is another definitely another area of life that needs a lot more adjustments and understanding with definitely um well I appreciate you you're giving the youtube channel link but we don't we don't do self advertisements here so I appreciate not doing that well guys what would you um like me to talk about next because we have about eight minutes left so probably got some space for a nice nice little discussion before we round things up um please go ahead and of course if if you are wanting you know you're finding that perhaps the timing is not too good on these live streams I always try to upload them both on instagram and youtube post um just obviously won't be able to ask any questions I think I'm um just for anyone who is following me on an insta um I think I will be back to making insta posts possibly within a couple of weeks so I'll be back on it uh that is the that is the plan assuming that my mental health trend is right and that I am getting better scrumptious pumpkin says the most annoying things about people which ones are the most annoying things about people oh you want me to talk about that okay um I I would definitely say the indirectness is the most annoying part of things life is just so much easier like I get some people who I've talked to who say that like like they put themselves down for being too direct and blunt and I'm like but that's why I like talking to you like you know like I love that that truth truth directness honesty is lovely Ayola Edward says uh your skin is nice okay I wasn't sure what you were getting out of that um tell us what products you use and what methods you use I mean as I said just a scrub in the shower um I suppose I gotta go get it but I use this company called Dematica who give me some cream that I just put on and then I after them after my shower um when I'm really on it when my mental health is good I will try and like wash my face in the morning but I don't tend to use moisturizers because my my skin is quite naturally oily anyway as you can probably tell because it is a little bit hot today and I've got a little bit of the old oily skin glow going on um Kelmy Scow says uh the regulation and our ability to regulate um the regulation the temperature my brain's going all over the place at the moment um temperature regulation it's kind of it's an interesting that one that you've you've paired together because um a lot to do with our difficulty with regulation is down to lexifamia um you know that common thing that I talk about a lot inability to um or reduced ability to identify and categorize your own emotions um it's very highly linked to the sandeera of interoception so not interception like your contemplating life but um having an awareness of your bodily needs functions things like that so it could be temperature food hydration um bathroom you know things like that there those are all covered under interoception and it seems that the the doggy is back my my brother and um his partner is currently abroad so we do have the doggo here today um I could go grab them if anyone's interested in that have a little bit of a puppy time for the end of the uh the live stream um but yeah uh so temperature and ability to regulate is it's quite like you know two things I don't know if you you knew that they were quite interconnected but yeah they are um lexifamia was the biggest missing piece in my life for a long time definitely the biggest part of autism that me understanding helped with my general um life quality I would say you know how do you how do you um regulate when you don't know what you're feeling uh and that's that's the that's the the kind of the thing that really stopped me from being able to manage my mental health when I was younger a lot of therapists they give you like a sheet it's like oh this is what you do when you feel stressed you ground yourself and I'm like well it's it I appreciate that but I can only really tell that I'm anxious when I'm having a panic attack so that's not very helpful yes you would like to see the dog um Joshua G says have you ever been to northern island I have not um I would like to go to island at some point it would be really cool Iron Red Strike says hello uh go get dog well I can't I can't really say no no to you Kira so um I'll go get the doggy I will be back in a sec if if the doggy is around I don't know if they're like being picked up though she's been very difficult at the moment I'm trying to I'm trying to get her to come up but she's Dottie she's not coming she's not coming up my life string wait Dottie success success kill you come here doggy this is probably not very comfortable for you jump up you can do it you can do it I don't know if you saw her for a seconds which is just kind of running about at the moment come here she's not she's not the biggest dog here we go this is Dottie she's uh cocky spaniel here we go nice little treat for the end of the live stream have you it you seem very very tired I think she's been out for a walk or something you're getting a lot of love from the viewers today she's a which is wonderful hello Dottie don't know if you can hear her but she's like panting here we go I mean that's sniffer though okay go on then that is your daily dopamine of dog I hope you hope you like it she's she's a lovely dog she is like a beautiful creature which you're gonna have around a little bit a bit longer yeah hello Dottie you got lots of lots of lots of love Dottie hello Andrea you have you've you've joined us at the end of the stream you've missed the doggy love but um we will you'll be able to see on a replay thank you guys for joining today I'm going to go have some food and then head to the gym um uh but it's been lovely as per usual and I will see you um next week on a Friday um I felt like there's like a noise there I think my music's just stopped that was very eerie well um it's been lovely and um I hope you guys are doing well and I will see you next time so that YouTube and you guys on Instagram thank you