 Nice been a little while since I came on here. Let me get my computer shut down and hopefully So I didn't know I was gonna do this tonight, so I just kind of pop popped in and Hopefully my Wi-Fi, you know Connecting and working not my Wi-Fi my cellular data connects and works For me okay tonight. It's been a while since I've done a live So I'm gonna see and I was premiering the talks with Tony the last couple of nights and Just something I was doing just trying something different and I um I Didn't get to shoot a video today So I figured you know being that I didn't get the time to post it That I wasn't gonna have a video going up at nine. I didn't want people to be sitting there at Nine and it's not there. So that's why I popped on to go live to do a live Q&A for the blessed tribe because I have not been able to do one in a while and It's just how life goes, you know, you live in got got a family. I literally just walked in the house 15 minutes ago and then was on the phone until 859 p.m. With my family kind of going back and forth between, you know Some of my distant family helping them through their situation And so it's been back to back for me and that's why I just want to pop on here and do a little Q&A This month I'm doing something new with with our life coaches. We have coaches That's already on my mentor dot life. We got coaches already in the certification course So for the aspiring coaches y'all just know that you can enroll this month and then in June We'll be having some Q&A for current coaches people who are already in the course And new coaches it just something I'm gonna be adding to the course just because Even though when you finish the course, you may still have a few questions you need to get through So it's something I'll be adding to the New members of the bless tribe welcome. God bless you. I know sometimes, you know being a member it could get tough if it's a You know Type mon or you two hit you on the wrong day now Published book how much should I charge others as a Christian Britney? God bless you. Hey tg. I've helped three family members publish books conception the creation How much should I charge others as a publishing consultant? I charge twenty five hundred A book is a big deal. I remember years ago. They said author was the second most respected job title behind brain surgeon You know people really respect authors and the fact that you can put a book out, you know because Probably 80 90 of people would like to publish a book but less than one percent do so That's a big deal. So I charge twenty five hundred and that includes like up to ten sessions Up to ten sessions of talking through the process. Like you said concept of creation and You also can create a course on it To where you can just get your phone get a get a high value phone, you know Not a high value man get your high value phone and turn it on yourself And just kind of talk through it step by step try to keep the videos I try to keep mine at seven minutes And once you got them, I have you'll see my birthday book course You can kind of see how it's done and then I have some stuff on the word document in the course that you could Download or and so you can see the birthday book course to see how it's done Give it a title, you know Whatever publishing a to z do what you do and then you can I have another course called online courses 101 And that walks you through how to create a online course So if y'all ain't got the gist yet everything I do I try to teach it and I can't teach one person at a time So I have to put it in a course, but the game is there for you Everything for you if is there for you if you really want to do it So, um, you can hop on there And put your knowledge into a course and put that online So that way you can just be passing out cars at the ball You know, you could pass our cars at the mall at a game When you out and about like hey the card just say do you want to publish a book visit such and such dot com And it's 45 dollars 99 dollars, you know something that's kind of simple and walk them through it But then for your actual time working with you I would say start at 500 Get your one paid client go to 750 get your one paid client go to a thousand and just keep going up like that Hey, Tony, I'm on the keto diet. I started january 4th 2021 and have lost a total of over 40 pounds um somebody Look like I'll read your question and mama tish um deleted your question I don't know why I don't know why mama tish deleted your question. I don't know what was in them um So see over there working Mama tish, uh, you you gotta work that hard and I She over there work. I don't know what what what was in the question Or if you put the q in front of it or make sure you put the hashtag q in front of it, um Yeah, I don't know what it said, but I didn't get get through it So I apologize and she could have been trying to click something else and click that but um I really shout out to the moderators. They they they're not a paid staff or anything They just was on all the videos and I kept seeing their name And so I just made them a moderator, but they really be helping me out You know, so y'all forgives if if if we accidentally delete a question Um on accident because sometimes I do that too trying to touch it I Moved into a new apartment. I think my neighbor is single. Is it okay to say hello first? um kind of you know, just you know You can't do this right here, you know, that might not look right might look like your thug, but Just kind of like this right here just like that No, because the way you asking this sound like you want to hey Hey Like you want to be like that there, but if you just Just like that. That's all he need to see. It's all he need to see Okay helping other people. Okay um Well, you could become a coach I'll send you a question that time about the keto diet and you helping people Uh, you could become a coach, but here's the thing that you you kind of really You kind of want to stay away from that they have like certified health coaches and all of that stuff but that's really not smart because like I could do the keto But the keto might kill my wife You see what I mean? So you got to be careful with what works for you if you're not a doctor Like when you help people with a diet, that's what a nutritionist does and a nutritionist is Degreeed a nutritionist got to go through training like real Train school Get a degree Get certified because you got to really understand the science of the body And how it works. And so if you don't do that, you could hurt somebody And that's what happened with this bodybuilding my wife used to do the bodybuilding not not the hulk hogan But they have shows where one division was called bikini So the women they just get like alps and they get you know cuts and they Legs But when I tell you all of these women They body was tow up Because the coach would be just some person Who go to the gym and lift weights, but not like a doctor And the stuff my wife and her friends went through With they body after that process of doing all that Dieting that the people had them on i'm telling it messed up adrenal glands Was off body was People was working out and gaining weight after the workout And could not lose weight was eating grilled chicken and asparagus and putting on weight So you got to be careful with that, you know anytime you're doing coaching coaching is really you're supporting You supporting like you asking questions. You're not really prescribing see to tell somebody what to eat. That's prescribing That's a prescription. So you got to be very careful with that And um Because just just for you personally your your your integrity Hey, Tony, I wanted to ask your opinion on why less men are approaching women I do what I can to work on my three b's, but I find that I am having trouble meeting men Well sister now i'ma tell you now if you walk around with that red hat that right there That's gonna play into it now because that red hat that you know, what we know red house charlie baltimore All right You just think that you with the rough riders So a man so a man could see you nine. He's like, oh, man. She's like she cut She's like the style But you're in the rough round You see what i'm saying? So it's also too when It's not just the It's the generation the society we in with all the social media men approaching less too, but you also have to Evaluate your approach ability So if you look like you could if you you know Dressing a certain way you walking too fast, you know a lot plays into that because One of the first components is attraction and then approach ability And when you start asking yourself those questions, guess what it starts to show on your face You start to show on your face It starts to show on your walk And you don't even realize it because it's subconscious the way you don't even realize that your your Energy is saying y'all sorry. No good man. Don't even like to approach nobody. Oh, sorry 2021 man And you don't even realize that's how that's what your energy is saying because that's what you're telling yourself Whereas I tell people whatever you want in life Just start saying it to yourself and and so walk around and start saying i'm gonna meet my wife today I'm gonna be my wife today Might meet my husband today ready to meet my husband today And now your your energy is totally different than Even man don't even approach no more Because it's hard to be like this even don't even approach no more men don't even approach no more It's hard to be like that if you telling yourself, you know through negative self-talk So you just have to be careful with you know what we send it off as men and women Okay, somebody Uh New on here my boyfriend 44 me 30 Feels like if I don't want to continue Help him grow his business for my own dreams. Then why am I with him? I moved in with him one and a half years ago. Also. He has two small kids. I help him raise Oh My goodness You uh, they say short end of the stick. You ain't getting no stick You got dust in the hand You ain't getting no stick. You ain't got the short end of the stick. You ain't got nothing For one he old and matthews look Compared to you because he 44 you 30 It's like you and your prime, you know you You prime and and he 44 which is young but not compared to 30 You know 34 will be better 44 He need to be with a woman. That's 40 250 You know, he don't a 44 year old man don't deserve no 30 year old woman you know young Whipple snapper and then you raising his small kids so Did they mother pass away? Did the mama not want him and them no more did he be her in court for them? Like you so you coming in you taking on all the responsibility you giving up your dreams to help him That's exactly why older men get younger women to school y'all and to use y'all. I'm telling you as a man I'm 37 years old A 23 year old woman to me is a baby. That's nasty That's nasty. But see this coming from a healthy man I don't even trust no man that won't know one 14 years younger than him because that's nasty Because that's a baby Compared to him. He needed a woman within three years of him really And then he put them kids on you then he put his dreams on you and he's saying listen Okay, turn your dreams into nightmares. Hey y'all Your dreams could be nightmares. You need to help me build my dream That's how you doing and so that's why I try to tell y'all You got to be in your age range You know y'all keep trying to try this stuff for your hypergamy And it's gonna cost you it's gonna cost you What does it mean anything? Does it mean anything when men don't smile in pictures with their woman? No, because a lot of us got messed up tea No, that don't mean none. It's just hot men A lot and and as a man we try not to walk around teasing because you don't want nobody to try you And if you just walk around That's what you think about as a man So and then for me I had got me some braces a couple years ago So I I opened my mouth now, but before I never really smiled because my teeth weren't where I wanted them to be at So if somebody would have said I don't love my wife because I ain't smiling they would have been dead wrong And so listen a man who won't smile in a picture because he don't like his woman That man won't even take no picture Because if he won't smile in a picture because he don't like her he's not afraid to tell her Uh, I don't take pictures. I ain't doing all that social media foolish You want a real man or you want your old model? You want your Instagram model? I don't take pictures And she I'm sorry. I'm sorry because that's how a lot of women be. I'm sorry. I mean, I know you're doing your thug And she'll just let it fly. So just because he's not smiling You know, we we can't get too deep looking too deep Tony men always say, um, the danger is tight. What does that mean? Uh, let me look at you with a good eye Hold on. See, I'll block you. Let me see Yeah, you got no waves in your hair. Got no crinkles in your hair Look like you a little light skin That's what he's trying to say He's trying to say you're a prize He's trying to say you're gonna get him in trouble. I remember I had a Guy on my football team used to tell this woman Girl, you gonna be the death of me? I'm like, what you raised with your granddaddy. Why do you keep telling this woman? She's gonna be the death for you And in show enough they end up dating and dated for years He used to always say that girl you're gonna be the death for me So it's just it's just what men say. Don't don't let it go to your head. Don't let it mean nothing Essentially he trying to say, okay listen, you look like this right here. You look like somebody off of the instagram to me Or you look like the type that Gonna make me cheat on my girlfriend make me cheat on my wife Or if I get with you and fall in love with you, I'ma go crazy over you It's kind of what he's saying, but it's just conversation. It's just conversation. Don't Don't don't don't don't don't don't don't don't think too much on it now And some men is colorist You know my wife She is Lighter than me She's not as light as my mama a lot of men looking for a woman that looked like their mama. That wasn't the case I wasn't looking for any particular color. I thought my wife was hispanic And I was approaching her because I hadn't slept with no hispanic woman Recently at that time and I was like, oh Old Puerto Rican Okay, old Puerto Rican fantasy. Well, see what I could do with that. So that's why I approached my wife And and a lot of and see this was in 2005 today colorism Like men are picking women because of their color And and because I've been with my wife since 2005. I get lumped into that. Uh, he got a light skin white Oh my god I'm so sick and tired of black men picking a lot of skin women So I get lumped into that too, but I literally was approaching my wife for a one night stand and then found out she was a wife But I know today through matchmaking I've had guys tell me she got to be a red bone She got to be red. She got to be light and I'm like Is your mama like like what color your mama? Uh, ain't about that ain't all he bought that and so some guys it's like a color thing and It's because of the world we live in have made certain shades and colors on a pedestal and look and and look Glamorous in the movie and put them in the movie and put them in the videos and stuff like that. So It's a lot of men today to where if they see you lighter They'll try to give you a trophy And and what you have to do is you can't let that go to your head. You can't let you can't let his self-hate or what he going through gas you up to the point that You know, you start to feel a certain way because a lot of times men who Doing stuff and it's not necessarily to that young lady question, but this something I'm seeing a lot right now is that men Especially a lot of black men is choosing white women and choosing light women choosing Hispanic women and a lot of them is doing it because They hate their own skin Some of them doing it because they want variety and they used to looking at they they color skin and they And they value or admire a different color, but a lot of them doing it because of self-hate And so that's what we got to realize today on both sides and you can You just got to move how you move and know who you are and don't get caught up in You know, what's all going on out here? Cam L. God bless you not c cf Child's father always avoiding Watching son and it's on and off with it when I try to get at least a day or two Break to recharge don't want to be pouring from an empty cup, but exhausted of basically begging him to watch his son That's a tough one now. That's a tough one and I'll tell you all you could do is ask him But you're gonna have to shift your mindset, you know, you I could listen. I won't melt off day And my wife do now about everything for our sons. I just took my oldest son to practice I do the practice runs, but my wife do pretty much everything else for them And I be won't melt off day. I'd be like, baby, can we just leave these boys at the house by themselves and go to I hit a Puerto Rican Go out here to Jamaica Uh, Turks and Caicas Somewhere like can we take them to their grandma house? They go into their grandparents house for a week because we got to go to, um Jamaica with my friend for his birthday I'm like, can we leave him down there two weeks and she's like, oh And so listen, I I feel you on that but I'm gonna tell you when you're a single parent. It's a mindset shift that you have to have And you got to be able to say listen, this child is 100 percent mine And as bad as it hurt as unfair as it is, you got to have that mindset shift Because if you angry with the father and you mad with the father, you're gonna take that out on your child Subconsciously, you ain't even gonna realize what you're doing So you got to say, you know what this child 100 percent mine and whatever god do through my child I already know My child gonna be blessed and if god see fit it might even bless me Meaning that your work won't be in vain You your child gonna grow up and make you proud, but you've got to shift that mindset and it's not fair But now it's about the child and that's what we have to realize whenever we lie down with someone Anything can happen You know a person can pass away a person can leave go through a divorce So for everybody who doesn't have a child right now understand that when you lie down You can't assume it's gonna be 50 50 because it might be 100 zero So you got to realize when you lie down with somebody you got to say am I Ready to be 100 percent responsible for this child if the answer is no Then don't do what the rest of us have done because it might not always work out the way that we envision Valiant love, why would a guy god bless you now? Why would a guy continually contact you from long distance? He has a great job And very attractive we went to college together, but never met or hung out um Some men just do it just because it's a it's a thrill. It's just it's a release It's a it's a release hearing your voice talking to you. It's just a release. So it's a stimulus And the brain just responds to a feminine voice Feminine energy feminine interaction. And so for some men that feeling could feel like a or out The big old and so some men is just just doing it just to be doing it don't even really mean anything So that's one thing you got to understand. I miss somebody question up here when y'all do the questions that's um I think it's a 499 five dollars. They disappear on me And um, I don't know why youtube does that but what they do If it's five dollars, they they give you a time limit on there and the time limit is so short I miss it and I and I don't think they expect it for somebody to be getting more than one question Back to back like that when they created this Because they should leave them all up there to talk to where I could just go through them one at a time But they disappear Why do you think what do you think of a guy with clinical depression leaving a woman? My ex often amplified situations and eventually slow faded out of the relationship I'm not a therapist man. You know, so I'm a life coach. So I as life coaches. We don't deal with depression I'm a mentor life coach mentor consultant the same thing, but depression is a diagnosis So diagnosis have treatment plans. So I really can't speak on things that I'm not trained to speak on Um, Talia God bless you. Should I be upset with my boyfriend if he doesn't give flowers? How should I approach him about it? No, you shouldn't be upset with him, but you can ask him Like hey, will you give me some flowers sometime? Because what you got to understand love is a learned behavior So not every man knows how to express those things And some men was raised so cold that they don't know how to be warm So sometimes it's just about we all have to teach someone how to love us We have to teach people how to treat us. Nobody's just gonna come in and know to do everything we like So it comes down to communication and it's it's not about feeling out of permission slip to talk to him Just say to him on a random day like right now Hey, you know, I was just thinking will you give me some flowers sometime? I love flowers and you've never gotten me any flowers So I just want to put that bug in your ear. Just like that. And if you can't say that then it's like who you wish tonight ving rain Did ving rain pass away? God bless his soul if he did. I can't remember somebody passed away like that though um Maisha bless you Hey, Tony Do you have suggestions on where to meet men? I'm introverted and tend to be a homebody I'm 31 by the way. Thank you. Um No, I don't Because men is everywhere, you know, so it's like until you get tired of being a homebody Then you're not ready for a relationship When you're ready for a relationship, then you're gonna get out your comfort zone because the relationship is about getting out of your Comfort zone. So until you willing to get out your comfort zone and go to the lounge on friday night Even with your mask on man a man could a man or choose you not by your eyebrows and your eyes You know a man to choose you now don't think just because we got any mask on that is that it's gonna be blocking all the blessings No, a man will look at Everything else other than that mask and he just hoping the best he hoping the best for that nose in that mouth and sometimes You could tell what the nose and the mouth gonna be like based on the forehead the head the eyes The eyelashes the the outfit. So he gonna and typically When you look at somebody and you say, okay That looked like an attractive person when they take that mask off they'd be attractive And so you could you could do the ductive Reasoning so going to the lounge on friday night. Just take you one friend one lady friend You know home girl to the lounge let the music play and just be in there and get you some outings You know, but you got to get out that comfort zone and and you could meet a man anywhere I've been talking to a guy for three months now But only through instagram voice notes never asked to see me red flag. Absolutely. Absolutely Absolutely, you talking to somebody else, man You talking to somebody else, man, so you talking you talking now You talking to somebody else, man I'm media. God bless you now. My boyfriend 44 divorced twice with two kids me 30 no kids the whole relationship of two years He has distrust of me. He said he would work on his trust issues Help him with his finances Maybe you meant to say when he was struggling and helped raise two kids scroll over to continue Scroll over Since I already answered your question I'm guessing maybe you asked the question and went to doing something else or it was reading the comments But when you when this video over scroll back Scroll back to the beginning of the video and watch it I think your question was probably the first or second one that I asked that I answered So when y'all ask a question like y'all got to stay on the video and stay locked in Elizabeth god bless the reason I asked the question about my depressed ex is because you said in another video that if a god leaves He doesn't see you as his wife So There go your answer sister So, um There go your answer All right, there go your answer So, you know Y'all you can't see the issue with a lot of women That I noticed today and men do this too The issue is y'all Want to hear what you want to hear and you want to believe what you want to believe and so Y'all will want to argue and ask more questions until you get the answer that you want to hear and Me in the same way when we talking about women and who out here is wife and all of this is like as humans we just want to hear something so What's what's happening is Your answer the proof is in the pudding Like the press or not if he left you It's for your good. It's your blessing Because anybody who wants you Going to stay with you Because if he depressed and he wants you guess what he going to go to therapy and he's going to do the work So that he could be with you But if he depressed and he leave Then he don't want to he don't want you or he don't want to do the work to be with you So the proof going to be in the pudding and that's what you got to look at, you know That's what you got to look at and what you got to realize On the situation like that Oh, it's a mouth of god bless you God bless you Our media blessing now he started a business and I helped him grow it He feels like I should wait until his business is doing well first Before focusing back on my goals and dreams I was doing fine before him and he is intimidated by me working in my own career path help um Well sister, I see I see you miss your answer what we talked about earlier but what the shirt say Gone about your business Gone about your business Because you missed a lot of red flags the first thing is he 14 years older than you That was a huge red flag right there The next thing with all this insecurity He's not looking for a wife. He's looking for an assistant. He's not looking for a wife. He's looking for a nanny He's not looking for a wife. He's looking for a handmade So you have to understand and recognize If you are a wife to this man Or if you are a handmade and he's treating you like a handmade so you see it plain and clear as day But the question is is Do you have the strength to leave after having invested so much into him? And that's where you're having your hang up Is you know that this is a dead end situation that this is a grown boy that you're with because of the way he's acting But you've invested so much. You don't want to just leave your investment You want to stick it out just like when we're on the stock market and we make this investment And the stocks start to go up But then they have a dip you kind of don't want to sell because you like this and I need I don't lost money I need to wait this thing go back up And so sometimes you got to cut your losses Especially in love and relationships because you can't get this time that you're giving him you can't get this time back And sometimes a man will put up a little fuss about something But when you go ahead and do what you got to do then he will adjust accordingly So if you know, you got dreams and you got stuff to do and you don't help him build his business Then go ahead and start what you got to start and if he get But hurt about it. He's getting his feelings. Like you said, you were doing good before him. So if he get Akinastia, he forced you to leave him or he leaves you. You're still going to do good after him So understand that right there. Maria. God bless your coach. No question Just a thank you as always for what you do for all you do for us. I pray you and your family continue to stay blessed Hey, god bless you maria Maria is the coach on all my mentor dot life. So you go to my mentor dot life. You scroll through till you see her Jessica god bless you. Hey, Tony. I'm a single mom of two. I work full time and currently on my way to nursing school I just also started a mobile notary business part time. I'm trying to find balance any advice God bless you since at this stage right now. You really want to focus on one thing That's hard. Now. I think it's a book called one thing But you really want to narrow down and so what you got to do is you sit down and you write out each one of your Ventures that you that you like that you working on that you have in you know, these irons in the fire You sit down and you write them down and then you write pros and you write cons And then you wave the two and you see whether the pros or the cons weigh the most And so nursing school you got to really ask yourself Okay Really look at the pros and cons before you jump all the way back into this nursing school and say, okay How long do I have to go to nursing school one year two years? When I come out, what kind of hours am I going to have to work? I'm a single mom Typically when you come out as a nurse you finna get the graveyard shelf. You a single mom of two You got a mobile notary business But you know, then you have to look at the pros and come how many people need notary Is it very popular? Okay. Yes, if it's popular on mobile What can I do to market it? And I could spend a little bit of money the money that you'll be spending on nursing school Even if you get student loans that money boosting your your mobile notary business could start making you Great money because a lot of people got to get stuff Notarized and already you work full time So you kind of have to look at it like okay, do I want to go to nursing school come out? Have to work the graveyard shelf or if I get a day shift or second shelf Where what will happen with my kids? How much money will I be making? How many hours will I be working? And so you just count the cost you count the cost? And if that's what you got to do then you go ahead and you do that And if you decide on that if not then you may say well, you know what this notary business This gives me freedom. I could kind of set my own schedule. I could move stuff around. I could put up some I could hand out some flyers. I could put some on the park bench for $500 on the bus stop bench I could do this and next thing you know I could be making x amount of thousand a month doing this mobile notary And then when I make that money, I could get in a stationary office for $350 a month and have people put the sign out there on the window how people come into me So sit down and really work through it And that's how you're going to create balance because right now it's like you're just going going going because you need something to pop You need something to happen and before you know it, you'll be all spent out When dating, why do the guys get upset and disrespectful when you remind them of the growth? They claim they want it for themselves Coach bone god bless you. It's just Human nature a sense of failure. You know, we don't like to hear what we think we you know Want to hear and so it's just to have something put in our face. Nobody likes criticism Nobody likes criticism and yes, you can counter you can call it accountability, but You know When a man going to see it differently Women going to see it differently when the finger being pointed at you and you being reminded about what you said you want to do It's always going to be painful because you know it's the truth and the truth hurts Elizabeth Henry god bless you Hey, thank you for letting me know the clarity is welcome He didn't want to do the work because he did not communicate effectively family learn trade God bless you, Elizabeth. Hey sometime my answers, you know could come off a little rough a little direct. I get it Um, and so I apologize for that. Y'all kind of got to bear with me No, I'm not really sorry about it because you see how I blink my eyes when I said I apologize for that That's one of the signs on on the lie detector on when you watch liars Anytime somebody's lying a lot of time of that line. They're gonna blink They're gonna do a blank whenever they talking right when they telling that lie. They're gonna close the eyes And so when I said I apologize for that I closed my eyes and I was lying and I didn't realize that I showed our line That I don't really be worried too much when my answer is real direct Because I got so many questions to get through so y'all have to bear with me on that Because I'm gonna come at you live and direct now. So you got to have thick skin You know when you're writing in here. So I love the way that you handle that answer Uh, no, I'm not, you know, there's no man sitting in no dark I ain't coming here to bash nobody and crush you out and all of that right there I ain't got nothing spinning on my desk, but I'm gonna be real witching Uh rainbow god bless you. What if my partner wants us to not get the Do the risk of harming our future baby. I'm not pregnant Not listen, not listen If I got a home boy, I got a home. I got all my own boys like that What? and not if If he a minority you got to understand it If he a minority he got to understand it if he not a minority But he treated like a minority because of where he grew up at his income level then you just you got to understand it but listen You know, if you understand science if you understand how the body works And this was my thing with this whole fascination a lot of people call. Oh, you get vaccinated you you brainwashed You a bot you all listen that I'm like listen. I know white billionaires That is going to get this hill vaccination If they finna go out here and get that Then it must not be nothing in there That's finna take nobody out Because I'm sitting right next to a white billionaire And they watching them getting double vaccinated. So that made me kind of look at it differently my sister-in-law daughter My other my wife other friend has lupus And so she had to fly around the country talking to doctors And so with all these researchers doing this research what come out was the Pfizer Was the best one then I seen grandparents 90 years old go get the Pfizer No side effects at 90. So I watched everybody else. I'm watching all these people go out here and I said, okay Because I was thinking the same way like the guy was I'm like man It's all trusty people you go and now they got one that say b and they got one that say w and the one that got b And now they trying to do me like the Tuskegee experiment Because I don't know you know, I was thinking the same way But I had to just kind of look around and just kind of see and watch it and pay attention. So You know, sometimes you may have to and listen. I'ma tell When you don't understand the body and you don't understand science You don't understand what a vaccine is doing. You don't understand That's the same reason why the vaccines is why we don't have polio and measles and smallpox If you don't understand that And you get on youtube and you get into the conspiracy theories It's been to take you down a rabbit hole and you finna be rapping Illuminal fall around your head and sticking up in towns and walking around And that's I got some homeboys like that, but I just I said listen the Lord got me regardless The Lord got me regardless Hey, God bless you now. God bless you somebody sent something in there and didn't have a question Now listen this here Q&A the Q&A is free Now see this and then and so when y'all sending these blessings, I thank you. I thank you God bless you, but you don't have to do that because the Q&A is free So y'all understand and I'ma go through the question I ain't gonna be able to get every question because it's hundreds of questions But I'ma go through there. So I want y'all to understand that it's not a paid Q&A You don't have to send a sticker or whatever that is for me to answer your question But I do appreciate you Oh Joe boss, God bless you Husband left after four years wants to come back home Cheated multiple times seems to have grown working hard not toxic more involved with our son Don't know if I should try again help Tony. So this that's gonna be a personal question That I mean it's gonna be a personal decision right now Because you're dealing with marriage you know Marriage is different than dating. Had you said just baby daddy Then that's different But marriage, you know, that's a covenant So you want to do everything you can to make that marriage work Now he cheated he broke the vials. That's grounds for divorce. Um, he left Me personally, I wouldn't be letting him come back, but I'm a man Women heart is built different women more nurturing forgiving caring Understanding God made women different than me and me personally If somebody left me and we're gone four years and didn't want to come waddling back Gone about to be in it. Gone about to be in it. Stay where you was at Get my child support. Yep. Come on. See you child. Yep. You're gonna give me child. Woman child support that Okay. All right. Thank you me personally, but Everybody built different. So Yeah, that's a personal choice on nothing right. That says but take your time Watch them pay attention make sure you thoroughly vet them And understand you could come back and two three years in you be right back in the situation You were that he left so you have to ask yourself if if if he come back And he showed me his representative and then a year two years in he showed me his true colors Can I pack my stuff and move on with my life without feeling suicidal or Homicidal if the answer is yes, then it could be worth trying if the answer is no If he come back and crush your heart if you're gonna feel a little idle or huh idle, then don't do it Don't do it My issue. God bless you. Thank you so much. Tony your videos have changed my life I actually left the grown boy recently and me wanting to be alone may have been it. God bless Hey, bless you now. God bless you Now Elizabeth and all kind of Tips in here. All right. Now a little bit. God bless you a little I appreciate when people are direct with me I feel much better about the breakup and and I'm Ending I'm applying for pa school. I look forward to the future. God bless. I'm hoping that Work out well for you Lila L bless you. Thank you for all you do. God bless. Send him more blessing to you and your family. God bless All right now. I'm trying to get back to the regular chat now y'all y'all Keep blessing me up here now. I got me reading a little too fast Jimmy butterfly. God bless you. How should I approach cutting it off with my Instagram voice note, buddy, then just disappear or say something Um, what I would say is hey, um, give me a call when you get a chance Say, hey, you know, I'm I'm gonna be I'm I'm not gonna be checking this as often I'm getting ready to do a social media detox Ain't gonna do your little social media detox too now. So you're not a liar So here's my number. Give me a call when you when you get a chance Because it because it could be a stream introverted shy scary man That's afraid to ask for your phone number could be that so we ain't gonna just rule them all the way out Hey, Tony, how do I handle being the only person in my immediate family? Who believes in god and walks with christ some make slick remarks and make it obvious they don't believe in him Inspire faith now listen See what you're gonna need to do see when jesus tried to get people to believe in god He did signs and wonders So You know as you walking with the lord your family they need to see the presence of god Because if you saying you believe in god, but you walking around and your nose in in in the clouds And they don't sense peace and joy and happiness So when they look and slick what the bible say you'd be nice to him and it's like heaping hot coals on their head Hey, how you doing cause how you doing? Give me a hug. Oh, it's so good to see you not but if you thinking oh, they looking at me They judging me because I believe in god Oh, this can't stand any heathens And so now they're gonna be looking at you slick. Look a hug Old dumb christian Gonna be saying like the one man the comedian talking about the same person that gave you the n-word Is the same person that gave you the bible? I heard the comedian saying that I said, but y'all is foolish boy Y'all just ain't never tried god. They ain't try god Don't even know god like and just talking about this and that and this like can you try jesus? When you try jesus So that for me, I don't I don't argue. I let the presence and the peace of god The blessing the mercy the fave. I let that speak to folks. I don't even argue with nobody all right, you want to believe in the son the son god and the african spirituality And your button have been over here in america all your during life And you're talking about some african spirituality don't know nothing about africa ain't never been to africa talking about african You talking about you pan african and you ain't stepped foot outside of america And then got the nerd to holler about something wrong with jesus But you pan african and you african spirituality and ain't sniff africa You know africa was a continent you thought that was a country And then you hollering about your african spirituality And that's what i'll be trying to tell but then want to hate on jesus. I'm like listen. Yeah, they gave us the holy bible And that's what set us free Because we were singing hymns unto the lord when we broke out them chains and when we took when the rabbit got the gun Not when the slay got the gun. We were singing to jesus christ You hit me. So yeah They gave me the bible But when they gave me the bible they gave that right there was my key to freedom and they didn't even know it They didn't even know that in that text was freedom in that text was liberty In that text was power in that text was salvation They thought that was gonna keep me locked up as a slave. No, that's what set me free That's what got me living good. No, that's why I could pull up on the slave master grandchild and doing better than he Because of the god I serve so listen you got to let The god in you speak to him Don't nobody question god when they talk to me when they look at me Because they're gonna see god. They're gonna feel god. They're gonna they're gonna know god real because i'm gonna represent that If i'm acting like they acting they ain't gonna they ain't gonna represent. Uh-oh Uh-oh Phone but i got to cut my computer. I cut my computer off and so my My charger went off let me cut my computer back on why i cut my computer off come on i'm talking i'm charging my phone Hold on y'all. Let me get on That's old computer I ain't in on wi-fi So I love the lord no our own argue with no fool about the proper to tell you not to argue with a fool I said, all right, we're gonna see who we're gonna see who went in the end. We're gonna see who doing good longevity All right, you're doing good right now with all what what you believe in and go right ahead God bless you believe what you want to believe but I believe in jesus christ You hit me and we're gonna see i'm gonna see how they work out for you. You see how they work out for me As I tell earth angel god bless you high tg finally cut my daughter's toxic dad Cut my daughter's toxic dad and changing his visitation with court Will he finally leave me alone if I keep blocking and leaving him outside? I don't I don't know sis because I don't know him I do not know I don't know him Um, but uh, you know If you're talking he crazy just you know do everything you got to do be careful Don't be afraid to call them boys in blue on them and um Do what you do Now here go Kimmy and I came in to miss the the PSA I gave earlier Dated military veteran with PTSD. He claimed I was his wife in less than a month Then attitude changed anger issues yelling told me I talked too much for calling out his disrespect thoughts Now see I'm gonna tell y'all and this what I try to help y'all understand Is in our society in our world see how you said dated this man with PTSD You don't even know if he had PTSD But that's what he told you or that's what you that's what you didn't diagnose him with Because the same thing that you said he did I used to do 10 times worse than that and I ain't got PTSD You said I mean, but a lot of times what we do is we grab us a label Because it gives us a box to put stuff in and it comforts us So now we can say my relationship failed because of depression my relationship failed because of PTSD And so instead of just grabbing labels and holding on to labels We just got to address the behavior because somebody without that diagnosis Will exhibit the same behavior But if you have attributed that Behavior to a diagnosis then you will put up with that same behavior From someone else without that diagnosis because you think it's the diagnosis and not just the person and the behavior It very well could be the diagnosis But regardless if a person treats you a certain way you got to be willing to go on about your business And so see that's the thing. He told you he would diagnose with PTSD. Listen where it is. It's black and white How do you treat me? I don't care if you got msa bds lsd qrs mnop How do you treat me? However, you treat me that's going to determine Whether i'm finna stay or whether i'm finna leave you see what i mean? And that's why we got to stop you know until we become doctors We got to just leave diagnosis alone You feel me and just look like oh this how i was treated. That's why i'm gone You see what i mean because what happened you'll say oh he had PTSD And then you'll get with the next man and he will treat you he will treat you the same way Or worse, but because he don't tell you he got PTSD You will stay and you'll think that it's normal. And so that's what we got to realize and understand Any question coming in too fast now? Sarah god bless you what level of involvement do you recommend for A right man wrong time situation Right man wrong. We both feel we are a great match. He wants to get mentally and physically well After being blown up in our what youtube to put my video on the army base I'm like what night i'm dealing with all of this here tonight. Why can't all these question the night by these men? And see listen y'all asking me about these men listen I don't want to be speaking on these men because the deep man got these kind of issues They finna be looking for me And if you come over here, guess what the rabbit got the gun You hear me? I got ars and everything. I'll be right up. All right, what you said? You hear me? Listen, don't all be asking me about men that's gonna put me in harm's way You see i'm saying because nine He up there watching the man in the dark with the things spinning on the desk So he can amp up then he come over here to my page and see that I got a balanced approach And I answer a question a little differently without cussing a woman out. So now he mad with me And he come over here with a diagnosis. I'm gonna whoop it behind And guess what? I don't fight no more. I sue something to lay him down. So listen y'all don't be asking me about these men With all the issues Okay, I told y'all I'm surface level mentor Life coach what I don't even like the term life coach, but I'm just a helper I'm not no doctor. I do not deal with mental health issues So y'all please stop asking me about mental health issue That is for doctor such and such You see I'm saying I'm gonna tell you like that right now And and not on the other thing. I'm gonna tell you like this right here If it's the wrong time, then it's the wrong man Because love transcends time And distance if it's the right person It will be the right time because nothing will stand in the way of love He will cross an ocean He'll turn back the hands of time. You hear me? If it's real love So Don't just console yourself With oh, it's the right man like the wrong time. No, that's the wrong man Because he ain't willing to do What it takes the main god bless us It looked like it's a man in that god bless Jasmine Robinson, I missed some questions y'all that's popping up here at the top. So y'all forgive me Be blessed. Thank you for all you do God bless you. Not jasmine. Let me see something First name last name god bless you. I see that blessing first name last name Elizabeth bless you. He cheated on me when I was pregnant with the baby mama of With the baby mama of four my baby is now two We bought a house six months ago and I broke up with him because I found god He didn't agree in the breakup. He slept with the ex but he's begging second chance Okay, Elizabeth gone about your business Elizabeth. God. You're doing the right thing. Keep on going. Okay Keep on going. I know you had to get that that question off your chest, but It ain't even worth it ain't worth spending no time thinking about Elizabeth. Go on about your business Go on about your business He worth the team worth that 20 all of you just sitting here Now he got you spending money and he got you asking questions like he was in your time our time Gone about you being to run as fast as you can Maryland king god bless you now. What does it mean when men tell me they thought I was already married? Is this good or bad? um Again, uh, most of what men say is just conversation if a man don't If a man don't know what to say he gonna say something that don't make no sense to you So for one y'all got to first realize Anything a man say you got to take it with a grain of salt for one Two if he actually meant that it's a good thing It just it means you look like wife material is what he's saying And that is the case that is the case for a lot of women you walking around single But you look like you married just because you look white quality like you look Trustworthy you look responsible you dressing responsible It looked like you'll be a great role model for a son or a daughter And so that's a good thing and so that's why I say never wear a ring on your left hand And you might not even want to wear a ring on your right hand Just in case he thinks that the right ring on the right finger mean you engage And because sometimes that's all a man look to be able to tell Um yb's god bless you my ex say We don't have soul ties yet We don't have soul ties yet call me once a month and tell me stop living in the past Last year said you never know what god planned for us confused Since you standing still and you need to close the door to him Your ex should not be able to call you once a month. Okay That's your ex let your ex be your ex and you go on heal and grow and prepare for your next And cut your phone off to your ex He should not be able to call you every month And all the reason why he calling you every month is because he want to stop any forward progress that you're making And he's giving you these riddles to confuse you And sending you mixed signals so that you can't gather yourself and move on to what? God got for you And that's why you confuse and you said right to unconfuse you confuse because you letting him confuse you Because you keep letting him get on your phone If a man ain't trying to be active and consistent in your life He should not have access to you or a woman if a vice versa Cut off the dough to anybody from your past that ain't trying to come correct and be consistent If money god bless you not any advice for breaking up with a guy who was a good man Just not the right one for you. I feel guilty It's good that you feel a little bit of guilt that mean you got a heart that mean you got feelings That's a good thing So embrace the fact that you got a heart and that you got feelings But know that you made the right decision and keep going about your business Just turn that guilt into gains And just keep on going that guilt into growth and just keep on going That's what I've seen that bless. This is what I've seen that Crystal be do you know of a mentor slash networking group for women? I'm tired of getting ripped off by quote-unquote coaches uh Well, that's the thing anybody The the mentor in the networking group for women could rip you off too the reason why is because we live in an imperfect world and um You just have to vet a coach before you deal with a coach You got to read it by your go to the social media. Look at the instagram And then if they rip you off quote-unquote Uh, because i'm just hearing one side of the story You might be expecting a coach to do something for you that a coach don't do You know, so you might be wanting a miracle to happen and coach don't work miracles You know a coaching really is for a motivated driven person and the coach is holding you accountable And then you got to do your deductive reasoning and you got to see you got to see okay What is this coach with 3.5 million people online charge? So if I charge 350 dollars on my mentor dot life and you go to a coach And he got nine and a half or she got nine and a half supporters online and he's charging 500 an hour That don't add up You see what i'm saying you go look at somebody and they talk about they're a coach and they all on the timeline with alcohol and they doing all this cussing and they You know, they doing all this cursing And acting the fool and they irate they going off on people they cussing people out They attacking people they calling everybody a narcissist and never met the people don't know the people They not know doctor, but they watching people on youtube and calling them a narcissist Don't even know them from a can of paint and they doing all this cursing acting irate But howling about their coach You're gonna get ripped off and so what you got to realize is that In every good thing evils going to exist So you that's a process of life and so you got to know what's good And then sometimes you get what you pay for you ain't been ripped off by me Because you didn't know session with me because you did a session with me then you wouldn't have that problem And so the thing is if you're going to Hold on Tom and Harry you're gonna get ripped off And so you have to find a coach that is thoroughly vetted that is proving the test of time that ain't not here with scandals And they not here fronting and all of that right there And so we got great coaches on my mental adult life But even on there you're gonna have people who gonna be flawed. Why because they're human And so what you do is you take it as a lesson and you say, you know what this let me know I ain't doing too bad because this person who called himself or herself a coach I hear scamming so I ain't doing too bad. You know what? Let me Be a coach so I could do this thing the right way and help people I started helping people from my need because I didn't have a mentor I didn't have a mentor. I didn't have a coach I didn't have none of that. So I said let me become what I need to see in the world So sometimes it's just it's something that's pushing you into purpose. That's pushing you into your calling Jg god bless. I met this man one month ago who seems to be a man of god and seems good in all aspects He already told me god told him i'm his wife and I need to get out of the way and let god give me what I prayed for thoughts be very careful Be very careful when a man go to telling you all that one month in be very careful Be very careful. You need some strict rules for one. Do not go to his house Two, do not let him come to your house three. Do not even tongue kiss him Four, do not let him touch any of your body parts five. Do not sleep with him Six, do not do anything sex with him or only anything Seven, do not invest in his business eight. Do not loan him any money nine. Do not let him move in with you You see what i'm saying? The only thing you need to be giving him is conversation Because when a man go to acting like that I get I I love the lord And one thing I know about the lord is god going to do things decent and in order and even in the bible You had to be bethrolled or bethrod however you pronounce it and that was 12 months So he already talked about what god and said one month in Every man going to be perfect one month in had you said one year in now we talking something different one month in Satan going to look like an angel Satan going to look like the man of your dreams one month in you see what I'm saying? So you got to use Your common sense and this is the thing what I try to tell you all the time do not let your desperation Talk you out of your common sense Don't let your desperation Talk you out of your common sense when you in a desert Everybody going to look like a glass of water So you got to be mindful Okay, you got to replenish yourself. You got to stay on your peas and cues And I see so many women me and men first thing y'all doing lonely money He needs some money. All right. You need some money. Get your job play boy McDonald's ain't never stop her Okay, walmart ain't never stop her in the temp yard ain't never stop her Get your job play boy. I ain't no bank. I ain't got nothing for you Oh, you're wise now you want to move in I highly doubt That that's a man who make good money got a good got a nice car got a Good job got a place to stay talking like that Now and if he got all of that right there going for himself and he talking like that A lot of times a man will say that to get you to drop your guard So he could get you getting your draws and will forget all about God When he finna get in them draws the other reason he'll talk like that is that Ted Bundy nephew But any man that's a good man that got his head on straight He's gonna take his time with you. He's gonna court you. He's not gonna be speaking for God because he need to be sure God ain't God don't do nothing in haste You see what I'm saying? It's gonna be done timely decent and in order So in order to know that a man is a man of God, you got to know the attributes of God If you don't know God for yourself, then you're gonna be saying this man looked like God But you ain't in that scripture because ain't nothing in the bible about no rush. You see what I'm saying? Ain't nothing in the bible tell you to be in no rush one month in to get out of the way because you are already his wife He sound more like satan to me than God. You see what I'm saying? But you got to know God You got to know the attributes of God Cyber God bless you. I'm ready to be lead Should I follow a man that was a cheerleader in high school thing? Now I see somebody on here trolling and then got this here name cyber bbg Come on. All right. Somebody on here trolling And it's somebody got money too. Somebody got money the ways on her trolling me telling me I'm ready to be led Should I follow a man that was a cheerleader in high school? This cannot be no real question And I'm gonna tell you like this right here I'm gonna tell you I know it's gonna it's gonna be men that say That they had a rose that and was a cheerleader. I know it might be one on my there And the only one he was out there to be looking at that skirt Throwing up in the air and he all up that skirt if he liked women But nine out of ten times because I was on the football team I was on the football field if I see a man with that cheerleading How you doing brother? All right. Yeah. All right, brother. Yeah. All right, brother Precision, huh? I'm going about my bed. I'm going about my bed because That's a whole another kind of sport you jumping up you doing splits It's like that split don't even coincide with no scrotum It's like come on man. Come on. Hey god bless your brother. I ain't judging you or nothing. God bless you Everybody got different gifts. Everybody got different talents God be the glory mobile to you, but listen, I that can't be no real question. And that is a real question. Listen I wouldn't that's a personal choice. I wouldn't recommend if I don't know cheerleader No, man, that was no cheerleader Count L. God bless you now. Do you think a single mom should have Public Instagram to attract men since I don't go out much and will be done with my master in two years Not dating until then Yeah, you have public Instagram, you know, just you know, you ain't got to be posting your child and all that Post child air nine then, you know picture with child You can't get away from perverts and stuff like that. I help but I think every single person's Instagram should be public Because social media is a viable way to meet people today And meeting someone on social media is not the same as paying to join a dating site So meeting on social media is not the same as online dating Even though it could kind of work the same way It's a whole nother Implication when you pay to join a site to meet people romantically That's a whole nother Implication so you have to understand that having a public Instagram page It just allows even a sound stable man will get the opportunity to see you And just kind of read your pictures and just kind of get a feel for your vibe what you do how you eat Your workout, you know what I mean? So just so let your page be a reflection of your life So if you eat a healthy lunch show that lunch once a week If you go in to do a workout show your workout outfit outfit of the day You know, if you read a good book post a book, you know show don't don't create a highlight reel But show your life now don't create no low light reel either because that's one a mistake that people are doing Is people trying to be so relatable That they end up looking crazy And and one thing that bothers me is when these girls get on these lies and be eating Ain't nobody that cute to be smacking and nobody ill When you just mean somebody somebody on this on this live and you're doing all that smacking chewing all the food Can you but that's they attempt to look relatable to look down To earth to look unbothered so they want to eat some chips So be chewing on stuff and eating candy smacking in your ear And so that's the thing don't let social media become like this fake reel Let it be real from your life, you know, what you're doing And oh god bless you now. Thanks for everything. Tony was with a grown boy for nine years because of your knowledge I left I was working at a clothing store now. I work at a bank And next year I will have my bachelor's degree in law. God bless you, sir. Hey god bless you God bless they ain't got nothing to do with me sister. They don't have nothing to do with me Okay, we will give all the glory to god because for one I don't want your grown boy to think that you left because of me Okay, you ain't leave because of me. All right, you left because of the lord in your life So let's let your grown boy know that Because i'm trying to let the grown boy live because if they come around here hot with me We got other problems. So that's all god right there And i'm glad you got that praise report too. That is amazing praise report right there And they have nothing to do with me God bless you Y'all hey, don't y'all give me no credit for any growth any change because Because he on here nine. Oh That it was him He didn't really Okay All right, let me see when the next seminar So now I got to have my security guard wanting y'all down. You like telling me And I ain't trying to get through the airport. I'm just trying to come to your seminar as they listen y'all keep Got even me and riled up. I got to have security at me event doing the one on you So just y'all understand that now when I get back to doing events That you got to get one down Okay, just because I just got to make sure Because one of these men's would be to send a woman to be they hit her So I got the one gonna have the one everybody down now I might get one little thing you got to scan your purse through the Because it was a woman who stabbed one little king and not a man And to like our brothers so bless Keep my 30 dating a 36 year old man for nine months. He is a lawyer and a control freak He is going to the gym seven out of seven eating clean, et cetera He wants me to get to see 19 I refuse and got into an argument should I leave Yeah, since it's going to be safe to leave on that one right there Come on and see this a thing Can't say all the words it's a political thing. It's just kind of like it's it's It's almost how you see politics how you see the world That's your world view if you wit somebody and y'all don't have a mutual world view That's not the person you're supposed to be with me and my wife We okay With our politics and the decisions that we make we make the old decisions to go and we make them decisions intelligently through studies And so we on the same page That let me know we meant to be together if my wife or holland boxy republican Or i'm holland i'm republican and she's saying she democrat Or if i'm democrat and she republican or you know now our fundamental views are not the same if i'm holland I don't want no vaccine and she's saying she wanted vaccine or she's saying i don't want no vaccine And i'm saying i want our fundamental views are not the same we're not on the same page And then you got this man here Any man who work out seven days a week and eat clean? And he a lawyer He off in the head He off in the head Because he just ain't human. It's not even human to Work out no seven days a week and that's when i go to the gym Sometimes i see men like that that be enough every single time i'm in there I'm like you should not be in here every single time i come in here No matter what day i come in here no matter when i come in here What day of the week i see your butt in here use crazy And so that's what you got to realize sometimes people just get maniacal And when you recognize somebody maniacal i always tell people recognize crazy early Don't don't sit there and wait for a million signs All i got to see is one or two signs That's some off i'm finna go because you can't play with it You cannot play with that right that mental health ain't nothing to play with You see somebody ain't what they need to be You got to go you got to go Earth angel god bless you why would he tell his daughter i'm her stepmom and girlfriend But cheated with toxic ex who he kicked out his daughter is older than our baby I talked i walked away when pregnant They met three years ago He left her one year after coming back Since you need a coaching session at too many details chopping together You need you need you need a coaching session system You're gonna have to dig a little deeper on that right now. Well, you definitely got a grown boy So that's that's you really got a grown boy. He confused. He lost. He don't know what he wants He don't know who he is So that's why you dealing with all that since you don't need a coaching session I don't get on my mentor dot life and find your coach Shanice god bless you. Hello, Tony. Should I be concerned about a man not having a relationship with his family and always wanting to be right In everything he say he does not know the lord I'ma tell you like it's right here. So all the rest of stuff don't matter that last thing what you said at the end He does not know the lord If i was a woman You don't know the lord Okay, grab it. He'll first All right Let me put this on again. It ain't the way I want. All right, you don't know the lord. Okay, okay Well, you know, I've been nice knowing you. Okay. All right Let me get my mouth. Okay. I'll see you later Give me a that's all I got is somebody don't know the lord. I'm going I'm going listen. You can't you can't be with somebody Like I just said that your foundational beliefs is not the same Y'all got to stop getting with these devils And expecting him to be an angel you got to stop getting with an atheist And expecting righteousness You can't you it's just not gonna work and i'ma tell y'all why You know, the world is being turned over to a reprobate mind right now The world being turned over to a reprobate mind Man, that's a lot of questions I can't talk and really answer no good question because All these questions popping up So y'all forgive me now if I miss you, I'm gonna try to scroll back through and find you The world being turned over to a reprobate mind And so you got all of these people these rappers these actors these singers That's speaking against god. They speaking against jesus christ And i'ma tell you why they speaking against it They speaking against it because they don't want to be subject to anything They don't want to be in submission to anything They want to have threesomes fosomes. They want to have multiple partners. They want to covet They want to lie. They want to cheat. They want to steal whatever they heart desires They want to be able to do it But when you believe in something bigger than you you got to be held in check To a way of life to morals and values and standards and they don't want that They want to smoke all their weed. They want to pop all their pills. They want to do whatever they want to do That may be contrary to the word of god So because it seems that god is above them And that god has rules and regulations and stipulations has principles and promises They don't want that they don't want no governing So they say this is all a sham. This is all fake and to pee on sore ears That's music And so now a lot of these men and and there's more and more women to nine women Had more sense in this area But a lot of women turning they back on god Because the men turning they back on god and now we becoming sodamanga moral And the reason why is because don't nobody want no governing everybody want to be free agent to do whatever they want to do And they don't want to hear nothing that or if you do this The raft could look like this They don't want to hear that they want to do whatever they want to do. So whenever you meet somebody That don't believe in the god that you didn't gave your life to Got to go got to go got to go because if you have faith, that's foundational That's what you build your life upon So if their foundation is not the same as your foundation y'all can't build You're building a mansion on the sand and that's what you got to understand Latia god bless you now. I'm 22 No kids looking for a marriage soon 22 no kid looking for marriage soon while building my brand any advice on balance and both While dating for marriage. I want to be a life coach. Well, I'll tell you what at 22 you need to be focused on your brand You need to be focused on your brand In the world we living in today the men single men today They're gonna be built a little different because they built on social media They built on the microwave They ain't built on the oven So at 22 years old you'll get knocked off your block By man coming in your life and he see that you got some quality and that you bring something to the table You got some ambition. He'll steal your ambition get you pregnant And knock you off your your pathway. So focus on your purpose Focus on your brand and the man that Can get your attention From 100 focus That right there if he check out then that that's your husband if he check out But you need to be so locked in and so focused the way you ain't even seeing me You ain't seeing me you 22 years old You know I'm saying even when I met my wife, she was 19 But that was 2005. It's a big difference between 2005 and 2021 It's a big difference. It's a different day today It's a different day today. So you got to be more diligent. You got to take your time You got to take your time like the man for you You're gonna feel it in your spirit. Don't don't be looking for no man a man out to catch you off guard You don't be out here looking for him. He's he's looking for you if god sent him. He gonna look for you A goddess k god bless you now question 22 years friends Say I cut off too quick friends with kids Not married Jealous how to deal mom bring up ex told her At least I had strength to go unlike her Said she stayed for me I resent parents for it Susie gonna need a coaching session Susie when you got to pack all that right there and then chop it up like that y'all y'all get an understanding now When you're questioning too long, you need a coaching session Need a coaching session everything ain't for the q&a. Okay, everything for the q&a now y'all bringing me 50 years 50 years worth of luggage and want me to unpack it right here now. Come on now You need coaches that your coach that come on now. We're gonna be address Ocean ocean deep stuff on here now. I'm missing questions in here Ola Tony My wife always teased me. She said I ain't never seen nobody speak another language country Ola Tony I'm dating a guy that's maybe two inches shorter than me and he always making small comments about how tall I am thoughts Well, he definitely insecure about his height and that's that's a given The question what you have to ask is how does he treat you? Because if he making if he if he making jokes and he just making light of his situation Then that's one thing. But if he talk down to you get rude with you get a little snappy Because of that height because he's looking at the bottom of your chin then You know, that's when you got an issue So you just got to make sure he don't have a complex from being that close to the ground And if he don't have a complex from it, then you'll be all right But if you sense in a complex go about your business Go about that business because that man had you hemmed up on somebody wall Natalie God bless you broke up with boyfriend of three years overlies about other women in his drinking money Now says he needs time instead of pursuing me Wants to take it slow um I mean the question is why are you even dealing with him? You already gave him three years If in three years, he's still your boyfriend and if you have to leave somebody after years of being with him It's not the person. It's not the person. It's different when you leave somebody after months But when you even been with somebody for years and you have to leave It doesn't take a human to learn a pattern and to learn progress And to grow it doesn't take humans years It's just like when you go do on the job training you go to a completely new job And they have you trained in three months Because that's how the human brain works So when a human has not a adapted and learn how to be a good partner in three years Then you need to go on about your business because they don't want to learn they don't want to grow And when they finally get ready to learn and grow it's just because they've exhausted every other option Like anybody else want to put up with a mess or they don't have they fun with everything else and now they want to be with you So you can't be full up with folks like that Natasha j god bless. I began dating a guy. He let me know he is missing a front tooth and he is Been covered by the mask. It kind of bothers me a little how to handle this I I'm talking Let me read this again. Let me read this again. Let me see what I read there I began dating the guy. He let me know he is missing a front tooth and he is Been covered By the mask it kind of bothers me a little how to handle it Well, listen Well, listen, how does he treat you? You know, that's what you got to go off for Y'all hold on right quick Let me make some My charge is charging I'm trying to make some a charger charging My battery say I got 10% on here y'all. So, you know, I'm gonna have to go here soon The question is how he treat you because you know, they got them chicklets Y'all remember chicklets The little white candy that we eat They got them chicklets that they put in your mouth now. So And all the celebrities got them and be right here just You have to chomping down. You see these celebrities and they be They be on their lives talking and you be like, oh boy, you got all kind of tea And so now that they got those I wouldn't worry about the missing tooth if he treats you right Because little he know that tooth might cost him 200 dollars to put in there They'll put them a tooth in there at the dinner for 200 dollars. So just let them say listen If you want to get that two fix that's not expensive all you needed one two One two famous pencil David man who does not get along with it Get along with his grown son did not get a clear answer when I asked him about it Is this reason for concern? um Yeah, it's a little reason for concern just in case he's a nasty guy Queen love I find myself monitoring my boyfriend in public and church because I feel like he has wandering eyes Too friendly it makes me insecure how to move past it You got that you're gonna have to just ask yourself like What is him? What is it doing to me? You know, what is this doing to me? Is it actually hurting me? Is this in my mind? Is this an actual thing? Is he looking at other women and i'm catching him talking to other women dating other women? You know, so you have to ask yourself like what is it doing? Because sometimes it's just us and we beating ourselves up And we see that and I get it. I'd be saying wait somehow I Make sure my wife what's she looking at and the reason why because I know I might be recognizing me something over here And so, you know as humans we're gonna have to address those things And and you really The more confident you are The more attractive you are So just understand that now if he go out and he act on something he do something now, you know, poof Okay, got to go gave gave him enough rope to help yourself Or the opposite he did opposite got to go Hannah, god bless you. Tony. I am 23 years old two kids My ex-husband wants me back and it's talking about marriage, but I am not ready. I'm trying to build Myself for my kids. What do you think? Thank you If you're not ready Don't do it Your heart got to be all the way in it your heart got to be convinced your heart got to be all the way in that thing and convince When a man is for you You'll have a sense of peace That's a man's role in a woman's life is to be your peace the memes tell us the opposite A man's supposed to put you at ease If your heart don't feel comfortable, that's your warning sign. That's your intuition trying to save you So you got to know what you know about yourself and don't don't don't question that first mind unless you snort and powder Shining tea. God bless you been with him three and a half years Neither ever married. I'm 39. No kids. He's 42 with a 10 year old I've never met no drama with child's mom hoping For a child of my own and he's unsure about marriage and more kids don't want to start over advice You wasting your time You wasting your time I'm 14 you wasting your time Because he's all this dirt You know, and I know that's not old, you know, but When you when you that age and you got that mindset, that's what I mean by all this dirt Technically he young, but when you got that mindset 42 don't know about marriage don't know about more kids Tom I he calling it starting over But you in a place you 39 you want kids you want marriage Y'all want two different things out of life. You can't bill You can't bill Miss Roger blessing you and the family. God bless you now Realistically how long until you can have when dating? It's a personal choice. You know, it's a personal choice now Um, it just depends what you have to understand. It just depends if you biblically speaking Because what you have to understand now if you biblically speaking The bible is not realistic It ain't about being realistic But if you don't live by that then that's a personal choice and you get what come with it You see what I mean? You get what come with it But if you're going to be out there and just lose booty slanging Then what I tell people is at least wait six months If you if you commit it, hold on right a quick. Let me see some