 As a dating and relationship coach, I can share with you that I think one of the number one issues in the dating, mating or relating realm these days centers around emotional maturity. In fact, we are swimming in a sea of absolute dysfunctionality when it comes to human mating these days. And I'm not suggesting that it wasn't, was different in the past, but certainly because of the melting pot we live in here, especially here in the United States, we see a vast array of humans who actually have poor emotional maturity and worse weak relationship skills. And I see this with my clientele all the time. I see women who continually accept bad behavior from men, hoping that something will change, hoping that if they love this person more, that person will change. In addition, most of you know, I've certainly binged watch my fair share of reality TV, shows like 90 day fiancee married at first sight, love is blind. And what's interesting about 90 day fiancee is that to me it's dysfunctionality at its supreme finest. And it's not just the men that are the issue, women are equally, I don't wanna use the word to blame, but they equally have poor relationship skills and poor emotional maturity. This is why I've shared this in previous videos and I'm gonna share it again. I wanna share the three active people dating today, when I say the three types of people actively dating today to get a sense of the pool that we're swimming in because if you want to determine if a man is emotionally mature enough, emotionally ready, commitment ready, I think you first have to identify where you fall in the spectrum and where the vast majority of people fall in the spectrum. And I call it the three types of people dating today and here's a chart I created. Please forgive the glare, but you can see on this side, we call them the users. These are people seeking short-term game, love bombers, players, gold diggers, entitled people, selfish people, only caring about themselves. And then while I over here, I say that 20% of the population are grower and builders. These are the people seeking long-term commitment, they're emotionally grown up, have good relationship skills, they have their act together. The vast majority of people are in this spender category. Now the reason why I call them spenders, they seek companionship, they seek connection, they seek sex, but they have no direction, they have uncertainty, they're fearful, they usually have a dysfunctional life. So this is the sea we're swimming in today and to be naive to this is rather naive, okay? And why I'm sharing this with everyone is here's the interesting thing about human behavior. Every individual thinks that they're emotionally healthy. Every individual thinks that they have good relationship skills and it's everybody else that's the problem. I can tell you with a fair amount of certainty and I know that my audience is women. So most of you women are pointing the finger at men, okay? But what you're not recognizing is the three fingers pointing back at you. Women are equally as much a problem when it comes to emotional maturity and relationship skills. In fact, that's a human condition. Now, how do I know this to be true? Well, let's think about this for a second. At least here in the United States, we have roughly a 50% divorce rate, okay? That means one out of two couples are gonna end in divorce. Now, why do they end in divorce? Usually they cite sex and they cite or intimacy and money is the primary reason. But what the real primary reason is they have poor relationship skills, they have poor conflict resolution skills to actually make a marriage work. This is why if you haven't read the book by John Gottman called The Seven Principles to Making a Marriage Work, I highly recommend this even if you're single right now and you're just simply dating because this gives you the mechanics to understanding how a good relationship works. It doesn't have to be marriage for it to work, just how to make a good relationship work. But I said 50% of marriages end in divorce. Well, probably the other 50% that are still married, half of those people are probably unhappy or miserable. So you have a three out of four chance of being in a relationship that ends or an unhappy relationship. And by the way, when you think about second and third marriages end in divorce, 65 to 75% of the time, it begs to ask the question, how can I put the odds in my favor to secure a healthy happy relationship? How can I put the odds in my favor? Well, first and foremost is do individual work, do personal development work, do self-help work, do spiritual work to be your best self. One of the fundamental principles to attracting a great relationship in your life is to be your best self. And if you're not familiar with my book, what the heck is self love anyway, a journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work, I highly recommend checking out this book. And by the way, there's in the description below of the video is a copy of the books, chance to join, hire me for coaching, that sort of thing. Why is this book so critically important is because a first important thing to attracting a good partner is to showing up as your best self. This is both in mind, body, spirit and emotion. To show up as your best self. And yet again, most humans are delusional. They think they're showing up as their best self. And we'll talk about how we can differentiate those folks in a few moments. The second most important piece is understanding true compatibility and how to vet for compatibility and emotional maturity. That's why check out the link right here to schedule a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. My whole area of expertise is teaching you which questions to be asking based on your personality to determine is this person compatible with me? But more importantly, are they emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship? Number three is learning how to attract a good partner, learning good flirting skills. Do you know most humans are terrible at attracting people and they're terrible is probably too harsh of a word. They have very poor skills at attraction and flirtation. Now that's not my area of expertise, but there are so many great videos that teach you flirting techniques which is a mandatory if you want to attract a good partner. And fourth and most importantly is learning how to maintain a good relationship and more importantly, how to make it thrive. This is why I recommend book after book after book. One of the books I recommend is Eight Dates by doctors John and Julie Gottman to teach you the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship because if you don't know how to make a relationship, how to maintain it, make it thrive, you're gonna be in the endless cycle of one relationship after another after another and after another. Is this sinking in, is this resonating? Please let me know. All right, we're gonna talk about those six signs. He's emotionally mature and ready for commitment. So I've got my trusty notes out. I'm gonna share that with everyone. Let's jump into it right now. So number one, how to tell if a guy is emotionally mature and ready for a commitment. He's not afraid to speak about his feelings. He has a capacity to be transparent. I'm gonna repeat that. He's not afraid to show his feelings. That is a great sign. An emotionally mature man and woman has a capacity to express their feelings in such a way that can be seen, heard, and understood. If you're not familiar with the book, this is a great book called, I Hear You by Michael Sorenson, the surprisingly simple skill behind extraordinary relationship. This is a great book to learning the communication skills required to be able to not just listen, ladies, you're gonna take offense to what I'm about to say is just because you have a capacity to vomit your feelings doesn't mean it's actually landing on a guy. This is why I recommend also this book, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Most humans communicate in a very confrontational way. So, but coming back to how do you to tell if someone is emotionally mature, they have a capacity to express their feelings in a way that can be seen, heard, and understood. They're able to be transparent about their feelings. They're not hiding behind, let's take it slow and I need lots of time and I don't wanna talk about my past relationship yet. Let's save that for later. All of that is an avoidance mechanism. Look, if two people are, listen, let's be fucking real. If two people are meeting for a date, let's just call it what it is. Either you're in it to just hook up, okay, which is 90% of the people out there, right? I'm gonna say men and women alike, all they're doing is hooking up these days. I'm here to be bold, radical, and hardball. Just be right up front. Look, I want a serious relationship and I'm only investing time with people who want a serious relationship, which means I'm going to interrogate you to determine if you're worth my time. But Jonathan, all the other dating coaches say it should just be fun, it should be just casual and it should be easy. Look, we don't have time to fuck around with casual and easy. You can spend six weeks casual and easy with someone only to find yourself single and doing this cycle over and over and over again. I'm here to suggest hardballing, radical honesty, pre-qualifying your prospect. That's what I teach for my clients. And guess what happens is I just got a text message from New Year's Eve from a client who said, Jonathan, the hardballing works. I started to stand up for my standards. I started to stand up for my values. And guess what? A man who genuinely is emotionally mature and commitment ready is able to lean into it. And as I said in the big number one, he's able to express his feelings. Number two, he's flexible. Listen, what I'm really talking about is the difference between men who are rigid or controlling. You know a great way to test a guy? That might be too early to do this in the first couple of days, but go on a trip with someone. You can really determine their capacity to be flexible in life or are they rigid and controlling? A rigid and controlling person usually makes for a very poor partner and usually they're not very commitment ready when they're trying to control the dynamic in a situation versus someone who's flexible, go with the flow. This is why you want to switch things up every now and again just to see how they react to circumstances. You can simply, as you're driving, you could be driving somewhere, it could be a Saturday afternoon drive and just simply say, hey, do you mind if we pull over just to look at the view right now? A rigid or controlling person is fixated on what they're doing, but a flexible person is, by the way, if they're flexible in this capacity, they're also flexible in other capacity within their lives as well. So you want to look for that person who is not rigid and controlling, he has a sense of flexibility. Number three, he's got victor consciousness and not victim consciousness. I can tell you that the vast majority of humans are swimming in victim consciousness. What they means is they don't take responsibility for the actions within their lives and they blame other people. We see this habitually when oftentimes when you're asking about someone's past relationship and all they do is throw the other person under the bus without taking any ownership in their part. They have victim consciousness. A true victor consciousness says, hey, look, you know what? I have to take ownership for my part in the ending of my marriage. I'll speak personally here. I wasn't a good husband. I really wasn't. I was very naive. I was very cocky. I was very arrogant at that time in my life. I was more focused on my career and not knowing how to be a good husband. I take ownership. That's a sign of victor consciousness, not victim consciousness. And I can tell you it's when you spot those people that are blaming the other person for the problem in their relationship or marriage, guess what's gonna happen when your relationship ends? They do the exact same thing. So what you're seeking is victor consciousness. Number four, he has empathy. Listen, empathy isn't just I can feel your feelings. Empathy is genuinely caring about your feelings. Do you know the number one requirement for a healthy, happy relationship is trust? And trust isn't just about fidelity. Trust is can I count on this person when I need them? Does this person have my best interest at heart? Does this person care about my feelings? That is genuine empathy. And when someone is hyper focused on their own needs about wanting to get laid and doing things their way, when they are in a controlling capacity, then they're not really empathetic to your needs by asking about your needs. But Jonathan, when a guy asks about my needs, he's being a wimp, he's being a simp. You know what ladies, this is where I'm getting tired of this rhetoric. When a guy genuinely goes, hey, what kind of restaurant would you like to go? Well, that just shows he doesn't have confidence. No, maybe that shows that he wants to please you and make you happy. It seems these days we can find an argument to say no instead of finding ways to say yes. And that's my invitation for everyone. Number five, he's got good character. His actions match his words. You know, when I think of good character, I can think of a client of mine who's in a very happy relationship. They've been living together now for three years. They got a home together. And prior to the first date, she found out he had given a kidney to a total stranger. He'd given a kidney to a total stranger. What does it say about a person's character that they do that? Now she's a very successful woman makes, I mean, she makes three, four, $500,000 a year, highly successful, and he was struggling financially. But you know what? She gave this guy a chance because of that one thing. He gave a kidney to a total stranger. Now it turns out in their relationship, he practically manages her entire life. He manages the home. She does, she's the breadwinner, but he is the caretaker of her life. And they are such a genuine synchronous relationship with one another. And as I said before, good character is also those people whose actions consistently match their words. When they say they're gonna be somewhere, they show up on time. When they say they're gonna call, they call on time. That's just some demonstration of good character. But go beyond, find out what's happened in their life that's demonstrated that this person has good character. And number six. It's funny, I had to actually read it. Number six is he wants commitment. You know, these days people are more focused on hooking up and having casual relationships. I'm here to say those are the people that are gonna waste your time. Growers and builders want commitment. In my dating profile, the first line that says is I'm seeking a fully committed relationship that leads to marriage at some point. You know, it's the funny thing all of you guys complain. I haven't asked my girlfriend to marry me. There's a picture of her right there, Marie. You know what? I've talked about it. She doesn't wanna get married. I think I'll wear her down in a little while. But my point is men who genuinely want commitment have usually a level of emotional maturity because wanting commitment, wanting to be in partnership with someone demonstrates that you want something greater than casual. You want something greater than just hooking up or hanging out. And those are the six signs to determine emotional maturity and is he ready for commitment? Are these guarantees? Absolutely not. But this is certainly a good baseline to get started with. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. All right, I think this would be a great place to start for our Q&A. Those who know my format know if you have a question to ask me, write the word question, then post the question there after or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of them right there. It's my son who passed away a few years ago in his honor, I've started a scholarship fund to donate to causes like the Hoffman Process and Insight Institute, just to name a few. So if you, there's a little dollar sign there, you can purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat or if you're watching the replay, you can purchase the Super Thanks. And I want to start off by thanking Sandra for the $27.99 Super Sticker. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. All right, if you have a question, write the word question, then post the question there after. Sherry says, so true, John, the men do know how to, men do know how to flirt, okay? I think men and women equally are terrible at flirting, but that's just my perception. You leave it up to what your thoughts are on that. And again, if you have a question, write the word question. Margaret says, both are immature, yet probably are married and unhappy. Yes, you show up as your best self. I had to look at my part in the problem and apologize for my poor behavior and worked on it. Way to go, Margaret, love that. All right, Jennifer says, good points. Thank you so much, I appreciate that, sweetheart. All right, we have a question from Dee Dee. Question, is it a red flag if a man is 53 and never married, no kids? Is that a red flag? Okay, well let's think about the difference between a green flag, a yellow flag, a red flag, and a bump, bump, bump, bump, bump, bump, deal breaker. Now, green flag is usually moved forward. Yellow flag means, hmm, let's pause for a second. Now, red flag merely means ask more questions, ask more questions, that's what a red flag is. A deal breaker is your absolute no. So when it comes to if a man's never been married and no children at 53, is that a deal breaker? I wouldn't make that a deal breaker. What I would do is want to find out more about his past history. So for example, that 53-year-old man might have come from a childhood where he was from divorced parents, okay? And it was very dysfunctional in his childhood. So he's like, I don't wanna bring children up in the world. A lot of people feel that way. I'd roughly say a good 20, 25% of people, men and women alike, might feel that way about children and that doesn't make them bad people or bad to be in a relationship. Number two, you might find out that 53-year-old man might have had three serious monogamous relationship. He might have had a relationship for two years. He might have had a relationship for eight years. He might have had a relationship for five years. Now, is that indicative of a person who's incapable of being in a relationship? No, not necessarily. The reality is a lot of people who got married once, their relationship ended. Does that make them good at being relationships? I don't know if that's just because someone's been married before, doesn't necessarily make them good at being in relationship. What if having several long-term monogamous relationship is the better approach for everybody on the planet? I know I'm looking at myself. I was married for 12 years. I had a significant relationship for six years and I'd like to think my beloved Marie is going to be my last relationship in my life. I'd like to believe that. That means by the time she and I reach a point of five or 10 years down the road, that means I had three significant relationships. Now, why I'm sharing this with you, red flag simply means ask questions and yes, you should ask questions. Now, if this person has probably not had one relationship last more than three weeks, probably that's a problem. But I would bet 53 years old he's had several significant relationships. That's my two cents anyway. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. All right. Jennifer writes, question. What are some good flirting videos? I would simply type in YouTube, good flirting videos. That's all you have to type and there's good romantic flirting videos. There's probably thousands upon thousands of them out there. Okay. Here, let's do a quick search. Let's for fun. Let's do a search. Right here, I'm on YouTube. Good flirting videos. Flirting videos. Let's just see what comes up. Ah, Buzzfeed video, 7.6 million views. Is he flirting or just being nice? That's one. 10 psychological proven flirting techniques from Psych2Go. Celebrity flirting techniques on Hollilab. Let's see, Hooked has, let's see. Marni the Wing Girl has a video that has 830,000 views. Three simple flirting techniques that drive women wild. So this is probably for men. Proven ways. So by the way, you simply type in the search bar and that will answer your question. Thank you, Jennifer, for your question. I really appreciate it. Leaf says, good idea. Research the heck out of them. Yes, let's stop being cavalier. But Jonathan, all the other dating coaches saying, make it like, make it fun. No, if that was working so well, then why are people miserable? Interrogate people. That's my suggestion. Just do it in a fun, lively, cute way, a flirting way. Hire me as a coach, I'll help you with that. All right, Dee Dee says, excellent points. Thank you, I appreciate that. Ah, red flags. Jonathan and Stephen LaBrosse. Stephen's are on the same page. Yes, we are. Thank you so much. If you have a question, write the word question and post the question thereafter. Okay, Sunshine writes question. I've been dating a guy for about a month. Our fifth or sixth date is this weekend. What should I expect? I know he's expecting to get laid, okay? He's a guy, of course he's expecting. Listen, these days on average, people are having sex somewhere between the third and 10th date. Sex is part of the decision-making process to decide to be in relationship with someone. And quite frankly, women want it too, just as much as men to some degree. And I bring this up simply because if it's terrible sex, you wanna know sooner rather than later. Okay, so what should you expect? Listen, I think by the time you get to the fifth or sixth date, you don't have to make it something formal. It can be something casual, hanging out at each other's home, just talking with one another, laying your cards on the table, practicing radical honesty, which really develops deeper intimacy in the relationship. If you're not familiar with the book, Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters, I highly recommend checking this out. We humans are terrible at actually building, and I don't mean physical intimacy, I mean building real emotional connection with someone. So the fifth or sixth date, hang out at each other's home, spend time talking with one another, find out the nooks and crannies about this other person, find out about their past, find out what they desire in the future, ask deeper questions. You know, one of my favorite memes is this one. I'm gonna read it to you all. Or I'm gonna show it to everyone right there. Let's see what it says. I hate small talk. I wanna talk about Adam's death, alien sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, far away galaxies that make you feel different, memories, the lies you've told, your flaws, your favorite scent, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears. I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't wanna know, how's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. Signed out there. All right, thank you so much for that question. I appreciate it, sunshine. All right, Rose writes, question. Why do some men say they want a relationship but then do a 360? I think when, I think men, I think most men, not all, most men genuinely like to have one life partner, they would. They're just clueless and they don't know how going about it. Number two, they don't know how to build real emotional intimacy with someone. So beyond the lust and the limerence, the minute it gets real, they get scared and they run away because most humans have terrible emotional maturity and relationship skills. This is why, folks, I'm a big proponent, date people who've done therapy, date people who are in the personal development, self-help in spiritual world, because they have a greater capacity to lean into this stuff and they're not mixed about their emotions. Here's the thing, most guys aren't genuinely lying when they say want a relationship and do a 180. It's that they get scared and they do a 180 because they don't feel safe in this relationship because most of the time you guys do a terrible job of building the true friendship that the deep, most of the time you do a terrible job at building the deep roots of trust that established the most important critical piece in a relationship and that's friendship and genuinely liking someone. So we're more hyper focused on lust and limerence and not enough on building the true friendship. This is why, folks, I'm a big proponent. Listen, I've said this before, I'll say it again. The types of relationship I encourage are those people who are seeking a relationship where they spend on average three or four days and nights a week together, doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork building skills, both in their personal and professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional, intimacy that leads to either moving in together or getting married. But Jonathan, I'm in a long distance relationship and we speak on the phone 47 times a day and we've only met each other once in six months. Folks, you guys are in a delusion, most of you folks, that are in these long distance cyber conversations. A relationship is built through proximity and continuity. Let me repeat that, a relationship is built through proximity and continuity. Now, some of you might say, but Jonathan, you were in a long distance relationship. That's right, we started 2000 miles apart, but in our first 90 days, we physically saw each other 45 out of 90 days. That's 45 out of 90 days. That's more than most people that might live five miles from each other. That's number one. And we agreed after three months that we would move in together and we did it within two months. Folks, that's not a long distance relationship. A long distance relationship is dating for a long period of time with no game plan. Folks, continuity, proximity builds the deep roots of trust and it's done through social activities, hobbies and mutual interests. That's how you build the friendship. It's not gonna, but Jonathan, we spend all day talking on the phone. It's rare that a man will build bond with you over the telephone ladies. They might be stroking it on the telephone, but they're not bonding with you on the telephone. Anyway, that's my two cents. All right. I think you get to just to where I'm going there. All right. Leaf says, will you please hit that like? Yes, if you find out in here, please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel if you're watching for the first time. Stacy says, Esther Perel has a game to facilitate getting to know a person. Oh yes, I love the book by Esther Perel. Where is it? Mating and captivity. I have this book. Where is my book? Well, I have it somewhere anyway. Mating and captivity by Esther Perel. Esther Perel has a great thing. Also the Gottman have what's called the Love Dex. So if you go to, let's see, the Love Dex, where is it? Oh, Card Dex. This is an app that you might wanna check out. It's called Card Dex, Gottman Card Dex. Great questions to help you prepare to build deeper intimacy when talking with someone. Thank you, Stacy, I appreciate that. Sherry writes, question. How do you feel about men lying about their age and height when out with a guy he has five years older than his profile agent didn't tell me at the end of the day and I asked him. Okay, this is something interesting because this was a conversation we had in my private group today. Okay, so let's set the facts straight. Most everyone over 45 years old to age 70 who's online dating. The older person is, the higher probability they are lying on their dating profile. I would venture to say 95% of people over 60 years old on dating profiles lie about their age. I would say roughly 80% of people in their 50s lie about their age and about 60% of people in their 40s lie about their age. Why? Because most humans are fearful of age discrimination. So, now let me reframe the word lie. They fudge on their dating profiles. Why do they fudge? Because they wanna be seen in the search bar. I'll be candid with you. My sweetheart, she openly used a much lower age so she could be seen in the search algorithms. Now she was clear right up front to state her age in the first sentence, but she did it. Why? Because she understands that humans discriminate based on age. Now, it's very common. Men go younger because they wanna attract younger women and women go younger because they want to be seen by men their own age, okay? That's the habitual thing that happens. Does this make them bad people? No, it doesn't make them bad people, men and women of life. Does it mean that they're liars? First off, I have yet to meet a human being who hasn't lied at least three times in their life. And if you're once a liar, you're always a liar. That's such a stupid. I mean, I lie to myself probably 20 times a day. Does that make me a liar? No, it makes me human. Now, why do men lie about height because women reject based on height? Why do women lie about age because men reject on age? Why do men lie about their age because women reject based on age? So my suggestion is you take this on a case-by-case situation rather than blanketing people as being bad. That's just a waste of energy and a waste of time. Here's the thing. It's hard out there. It's hard to meet people. People are struggling and people, sadly, do a terrible representation of themselves in the online dating world. And the thing is, sadly, online is all we've got. 50% of all new relationships are happening through an online connection. And I bet you in the next 10 years, that's gonna be close to the 75%. Meeting organically is becoming habitually harder. I look at my son, my oldest son, who's in his mid-20s. Look it, he has a hard time meeting and he's in an age demographic where most everybody is single, never married. Try our age demographic, the divorce group of people. It's hard to meet organically. And worse, it's hard to meet online. It's funny, I was watching a show called Love It First Swipe and it's a makeover show. And I gotta tell you, and it's mostly women that I've seen on the show, at least the episodes are watched. All of the women had horrific dating profiles. I can tell you as a dating coach, who reviews dating profiles on a regular basis, 96% of the women's profiles I view, this is you included, they're all shitty. But everybody thinks theirs is the best. Now, what I like about the makeover show is it did a great job helping these women become the best version of themselves to become, listen, whether we like it or not, we have to market ourselves. I know we hate this idea, but we have to market ourselves whether we like it or not. So you better, it's just like trying to get the best job on the planet. You wanna put your best foot forward. And if you act cavalier about it, then don't get mad if your results are crappy. Anyway, so I don't judge the people who do this, I just expect it as part of the norm. Thank you, Sherry, for your question. Sunshine says, thank you for the great advice. I appreciate that. Kelly writes, question, what to do with a man who has fear of his kids, teens not accepting that he is seeing someone or not liking his girlfriend after being divorced for 10 years, so he won't introduce them to his girlfriend. That's a tough one. That's a real tough wound to go through whether you're a man or woman, whether you're a mother or a father as a parent, that's a tough wound to go through because our children play a part of the relationship process. I wouldn't be, here, let me just say something, folks. I wouldn't date someone who wouldn't introduce me to their children. That's a deal breaker for me. That's a deal breaker, that's not a red flag, that's a deal breaker because family and friends are an important part of the relationship process. If he's not in a capacity to go there, I wouldn't invest much time in that person. It's just that's not, he hasn't either done a good job with his children to make them emotionally healthy or he's not emotionally healthy enough, most likely to be in a relationship. I know there's always the exception to the rule, but I'm just sharing with you personally, that's a deal breaker. If a woman introduced me to her children, I would say, you know what, children are an important part of a family unit and I want to get married someday. I want to be a family with someone, that's what I want and if you're not in a capacity to do that, then I don't want to invest in you. That's my two cents anyway, Kelly, thank you. Sunshine says, cyber long distance conversation exactly. Hey, Claire, good to see you on here, question. I've been living with him for five months. Everything is great. He said he is agreeable with me because he likes to be laid. Jonathan, do men put up with BS because they like to be laid? Haps a fucking lute league. Look at it, if a man is happy in the bedroom, he'll put up with a lot of crap from a woman. I mean, has anyone seen the crazy hot matrix or how I met your mother crazy matrix that he put out? What's Dougie Hauser's name? I can't think of his name right now. God, who's the actor who plays him? Anyway, yeah, men, a lot of men think women are just crazy because they're emotional and men tend to be logical. That's just a general stereotype. But men, if they're being satisfied in the bedroom, they'll, in their mind, put up with a lot of stuff. Does that make it valid? I don't know, but that just tends to genuinely be true for the most part. So, Claire, if you're making them happy there and you guys have a great relationship, then great for you guys. Anyways, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. Oh my God, yes, so many men and women lie about their age. Women equally, the numbers are exactly equal. Women and men lie or fudge equally on their dating profiles. Yes. All right. Margaret says, yes, therapy is not a liability in a relationship. No, these days it must be a prerequisite in my mind. Anyway, Sherry says, I still haven't found a virgin over 21. I did know of one. All right, let's keep swimming. Margaret says, the Gottmans are great, exactly. All right, Tammy says, question. Hubby and I married for 6.5 years, recently reconciled without going too far into it. We have major trust issues. What's your best advice to regain trust? Well, if we're talking about fidelity, that's one thing. But I would recommend, there's a book by Dr. Sherry Myers called Chatting or Cheating. How to detect infidelity, rebuild love and a fair proof your relationship. Now this is a great book about trust in general. So I would recommend this book by Dr. Sherry Myers to help you rebuild trust because there is great, oh, also I would also recommend the book by Barbara DeAngeles, How to Make Love All the Time. Great book for building trust in a relationship. Definitely highly recommend this book. All right, you know, folks, I just got back from New Year's Eve cruise. My beloved and I did a cruise on New Year's Eve. In fact, we are going to tomorrow record a video together so you can look for us tomorrow. I'm getting a little beclumped or not beclumped, I'm just a little fatigued right now. So I think I'm gonna wrap up today's video. I hope you found value in what I shared today on the six signs he's emotionally mature and ready for commitment. All right, I think this will be a great place to wrap up this video. First off, I'm gonna give myself a big gigantic Jonathan Barrow of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm asking you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear, a pillow, if there's a teddy bear, give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Sherry and Tammy and Margaret and Hillary and Leif and Lulu and Stacy and Cece and Pam and Regina and Claire and Rose. Thank you all so much. I hope you, did you find value in today? Please let me know. Please let me know if this resonated with you. Check out the links below. Check out a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. And I'm gonna say good night to everyone right now with again, a big gigantic Jonathan hair hug to you all. Y'all take care, bye now.