 Just welcome back to Queens Wednesday on Why In The Morning and my name is Baymose or It's Baymone social media so remember we are still on Facebook having that conversation on breakups as we celebrate the Queens today but this is that time for our first interview of the day. Our strength of women of the day goes by the name Wanjugu Gishuru. She is the founder of Wired Global. She is a leader, mentor, author and a coach. Karoozhan. Thank you. All right, I hope she just checked your attention. I know. That was good. That was good enough. All right. So welcome to Why In The Morning. Thank you. I love your work. I'm a great fan of your work and I like people to get to know you. So just introduce yourself. If there's anything I left out, you can add on to that. Can add. Wanjugu Gishuru is, I'd like to call myself like a radical influencer. Radical. Yeah, radical influencer. I like just doing crazy, not crazy, crazy enough things to change the community. Crazy enough things to change. Yes, yeah. But how I do it is by raising radical influencers. Radical influencers. For me, one of my biggest, biggest things is raising other leaders. That's what I'm good at and that's why I'm a mentor. I'm a mentor and I'm a leader. I'm also a speaker and I'm also an author. I've authored three books so far and yeah, so that's me, that's me. The books are online. Can we find them online? Yes, you can actually even on Amazon. There's one on Amazon called Confidence Revamp for Ladies, so you can get it there. The others, they're all for ladies actually. All right. There's one called Ideal Woman and there's also another one called Ideal Girl. What did the men do to you? No. No, I think I'm just like, let me stick with my gender. All right. I know them better. The people you understand best. All right. Yeah, I know them better. Again, so the book Confidence Revamp is on Amazon. Yes, absolutely. Please find Confidence Revamp. Yeah. There's campaigns. I don't know if I should call it a campaign or a program. Yeah. I'll line it to the book as well. Yes, yes, yes. Which is going on. It's actually a 21-day challenge for women and it's just for you to revamp your confidence. Yeah. Like I think women are, you know. Revamp. Revamp. Yeah. All right. I had revamp. No, no, no. I revamp. I love music too. The music all the time. No, no, no. All right. Confidence Revamp. Yes. All right. So 21-day program. Challenge, yes. It's an online challenge. So we give you a book. There's a whole book. And the book has daily reading for 21 days and there's even a weekly challenge. And so the first week is actually the challenge is called declutter because, you know, even as women, we end up cutting all these issues. You know, women even remember what you did to them 25 years ago. It's June if I'm not here, they have a record. I'm like, you know, you cannot go. I usually say you can't go far if you're carrying a lot of luggage. And this baggage is, you know, heart from people, you know, offenses, bitterness, anger. Revenge. Revenge, you know. So we allow the ladies to just really get time to release and just forgive people and walk our way, you know. And, you know, the ladies always say this. I'm like, I'm feeling light and easy because actually that's the topic for that week. Walking light and easy. All right. Walking light and easy. Walking light and easy. All right. Let's go. As a minister of the world as well, I'd like to understand this concept of forgiveness, you know, it's a very big task to tell somebody to forgive, considering you don't understand what this other person did to them, whatever them. All right. So I've never understood this concept of forgive and forget. How do you forgive and forget and still preventing this thing from happening to you again? Let me say this. As you said, minister of the world, the world doesn't talk about forgetting. It talks about forgiving. So I think we'll just add the forget there. I'm not sure why. All right. But forgiveness from a biblical perspective, the reason why we forgive is because we've been forgiven. You know, Jesus Christ forgave that. The fact that we're alive and kicking and walking. We've been forgiven. We have been forgiven. You know, Jesus has already forgiven everyone, even those people who do not know him have been forgiven. He cleans plates. Everything you've done and you'll ever do has been forgiven. Like those kinds of scot-free, akuna, no charge, you will not be judged for it. So when you come from that aspect of, if I've been forgiven this much, whatever someone has done cannot even be compared to how much I've been forgiven. And so you come from that angle for, because I've been forgiven, I will also extend the forgiveness. And that's why Jesus has said we forgive by the way. Forgive because you've been forgiven. That's it. Forgive because you've been forgiven. That is why. That's number one. Yeah, you forgive because of that. And then there's also a scientific aspect of forgiveness. They've come to realize, even scientists have come to realize that when you hold on to grudges and bitterness, it literally damages your brain, literally. So we were not even created to have that. It's dangerous than drugs. It's that dangerous. We were not created to have that unforgiveness, by the way. And people who have that, and you can even tie to some illnesses. You can tie some illnesses to bitterness, literally. Like depression. Depression, arthritis, yeah. Blood pressure. Blood pressure. And just having very strange conditions. Even when you go to hospital, they're even trying to find out what's wrong with you. But they can't figure it out. There's this thing. They're like, I'm clearly sick. But then they're like, we don't even have a name for this condition. And so, even for your own health, just let it go. And the thing is, not forgiving someone doesn't solve anything. Really, when you think about it, you're keeping a grudge. Does it help you? First actually, it's actually undoing you. Is it hurting another person? No. They're living their life, unless now you go and revenge and kill them. And even if you kill them, really, it doesn't even change anything. Actually, it undoes the issue. It undoes you, your peace of mind. And so, forgiveness is the way to go. Forgiveness is the way to go. Confidence revamp. You can find it on Amazon by Wanjugu Geshu. All right. I like that you mentioned something about research in science. Showing... Yeah. You know, I did... In my near undergrad, I did chemistry. Yes, that is what I was headed. So, Bachelors of Science in Biochemistry. Yeah. And then you did masters in planning and project management. Yeah. Okay. Like shifts. Deep lower in Bible training. Yeah. At theology, in extension, disaster management and preparedness. Wow. Why did you get the time to do all these things? Let me not say my age. Quantum. But we can tell your quantum. Quantum. I mean, there's time. I actually think that I should have done more. There's always time for what you want to do. There's always time. All right. And there's no limit for knowledge. Yeah. All right. Biochemistry. Yeah. I'd like to start that. Yeah. Is this something you enjoy? And I actually loved it. You know, people think I was forced to do it. I loved it. I've always wanted to... Actually, I grew up thinking I was going to be a doctor. Most of us. Yes. But I really loved it. Like those sounds of it was my dream. So I thought... And the reason why it was because I thought it was the most noble cause. I was like, I want to save lives. You know, I was like... But I loved science. I was good at it. So when I didn't get the grades to go to medicine, to do medicine, I was offered the biochemistry. And actually, the plan was to do biochemistry and then I actually enter medicine in the third year. And so when I was doing biochemistry, it hit me. I think science is fascinating. But this is not what I would want to do my entire life or something missing. I wanted to go to meet people, interact with people. And I was always cooked in the lab. All right. And I was like, this is not it. So you were a social person. Yes. They wanted to keep you in the lab. Yes. All right. Yeah. So you found a balance in between. Yes, I did. Do you still practice things related to biochemistry? Let me say, in my training, there's always a science aspect. There's always a science aspect. All the time. All the time. It doesn't have to be the physical aspect. No. Even the concepts. Even the concepts. Because I have a scientific mind. I think let me say it like that. I like science. I like to figure out why things work the way they do. So I bring that in my trainings and it makes all the difference. Yeah. All right. So since you like to figure out why things work the way they do. Why do girls hold grudges so much? It's where we are wired. I like to use this interesting example. The brain of a lady is like spaghetti. We have to get up to that point. The brain of a guy is like a waffle. Guys, even just how, maybe just to make it simple. Let me not get into scientific terms. To make it simple for a guy, you can compartmentalize things. Like you can have a box. And they really don't connect. For the ladies, everything is connected. Literally. To the point, our memory is connected to an emotion. No, that's how we are wired. It's our nature. It's like breathing. It's not that big. We can remember an issue and we can actually feel the emotion of that issue. That's the issue. Like we are even there. We remember the details of that. We are reliving it. So that is why it's hard for ladies to move on. Because they can literally feel the emotion even that day. But it's possible. I mean it's possible. It's possible. All right. I'm told that there's nothing that can only be just negative. Yeah. Every aspect. There's a positive aspect of things. Exactly. What is it about the brains that are wired like spaghetti? What are some of the advantages? There are many advantages. There are many advantages. One is we are able to see, how do I put it? We are very detailed. We are able to see through bull something. Yeah. We are able to see different aspects of one issue. All right. For a guy, it's one view. You know, this is it. And you will miss a lot of things that are going to church on what you are actually looking at. For a lady, she's seeing how all these things are connecting to this one thing. And that's why even for a marriage, that's why it's really important even for the man to listen to the lady. Because she's seeing it. She's seeing things that you wouldn't see. And if you do not listen, you'll end up in that hole. Has she seen how this is connected? Even in organizations, that's why ladies are really good relationship managers. Because for maybe a guy in the top, he's like, oh, let's cut off people because, you know, we don't have money. Yes. But ladies are like, no, we can't live this. If we fire this person, this is what's going to happen to this aspect of the organization. And this is what we're going to lose. And she's able to figure out, actually, this is what we can do. We can keep them, but this is what we can do. So she's able to literally hold everything together because she's able to see all those aspects. Funny enough, that is the role that our moms played in the homes when we were growing up. Exactly. That's what we say, that she can multitask. But it's just because she can be able to see all those aspects and be able to know what she can do to hold everything together. Okay, I won't get into the advantages of men having more for like brains. Today is not the day. But I'd like to get into Wired Global Limited. When did you start this wonderful organization? In 2017. Yes, yes. So about three years ago. But the vision was started like five years ago. Let me say that. I had this vision. I even had a name. I know people listen. They hear Wired and they wonder, what is Wired? It's the company in Silicon Valley. No, there's actually an element. It's an acronym for our program we have. Give it to us, give it to us. Yeah, Wired Global just means, you know, the word connected. For us, we are connecting people to God. Connecting people to God, to their identity and to their purpose. So for us, we're like a bridge. You're like, yeah, I know you're here. You're probably feeling lost. You don't know where to go, who you are. We are connecting you. We have a way of showing you who you are. So we kind of plug people. When you think of a plug and just put it in the socket. So that's who we are. That's why Wired is there. And we do that through mentorship. That's our big approach. We have programs. We have trainings. We have content. But the bottom line for us, as Wired Global, is we are raising women leaders. That is really what we are for. That is our focus. Your focus is raising women leaders. Yes, we are telling them that you know what, you are a leader. You are a change agent. You can affect change. As a woman, you don't have to act like a man or try to adopt things. Just be yourself. Be yourself and you will be able to bring that influence. You'll be able to bring that influence. I like that you touched on that. Because right now we are facing a constitutional crisis. Like they say. Some people want parliament to be dissolved because they have not reached the one that was intended or that is written in the constitution. And so many questions are asked that the population of women is more than that of men. And everybody has a right to vote, including the women. Women can vote women leaders if they want to. That is actually the issue. They have realized that unfortunately, not just in Kenya, but even abroad, especially in the US, they have seen some statistics that really do women vote other women in? So how is that a man's problem? It is not a man's problem. And I think for us that is why we do what we do. It's a perspective problem. Even if you look at it in a class setup, if you look at a guy and with a lady and the teacher asks a question or asks who wants to be the leader, the guy will say yes. Guys are naturally leaders. They just believe in themselves even if they are really not even that talented. But for a girl, a lady, she will think she will question herself 20 times even before she steps up and does something. And so for us we've realized it's a weakness in terms of the gender. So that's why we are very begun confidence-building. You know, if you build the confidence of a woman and tell her that she's capable, that she can do it as a lady. And you give her the skills on how. Because you see, I don't want to say it's a man's world, but I'm also saying it's a man's world. But it actually is a man's world. And even if it's leadership, we've seen leadership through a man's world. We've not seen leadership through a woman's world. We don't know how a woman should lead. We've not seen that role modeling, really. And even the ones we've seen, we do not want to do that. We're like, if that is what leading as a woman, it's a misty tacky, you know. So for us, we are like, this is how to do it as a woman. And we show it. So we've realized when we do that, women step up. And then they also are able to see themselves as leaders and they're able to also see the same to other women. They're able to see other women as leaders. So we are also creating a narrative or a culture of supporting women, which is what's there. Women supporting women. Women supporting women. And so we've realized that's working. And for us, we're very deliberate. We have programs that are targeting girls as young as 10 years old, way to over 25. And the older women are very intentional in reaching the younger women. And they are telling them, you know what? This is what I did. Don't do that. This is the way to go. So the younger women are having, we have a program called Ideal Girl. Oh my goodness. We were doing a session and I was looking at those girls and I'm like, what? How old are they? They will go so far. I mean, they're confident. I mean, they are speaking. They are brave. They are not scared of making mistakes because that's the other thing. You know, as a woman, you question yourself, you want to be perfect. There's nothing like perfection. Just go there and do it, you know. And so we've realized that those are the issues that women have. And that's why they don't step up to it. Confidence being one of them. And confidence is one of them. It's a big thing. And then, of course, lack of skill and knowledge on how to do it. So we offer that as well. In general, support from society. Exactly. Also, men need to support the women. You know what? I mean, as you said, it's a man's world. And if you come to an organization and the men are just there trying to put you down, it's going to be really hard for you. But if you find a situation where the men are encouraging the women to lead and to use their gifts and skills, the women will really thrive. Men are coming from a position of privilege. So it's very hard to let go of privilege. Oh. Yes, it's human nature. Oh, they're like, I don't want you to take my sport. Yes, exactly. So how are we going to deal with that? The thing is, we cannot take your sport. We are not men. Like, that is just a fact. There's no way I can be a man. And there's no way a man can be a woman. So there's no competition there. There's no competition. There's no competition. There's no competition. Actually, you will win if you allow her to lead. She will add to your organization. Men who have allowed women to lead are happy. They're like, hey, this is some good stuff. Yes. But if you decide to cut them down, you're going to lose. It's a losing battle. Yes. I think one of them is this insurance company, Resolution Health. I think it's one of the companies that really have allowed women to lead. I don't think it's a company that has so many women leaders and women managers. But you see why it's thriving. Thriving. I see you. So women can be very good. Women are, not can be. They are. They are and they can be. Because you see now there are some who are not leading actively. So we tell them that you can be. You have it in you. Just start from where you are. Have you been in any position of leadership? I have. Before you know what I am doing right now. I used to work in an organization that was actually championing the boy child. So you can imagine. I was actually I was the only woman. I was the only lady heading a department. The rest were men. All right. It was tough. It was really tough. Yes. That is what I was. But it was tough. You don't like men. Just go for what they want. Like if you, you know, they go for it. Let me give an example. You know, the guy, the boss will probably be in the office once a week. And you know, you need to get him to sign things. You need to get his approval. So when he's in the office, you know, everyone is at his. So you remember I used to wait, you know, until he's free. Yeah. I just go and then I see someone. And then I'm just, then I get the chance when he's free and they enter. You think I will be able to talk to him. I will be there. But the men are going to bulldoze in and start talking to him. They do not care if I'm seated there whether I was talking to him or not. And I used to be so mad. I used to be like, what is this? Men are so, and I just realized, okay, before I will start now shouting and try to like even now be, you know what I mean, I'm talking. And I was like, it was too tiring. It was too tiring. So I just decided I'll just be keeping quiet and staying there. And I realized just that aspect of me just being a lady and just staying there will just make them, you know, wonder, oh, oops, sorry. You wanted to talk. They don't need that. They don't need that. So you don't have to raise your voice like the man. I don't have to start fighting. All right. You can find your smart way of doing it. Yes. I learned that. I learned that there. I learned just to be a lady. All right. To be feminine. But some ladies are born aggressive, natural. What do we tell them? I think I will be in that category. Let me see. I think I will be in the category of the aggressive one. Yes. What do we do to be less aggressive? No. You know, the thing is, the reason why I'm able to lead an organization is because I have actually that trait, really. You know, not every woman is going to lead an organization. Not every woman is probably going to be a pioneer in terms of starting an initiative and all that. But there are ladies who are maybe personality-wise. There are cholerics. You know, they are driven, they are ambitious. They have this thing of, you know, assertiveness and tenacity. And I think it is God-given because of what you've been called to do. So for me, I've embraced that as a trait. And I'm able to just go for it. And sometimes I know there are some men who get, you know, a bit intimidated for like, are you there on? You know, I remember when I would go somewhere and I would talk about what I do. People would be like, you're the one who's leading. You know, they had to act like three times. I'm like, yeah, you know. It's still very hard for people to believe. You know, even culture-wise, you know, I think there are some men who are like, no, women are not supposed to be their wives out there doing it. But they are, if it's a calling, it's a calling. And God knew I was a lady when he called me. It wasn't like he was blind. All right. I see that. God killed him. All right. So you're reaching women above 23 years and teaching about identity, purpose, and impact. Yeah. So identity is a very... What do you call them? Conte? It's a very... It's a big thing. You know, it's a big topic. Yes, it's a big thing. All right. Yeah, so identity is also a problem, if you ask me. Yeah, it is. So many people are trying to be things that are not influenced by the Internet, influenced by the idols or the people they look up to. Yeah. But at the same time, motivational speakers will tell you, don't be satisfied with what you have right now. Always be hungry for more. Be like so-and-so. So-and-so was doing this. So you try to be like so-and-so, and this person is not you. Yeah. So identity, at what point do we start learning our identity and whose responsibility is it to teach me as a child to teach that child how to find themselves. Yeah. Ideally, it should start in the family. Yeah. That is where values are formed. Whether wrong values or true values, that's where they are formed. That's a fact. You know, there's a story each of us tells ourselves, by the way. And that story was defined by Ryan. They usually say from when you're zero to eight years, that is such a really a vital time, because it's a make or break. And whatever you experience, whatever you're exposed to, whatever you had, will really form a perception of who you are. And of course, there's always room for reinventing yourself. There's always room. But it's going to be harder when you're an adult. That's the truth. And I've also worked with adults. It will take so much time for you to literally change the beliefs you've always had about yourself, because they've been ingrained in you. The decisions we make on a daily basis, what we attract, the relationships we have, they are all propelled by our subconscious mind. And that's like 95%, by the way. So that's why you find you like a certain type of... You don't even know why. Consciously you're like, they are bad for me. They shouldn't be. But then you find yourself there. You keep telling yourself consciously, I know this is wrong, but you end up in the same situation. Because ultimately, what is driving your decision is in your subconscious. That's why subconsciously you just did it even without really thinking or taking time to reason. You found yourself there. And your subconscious mind is built up in time. From the time you were small, it's like a memory bank. It's just feeding, taking it, taking it. And it's telling a story. It's saying, oh, you know, for example, let me just give an example. Let me give an example of a lady, a girl. And she's maybe eight years or ten years. And her first experience with that guy is a sexual experience. The guy comes and is hitting on her sexually. Maybe even molested her or something. For her, she will know, this is her, I need to relate to guys. She knows it's wrong, but that is her first experience. What will happen is it will record in her mind, even in her brain, that you know what? For me, I think to relate to that guy, I have to give my body. Or for me to have a love from a guy, I have to exchange it for sex. And she will grow up and she will know, oh, that was wrong. Yeah, you know, I need to get the right guy. She probably even has a dream of finding a guy who loves her, who doesn't treat her as a sex subject, but she always finds herself with guys who always want sex. And she's like, why? Until she goes back and challenges that narrative. From the time she was small, she will find herself just having that cycle. So that's the thing about identity. It's formed when you are really small because of what you experience, what you are told. And so what we do is, we ask, what do you want to be right now? You know, because that is in your conscious mind. Like, there's a desire. You want to be this person. You want to have this life. You want to have, you know, this man or whatever. Then now the issue is, are your beliefs, you know, empowering that desire? And if they are not, you need to find out what are they because they are false. And you need to challenge them and change them and start adopting beliefs that will empower what you want. I don't know if that makes sense. It makes a lot of sense. Okay. There's this thing that flies around. Since we're talking about daughters and we're talking about our first experience, there's this thing about daddy issues. Daughters that are raised by moms only. They tend to have problems later on in their lives. What do you have to say about this? Yeah, that's why we said identity is formed in a family unit where there's a mother and a father because they have different roles. They offer different needs to a child. You know, the mother offers nature and a safe space like you're okay, you know, you are safe. I'm going to protect you. You know, you are, you know, you're fed. You're fed. You know, you just feel hard. You know, someone who's been raised by a mother is not over anxious about situations. You know, they're just a bit settled like, you know, they feel safe. But a man, a father, offers identity in terms of this is who you are. You know, you're beautiful. You're precious. You know, you are mine. You know, a father, and that's why we even take a name from a father. You know, you're known by your father's name. It gives some form of identity. So it's very important for a girl to grow up being told you're beautiful. It is very important. You're mine, you're beautiful. I'm telling you, it's like a need. You know, the way men usually say, ah, you know, ask respect is a need. For a woman, love and affection is a need. And knowing that, actually there are two questions a girl always asks. Am I lovable? Or am I worthy to be loved? And am I beautiful? Those two questions. And whoever answers them will actually form her identity. I'm telling you, if a wrong person answers those questions, it's just, you know, and then you see that dad offers genuine love. You know, like, you know that love over dad? Yes, I know. Because you're my daughter. Now, you can imagine a lady who doesn't know that love. The only affection she's gotten is from a guy. And it's not her father's love. It's a sexual love. So for her, she doesn't even know, you mean a guy can come hug me and just love me without wanting sex? Like, how does that look like? And it's terrible. Because she feels like I'm always seen as a sexual object. I don't have anything else. I have, you know, skills. I have these bad, bad dreams. So the dad is the first person that can offer that love from a man without sexual things. Even if it's not her real dad, biological dad, her father's figure is important. And her father's figure can come from anywhere. It could be your mom's brother. Yeah, mom's brother. It can be your grandfather. You are a pastor. Like for me, I didn't grow up with my dad. Yeah. But I think there were always some, you know, guys, especially in church, there were, you know, some of the pastors I had then who were really close to me. You know, I just, usually, just had some sort of a father figure somewhere. All right, I see. So it doesn't have to be a biological dad, you know. And let's wait and see. Sometimes, even if you find out who your biological dad is, he will not probably be the dad you want. So what will happen to you? So I think sometimes it's just asking God and just finding a place where, you know, a guy, a father figure, whether an uncle or someone who can recreate that. So it's very important to have a father figure. Yeah. So if you have a niece that the father is not present, you can be present. Please be present. Yeah, please offer that affection. Let me tell you, a girl who's offered affection the way she thrives, it's amazing. You know, yeah. Thank you very much for the wise words. I'd like to quote Kanye West as we proceed. So Kanye West says, when you get daughters, protect them. When you get sons, teach them the right ways. What do you have to say about this? Are girls just there to be protective? And then the men are taught the ways of the life. I think it's just, you know, when a girl is protected, she's able to thrive. I'm not trying to say a girl knows everything, but a girl kind of just knows a lot of things, you know. She just needs confidence. She needs to be built up, and she will fly. I feel like for a man, they need a blueprint. A man learns by being shown. You know, like, this is how it is, because you're practical. So that's why maybe he meant that, like, teach the way, this is how it goes, so that the man can also be like, oh, I saw a blueprint, so let me follow the blueprint. So maybe that's what it means. You and Kaniyia are amazing at this. Give them your social media handles, the organization ones and the personal ones, as we finish up with some opinion-based questions. So Facebook page is Wired Global, Wired Global. Our Instagram page is at she is Wired, at she is Wired. We also are in Twitter at she is Wired. We also have a YouTube channel, Wired Global. Kindly go and subscribe. And my Facebook, personal Facebook page, is Wanchugogi Shuru. I have a page and a personal account, and I'm also on Instagram at Wanchugogi Shuru. Alright, thank you very much for that. So on Facebook, we have a question. Usha Yachua. In a relationship? Yes. What has happened to all of us, I think? It was mutual. It was mutual. Nobody was like, I can tell you also. You're like a man in so many ways. You have the pride of a man. Okay. So what are some of the reasons for breakups in a relationship? Oh my goodness. You know, people are complex. Oh man. Did you learn this over time? The more you grow up, you learn that people are complex. Yeah. And then, you know, people are also messed up like you. You know, like... Like me? No, not like you. Let me say it. Let me say it. I'm not trying to say that Africa is so messed up, but honestly, I mean, think about it. I was reading that 45% of families are single families. In Africa? In Africa. In Kenya, actually. In Kenya. Yeah. So people are coming from homes already. That's a very... Okay. Complicated. Yeah. So we have issues already. Father issues, that issue. Even you have issues. So you attract each other and now you're just... Issues. And then a lot of toxins. That's it. People are not okay and they are getting into relationships who are not being okay and they hurt each other even more. Hating people hurt each other. So that's what I will say. For me, that has been my story. You know, before I found healing and before I knew myself, I was hurt, you know. And I don't want to say, oh, it was the guys, even me, I knew I hurt them. And so, you know, you come in... It's always good to take responsibility. It's good to take responsibility for yourself. What I could say, oh, it's all this man. They're always cheating. Why are you attracting cheating people? Why are you attracting men who cheat? There must be a reason why you're attracting them. By the way, they must be. It's always, it's going back to the story you told yourself. There's a reason why you're attracting them. Even if you don't want to, there must be something that is in you you believed and that's why you're attracting them. Because guess what? Maybe there are good men out there. They are. They might be few. They are. They are. And so if they are, why aren't you attracting them? You know. And so, I will say that about relationships. Just take care. Work on you first. Work on you. Work on you. Be a high quality person and understand you attract who you are. If you work on you, if you work on your messes, go back other issues and stop blaming, you know, your parents. Stop blaming your dad if he wasn't there. I know it was painful, but take responsibility like, I know that has happened in my life. What can I do right now to him? Even if it's in a counselor, I do coaching as well. Personal coaching. If you want to get me on board as a coach, we can work together, and you fix those issues and you start now being that person, I'm telling you, you will attract those people. The right people? I mean, even me, it's not attracting other crop of guys from the ones that I was like, it works, it works. It works when you work on yourself. It works when you work on yourself. That is the word of the day. Relationships work when you work on yourself first. So work on yourself first. All right. Thank you very much for that. And I'm glad you're attracting a young, faithful, black, responsible man. And I will write it black. Okay. So as we finish up, I had this friend, I won't say my age as well, but my friend is like, she's like 21 now. I think 2021, she just turned 21 this year. So when she was 20, she was telling me, I want to do this and that and then this and that and then this and that and then that and that and then get married by 25. What would you tell such a person who plans their life in that way and having marriage as a priority in this day and age? That's awesome. That's awesome. Yeah. That's an amazing girl. Putting time cups. Yeah. Putting time cups on yourself. I mean, it's good to plan. There's nothing wrong with planning. I mean, of course, give a caveat. Plan, I usually say this, plan with God, but leave room for some surprises because look at 2020 and you're going to plan. But then who's God, you know? So plan, it's good to have a plan. Definitely. So for her, I would be like, yeah, go for it, you know? But of course, leave room because so that you're not depressed when things are not working. When things don't happen your way. When, yeah, yeah. All right. Thank you very much. One last time, I'll give you a chance to give them your social media. Handles. So they can reach you in case anybody needs some counseling or guidance or wants to be part of confidence. Really? Yes. Yes. So Handles, our Facebook page is Wired Global. Instagram is at She Is Wired. My personal page is on Djogo Gishuru on Facebook and also at Djogo Gishuru on Instagram. Our website is www.wiredglobal.org. So you can find our contacts there and we do coaching, personal coaching, group coaching. Yeah, we're here for you. So get in touch with us. Wired Global. Thank you very much for coming through. Thank you so much for having me. I'm going to get a hold of that book and just read it and see what's going on in your head right there. All right. I hope I'm going to see you again sometime soon. Definitely. On this set so we can touch on some other issues. I'll be back. If you guys invite me, I'll invite you. Yeah, definitely. I'll invite you. Thank you very much for coming through. We have had such an amazing time. Check Wired Global online for more information. We are going to be back with some more of Queens Wednesday on Wired in the Morning. All the women. My name is Barry Moses. It's by Moon. Social media don't go no more.