 The narcissist needs you more than you need them. They need your attention and admiration. They need your approval and validation. It is their fuel, their supply. They cannot live without it. They might act as though they hate you. They might act as though they can't stand to be around you but they still need to feel like you approve of them. They act confident. They act as though they are sure of their abilities or qualities but they're actually very insecure. They lack confidence in their abilities and qualities. They feel as though they are not good enough to be anything on their own which is why they always come to you for validation. They come to you to prove the validity or accuracy of something. They always need to know what you think. They can't make decisions on their own without your validation. It also helps them to get your validation when making decisions because it allows them to dodge any responsibility. If something goes wrong with any decisions that they have made they can say that you approved of it. They can make you responsible for their decisions. They're like children. They can't do anything on their own. They need you to guide them. They need your advice to resolve their problems or difficulties. They don't feel safe or secure on their own so they remain very close to you and it becomes overly dependent on you emotionally but they also hate and resent you. It's like a small child that clings onto their parent. The parent provides the child with money, food and shelter. Whatever the child needs to remain safe and secure but at the same time they also hate and resent their parent because the parent has the power to make decisions and in false obedience they have the final say because they are providing the child with what they need to survive. The child cannot survive without the parent and it's the same thing with the narcissist. They need you to make them feel safe and secure. They need you to provide them with some form of stability but they also hate and resent you because you have everything that they want and need. You are a free-spirited person. You have the abilities, qualities and talents. You have the personality. You have the money. You have things that they need. They depend on you to provide that to them which makes them very resentful towards you. It makes them feel like it's unfair. It makes them act as though they don't need you but then they do desperately need you. For their own survival the narcissist needs you more than you need them. They are dependent on your attention and admiration. They are dependent on your approval and validation. They need you to approve of what they are doing. They rely on you to make decisions for them. They cannot make decisions on their own. They need you to make them feel safe. They need you to provide them with a sense of stability and security. Without you they feel as though they are at risk of danger or harm. They feel as though anything could happen to them. They feel insecure. They feel uncertain or anxious about themselves. They need you for their own survival. You are their life support. Without you they feel as though they cannot survive.