 Can't even explain to you that my life got so much better when I realized that I Was the source of pretty much all of my problems What's up everybody? This is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do I take different topics going on in the YouTube community and try to see what we can learn from them because if you're like me and You're regularly trying to improve your mental and emotional well-being like make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell And yeah, this morning. I was actually planning on doing another video, but I was checking my Twitter feed and I was like, oh We need to talk. We need to talk, baby. So anyways Just just so you know, I'm gonna refer to this thing going on in the world as the situation Okay, not the situation from Jersey Shore But just the situation because YouTube is kind of finicky about discussing this whole topic. So just be warned Well, anyways this morning Tricypetis put out this tweet like I get why people dislike me dude. I freaking get it But do people ever let up? Like some people really never get tired of being nasty. All right, so again, if you're new to my channel This is about us. Okay. This is about me and you. Okay. This is about me and you okay, we need to look at these situations and See how we're acting in our own lives. Okay, so I'm gonna talk about two different things versus The situation Okay, but then I'm gonna talk about, you know, having self-awareness and realizing how we cause a lot of our own problems Like it's easy to sit here and be like, oh, true. So you don't get it But like I used to do the same thing. I sometimes still do the same thing and when I see stuff like this It is a reminder. All right, but first I'm gonna talk about this reply It says I don't think people should send you mindless hate but I think you were kind of harsh to dissociate did and Breland and The situation isn't a joke. I know your stress. We all are but I think you need to step back and look at what's happening Tricypetis replies Blair girl, I don't expect you to agree with everything. I do or say but dang I'm 32. I think I'm allowed to live and speak my truth without PC police coming for me Let's focus on people doing actual harm in the world Doing actual harm in the world I like talking literally doctor drew today, but other doctors and It's just it is just the flu and like yes, the flu can kill anybody actual harm in the world So I actually got quite a few messages about those clips of Tricypetis and I didn't want to dedicate a whole video to it, but I just want to talk about the situation real quick like Let's let's put this in perspective Okay Have any of you ever worked in retail or just out of business where you've had to close like you had to close at night, right? And you were closing in like five minutes ten minutes It's getting close to the end of the day and you're just waiting to go home It's been a long stressful day, right and somebody walks in the door right before you're about to close and you're like dang I Gotta stay here late, right? Like that is a jerk selfish move on the other person's part. Well now with the whole situation going on Multiply that by a billion, okay? like It is very selfish and self-centered to downplay what's going on like the first aspect of it I keep seeing all these stories and I'm like, why do people do this? How do people still not understand the gravity of this situation and I see people like the president and I see certain Governors like Philip DeFranco just did a story Yesterday about this governor who was like, oh, we didn't know this was asymptomatic and you could have the symptoms and not show Him for a couple weeks how the governor Brian Kemp you are an idiot or a liar or both And then you had those that pastor in like Florida Who just got put in jail because he refused to listen to the the quarantining and not having these big public You know services and everything like that like he went to jail But the thing is when people in power or people in in Influenced with influence talk about this and downplay it and make it seem like a big deal That gives other people a pass to say oh, this isn't a big deal But the selfishness and self-centeredness like like what's really hit me hard What's really hit me hard is seeing our health care workers seeing these videos of our health care workers like I Cannot even imagine. I quit my job today. I Wanted to work and I was assigned to a COVID patient on an ICU unit that has been converted to a designated COVID unit None of the nurses are wearing masks not even surgical masks in the hallways when they're giving report to each other. I Had my own N95 mask I told my manager. I understand we're short on supplies, but let me protect myself Let me feel safe home too and the way things are looking. This isn't gonna get any better America is not prepared and nurses are not being protected a lot. It's just it is just the flu, right? I can't imagine like you are purposely exposing yourself to this situation Right Like to help other people like that is mind-blowing and then you have all the grocery store workers and everybody who like is Helping society still function with our basic needs So to make it to make it about you and saying oh, it's not a big deal if I get sick Like if I get sick, I'll just go to the hospital like you are putting these health care workers at risk Like they are going through like like I keep thinking about how we're gonna have Cases of PTSD after this is all over. There are people I can't imagine how many health care workers are Turning to substance use right like just drinking their faces off Okay, like first responders have a high instance of PTSD as well as substance abuse Right and now like we're gonna have a whole new wave like six months from now I promise you you're gonna see a spike in addiction rates Overdose rates as well as treatment rates because these people are going to have developed a problem So to see somebody like Trisha pay this say people doing actual harm in the world Promoting the idea that this situation isn't a big deal like that that kind of bothers me But again, this is for all of you like I just want you to think about that I just want you to think about when you're going, you know When you're going out and downplaying this thing or whatever like just remember like You are taking away from these health care workers and putting them in a terrible decision a lot of those health care workers are Not even able to go home and see their families. Okay, that is what they are doing for us So the least the least we can do is try not to Continue to go to the hospital and they're overcrowded. They're lacking on equipment. They're lacking on like proper Safety equipment, but anyways, I can rant about that forever But anyways Patricia pay this to say people doing actual harm in the world like that's that's actual harm Like some of the stuff like with the dissociative identity disorder and everything like that Like that was awful and she upset an entire community. You know what I mean But now we're talking about like the physical well-being of people Anyways, there's the end of that rant for the situation and I hope you guys just think about that before you make These decisions you shouldn't be making so anyways getting back to it Do people ever get tired of being nasty and you know, why do people keep coming after me? So now I'm just gonna share a quick little story. Okay, like I said in the intro My life got so much better when I started to realize that I was the source of pretty much all of my problems And it happened when I got sober like this was drilled into my head just All up in my head it was drilled in so when I first got sober and I moved into a sober living house I didn't have money or insurance for treatment. I went to a sober living that my mom was paying for It's about 500 bucks a month and I hated it. I hated that sober living so so much I needed it to save my life, but I hated it so much by the way quick recovery tip If you hate treatment or sober living or whatever it is that is more of a reason to stay clean and sober Okay, so in that sober living I finally got a sponsor after like three months and I used to call them like when you first get A sponsor you just call them and complain about everything, right? I called them and I'm just like dude I hate this house. I hate everybody I live with, you know, people are like stealing my food There was this guy smoking meth in the garage Samantha guy was smoking meth in the bathroom, right? And aside from that, you know, there was one TV in the house These guys were watching like pond stars all day long and it's just annoying. I was living with like What like 15 other people I'll call him and complain and he would stop He would soak it in and he would say Chris Did you make any decisions in the past that put you in the situation that you're currently in and I'm like Are you serious right now, bro? Like I'm calling to complain to you about how the whole world is not thinking about me and my needs and my Well-being and you're gonna tell me to look at myself. I was so mad But he was doing that based on something that's actually in the AA big book Which everybody can benefit from and it says we make decisions based on self Which later places in a position to be hurt when I was working at the rehab I used to tell people to write that on their arm and whenever they were upset Whatever they thought the world was out to get them look at that and say, okay Did I make any decisions that put me in the situation that I'm currently in? Okay, so anyways after I moved out of that sober living I ended up having to move in with my mom Okay, like I didn't have any money. I didn't have anywhere else to go even though I was like five or six months sober I had to move in with my mom and I call up my sponsor again And I'm like, can you believe this woman? I'm a 27 year old grown man and she's bossing me around And now she's trying to be a mother to me after being an alcoholic for 20 years I hate living here. I don't know. I'm just going off and he sat there and he soaked it all in And he's like Chris Did you make any decisions that put you in the situation that you're currently in So just like the sober living just like living with my mom I was the reason I was there because of my substance abuse because of the terrible decisions I made Because I pushed away every friend and every family member that I had nobody would let me stay with them I was there in that sober living and then I was there with my mom. It was all 100 Due to me this guy right here But because he drilled that into my head I started looking at it in every single situation Right like when I moved back to vegas and I was looking for a job And I was so upset that these jobs would only hire you if you had a a college degree, right? Well, why did I have a college degree me the decisions I made I could have gotten a scholarship from nevada To go to unr or unlv pretty much for free, but I slacked off in high school It was my fault that I didn't have a degree, right? It helped me look at my relationships. I'd always look at my relationships. Oh my god Why can't I just find a good woman? Because of me I had terrible taste in women I kept dating the wrong women I was looking for women who were feisty and a little a little crazy, right? I like that spice in my life, right? But I was making decisions that put myself in that situation And if I'm being honest and I don't like discussing it anymore because I move forward But I want you guys to learn from me and my mistakes as well I look at everything that happened to me last year I caused it I caused it Like although like I got really like it was just tearing me up mentally I realized that I made a lot of really dumb decisions that made that situation Way worse Okay, so I span this across my entire life and if you want to do something A simple practice like start doing this everything in your life every time you get upset Every time you get upset ask yourself Did I do anything that put me in this situation? And I think Trisha Paytas will start to realize how much better her life can be When she starts looking at her life like this, but that's for all of us, man That is for all of us. We need to look at all of our situations and don't get me wrong. Don't get me wrong There are plenty of things in our life that are absolutely out of our control A great example is childhood trauma. We didn't make any choice. We were just born into that family or you know Things happened We we didn't have the ability or even the mental capacity to make better decisions at that age There are there are a select Few situations that are completely out of our control. Hell look at what's happening in the world right now This thing that's spreading and the cause of all this we have no control over it But what do we have control over? Okay, like I can only imagine I can only imagine someone getting sick and be like, oh my god I have the toe. I have the worst luck and trust me There might be something like you had to go to the grocery store to feed your family It might have happened But the people who are like going to these you know, uh, these like parties or like these outings Or hanging out with all their friends still or you know going to these big church services Like if they get sick, like it's not the world. It's not like just bad luck. It's like no You made decisions that put you more at risk For getting the situation happening to you, you know what I mean? So again, this isn't just a video to like sit here and like dunk on Trisha or anything We all need to look at what we're doing And how we cause so many of our own problems. The last thing that I'll end with Is this is one of the most empowering things you can do for your mental health when you start realizing that you Have a choice in most of your situations Things get so much better, right? Like if you are struggling with your mental health right now, you have choices Okay, you have a choice Are you going to take your mental health medications or not? That is your choice Are you going to go to therapy or not? That is your choice. Now, if you don't have insurance and can't get medications if you don't have Uh, uh insurance or money to get therapy, right? You have the choice to look up state funded Uh options, okay, and even if those are out of your role Are you meditating? That is your choice whether you do it or not. Are you reading books like the millions of books I suggest That is your choice, right? Like think about all the choices You have because I am a believer that we have no right no right To complain if we are not at least trying to improve improve our situation and trust me I get it. It can be hard. I get that you might try one thing But that is when we set back we reset and say, okay Now I have a choice. Am I going to try again or am I going to give up? Okay, when you realize that you are making decisions that impact your life Most empowering thing in the world, baby. I promise you. Okay. I thought this video was going to be 10 minutes Sorry, it's a little bit longer. But anyways, that's all I got for this video If you like this video, please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell And a huge thank you to everybody out there supporting that the channel over on patreon As well as everybody who supports the channel by buying my mental health books or the merch from the merch store And a big thank you to everybody who is practicing some good healthy social distancing. I'll see you next time