 I've been asked so many times how come you don't look fancy, how come you don't dress fancy. Well I'm dressing fancy for the haters today, got on my Louis Vuitton and my Chanel, I've got my Chanel earrings on for you guys today, my little Chanel, I mean I'm sorry my Louis makeup bag out, I have a whole bunch of purses on the floor for you guys because this is how mothers dress every day to drive and you know take their kids to school, make school lunches and go to the gym, this is how we dress on a daily basis when we're grocery shopping at Costco and this is how we dress when you know we check the mail, this is how we dress when we have to go up to the post office and this is how we dress when we sit at home just walking okay this is how we dress okay you guys this is how we dress um oh and also I I don't know which handbag to carry so I carry them all at the same time so that everybody could see that I'm just you know balling and things like that so I'm gonna show you guys my collection that's on the floor I don't know which one to get, should I get the Louis, should I get the Gucci, should I get the Chanel's you know which one, which one y'all want to see, should I get this one today like really should I should I wear this one with this outfit or is it or should I match it with this should I get the Louis Vuitton this looks really cute maybe this one yes this is really sporty yes um I don't know though it's so hard and then when you think about it all the brands that you got to put together you don't want to clash them you can't put a super cheap brand so you just get all confused and then your kids are late to school so darn it you don't know whether to wear your Versace, you don't know whether to wear your Chanel, you don't know whether to wear your star goddess, you don't know what to wear I mean like um you know what to wear should I wear my Tom Ford, should I wear my Coke O Chanel I don't know y'all there's too many choices out there um so I'm basically making this video because I have so many people always saying well if you if you live so well how come you don't dress nice how come you don't have none you know how come you're this and that because I don't need to be okay I've got all this stuff in my closet when I need it if I want it okay I don't have to get on camera looking like a million dollars just so you can believe the words that come out my mouth okay um if I did that would it make you feel better would it make you feel better you know I even have you know my little Versace umbrella you know I'm playing even even I get rained on this style okay so the reason I don't floss in front of everybody is because I don't have to okay I'm gonna have to do all of that why you know because what's it gonna do for you if I can show you all the stuff that I have but I don't teach you how to get it you know what I have all this stuff I don't really use it on a daily basis because I live in the suburbs and I have two kids you know um and I don't have a job so I don't have to go to work so I don't have any place to really wear this unless I go to the you know to the nice malls the Galleria to like some kind of art show whatever but this is not what I wear on the daily basis y'all so a lot of people that are hating on me saying oh why don't you just dance because I'm not new to this okay I don't have to show everybody everything because I want to feel better than them okay I already feel how I'm supposed to feel I don't need people to say oh well look at the background she don't have no money do you know how much have this stuff cost just because it doesn't look like you know some fancy stuff that people put in their house so they can look rich doesn't mean it's not worth anything okay um so anyway what I'm trying to say is if you're mad because you know of certain things and then you want to attack other people because oh they don't know what they're talking about they don't look this way don't they don't look that way I'm not on I'm not on the bus with a Louis Vuitton you know I have a car a house you know I'm not on the bus I'm my car is not getting repoed while I'm carrying Louis Vuitton okay so this is what I'm trying to tell you guys so I don't have to look rich I don't have to look fancy and I don't have to do any of that because you know I I can't if I want to and I don't need to how y'all don't so you know y'all want me to dress like this every day for no damn reason if to make a video yes I'm rich I have money I can afford the nice things in life and you know I know my point is not to get designer I'm not the point of my video the point of my video is to get treated like you're supposed to be treated and to be able to buy designer items if you feel like it without having to you know struggle without having to cash the bus because you decide to spend your tax check on a Louis Vuitton instead of a car you know what I'm saying so a lot of women you know you know and they get into their little groups and talk about people they don't know what they're talking about half the time and the other half of them is just jealous and hating okay and the reason that I feel like I had to make this video is you know because some people associate success with material items that you can buy designer items you know if I'm sitting up here in a regular shirt you know whatever whatever some people don't care and other people are like well if she if she has you know I think I could pull it either way I could clean up good once I put on an evening gal with some sleep with on it I could do anything you know I think I can take it anywhere but my bank account is not suffering on behalf of it you know I'm not I'm not flossing I'm not gonna floss to you I'm not going to show you all my stuff on purpose just so y'all can listen to me because if you don't listen to me then you don't really want the information anyway you know I'm saying um so you know and have the stuff well majority of the stuff was gifts y'all because y'all know I ain't buying nothing from my soil um this was a gift oh this is my one perfume this was a gift okay I don't remember if this was a gift I don't know if I bought it or not probably was it this is a gift and it's almost gone and it's old but this was my favorite perfume that's Coco Chanel uh so you know it doesn't matter and I just want y'all to know that y'all have to have the most expensive things to feel like you're somebody you just have to be able to know that you have money in the bank you got a car you got a house and you're secure okay everything else is added bonus and that's what you should be seeking you know I'm saying so the reason I don't flash is because I don't want this to be your main focus I want security and priorities in the right order you know not you know bubbles and luxury and stuff like that that's that comes after you're secured you know what I'm saying you don't want to have women out here chasing men just to buy them you know this and that when they should be trying to get you know secured for life or secured for the month or something like that you know what I'm saying yeah I came out early today oh my god I had a headache this morning and so I didn't go to the gym and I'm like it went away as soon as I drank a bunch of coffee and I'm good I'll do it now um so yeah so this is you know this is me um and then you know some people talk about my wig oh she lied about some static weave well because I have real hair and I don't need to buy a real hair wig oh I'm gonna just take it off so you know the thing is everybody people are gonna hate regardless even if they're a fan and then they're not a fan or they have something smart to say they're gonna hate anyway that's why I still gonna do what I do just the same way why because it's working for a lot of women all my advice all my free advice is helping women get money okay put their priorities in the right order um you know get their lives together and the women who believe that they can do it actually go and do it a lot of women still have low self-esteem and they can't do anything because they really don't think they deserve it you know they really don't think they deserve it so they have a hard time getting what they want in relationships and life in general and career because they don't feel like they deserve it and that's something that they'll never realize until they stop looking at everybody else and pointing the finger and say something to themselves you know um so I just wanted to put this out there a lot of women yes you know a lot of women don't understand because they've been conditioned so much you're not supposed to want certain things you're not supposed to have certain things you want sometimes you're greedy it can do certain things you know it's going to come back on you and y'all have been conditioned to believe all that so y'all have also been conditioned to not want it subliminally or think that you're supposed to have it but meanwhile there's other women out here who are highly successful um and usually these type of women who are highly successful have you know a more open mind they have their mind is open they feel that they deserve things and so they attract things and they're not afraid to ask for what they want because they feel they deserve it now a lot of women who feel like they don't deserve something they won't even ask for it because they don't because they fear the rejection because they know that they're putting out the frequency that they don't deserve deserve it so therefore they never get it and then they get upset at those who are getting it and you know they want to say oh well this is stupid it's not working no the reason it's not working is because you don't feel like you deserve it you got to get on the frequency of knowing you deserve something before you can get it and this is something that i teach you know um the methods that i use and on this channel to teach are also the methods that business people use they're the methods that the great you know industry leaders have used and they are proven successful so if you're not successful at this it's because you're not doing the personal work that you're supposed to do first you know what i'm saying you just try to hop out there and compete with the women who have already been doing the personal work within themselves and you haven't done that you know a lot of women have not done the personal work the healing the understanding that they deserve stuff first and then they just run out there and try to do this stuff and it doesn't work because they're not on the same vibration as these other women who feel they deserve it and attract men who want to give them things you know what i mean so if you're not having luck following some of this stuff you need to do personal work okay because you know your frequency has information in it and if you're vibrating i don't deserve this i i don't fit in here that's what people are going to pick up around you okay and it's going to be uncomfortable and they're not even going to see you hold on i'm trying to get my phone flipped they're not even going to see you as worthy you know what i mean of having what you want because you don't even think you're worthy of it and this is a lot of problem this is a lot of women's problem they don't feel like they're worthy okay so they don't even ask they're afraid to ask they're afraid to approach certain venues they're afraid to you know fail so they don't even try um anyway how are y'all doing i look jazzy yes i have on my uh my my luxury items today because people say i don't look like i have money and that i talk a lot but i don't have anything to show for it so like i had to bring all my crap out and show you guys that you know um i got like uh lots of money and things like that and we should listen to that but that's not what i do really i don't like to show off the stuff that i have i don't even really wear this stuff you know i i get more compliments on my cheaper items actually you know i because people can go and buy them they see something they like and they go oh where'd you get that oh i love it and then they'll go buy it but when they see me walking around with chanel Louis Vuitton they just look at me and like they won't say nothing because you know they're secretly envying it yeah but they don't see it that i'm approachable okay and i feel like in this world and where i live you know i'm in the suburbs you know i can't you know i can but i don't so it's just like do i really want to floss all this stuff because to me if you do it every day too much it's like a sign of insecurity you know and i don't need name brands and labels to make me feel imported i mean i already i already feel important so you know a lot of people feel like that i'm supposed to i'm just i'm just telling this to the new people that are coming and i'm supposed to be looking all rich and extra and you know tailored fancy and you know but the truth is i'm gonna look stupid dressed like this in my lifestyle you know what i mean i'm not out and about i'm not i'm not dating i'm not out at you know cruising for men i'm not i don't go to anybody's job i sit at home and make videos do readings pick up my kids you know do do consultations who's gonna look at me besides the mailman and the construction workers across the street you know so you know i have the flashy stuff but why do i need to wear it on the video that's pointless you know unless i'm trying to show it off you know i have it all you know yeah i understand people are attracted to success but they're also attracted to the truth and information and knowledge as well so you know me saying that if i have to dress up in order for some you know of the lesser people to believe you know my technique works then oh well you know y'all don't y'all not here for the right reason so yeah i know a lot of people you know will get upset with me and you know talk about my back and different groups and stuff because you know they're not successful or at what they do or they can't keep something long term or this is than that and they're upset because a lot of other women are doing great and they're just getting frustrated and they're taking it out on me the person that's giving them free information the person that helps them the person that probably has given them more confidence about themselves and i sit here and do this for free you know i can't take um you know i don't charge for my videos i don't go out and you know charge three hundred dollars for seminars and god like some other youtubers how am i doing you know i come up here live direct in my regular old clothes and and talk to y'all for hours upon hours and for people to do that it's like it shows it shows me why they can't succeed because they want to blame everybody else but themselves and that's the first thing that you have to do is take full responsibility of your actions before you can change into a better person so to me it they're not growing mentally they're not growing spiritually and they're not growing you know wiser they're just frustrated because they're stuck and when you get stuck you don't get upset you don't get frustrated you look within and see what you can do to get unstuck you don't lash out you don't get mad and say well i'm gonna turn on the person that has helped me this far because i can't get any further no you turn within and say what else can i do to move forward you know what am i doing wrong what can i change about myself to make myself more successful you know but instead you want to blame everybody else talk about everybody else say this and that because you stuck and you can't get nowhere and you're mad at the world because you got to live at home with your grandma okay so as a grown woman so i'm sorry i can't i can't help you any further if you don't help yourselves okay i mean i moved about my mama house a long time ago never went back never going back unless it's until she wills it to be my house okay so yeah and you know there i know there are lots of other groups on facebook and you know people go in there and talk trash and stuff about the group that they're paid to get into and then they get kicked out because they sit over here gossiping because they are not successful in the group because they don't listen and they don't take the advice because they have their own mind and they're trying to do stuff that they've been trying to do for years that hasn't worked for them yet but they're still stuck on it but they pay fifty dollars to get in the group and i don't i don't get that you just wasted some money you know thank you the reason i charge for the group is to keep women like that out you know if you're going to invest in yourself i would think that you are investing in yourself spiritually mentally and as well you know um so maybe i should before i let new people in i should say are you working on yourself are you taking full response do you think you deserve this lifestyle are you do are you willing to do what it takes to get there or are you stuffing your ways do you get frustrated easily you know i have to ask i got to add more questions to my list now because you know so many people are just sitting there watching but they don't do anything to change you know it's just like somebody can watch something all day and get all the information they need all the techniques that they need but they won't change and you know i i regret letting certain people in my group that i have to let go because of certain things but you know you only mess up one time with me that's it one time that's all it takes you gone just like a man you mess up with me it's it's over unless you pay me a large amount of money to get back in my life and then i can um you know profit off of you then i can't i can't look backwards because i don't do that i keep moving and i don't look back and if i do look back you know and wave that's all you get so i'm sorry you know but can't do it won't do it so there's some new spots open and have to do a cleansing thing but you know um it's all about that some new spots and i'm gonna start looking very carefully at the people i look at in because observing the people that always betray the group they're they all have something in common i'm not gonna say what it is because y'all gonna be like ooh you just mean you're just you know you're you're classifying people but the people that always have the same issue i'm gonna look very closely at their profiles okay and you can't hide you know i'm gonna look very closely because a lot of people who try to you know get in this group and think that they can do what these other girls are doing they're not there mentally you know they have their set in their ways and they don't realize that men don't like how they look at scene even if they love themselves the way they are it's not appealing to men and that's the whole purpose of joining a group to actually attract you know the type of man you want if you want to attract the type of man you want but you look at the exact opposite of what he finds attractive how are you supposed to do that magic through uh hypnosis or something i don't know but the whole the whole issue is they're not willing to do the work don't come in a group looking busted talking about oh i'm not successful because i'm i have morals and snow you're not successful because you're not attractive to the type of man that you're trying to get that's why because most men they they they go with their eyes and you know what they're turned on by and obviously if you keep failing if they're not turned on by you now yeah i do have a pygmy group that everyone can join for free and it's satire it's satire and a lot of people join don't think in it's satire they're really joined to you know to have some type of 50-50 thing going on and it's funny because you when they post they're confused they don't know and then people start trolling them it's like so y'all can go join that and you know i'm in there every once in a while but um if you don't get offended by anything in the pygmy group you know then perhaps you could be in the regular group but a lot of people just get offended or they pretend they're not offended but then they go gossip on the side to their friend you should see this mess it's ratchet it's not ratchet living in your grandma's house past the age of 25 is ratchet okay um so you know it's not ratchet what it is it is techniques that are used by corporations business to seal deals okay to get people interested in you know how i teach you know and also women who know what they're worth not afraid to ask and men who deserve to be um you know exploited as they try to exploit us sexually you know what i'm saying and so you know they were fine with until they got kicked out and gossiped because they couldn't cut it they couldn't go out and do what the next girl is doing because they're not willing to play the part to play the role you know people are like well i couldn't do that i couldn't do that well it's called acting okay if you can't act you don't and you have these morals these high moral standards that won't allow you to ask for certain things so you can move out your grandma house and get your own apartment then that's on you i'm sorry okay i don't lie to james so many times to get what i wanted but we still married and i'm still here and we're still happy you know man will lie to you in two seconds but you got morals okay bye i will lie to i will lie to any man who is trying to sexually exploit me ask for sex get up in my inbox i will lie and scam on him why because he's trying to do the same thing to me so why can't i do it you know uh i feel like a lot of these women are still pick me chicks on the you know on the inside and they and it's just coming out because they can't help it and it's like they try to so hard to suppress it but it just keep coming out because it's been programmed you gotta get rid of that program first because if you're a undercover pick me chick and it keeps coming out you know you can't hold it in that means you don't need to be in a group you should just left on your own and started your own growth you know to talk about whatever y'all need to talk about so everybody keeps asking what i feel about plastic surgery if you get it great if you if you can afford it if you can get somebody to pay for it great do whatever you need to do i don't care like it doesn't bother me if people get plastic surgery like what do i have to do with me if you if you want to look better and you want plastic surgery to make yourself look better then go get it if you don't think you need it then don't get it it doesn't you know i don't have any i really don't have a opinion on it someone says girl i look snatched yes i have to look like this so people can like believe the things that come out of my mouth because i'm supposed to be so well taken care of so injury is so rich you know i have the haters talking about me well she don't look like she got no money this time supposed to dress up every day supposed to like put my Louboutin's on and my Louis Vuitton scarf and Chanel pin and Chanel earrings and spray on all the perfumes that once that i got you know carry every person i got i don't know like what y'all want me to do so when people start hating on you they they kind of reach for the stuff that's that you're not uh let's see actively doing like okay well she don't look like she got the lifestyle she got you know she don't ever dress fancy and every time i see her outside she's in a car a parking lot full of bad cars by some apartments okay there there well maybe i'm next to the gym maybe i'm next to the grocery store maybe i'm doing this you know everybody who follows my channel for real know i don't live in no apartment okay but they probably still live at home with their mom that's the whole that's the whole funny part about it or their grandmother so if you if you can't outdo me you don't need to talk about me let's just say that and you if you are not outdoing me and you talk about me it's just called being jealous if you're outdoing me and talking about me then maybe we have something to talk about you know but if you're not outdoing me and you and you're way way down here and you're talking about something it's just called hating that's all it's called because um you know how you're gonna fix your mouth to talk about something when your grandma walking around when you're trying to Facebook i mean FaceTime in the background how you gonna how you gonna talk trash about somebody when your grandma sitting there walking in behind you when you're trying to FaceTime somebody you can't talk about nobody okay okay how do i mean team my classiness with the haters i don't know i just uh i don't i don't really blame them because if i was them i would hate on me too y'all with sarcasm and that's all i mean team my classiness okay all right so i'm gonna go look back at some of the comments y'all y'all have to hold my things because my my stand broke i gotta go best buy and get a real stand now set a five below you know and then i got the trolls talking about oh you your man need to buy your mic your man need to buy it it's on my wish list i get somebody to buy it for me don't worry about it y'all miss my pink mic actually one of my fans is sending me a microphone of a nice one so thank you so much and we appreciate it um so i should be getting that scene i hope it works out for this phone um yeah yeah like i said i'm gonna have to view profiles very carefully before i let anybody else in the group okay i don't i can't do like i'm i'm start like i hate to do it because the conscious community the spiritual community are a lot of the people that are having issues because of their fake morals even though that their lifestyle does not reflect their morals you know what i'm saying so if you got some type of hotep name or you know a bunch of crazy stuff on your page and you're trying to you know switch it up to be in a gold digger when you've been taking care of ray ray for 20 years i don't know if i'm gonna let you in okay if you got you know i don't know if i'm gonna let you in if you've been taking care of me and for 20 years and then try to switch up real quick because i don't think you're mentally prepared okay because you're gonna start feeling guilty you're gonna start you're not gonna you're gonna be afraid to ask a man for money because you've been conditioned so long to give a man money i don't know if i'm gonna let you in you know i'm saying because these are the type of women that will go and talk about the whole group or the group or people in the group behind their back because they can't get their mind together to realize that they deserve something besides BS you know so i don't know i'm gonna let y'all in you gotta you gotta be on your job already you want to get in start doing this stuff before you get in you know what i'm saying because i can't let any more picnics in ever y'all can't come back y'all cannot come in you gotta already be gold digging okay and i have to see it on your page and i need to see that you not ashamed to be a gold digger either because i have all these people in here i'm afraid that i'll be exposed in there if you're afraid to be known to have high qualities i mean high standards and only want high quality men then you know that's fine but i'm not ashamed of it and i feel like a lot of women shouldn't be ashamed of it you know i understand people have jobs and stuff like that and they have to maintain that i understand that but you know if you're not publicly you know already saying a man should take care of a woman on your regular page and if i don't see a bunch of you know pic me looking pictures then maybe maybe if you look good if you don't if you look like you don't need a ton of work you know i'm starting to strict strict and you know stricken the rules because there's too many picnics out here and they they think they can do it but when they get in they crack their mind cracks and they they break down and they go crazy and they get upset and they start you know gossiping about the whole group and you can tell the signs because they'll start posting crazy stuff in the group at first because they're so they're about to crack and they get frustrated they were like well how do you women do this and are y'all sure that you let's talk about this they'll post like 20 posts and then they'll go to another group and gossip and that's when they crack and then when they get called they can't they can't even deny they just they just gotta go so if y'all start posting some crazy stuff i'm just gonna like take it down and delete it and you know and if i if i if if something happens you're going to but the the whole thing is you know if this is not for you don't try to join the group just watch the video you know what i'm saying don't waste your time don't waste your money if you're a pic me and you just want to change like you know this year stay on the videos when you start gold digging already then you come to the group to get the tips okay you don't come in here after you just uh broke up with your third baby daddy and you know you was paying for everything for for like years and years you ain't ready yet okay you got to get into the mentality of feeling you deserve something making the change yourself you know going out with men of you know higher means changing your look you know you got to do all that by yourself and then you'll be ready for the group okay you can't come in there green because if you come in there green you're going to get frustrated okay it's just like you know it's it's kind of like being in kindergarten and and walking into a high school class you know it's not you're gonna you're gonna crack because you're not going to be able to keep up you're not going to understand what it is now if you've already been doing this yeah great you'll fit right in but if you're just starting out just keep watching the videos until you secure yourself and looks mentality and are you know are starting to date men with money already now this is just how to get to the next level okay so don't charge on the group if you knew keep watching the videos and improve yourself i'm not letting nobody else that look green in when i say green i mean no makeup no you know no hair if you look like somebody's made you not getting in i'm sorry and i'm not trying to be rude but these are the type of women who need to improve themselves first and then come back and try to join you know what i'm saying get yourself together first you know that way i know you're serious about it if you're having financial problems you don't need to be focused on dating you focus on securing yourself so you come in here talking about i'm almost homeless no okay stay over there get yourself together and then start dating when when you can breathe relax and not worry about you know being kicked at your house okay so take care of yourself first that's what i'm trying to help tell you don't rush to join a group group because you think it's the answers to all your problems no it's not it's just to help those people with tips to success to getting what they need it's not to take you from a pygmy to a go there in one week that's not what it's for okay okay so you know i've had people that have joined the group like i've been watching your videos since you started your channel and i have listened to everything you said and it's been working and now i'm doing what you said can i join the group yes of course you can't you know um because you've been successful you change you don't look like you know you just came out of a relationship you know as a pygmy you have been applying the techniques and stuff like that already so take it to the next level you know oh sorry about taking that so yeah um then uh you don't have my trolls on here those guys who are always on here trolling it's because they y'all they have a channel and they have no viewers or content so they have to come over here and harass y'all um hoping that i'll say their name or something or you know blah blah they even asked me to do a video with them and i told them i would if they paid me but they ain't got no money so they don't get no interview okay um okay don't ask me these dumb questions y'all in the comments okay if you don't like what i say you don't have to watch these videos okay i'm not i can't be politically correct for every every type of situation okay um you know i keep seeing questions like oh so you don't so wearing makeup is bad or it's bad according to the type of man you want to attract yes because you know nobody's going to take you out looking barefaced and blah to a five-star restaurant or around their colleagues and stuff like that if you want to date Ray Ray from around the block he don't care about your makeup okay so what i'm saying is you have to upgrade yourself level up okay if you walking around with lipstick and clear gloss and thinking you bomb and as soon as somebody else walked by um you know who's taking an hour to get ready you know you're going to be sadly mistaken you know unless you're just epitome of natural beauty and you know supermodel material right so stop asking these questions y'all i already know my answer yes that's what i'm saying so makeup is equated with success especially in the corporate industry you have to look your best you have to look and you have to compete you have to bring in you have to seduce you have to do all of that and that's what makeup helps people to do okay women who wear makeup get promoted faster than women who don't and you have to know this like this is i'll tell you this is how i teach i use business laws business techniques to success psychological techniques you know it's not just some stuff that i'm getting off the top of my head a lot of it is but it still relates to you know a structure that is guaranteed success so if you want like i said you can't come in a group they're faced plain you know wearing some stuff that nobody wants to be seen in public with who is you know wealthy you can't come in there as you are you got to come in there as knowing what it takes to attract the type of man that you want not what you like you know with what a man finds attractive is different from what a woman likes okay it just is most of the stuff that women wear men design did you know that men have men designed the high heel the bra you know most of the fashion because they know what they want to see you know what i'm saying so why would you think that you're going to be successful in attracting wealthy men if you're going against what they even find attractive you know what i mean so that that's the kind of mentality i have to keep out of the group because you're stuck in your ways and you think that it's gonna work and you're gonna be the exception to the rule if you're the exception to the rule you don't need the group okay or you don't need the channel if you're the exception to every rule then you don't need the channel or the advice you you just got it you already know what to do someone says i use your advice as a gay man and it works thank you i'm glad it's working for you so if you know you need to do something to improve your chances of finding uh the type of man you want or to at least competing then just go do it don't don't wait for somebody go tell you to do it you already know what to do you know um if you see the kind of girl he's looking at and then you look at yourself and you don't look anywhere near it then that's on you you gotta go change that i can't help you unless you help yourself first you know there's no magic trick that's gonna get Rasputia a man but he's attracted to uh Halle Berry there's no trick you know so the whole point is you gotta compete well everything is a competition hopefully so i'm rasputia and i think i should get a man just being myself okay well hope maybe you'll be a blind man but you know you want to get mad at people because you have not taken the chance the time to improve upon yourself you know and it's not my fault or anybody else's fault that's your fault you know what i'm saying yeah yeah when you see just think about this you see a very sexy tall business man clean cut in a nice suit smell good look good nice shoes just walking you want that you worship you're worshiping that with your eyes you're googling it with your eyes right he knows he can pick any woman he wants he knows he can get whatever he wants he's confident himself he's not nervous he knows he deserves whatever he asks for or gets right same with a woman you see a woman walking out in a place beautiful beautiful hair nails make up nice clothes nice dress smell good nice heels or shoes or whatever she got on boots nice purse uh smiling you know every man head will turn okay you get some other girl walking in looking like mother earth and stuff like that yeah people gonna look but it's not for the same reason okay the name is like oh she's she's different you know some men might find her attractive but most men will find the other woman attractive that's the difference you know what i'm saying she's gonna have to wait for someone who is searching for that particular type of woman versus the type of woman that most men like you know what i'm saying so you gotta think like that you know y'all y'all know what i'm talking about and that's what i'm just saying you know you you can't you can't infuse your style if you're trying to be successful in a timely matter you gotta either you know play the part play the role secure the bag or wait you try to be the exception to the rule and waste time for me i you know time is running so i'm gonna get it get it get in and get out just like that after you marry okay after it's too late and you know no one no one tells people this like i'm surprised that there's no other women telling telling women what they are supposed and what they already know that they're supposed to do you know people care about feelings too much oh well i can't say that they might get offended but if a man told you that you get real offended and you'd be hurt but a woman telling you this to help you in the future you know i think it's uh i think it's good because if no one tells you and you have to find out the hard way then what then you're gonna be even more angry and bitter you know i'm just saying it straight up because everybody knows it's true they just don't want to admit it they just don't want to admit it for some reason they don't want to admit that they should they need improvement i need improvement i'm not a perfect person i'm i work on myself daily and i don't stop and i don't make excuses for it you know what i'm saying so you should be doing the same thing if you're not working on yourself daily and you're expecting to get the best out of life then you know you got to be the best in life now when i say this i don't mean the best as far as the best looking or the riches or the best in career i mean the best you can be the best perfect something on yourself you know work on something that will make you stand out you know if you have you know if you have normal basic average features work on your body you know if you have a okay body and beautiful face facial features work on your makeup you know if you have beautiful hair work on your hair you know accentuate what you have already you know don't try to you know try to fix stuff that you can't fix focus on your best trait you know what i'm saying this is usually what boosts people's confidence knowing that their best asset is almost perfected okay this like you'll see a woman who's not that beautiful but she has the best body in the room you know every man every man is going to look at that you know you see a woman who doesn't have the best body but her face is flawless men are going to look at that why is she so beautiful you know and you know it's not we don't all have a hundred percent of the perfect you know features uh every part of our body everybody has flaws but you don't you don't um focus on those flaws you focus on what's good that you can improve and make stand out you know mm-hmm so i'm trying i'm trying some women don't know it yet yeah someone says is that michelle obama yeah like i'm addressed like this every day to go pick up tears from school and go to the grocery store um yeah my haters think that since i don't look fancy that i'm not a good source to get uh information from because i'm not fancy because i'm not fake bawling like a lot of them are you know you might have this and that but you live in that grandma all right i have this and that and my own health okay so i do have a husband but i still had this and that before i had a husband you know i had the um i had a nice car i had men buying me gifts still way back then yes i did um i still live with with with my mom because she said that i should live there until i get married and i said you know what i don't want to live here but i will i was never there anywhere if i was at uh james's house but the whole the whole point is yes i'm married but you know she's close to my age y'all so if she's upset that i can do something that she can't even if i wasn't married to my husband i would still live good i would still live very well because you know that's how i've always lived and nothing would have changed because my standards didn't change you know what i mean and a lot of people ask me why come you don't have friends that's why i my friends have to have exactly what i got or better okay if i have friends i can't be friends with anybody beneath me because they get too jealous and they and they might not think so at first but then as the more time you'll start to see it i don't have no more fake friends like i have already dealt with that in my early 20s and teens and don't work out so unless the woman that i hang out with have what i got or more it ain't gonna work out just like the type of man i um were attracted to if they ain't got more than me i can't deal with them because they're not gonna understand me they're not going to be able to keep up they ain't going to go eat dinner where i want to eat you know i can't do all of that so i'm just saying you know why would i be friends with certain people who are going to secretly hate on me behind my back and not be able to do the stuff that i want to do because they baby daddy only paying $12 a month in child support i couldn't hang around people like that because and it's not because i don't see them as equal it's because i know it's not gonna work out it's not gonna work out because i like to go eat at nice places i like to go shop i like to do stuff on this level okay and it's not gonna we how we gonna hang out if you can't do the same thing okay that's all i'm saying so that's why i don't have a lot of friends i have like i hang out sometimes with my cousin and somebody else and because we can go and do you know otherwise i can just stay at my house by myself or do do stuff by myself so a lot of people will say oh my god that is so rude that is so wrong what you're saying doesn't make it less any less true though okay it might be wrong it might be rude but that's my truth okay so it is what it is and you know once you don't once you stop caring what other people think and you know what you want and you have standards you're going to start attracting the things the very things that you deserve and want because you're not afraid to admit it talk about it be about it you know if you're still on the fence and trying to save face and trying to not to look like this type of person or that type of person because you're afraid people are going to judge you then you're going to stay stuck like that in that limbo stage you know if you come with it and say look this is what i expect this is what i want i can't settle for nothing less this is it that's what people are going to come to you with that's what they're going to present you with the best because that's how you treat yourself and a lot of women don't know how to do this you know carry yourself like you deserve the world and the world will be given to you you know yes women can't be humble this these days if you're humble you're going to be treated like a flip stew a doormat okay that's how you're going to be treated so you can't be humble in this world because the only reason you should be humble is if you have something to gain and it is acting you can act humble but don't be humble there is a difference okay i can act humble when i need something i can act all day long you know being humble and acting humble are two different things so that's why i encourage when i you know if you want something you need to act a certain way go ahead and do it if it's beneficial but it doesn't mean you are that way see this is where the picnics get confused they don't know how to act and how not to be you know what i'm saying they don't they don't know that acting is different from being so i try to i try to tell them but their mind is stuck yeah someone's talking about Kendrick Lamar song be humble i'm not you know perhaps he's talking to himself because his ego is getting too big for himself maybe and he's basically talking to himself i think um and as far as women it's different for men you know what i mean men can get uh what they call a napoleon complex which is like what Kanye West had or has and it can get out of hand okay if you don't act humble okay now the difference between like Jay-Z and Kanye okay Jay-Z already know he the best okay uh and and you know as far as you know between him and Kanye Kanye has to constantly boast about it talk about it be about it da da da because secretly he's insecure and the reason that Jay-Z isn't going around saying that except in his rap is because he has to pretend to be humble so that he doesn't be perceived like Kanye okay so it's just like you'll have the most successful people that will seem humble but behind closed doors they're like i know i'm the best ain't nobody can compete with me they're they're talking BS behind doors not in the public eye you know so they act humble but they're not humble because if they were humble they wouldn't be where they are yeah yes and you know like minds come together and they form a higher mind and that's when you get more stuff done bigger ideas and more success okay you got too many people who are not like minded they're not going to vibrate on that same frequency and they're going to have to leave and go find other like minds and that's what happens you know that's why if you're not on the level of frequency of how you feel about yourself and how you think you're gonna you're not gonna fit in and you're not gonna you know have the same you know frequency and ideas as these other people because you're not there yet mentally you got to prepare yourself to get there and then you get there you know um that's what i'm saying if you're not working on yourself every day you're not going to understand people who are highly confident and not humble so i'm saying you know it's going to they're going to come off as you know full of themselves and this isn't that but when you get to that level because you know you have worked on yourself you've mentally prepared yourself you have reprogrammed yourself you're going to understand that this is why these people are getting stuff because they know they deserve it and they're vibrating on a frequency that says i deserve this i'm the best i only deserve the best don't come to me with no crap because i'm gonna um slap it out your hand and turn around you know what i'm saying if you're afraid to be like that then you deserve whatever you get and that is one of the things you know that is one of the the um one of the techniques in business don't take what you don't want you know that is one of the laws to success do not accept what you don't want because you're working against yourself if you do and why because first of all you're lying to yourself you're putting yourself last and accepting something that you don't even want because you're trying to save the other person's feelings and not your own you're supposed to be first you're supposed to be happy with the choice that you made you're supposed to be glad that you have made a decision okay and a lot of women don't do this they they take the crap that they don't want and then they then they wonder why their life sucks because they weren't supposed to accept that crap in the first place they're supposed to say by felicia no i don't want that no that's not good enough you know and most likely the man would have gone and done better or another man would come along who could meet her standard you know but if you accept the absolute worst or the least or the minimum that's what you're going to keep getting that's what you're going to keep getting that's what you're going to keep attracting because that's the frequency you want i don't deserve nothing give me the bare minimum i'll take anything because whatever you know i don't care i don't care just i don't care because i'm not worth anything that's what you're telling people you know i saw this meme on facebook and there was like some cash laid out on a table and some guy was asking you know if you needed two hundred dollars and you asked your man for money and you didn't tell him how much you just said i need some money he left five hundred on the table how much would you take you know all them pickies was saying oh i only take what i need oh i would just take a hundred and i find a hundred somewhere else i don't want my man to be broke you know just like in the the satire picnic group but this was a real post and these were real picnics and and i was like i would have took all of it and then ask him for some more later because and the lady was like oh that's so like why would you do that that's like because i want my i want him to understand that i expect more out of life and he put it down there obviously he had it so i took it you know i'm not taking the bare minimum so he can give me the bare minimum next time i'm taking the most so he can and then i'm gonna ask him for some more well i need it more than five hundred you know even if i needed two hundred i'm getting i'm getting seven hundred why because that sets the standard you know next time when he when you when you say you need some money he's gonna put a thousand now you would have took the two hundred next time you asked for money he's gonna put 200 now who who's a fool you know what i'm saying um so don't consider a man okay they're a man they good they got it they're a man okay consider yourself all right they ask you what you need you tell them don't think about them oh i don't want them to be broke or oh i don't want them to think that this is what do you need what do you want that's what you tell them you know because they're asking you don't be sitting up here trying to figure out how you can uh get the least out of them because you want to make a good impression on them on how basic and um you know low standard you are no get the most you get the most and you'll be given the most ask for the most and you'll be given the most like ask for the least you'll be given the least i'm asking for more than what i need every time i ask for something you know that's how you should do it because that's how they do when you sell something they put that car price up there super high knowing you some fool is gonna pay for it or you know what they really need is 10 000 less but if they put it 10 000 hot they can make more profit at the same time and if you come to the middle you're still getting paid you know what i'm saying you didn't lose and you still got what you wanted plus more now this is a technique that business use and women are sitting here saying oh well i can't do that and they sit there and go to work every day and do the same technique on other people getting their money but they can't do it where it counts you know what i'm saying if you take your business technique and apply it to your personal life you will be highly successful you know so if y'all have problems with you know making phone calls doing bill collections and stuff like that then you should have a problem with your man sitting on your couch not paying no bill okay you go to work every day and sell stuff and upsell stuff and ask them if you won't rise with that and you come home to your man and take the bare minimum and you're not applying the sales technique to your relationship then i don't know what to tell you you know what i'm saying so if you're um you know if you're going to work every day doing the most for you know this this that and then go home and take the least it's not smart so my approach is approach you know a lot of women are successful because i use it like a business approach i asked the man for 500 so i could get my hair done and it only cost 80 dollars see now you can go get a outfit and shoes are there a man who like muscular women those muscular bodybuilder types they do like because y'all can work out together y'all can drink smoothies together and eat high protein stuff together you have to be in that similar lifestyle you know what i'm saying but the average man they don't really go for it you know so um that's something the average man doesn't really like it takes a special man who admires that type of physique thank you okay someone says how do you go from dumb to clever strategy thinking you know figuring stuff out leaving out the morals okay well thank you i appreciate it and you know the funny thing is people say oh i wish i had someone you someone like you in my life growing up and better most people in real life don't listen to people like me because first of all if i see like they'll first of all they'll think i'm jealous and i won't they broke man so they ain't gonna listen second that they think that i think i know too much and i don't know everything and i don't know about this true love connection that they got i'm like okay you know i don't help people in person why because they don't want advice and unless they come and ask me can you help me i don't give out free information on solicited information in person you know why because people find it offensive and they think they're right and when you're in love with somebody you can't tell you can't say nothing bad about that person okay because they're basically brainwashed and you know mental at that point you know when you're in love with somebody you're actually on a level of insanity did you know that that's why when people kill in crimes of passion it's a different type of charge because you're temporary temporarily insane so when you're deep in like when i do consultations for women or readings and these women are deeply in love or deeply obsessed i tell i can't help you until you get over this food you know so um or realize that this person is wrong your love for them is blinding you for your from your own sanity and the love for yourself and the love for your children you know um i get i get a lot of women who um have said this to me and i'm not gonna say any names but a lot of women will say i made a mistake and had baby with the wrong man and now i hate my life and i don't want it i want to give away my kids and i want to move and i want to go and do this this is that you know i'm like well first of all you already made the choice to have the baby i mean you could have had an abortion um the second you didn't want the baby because the man didn't want you so that was your mistake it's not the baby's fault you know you already knew why didn't you why didn't you say no i'm not having your baby unless you marry me you know you can't think you can't put the blame on everybody else you made the mistake and yes we have free will and if that's what you want to do then great you don't need my permission to do it you can go and do it without telling anybody in fact i wouldn't tell anybody you know what i'm saying because then you know it's like you're asking for permission you don't need permission to do what you need to do now morally most people would disagree with you and say you need to take care of that baby and stuff like that but think about this are you going to make the same exact mistake again because you have not bettered yourself that's the whole point people don't better themselves in between their mistakes and they end up making the same mistake over and over and over because they didn't even learn from the first one oh this one's going to be different but you're doing the same thing so how's it going to be different so the point i'm making is if you don't change yourself your life ain't gonna change either you know so someone says would you take advice would you advise someone trying to look classy to wear a knockoff designer clothes hey if that's all you can afford that's fine with me but i don't think you need them you know what i'm saying i can look good without designers the whole reason i'm wearing this is because a lot of haters are saying well i she don't look fancy why is she telling everybody that she has a good lifestyle and you know she has all this money and stuff like that but she don't look fancy and she just wears regular clothes because why would i look fancy going to pick up kids from school making school lunches go under the grocery store okay i'm a suburban house wife i don't have to dress fuck you know i might wear some fancy lounge around clothes like you know pink victory secret or you know whatever but i don't need to fancy i've already got my lifestyle i already got my hoods and i already my life is set you know i can i can wear rags if i want you know but i'm just doing this to be facetious and you know show show off all my my gear like i'm doing this to be facetious because um people like to talk but they don't i'm not going to show off all my stuff to make them feel like i'm credible you know what i'm saying because it doesn't mean anything um and plus it's not something that i wear all the time i don't wear this type of stuff all the time if there's a special occasion if i'm going somewhere super fancy or where everybody else is dressed like this yeah i'ma put it on i don't walk around like this all the time every day you know i barely use my designer purses you know so you know the the whole point is i don't need it to feel important or fancy or like i got something that i can go to the store and buy whatever i want okay i can go to the car lot and get what i want i could go you know i can go anywhere and get what i want i don't have to look at my bank account i ain't got to check my statement i just go by why because i have it when you have everything you don't want to go and get more you know what i'm saying when you have everything you get mad because you can't even go shop no more because there ain't nothing else you want you got it off or you don't have nowhere to wear it because you have a routine and that's what you do and that's what you enjoy so for me i'm like hmm what can i buy next i shop online none of that is you know i don't need any of it anymore you know i have everything i want the only thing i kind of really do splurge on is makeup and wigs because i'm sitting in front of the camera all day so i splurge on something that i use on a daily or weekly basis y'all can't see my shoes you know the housewives around where i live don't care what kind of shoes i wear so why should i splurge on shoes you know what i'm saying um so that's the point i don't spend reckless money but i can go buy whatever i want believe me and more like i could buy i have stuff that i haven't even used yet you guys i'm just gonna give it away for christmas presents i don't have to go christmas shopping that's how and i realize you know i shop a lot i used to shop more and i don't need anything you know i could i could go and and just drop five grand on a purse if i wanted to but who gonna see it the grocery store checkout dude i can't wear it on camera i'm gonna be like oh hi she was seven how are you okay we're gonna talk today we're gonna talk like that's to silly what i got it but you don't i can't where am i gonna use it the growth the grocery store dude don't know what that is the only person that's going to be impressed with those purses are other women you know what i'm saying and i don't have no other women friends except for one or what am i gonna okay oh the gay dude at starbucks loves it though like every time i go to starbucks you see oh i love your Chanel i love your Gucci i'm like oh thank you you know that's it gay guys like my stuff and women like my stuff and i really don't even go too many places for them to give me compliments so i'm always at home you know i did you know what i was at the mall and i saw this gay guy he had a Chanel purse too i was like oh i like your purse it's like oh thank you honey so yeah so best age to get married i say it just depends like how long you've been out there how long you've been dating if you've been dating and have had a couple of serious relationships then you know just i say don't get married until you're at least 27 and up you know because you're not you're not gonna actually i say your brain isn't even fully developed until you're 25 so i say wait till you're 27 and up to get married because you never know you know you might be missing out on a lot of stuff you might not have experienced enough you might not know the person long enough i say and then you you know and don't have kids until a year or two after you get married don't and don't you know don't hop right into motherhood you know because you need that time to bond with your husband and have fun go on trips and save up money and do stuff don't get married and then go have a baby right away okay because if you do you'll regret it your relationship won't evolve like it should and you're gonna have problems okay so make sure you follow you know most people will tell you the same thing don't get married to after you a certain age and don't have no baby right away most people tell because they probably did and they say well i should wait but i i i had a baby a year after i got married i got married at 27 or 26 27 or 26 and um i've dated james for four years so we knew each other we already lived together then we got married and then a year later we had a baby so we had already been together for so long anyway it was like we were married but i ain't doing a laundry and i wasn't cooking and i still don't do it um because you know i already told him like i had my standards already because i told james like look i'm not a housekeeper don't make me do no domestic duty then okay if i feel like it i'll do it if i don't i ain't doing it okay and you know i don't make videos about using the average guy or you know or taking advantage of guys my videos are about you know the guys that have it they don't mind spending it basically you know it's not a scam it's not being mean it's not doing this if you can afford it you know what i mean it's just like um it's just not it's because if you're trying to buy a car you know what you can afford and what you can't afford right you're not going to take yourself to the Bentley dealership and you can only afford a Hyundai you ain't gonna do it okay so what we have here are people who with Hyundai money coming up to the Bentley dealership telling them their prices is too high look these prices ain't for you okay so the Hyundai man sorry anybody dropped the Hyundai my first car was a Hyundai okay um shout out the Hyundai so i'm just using them because they're price okay we could say Kia Hyundai whatever y'all know but a lower price vehicle you know the person who has that type of money of course is going to be offended at someone who says i want a Bentley you can't afford to buy me this car that i want so i can't deal with you you know um don't get mad at them that's just what they want just like men you know they'll they'll tell you straight up they don't like a certain type of woman you know and for women it's different you know when men go for looks women go for finance that's just it you know a woman don't care what you look like most of the time if she's mature you know and if she is focused on lifestyle versus looks you know so if a woman a grown woman who understands you know that marriage should increase you um is not going for looks you're going for finance and lifestyle because otherwise why get married if it you're not gonna live a better life you might you might live a life you know with someone who you find attractive and you know have fun with but how long does that last you know how long does that honeymoon phase last and a couple of years you're gonna be burnt out of it he's just gonna be a normal person to you because you see him every day uh so what's where you're gonna get out of it you're gonna have to drag yourself to work every day work hard split the bills you know do this and that but if you had married for a lifestyle you wouldn't have to do none of that you could enjoy your life basically so that's what i'm saying some people don't understand that a lot of women don't want to marry for any other reason than lifestyle they don't want to date for any other reason than lifestyle because i think the weekend said it the best in his song uh six feet six feet under yeah he says um something about she not looking to fall in love or something like that because um it's it's it's too hard to find so she goes for the money uh to find someone who you're truly in love with who will do anything for you put you on a pedestal won't you on your beat beat 100 faithful to you is very rare you ain't gonna find that ever ever ever you're not gonna find a perfect romantic partner that's going to give you your every need and give you the prince charming fairy tale life so don't invest your feelings into that you know you're going to waste a lot of time seeing but that's not going to happen you know if it happens great it's very rare but it's not doesn't happen to everybody but what you can make happen is choose a financially successful or stable and when i say stable i mean take your you can take care of everything person okay now a lot of men don't understand when i say financially stable i mean can you fully take care of your woman and if she has a baby can you take care of that too and you fully support without her working that's stable that's a stable man okay if you're unable to do that you are not financially stable enough to be a husband financially abundant and financially successful means your wife can go out in shock and splurge and not have to worry about checking the bank account okay so that's what i'm that's what i'm teaching you know why do something that you don't want to do why except the lifestyle that you don't even want that's what i'm saying you know when you marry somebody you marry their lifestyle even if you're marrying for love you're marrying their lifestyle still okay so just remember that you're not marrying the person you're marrying their lifestyle so remember that if you marry for love look at their lifestyle as well so you're marrying for love and a certain lifestyle a mediocre lifestyle some you know are you willing to be happy with that or are you gonna stumble across these videos years later and figure well i really didn't want the lifestyle i mean now i want to change everything and start nagging my man or my husband that he needs to do better but when y'all got married y'all agree to that lifestyle you know i'm saying some some people outgrow each other you know women will outgrow the man most likely um some men outgrow the women and that's when they divorce you know they say women who are you know women who marry for lifestyle stay married longer than women who married for love okay why because you know the women who married for love they don't stay because love wasn't enough or the men don't stay because love wasn't enough that's why you marry for more than just love you marry for lifestyle and if you get love you can always fall in love you know um but if you're only marrying for love you think about that some okay a lot of a lot of the women say oh i'm i love him we have a connection he got eight baby mamas three kids five kids that live with us i gotta take care of all of them but we love each other okay um do you love yourself no okay i don't love anybody who come with that much baggage okay i'm sorry you got all of that i'ma love you from a distance i will write you i will email you i will send you some pictures with some hearts on it but i ain't we ain't gonna get married okay um you will be my true love and connection forever over there but i'm gonna marry somebody you know that can do something for me and our future generation i'm gonna marry you because uh you look good if you're short or some underwear or something like that i don't care about that so the whole point is a lot of a lot of these pygmy chicks they're set on the wrong intentions you know they attract they try to attract man for the wrong reason and that's why their lives are not as good as other people's lives because they've been programmed to accept the worst when do you start getting into serious relationships when that man can fully take care of you okay that's when i got into a serious relationship if he like or you know if you're really into that person and your life has become better because of dating them then you get into a serious relationship you know but if um if it's only been going downhill and he's you know he's not living up to your expectation of the type of man you want to actually marry then don't waste your time with it but if he has potential not potential financially but potential as a husband because if you're dating him he should already be the type of man that you want to marry in his financial you know area so if he's good financially and you start dating and you date seriously um i would look for you know i would look for things that is he gonna make a good father is he gonna make a good husband does he lie a lot you know um is he gonna be gone a lot you know if his job needs him to move are you willing to move you got to have all this discussion before you decide to have a serious relationship you know like if somebody gets a promotion or and he has to move across the state is he gonna take you with him you know what i'm saying um is he gonna pay for you so before you get serious about anybody make sure they can pay for you okay otherwise you don't need to be serious about them because they're not serious about you think about it if a man really loved you and you needed him to help you and pay all your bills and if he got a promotion out of state that he would move you with him and take care of you he would do that if he really loved you but if he didn't really love you oh baby i got a new job i gotta move out of state uh we'll we'll have a long distance relationship which means really we're breaking up until you can't you know until i find another woman then i'm gonna just let you know you know it's over so y'all stuck in a long distance relationship you over here being faithful he outlooked for another woman because you know he's not he's not as into you as you are to him so make sure if you have a man he's moving you taking care of you too someone says i'm married for love and that's my life look yep don't ever marry for love only you know if that's an ad bonus but they gotta have something to offer you and to improve your life otherwise why you get married why can't you just date someone says 18 years is your prime get married yep sure was um yeah anyway so so yeah whenever the picnics get mad at me they always try to harp on how i'm not living the lifestyle that i say i am and i got as much as i said i never said i was rich i said i live a good life i got a nice house i live in the suburbs okay i'm not i'm not rich okay um i'm not rich but i got everything i want and i can go buy everything i need if i want it but i'm not rich if i were rich this is what i you know what i'd be doing if i was rich i would be on my yacht i would be what would i be doing i would be getting fitted for a very nice designer clothes to have them custom made what else would i be doing um doing things that really don't matter that's what i'd be doing i wouldn't be on this channel i show it and y'all would still be picnics or in bad relationships or dating lower class men all right because i would be too rich to be bothered but at least as honest you know what i'm saying um so you got to start off from somewhere you know i could be rich and in the next few years i could get rich you know i'm only 38 i still got time to get rich you know and because this is my passion and when i do get rich i'll probably continue to do it but if i was already rich why would i even get on this camera okay right so no i'm not rich but i don't live with my grandma even and i have been on a yacht and i have got to spend money from you know of a of a man who will buy me whatever i want and i'm not afraid to tell him that i deserve it and he better keep it coming either you know what i'm saying i'm not i i know what i want okay if you don't if you don't demand certain things you're not gonna get it now i keep telling y'all y'all can't demand stuff looking wretched if you're going to say i deserve something and i demand it and this is what i want or i don't want anything at all you can't come in there looking bad okay you can't come in there looking busted you can't come in there looking basic and when i say that you need to be able to compete with the next woman who can get what she wants you by asking so for the newbies who are coming in and trying to apply these techniques go get your hair make-up nails done put on a nice outfit look your best look the best you ever looked in your life and then ask for what you want okay because some of y'all think the bare minimum is is your best and it's not okay you go out and dress up really nice if i go out like this i'm gonna get so i'm gonna get really good treatment you know what people are gonna open the door for me they're gonna smile they're gonna offer me complimentary things they're gonna suck up to me if i go into the store you get treated exactly how you look okay so look your best every time you want to be treated good okay every time you want to be treated good go look your best i see i see women go into the store shopping all the time and they look they're absolute worst and then i see some looking they're absolutely best and you see the difference in between how an employee will treat them you know what i'm saying um so a lot of people think oh it's because this is racial and this isn't that well you know you can take you can take someone who is not black and just dress them up with some trashy clothes and then take a fancy person you know with all these like really nice jewelry and nice clothes and well put together it doesn't matter what color you are the sales people are going to rush to the people that look successful and well put together versus you know the trashy person so that's how you're going to get treated so if you're coming out looking trashy and not your absolute best and just threw some crap together and you feel like some guy should spend money on you or give you what you want why should he you know you don't you don't even take care of yourself enough to be that demanding for him you know take care of yourself first make yourself look like that's what you're used to and that's what you're going to get you know if you come in there you know mispronouncing stuff that you want they don't know you ain't never had it okay so a lot of you girls said well what about college don't mess with no college guys they broke okay um date older guys that can actually help pay for your tuition or your books you know what's a college guy gonna do for you besides keep your company in your dorm room okay I'm reading some of these things shira check out shira video i see millionaires wherever i go yeah that's a good video um there's this uh there's this really there's this like nice restaurant down the street um if i go sit up there at lunch time it's just a bunch of old guys with money you know that that's all that sits there they'll offer to buy your food your drinks whatever if you if you look attractive they'll they'll try to spark up a conversation with you hey how are you today oh such and such and such and such oh what are you drinking here oh that looks that sounds good i'm gonna get one too um you want another one you know that's how they that's how they put it in there um but if you look and bust it they're not even gonna talk to you you know you can have a you know they're not even gonna look at you they're gonna turn around and and to the door and see what else walks in okay so that's why i said you gotta look good wherever you go if you want special treatment okay it is about looks in this world i don't care who told you otherwise it is okay and you don't have to be the most beautiful woman you just have to look like you care about yourself okay you gotta look like you care about yourself you can have an ugly busted woman walking in but she got on you know her face her hair her nice clothes and she's put herself together the best she could and she's still gonna get that free drink you know what i'm saying because she looks like she expects it deserves it and that she likes herself and takes care of herself self and has self respect so she's going to attract that as well so that's what i'm saying um but if you walk around looking you're absolute worst you ain't gonna get nothing so you know nice nice bars and nice restaurants is where most single guys eat that have money because they're not going to mcdonald's they ain't going to applebees they're going to get some real food at you know gourmet food at a nice restaurant where they can sit at a bar with their friends drink see what walks through the door talk with the bartender okay that's what they're gonna do and that's where most women can meet me with money and that's where most women can go for free lunch and free drinks i remember when i was young me and my friend would be like hey you want to go eat lunch yeah let's go eat lunch okay you know it's gonna be free if we go here right because somebody gonna pay for it you know so we would just go out every day and get free lunch at really nice restaurants people would take care of our dad just just because we look good you know and that's just how it was you know if you have that confidence and you go out every day knowing you're gonna get some free lunch or free drink you will you know especially if you know a place where you know the guys do that a lot can you find perfume dupes they don't smell it separate oh you can get free samples of perfume at the counter of any department store look i got like a bunch of them look free free you can even go to Sephora and they'll give you a free sample and it lasts you like three four a week yeah i got all these three samples you don't you know you don't have to be uh be rich to smell you i mean i got the the big bottles but i i like samples too go get samples you don't need that cause just go to five different department stores and get a sample from every perfume counter go to Sephora get you some perfume samples and you don't have to wear knockout perfume because that's the stink you're gonna smell like the dolla tree what's one of this one wassachi eros it's kind of smells good smells it's a good daytime scent i like it yeah if you go into the yeah someone said they went to altar and spray perfume on before a date that's a good idea just everywhere every time you go to the mall stack up stock up on perfume sample okay then you'll have enough and you won't even have to buy it or you can tell your date look you know i really you know tell them to bring you a gift and if he says what do you like say perfume he ain't gonna bring you know a dolla tree perfume if you want a second date the one perfume that every man always asks me about i'ma tell you every time i wear this what are you wearing oh my god tom for a black market they love this i don't know why but i have had people stop me men what are you wearing i want to buy it for my wife what are you wearing you know this is my absolute favorite perfume besides my own actually i kind of modeled my own scent after the tom ford so it's very similar um but tom ford by far is one of the most seductive scents the black orchid that i've smelled and that men have responded to you know um that was tom ford black orchid and you can buy this in like alta safora any department store you can get free sample of this but it's very different and it has a base too that's why so yeah it's really good tom ford black tom ford black orchid but make sure you smell it before you buy it because some women are different okay i like dark seductive smells some women like floral happy sweet smells i like the dark seductive smells because men respond to it okay so if you're a woman and you don't like those dark seductive smells and you know men like it you gotta start wearing it okay oh i don't like the way to ask men but men like it so spray it on you know so that's what i'm saying yeah this is how a lot of women get stuck they like what they like and they don't pay attention or care what the men like but they expect the men to spend money on them and buy them stuff that the man won't even like you know what i'm saying so like if i took james to buy me some orthopedic shoes he would he and they were like 70 dollars or 100 dollars he's gonna say no but if i took him to buy me some heels that was 100 to 200 dollars he'll buy them because he like them and he want to see walk in them you know but he ain't gonna buy me no orthopedic shoes for for that much or less because he don't like them that's what i'm saying you know so remember if a man likes something and even if you don't like it go with it you know because it's gonna keep them giving to you you know uh in other ways so you know if you know if you like floral girly you know scents but men respond to dark sensual smell then start wearing dark sensual smell you know then when he's not with you wear the other stuff yeah smell is a very big part of seduction so make sure you always smell and also it's a frequency you know it surrounds you when you walk away or when you walk by someone and you don't say a word and they weren't even looking when they smell you they're gonna turn around and look over and be like then they'll see you and then everything else falls in place you know so you gotta have your smell good too you know that's what i'm saying get get some nice perfume don't go get no knock off because that smell like alcohol go get some really good perfume and you get samples for free you know a lot of thrift shops like a lot of uh fancy thrift shops will have like half bottles of really nice perfume you can go buy i don't know but um you can probably buy some on um those shops like trade z's and stuff like that that um bought perfume and some they didn't like it and so they're just reselling it online if you don't have a lot of money but like i said you can get tons of free samples did you make a real a video about what you will wear um i say look classy but also look sexy you know i'm saying don't look like you just walked out of a business meeting look like you just walked out of a business meeting but you know not don't look like you just walked out of a business meeting look like you dressed up to look like you were going to a business meeting and under what you have on is a sexy outfit like for example if you're going like this little cute tie trench like this have on a fitted tight you know knee length dress and maybe show a little bit of cleavage but don't come out like you know the models are fashion over and just have everything exposed you know do one sexy piece paired with a classy piece or do a sexy classy piece like a fitted knee length dress that shows a little bit of cleavage or you know a short dress that's covered up but you can see some legs but it's not a trashy look you know where to a cocktail party to a nice restaurant you know don't go full trashy if you want the respect to come with it you know if you come in there full trashy the guy is gonna just think you know okay well I can get sex out of her quick if you come in there half classy they're gonna slow the roll you know like well she looks like she has a good head on her shoulders she doesn't rush into sex she has on classy nice clothes so you know let me wait to say something you know so nine times out of ten if you're being approached with sex first and foremost is because you look trashy you know if they want to get to know you and talk to you and you know really see what you're about it's because you're dressed respectful in their minds not only on sex you know if they're bored with you it's because you got too much covered up and you look like you ain't gonna do nothing no time soon so you gotta have it like a in between do men like boobs or face more it just depends okay it all depends that everybody has their own different taste but I feel like most men like boobs but if your face is ugly it's not gonna be enough you don't you know if you're too plain up here it's not gonna be enough so do both you know pump it up it's a make-up on I was dating a guy who was obsessed with smell that it was odd I noticed make sure you pair your oh yeah I'm a smell person like I'm into smell really I'm obsessed with smell that's why I always got perfume lotions everything like I got like three lotions in my purse right now a different smell I'm obsessed with smell and I have a very sensitive nose like if somebody didn't take a bath I can smell them if somebody didn't wear deodorant I could smell them across the room my nose is super sensitive if somebody ate garlic or Thai food I can I can tell what they ate for lunch if they talk to me I'm like did you eat Thai food for lunch how did you know I smelled a lemongrass on the way I smell that curry but it's not Chinese curry it's a Thai curry it's a red one yep with some lemongrass you know I have this smell and that's why I always got on incense candles perfumes like when I do when I smell makeup when I do makeup reviews I smell the product first because I'm really into smell my all like I have to buy the bathroom body works wall plug-ins because they smell better than like the grocery store brands like Glade and stuff yeah I'm like I never realized I was so much into smells until recently this year I looked at all my perfumes I got like top of the line candles you know top of the line air freshener I'm like I must really be into smells I will buy cheap toilet paper but top of the line candles so yeah so this this video is basically about you know addressing some haters that say oh you know I need to show you guys that I really live the lifestyle that I talk about and stuff like that for in order for me to you know for me to be looked up to and listened to by people so I had to pull out the the name brands and fake floss for y'all because obviously I'm not credible unless I do okay so oh gosh anyway it's almost time for lunch I should see I'm already dressed I should go hang out at the bar and get free lunch huh mm-hmm look at that yes I if I went out if I got on camera like this every day talk about all y'all would say we always just trying to show off you know so why would I do it they gonna have something to say no matter what that's all I'm saying you know I could I could put on the fanciest clothes they gonna have something to say about that she thinks y'all that why she always got to wear name brand clothes she must be insecure or oh she always got on name brand stuff showing stuff off you know or oh she don't look like she got nothing because she don't dress fancy or oh she don't live a nice lifestyle she said she does anyway whenever I see them outside they're around normal or trashy cars okay okay well those ain't my car oh well look at her background looks like she lives in an apartment well that's because this is one room with a bunch of stuff in it and it's my office and it's not my house you know this is some people's whole apartment this room so I understand but what I'm saying is they gonna hit on you no matter what and you can't care what they think because if you do you gonna stop what you doing to worry about what they're saying and you and you're not gonna get what you're supposed to be going you know so I don't I don't feel like it even matters what I wear I'm talking to you guys on camera giving y'all you know advice or whatever I need to talk about that day and that's all it should be I shouldn't have to sit up here and show you guys every piece of designer theme that I have on for you to listen to me you know that's what those men do y'all maybe out there and designer clothes and living with their mama but that's what you respond to you know I'm playing so and then you end up having a baby by but too busy buying designer clothes and your baby ain't got no food okay well that's what you like so guess what that's what you gonna say is important great that's important to you I work for you there you go you got a thousand thousand dollar purse and you got your baby in you know I'm talking about nobody but I'm but I'm just saying you know what I'm saying you can't judge people by what they wear because you don't know what they got in their account okay I bet you most of the people who hate on people about their appearance let's let's you know compare their bank accounts and see what they look like because one is gonna be sad one is gonna be very low or it could probably be negative okay how much how much do most of you guys like who are hating having your savings you know that's all I'm saying and when people brag about their savings like I always see people bragging about their savings they probably have like $8,000 and uh-uh if you ain't got what if you don't have if you don't have five to six figures and you're a bank account I don't you know what you have no reason to hate on anybody you get that that's your goal you know some people will spend money on a bunch of junk just to look like they rich but they really broke you know when it comes down to it they don't have nothing in their bank accounts they have negative funds okay but they got a nice car and they got a nice you know outfit and a nice purse but they don't have anything in their savings or their bank account they live paycheck to paycheck and then when they lose it lose their job they don't have nothing you know so you know for me to look a certain way means nothing you know if I wanted to you know there's some youtubers out there and they floss and they show all their like expensive stuff and like two weeks later you realize the house was robbed I'm not finished over everybody my stuff you know that's that's that's for me to wear when I want to wear those are my luxury items that I wear when I go to a place that I want to feel luxurious when I walk up in there you know it's not for this camera and stuff like that you know that's when I want to show my status and you know walk into place like you know it's not for YouTube videos so right you know all the all the men who are upset they always say oh you don't look like you got no money and your husband must not be making as much as he says he is about it I well oh well that's that's what you think so why are y'all assume putting makeup on and wigs getting dull right that's that's an incomplete statement I forgot to finish the sentence mm-hmm yeah so you know most of the people understand where I'm coming from and they don't expect me to come on the screen every day looking like my outfit is $5,000 they don't expect that you know they don't expect me coming up here wearing Burberry Louis Vuitton and Chanel every day you know I'm a normal person I'm a normal person and I married well I'm well taken care of I don't work I have two children I'm a housewife I'm a youtuber and among other things so my my position in the world does not require me to dress fancy but like I said I can go and purchase anything I'd like right now I could go any of the top stores designer stores and buy whatever I want in that store you know what I mean so but I don't because I already have a bunch of I have some Chanel purses some Gucci some Louis Vuitton and stuff like that and to me after like wearing it for a week it's just a purse that's all it is a purse it's a nice purse it's worth a lot of money but after a week the novelty wears off you know what I'm saying so I put that money in my account and my account is large and I feel like even the purses that I have I could I could sell them and get paid you know they're they keep their value so I'm not purchasing crap when I do purchase stuff those items keep their value you know they're an investment as well so you know if you're going to buy purses you know buy a few nice ones whatever that's our investment pieces and then save the rest you know you don't have to keep proving to the world that you're somebody if you don't know it then they don't either you know how would you apply these tactics at an office you know if I want a husband if my husband can't take care of me I would rather get money on my own I don't even want a husband if my husband yeah I had to read it twice because I didn't understand it at first yeah if you're if you're gonna get married to someone and they can't take care of you you might as well stay single you know because you're all you're all that's gonna happen is he's gonna ask you to help him so might as well stay single my daughter is getting sick she got a school with all them journey kids y'all know Don John always come on here trolling he's like the community troll this is his this is the highlight of the day don't take it away from him how much do you think I can get without sex you can get more when you don't have sex that's that's what most women don't realize you could get more out of a man if you never have sex with the women who give in too quick they always get ghosted or dumped the more a man invests in you the longer he will wait yeah but you gotta you gotta promise him you know oh I can't wait you know on my last video I said plant pictures in his mind what's gonna happen in the future so yeah just keep him interested basically promise him things in the future that you might never do just keep his mind in the right place you know and just pretend you're a really good girl like I don't get sexually involved with people unless I really know them I know they're invested in me and our chemistry is right and I feel attracted to them because I've gotten to know them then I will unleash so much passion on this person and just give my entire self to them you know they're gonna wait even if it never happens it's the thought and the promise of sex that gets you money or gets you gifts or gets you better treatment you know and after they've invested so much in you they're not going to give up because they put an investment they're gonna keep trying you're gonna keep getting and then finally if you ever decide to sleep with them it's gonna be the best night of their life and afterwards they're less likely to dump you because they have invested so much and so they're gonna say well I need to keep this investment you know I need to keep this lady because I've given her like all this stuff and if I dump her I lose and she won so you make them invest in you for a long time a long time you know and you don't get upset if they're seeing other women on the side because it's until they get you they still want you you know what I'm saying until they get you they're gonna actively pursue you and buy you stuff so this is a lot of mistake a lot of women use they they're dating someone but they're not gonna give it up to them but the man is giving the money and they suspect the man might be dating someone else you don't get mad at that because you're not giving him any sex that woman is probably giving him free sex and so that you don't have to okay so thank her and then when you are ready to give it up he's gonna dump everything else because now he feels like he only is gonna get it from you and he don't have to spend money on these cheap dates anymore and he can just focus it all on you and if he doesn't dump the chick and he just wants to have one or two you know then remember you have that same option to have one or two but a lot of these women keep getting mad because they're having sex but then they think their date is dating someone else let them do that they're a man they they're gonna get sex regardless they're gonna wait for you but they're going to invest in you so they can get what they what they're after eventually oh okay that's great from I said they got sugar daddy that's great congratulations yeah I'm a lipstick it's coming out okay what if the woman gets pregnant she should have been using protection if she gets pregnant hopefully he got some money cuz that means a lot of money for her where is a casual place to find a rich man a golf course a tennis club but you gotta be members to get up in there driving ranges you don't have to be a member to go to a driving range top golf is a good place but everybody can get in there try I think they're called shooting ranges or driving range driving ranges where they practice golf practice hitting the ball it's casual but you got to be in the golf sometimes they have a little bar or where they go have a drink after the golf yeah you can sit there it's kind of casual if you live by the ocean yacht clubs arena like marina bars and stuff like that where people park their boats those are casual places classy golf outfit probably like some cute capri pants and a little fitted polo shirt and some like white sneakers or something like that that sounds like something creppy I actually did used to golf when I was younger and like for real like before I was old enough to be interested in men so I know how to hold the golf club and all the names of the golf clubs and stuff like that because my my stepdad used to take up golfing every weekend and my brother and that's how I learned so just watch some golf videos I don't know okay do you have any advice for me I'm married but I still want guys to want me I want to flirt don't look touch but validation you got it okay then you got to look good you have to be something that they want to touch but but can't you gotta like put I'm looking at the clock if y'all you got a because I have a consultation with a man oh my god my I very rarely get consultations with men but I told him look because his girlfriend left him and like he a week ago he's like I need to get her back so I'm gonna try to help him y'all he ain't gonna like what I have to say though because I every time I do a consultation with a man is to get a woman back after they're already left and what I were whatever I tell them they don't want to do it and so their girlfriend never comes back so if he's wise he will listen most of the time they break up because she wants something that he doesn't want to give and it's either engagement you know for her to move in or he cheated that's the only three reasons so what I'm gonna tell him you need a grand gesture which either an engagement let's let her move in or buy her a really nice gift if you can't do it in those she ain't coming it so we don't have to talk about that what grand gesture are you willing to do what does she want the most that's how you get her otherwise I can't do a consultation live because it's so yeah if you want to be desired and you're a married woman when you leave the house you don't want to feel blah dress up dress nice wear sexy clothes wear heels wear makeup do your hair don't walk around looking like you know soccer mom because men don't respond to that well you know you gotta look like you want to be desired yeah I've done I've done lots of readings for men I mean consultations for men and they don't want to change that's why I say men are very hard to change they will not change and unless it's logical you know they're not even gonna change to get the woman back that they love y'all just go get another one because once I tell her what to do they're like I well I don't know if I'm gonna do all of that I'll try something else you got something else I well I told her I loved her and that she's the only one for me I said well did you ask her to marry me or you know well you know I help her and you know we when we go out I take her to nice places that I sit and you know I said well what did you get her for her last birthday Walmart gives it no you know I ask them all these key questions because a lot of women they won't tell a man what they want and then the man will just be clueless of why she left you know women like big gestures women like nice things and if you cheat on them you gonna have to do a super big gesture to get her back if she'll even take it you know so if they're not willing to do those things I can't help I'm like look this is what you gotta do if you can't do it she ain't coming back okay so unless that man is willing to take the next step in that direction that she has been wanting to go probably for a long time and he just never did nothing about it if you're sitting there I'm gonna say do you have a video game do you play video games all day do you hang out whichever do you even take her out was the last time you did this and that for her have you given her any jewelry I think I'll dump you too that's what I that's what I'm gonna tell him when I get on this conversation like do you even know how to treat a woman you know she's not a boy she's not a man she's not a little girl she's a woman and she wants to level up in life and if you're not doing those things for her she's gonna go find someone else to with that's just it unless you level up if you you got a chain you got to do better and then she'll respond to you you know if you're if you're sitting here acting like a teenager and you supposed to be a grown man you're gonna get left behind so let's figure out what you can do how you can change it and that's because people don't come back to the same person you got to improve and that's what I tell a lot of people if somebody breaks up with you they're not coming back to you if you are the exact same person you got to get out and improve yourself and then when they want you you don't want them no more because you outgrown them this video was about how the haters say that I don't dress nice and I don't live the lifestyle that I say I live and I I'm not credible and because you know I don't rock fancy stuff every day on this camera so I was just being sarcastic and facetious when I put on like my designer stuff and saying yeah look at me now I'm credible but then I started answering questions as usual but if you wait like okay a lot of you guys will try to watch the video from the beginning and it's not gonna come up until an hour after this uploads and then so come back in like an hour and watch it from the beginning if you have a trouble that's just how they do YouTube live I don't know why I guess so they could kind of monitor it and make sure if anything bad was said that they take it out I don't know. Oh my gosh. Struggle love does not last. There are always exceptions to the rule but most people are not happy and struggle love okay if you look around most of the people that are happy are in lifestyle loves you know because they're happy within themselves because they can go do what they want to do they can pursue their hobbies their passions their dreams you know they don't have to sit there and sacrifice sacrifice sacrifice just have a roof over their head you know that's why people who are who married for lifestyle versus love stay married longer because they can indulge in the lifestyle and do things that they like to do themselves instead of struggling to keep bills paid because you and love okay so think about it would you rather be pursuing your passions and hobbies and doing things or struggling roof over your head with your true love okay everybody's had that one true love you know that high school stuff or that first love whatever they don't last that long you know so why not just get the lifestyle and have the you know have the freedom that comes with it right so that's what I did you know I made a choice I'm like am I gonna sit here and wait around for somebody that I just have butterflies and googly eyes for just to say I'm in love and get married and struggle or am I gonna just marry somebody that's gonna take full care of me and give me whatever I want I'm gonna fall in love with that quick you know what I'm saying so that's what I did I'm like you know that's what I'm doing I leave that pin on us that's that's that's classic I'm not wearing that scarf though that's too much just like look at me this is a gift actually thank you appreciate it today and Houston Texas is actually cool there was wind blowing it was fall I am so happy I could probably wear this when it gets cooler but it's like 7073 that's fall for us um thank you I'll show you the first thing James ever bought the first purse James ever bought me this old y'all he bought this okay he bought this purse for me one month no two months after we started dating and I told him exactly what I wanted told him where to go get it I didn't go with him I said this is what I want for my birthday such and such and such and such this this is where the story is go get it y'all memories when these are real popular back in early 2000 yeah 2001 this is what I asked for for my birthday my 23rd birthday this is what I got that's how old this is and it's still worth the same amount of money as he paid for it back then I'll say it's an investment it did not decrease in value they actually went up so I looked on like people who are reselling their luxury purses and it's exactly the same price as you pay for it all them years ago so they only increase in value because now you know an investment so that's first he bought me that when I was on my 23rd birthday that's how old I am so yeah I have a bunch of jewelry too but his tasting jewelry is not that well I don't really wear it I have to tell on what I want and so I'm like you know why do you want I told him exactly what I wanted three months after we were dating I said you know what my birthday is coming up and this is what I want I want nothing else I will I don't want nothing else if you can't give me that then don't get me nothing at all that's what that's what you tell him okay that's how you get stuff if you can't give me this I don't want nothing at all so someone says make sure the bag is not counterfeit oh it came with authenticity papers and the receipt and everything he had made sure I seen that receipt okay so he could get some so yes ask for what you want know you deserve it and you're gonna get okay that's all I will I I never asked a man about me a Louis Vuitton before I was 23 years old I'm like I mean barely 23 I just turned no I was still 22 I asked I was like he's like well what do you want I just went as high as I could think that for 22 you know I want a Louis Vuitton purse you know I was gonna see what he was gonna do I took my chance you know I feel like I was worth it and he wouldn't do it so you know if I had never asked I'll probably just have Walmart gift basket okay so that's all you gotta ask for stuff that you want and if you don't you'll never get it you know you'll have to go get it yourself and then ask for the Walmart gift basket some women are afraid to ask men for something that high-priced but men are afraid to ask the woman to sleep with her sleep with him you know unprotected or many many times without him doing anything so why couldn't you ask for a purse if they got it you know if they make a lot of money they should be able to afford it that should be nothing to them right so if you're dating a man who's wealthy or makes a lot of money then you should be asking for expensive gifts because then you get them in the habit of buying you expensive gifts they not gonna come incorrect because they know that you only like expensive gifts so you start off with an expensive gift you gonna end up with an expensive gift years down the line every time it's your birthday or Christmas or Valentine's Day he not coming with Walmart he's coming with the best you know what I'm saying because he already knows you don't expect or accept anything less and if he comes lacking you're gonna be like where's the rest you're not gonna even be happy with the gift he gives you so it's useless to give you something that you don't even want so they're always gonna go and get what you want and get in the habit of telling them what you want don't let them don't leave it up to them don't let them pick out what you want unless they know your favorite store and you don't mind them picking you up something you know as long as they got the receipt that you can take it back if you don't want it but get in the habit of telling them exactly what you want like every year I tell my husband exactly what I want okay for Christmas this year James this is what I want here's the picture here's where you can buy it this is what I want and you don't buy me this I don't want nothing else you know and he goes and gets it why because I'm not leaving it up to him I know what I want and that's what I'm gonna get that's how you have to do it right someone says I've never slept with a woman in my life if a man gave if you gave a man too much how do I switch it's too late like I don't know why y'all start over just go get another man on the side get your plan beat together and start over because you can't switch it up the type of man that you got it's not the type of man that's going that you're gonna that you want to turn him into okay because if you gave him too much that's the reason he stayed because that's what he wanted you know he doesn't want to do everything for you that's why he's with you because you you were the giver you know what I'm saying that would be like James saying well I want to make her start paying for everything now and I'm gonna switch it up because he didn't watch some video on some NGTOW channel now he want me to pay have to be like I'm gonna look at him crazy I'm like you both be crazy okay so you can't go and switch it up in a million-dollar relationship I keep telling you all that just cuz y'all find this channel don't mean you can change your band but what you can do is put yourself first so that he wants to change you know start giving yourself the best start pulling back you know I'm not doing this and just stop doing everything you know and if he leaves that was the risk that you took you know for me you can't just switch your relationship up because that's what it's based on how you were treating him in the first place and so I'm saying you got to start off like you want to end so if you're in a bad relationship and you give everything then either start over with a new person or file and bump your head and wake up a gold digger I don't know that's what I would do make a head injury that way it's not your fault I woke up like this literally you know I hit my head and I'm you know I don't remember paying half the bill aren't you supposed to do that and that you're in that demand job oh the doctor says you have a concussion and you might not be thinking correctly no I think I think that that sounds right to me I'm not I'm not doing it somewhere I quit my job because I'm married you know if I'm there I suppose you take care of right girl go hit go fake hit your head have a mild concussion that's a joke don't really go to but yeah that's how hard it is to switch it up in the middle of a relationship because that's not who they got into the relationship with they didn't get to a relationship with a gold digger or somebody who wants a man to do everything for them they got in the relationship with a woman who was doing everything you know I'm in a good relationship you take care of me but no ring I don't pay anything just cooking but no ring will stop cooking but you get the ring me I would tell you I don't cook I mean why would you cook you ain't married I mean I some married people don't even cook why you cooking stop cooking and having sex until he gives you a ring I bet you'll get a ring okay order a pizza on his credit card and stop having sex if you want to get married go on strike and then when he asked you what's wrong say I don't have no ring I'm tired of playing your wife I won't either you I want to be your wife or you don't get no wife you don't get any wife what you call it bonuses you don't get wife treatment you know you're not getting wifely cooking you're not getting sex every night because I ain't married I ain't got no ring you know and can he even afford a ring and is it gonna be the ring you won't you know you gotta think about all that does he have money enough to buy your ring that you either want do you care what the ring looks like you know is he saving up does he even want to marry you get all that together first you know see where he wants to be and one year of dating does not mean you get a ring but you already cooking for him y'all already married you you know you don't need to marry you because you already doing stuff wife does so stop doing it put going straight just like I'm done if y'all if you if you're dating I always say never cook for me and not with some women's culture you know some people's culture oh you're supposed to cook for your boyfriend are you supposed to do this no you're not you know you're not his mom is supposed to cook for him not you is it too much to ask for something from your boyfriend who you treat like a husband child you don't get your ass together you can't ask whatever although just telling her to answer and I don't want never cook for nobody I don't even like going to grocery store you know if I cook for you you was probably dying your left you was already on your way out now I was just trying to do a kind gesture for you so yeah women give too much and they receive nothing in return stop giving and start receiving that's all I would say this women are receivers by nature but society has made it so that you're trained to be the giver now and that's why you're not happy so give less get more think about it most of the selfish women that you know most of the women who don't work most of the women whose man most of the women who treat their man like garbage most of the women who run their man most of the women who do this they get whatever they want you know most of the nice girls get used to get trampled over get cheated on why because they put themselves last and they take the very least so if you're in that category you need to drastically change the way you think and act around men because I'm telling you y'all think I'm joking the meaner you are to a man the more they want to give you the nicer they are to and a lot of women don't believe this until they go and try it so I'm like you know what I don't know I want that one time one year James brought me some ugly jewelry that I did not like and I told him that's old lady jewelry I don't want that take it back just keep the receipt keep it in your car I don't even want and he come back with something better you know I don't take what I don't want and that's just you can call it mean but in the end everybody's happy okay because I got what I want and he got what he wanted which is me to like the gift so at the end of the day everybody's happy but if I took something I don't want so I don't hurt his feelings he gonna keep buying me crap I'm gonna have to wear ugly stuff I'm gonna be unhappy the cycle will continue okay then I'm gonna get frustrated and get mad and tell him the jewelry I hate it later then he gonna get upset because he kept buying the same type of ugly crap and wasted money and I didn't like it and then it's gonna keep continuing you say no I don't want this crap take it back that's all you gotta say one time and it's over next time what do you want okay you know so don't do stuff to save people's feelings do stuff to please yourself because if someone is doing for you and you know trying to buy you a nice gift and you don't say nothing if you don't like it then what's the point of getting the damn gift in the first place if you don't even like it you know what's the point of dating a man with money if he can't do anything for you you know what's the point of putting on makeup and a nice dress if you go into McDonald's you know what I'm saying think logically when you do stuff instead of emotionally and you'll be a lot further in life you know don't sit there and take crap that you don't want don't sit there and think you're supposed to be nice because society says so if you don't like something don't accept it I use that that's how I was with my mom when she would buy me some crap that I did not like I wouldn't take it out like I don't want it take it back it's ugly I'm not wearing that you know leave the tag on it cuz I'm not wearing it I'm taking it back to school I mean taking back to the store yeah I remember one year and I've been out here forever but I'm just trying to stay on till my consultation with this guy which is a little one time my mom bought me a bunch of clothes from Kmart back in the 90s yeah and I was in high school I'm like that was she has spent like $300 on Kmart clothes and I'm like oh my god thank you mom that's so nice but I would never wear any of this this is not my style this is ugly if I wear this to school they would laugh at me you won't people laugh at me and it's not big she just had bad taste you know I could have went in Kmart and made some cute outfits if I wanted to but the stuff she picked was terrible you know so I told her I'm gonna take it all back and get and get the money and go shopping at the mall so I think I don't want to hurt your feelings but I don't want to accept it because that's something that I'm not gonna wear and be happy with and so she was like but you can have all these outfits and versus you know what you're gonna go by you probably get three outfits out of that I was like well that's what I want and that's what I need you know so I took all them stupid Kmart clothes back that were ugly and I went shopping at the mall you know back then in the day you know the the brands that were hot in the 90s that's what I was getting I might I made like three nice outfits about some perfume and I was happy with three nice outfits and some nice perfume I was happy you know her gesture was nice but if I had accepted that I would be the laughing stock I would be embarrassed I would have never wore the clothes she would have wasted her money you know so never accept stuff you don't want because it's not gonna make no it's not gonna make a difference it's not gonna make anybody happy you know and you're not gonna even benefit from it so stop accepting stuff you don't want that's a man and jobs and life in general you know what I'm saying now when a stranger gives you some crap and you don't know I'm enough to hurt their feelings or telling the truth you just take it and re-gift it y'all that's what I do oh thank you re-gift pile you know I don't ever have to go Christmas shop before a long time cuz I got so many re-gifts you know that extra gift you have just in case somebody extra show up for Christmas I got a pile of those make sure you don't give it back to the person who gave it to you though okay that's embarrassing my mom did that to me one year she's the queen of re-gift she's like oh I got this I got this for you I like no I got that for you last year oh for real mm-hmm you want it back mm-hmm then she go dig it around in her purse like I said that's why I don't buy you stuff like that anymore cuz you always re-gifted it I'll just get you a gift card so the funny thing is with gifts I used to I used to get on my sister cuz like my sister was real mean with it like okay so for example somebody would buy her a Gucci purse right but it was the wrong one it was too small and she would get mad and she you know she was like this is not what I asked for this is not what I wanted I wanted the big one if you was gonna if you wasn't gonna give me the big one I didn't want one at all you know this is too small I can't fit nothing in here you know purse cost like $3,000 but she made it and I was like oh you are grateful but then I thought about you know that's not what she wanted so she wouldn't accept it you know I had to I learned from her I was secretly learning from her even though I was criticizing her in my mind at the time because I was just you know I was young like junior high high school and I was just learning from her subliminally you know I'm like damn that's me that's rude that's that's selfish but subliminally was sticking in my mind and then I saw you know when she got gifts that she really liked how she reacted it was totally different she was showing it off to everybody bragging and stuff like that the other person was even happier than she was to even receive the gift because she was sitting there black bragging on I'm hugging up so it's like to get what you want pays off more than to accept what you don't want you got to learn from experience watching other people not trying not to judge because you're gonna judge anyway but it's gonna seek into your subconscious mind sooner or later and you're gonna understand it later on if you didn't understand it then like a lot of women watch my videos they'll tell me when I first started watching you I did not agree with you at all but as time went by I did because it sinks in and then it starts to resonate with truth and how it should be and then you realize it that you were just subconsciously you know trained to accept stuff even though you don't want it which is you know silly like a child a child will not accept something they don't want they will throw it back at you and then they'll throw it because the child is true to their nature and they're true to themselves and they know what they want and they know what they don't want then they don't care about hurting your feelings but when they get what they want they are happy I love you mommy thank you you know playing with their stuff and happy they're not gonna just say that's not what I asked for but I'm gonna take it anyway they're gonna throw it at you so you know when a man or someone expects a woman to just accept some crap think about a child accepting a toy that they never wanted anyway you're gonna feel sorry for that child because you know he's just acting and pretending that he likes it he's not really even enjoying himself or herself and it and the toy sucks but he he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and inside you feel like crap because you know that kid don't even like that toy so you gonna go get the real toy anyway you know because of guilt and because they're so young you know and they deserve the best well that's how you got to feel about yourself you know don't be afraid to ask for what you want anyway I gotta go do this consultation for this guy hopefully he'll listen to me and take this advice or he'll try to make a thousand excuses and end up with nothing but I'm gonna tell what it takes I'm like well you got to do a grand gesture get your you know get this in that do this for her blah blah blah blah she'll come back most women will come back if you do the right stuff mm-hmm he ain't gonna like to hear what I say though I already know I'm like look you got to do what you got to do sir not nice woman okay so if any man want consultations from me I'm not gonna lie to you I'm not gonna tell you that all you have to do is be more romantic and do this and that because you know most women know that that's an act and that won't last for long you got to do a grand gesture that some type of commitment or some type of huge investment you know words mean nothing after a certain point you got to show action so that's how I'm gonna tell this guy don't come to me thinking I've got some words for you to give this woman it's gonna take more than words okay so I'll see y'all later all right