 What a narcissist trying to achieve a question Which many of us may ask ourselves And I know it's something I Asked myself for a long time. What the hell are they trying to achieve? It seems as though they do all of these mindless pointless things and It clearly seems to be very important to them. It's a big deal It's a significant part of their lives to engage in these behaviors Well, they have to pull you down and Influence your every action and decision Your every thought and feeling They have to be in control and it just make you it just may make you wonder Why? What is the purpose of that? Why do you need to do that? Why can't you just Leave me be to think how I want to think and to do what I want to do, but no they can't allow you to do that and Of course there is a reason Why? There is something that they're trying to achieve By doing these things But you may not notice it initially Because you're more focused on yourself You're looking at yourself and thinking What if they're right? What if What I'm doing is wrong. What if by following their advice Maybe it could help me and Correct It gives us doubt It makes us uncertain but The narcissist is not trying to help you They will try to make you think That they're trying to help you, but really they're not Because if they were They would be doing the right things Things that actually could make a difference for you But if you look at what they're doing It's tearing you down and If they're trying to help you why would a Do things that tear you down? Of course they lack empathy They can't even see The effects that it's having on you half the time Unless you point it out to them and even then it just Causes shame and rage and then you can never get through to them, but I don't want to go too off topic of The video title here we're talking about What narcissists are trying to achieve And it really is Quite simple when you look at it. It's very clear. I mean they They put this in front of you all day long but instead of you Directing your focus to where it should be You're kind of pointing the finger at yourself all the time Because that's how you've been trained to be Throughout your life, but yes Look at any narcissists actions They're trying to influence you They're trying to control you They want power over you Why? Because they want to total domination That's why They want to dominate you Which is why everything they do is designed to contain you They have to Restrict you Through the use of labels and definitions and Nothing can ever be A free flowing everything has to be contained To give an example, it's like they will say to you You're doing this you're doing that Why can't you do this better? Well, here's a question for the narcissist Why can't you just be? They can't just be because these thoughts of racing around in their minds again and again And it never ends So their way of thinking is If I can't control my mind Then I'll control you I'll bring you down And every time you try to come back up, I'll just push you down even more That's how they think Because The way it works is When you're down They're up When you're up they're down So they have to keep you down as much as they can They elevate themselves at your expense So yeah That's another thing They're trying to achieve By abusing you and controlling you They're trying to regulate their emotions And these behaviors should reveal to you That these are very miserable people And they're not happy with their lives And that's why they just can't let you do what you want to do It's like if they see something a different way They have to think, oh no This is the right way They have to think that there's no two ways about it You either do it like this or you're wrong So yeah, they want to control you they want to dominate you They can't let you have your own thoughts and ideas They have to restrict you And contain you in this box Where they can tell you what to do And instead of you Following your own intuition Which would be better for you anyway But they don't care about what's best for you This is why they do this stuff It's because they're motivated by their own self-interest That's why So yeah, that's what they're trying to achieve Total domination And their own Emotional regulation Making you follow their own agenda So they can get what they want at your expense I do have a spot here Just noticed it this morning I hope that doesn't Distract anyone from the message What a narcissist trying to achieve It's a question many of us have and now Here's the answer because we look at their behaviors and it looks so ridiculous You just think what could you possibly Be trying to achieve by doing that They just do The most ridiculous things it's insane You just think Oh, what could you possibly get out of that? How is that helping you in any way? Is it not just distracting you from your own misery? But yeah Probably is Anyway, it's a beautiful day today The sun is shining If it's sunny where you are I hope you all Go out and have a good time Go for a walk in the forest Or on the beach Just make the most of this While it lasts, you know It's not going to be around forever But yeah Peace, love and light to you all I'm hoping you all have a good day And I will Talk to you in another video very soon Peace