 Hi, she was seven. I'm back. How are you? I got a question and a video request Basically, I was asked to explain how to tell if a man is really financially stable and has money or if he's pretending Sort of like renting cars Has bad credit and just like showing off and he doesn't really have what it seems that he has Um This is like and oh and you don't want to ask them about their finances because it's rude Okay. First of all You ask, you know what they do for a living because that's an or a normal question, right? Ask them for a business card Okay, so you know where they work If you want to invest in some some sort of online background check You just need its name and his date of birth. So that's on his birthday Okay, and the state and city he lives in that's pretty much it You can find a lot of stuff online about him if he's been married if he's been divorced If he's been to jail, y'all know all that You can also See what type of people he hangs around if all his friends are professional and have their stuff together and You know not doing illegal things and Stuff like that. He probably is, you know on the up and up also if you If you ever like are in his house or anything if you're ever in the house All you have to do is, you know, remember the address Go and research it on Google later And it will show you who owns that house like if he's renting it or whatever It will show you who owns the house how much the house is worth If it's for sale if it's leasing leased out blah blah blah blah blah So that's easy you can get that on google for free Um, also what's on I'm still I must have been new york a new yorker in my former life Because I swear sometimes the accent just pops out from nowhere anyway So yes, also like if he doesn't have a bank account If he doesn't have a checking account or a savings account, that's that's that's red flag Like if he never goes to the bank If he just keeps wads of cash everywhere that he's probably a drug dealer If he never goes to the ATM or the bank, uh, I would check on that. Um If you know When you talk to a guy, you know, they're intelligent You know the ones who are smart enough to earn money the right way And you and you are smart enough to know the ones who earn it the illegal way Or the ones who scammers are the ones who are pretending, you know The ones who are pretending always talk about wealth money this that I got this I got that the ones who Once who have it they don't talk about it. Okay, the ones who have it. It's not a big deal Okay, the the the flashiest ones are the ones that are faking it. Okay The flashy ones faking it The one that has the modest Regal Um Classy taste is the one that's not faking it. Okay, the When you're trying to show off and get attention for your wealth It's because it's it's fleeting and it's not real. Okay, when you have money coming in You know, you know, you know that you are financially stable is your wealthy You're not trying to show it off to everybody and they mama. Okay, so that's how you know Uh, look at a man's shoes if they're if they have on sneakers And it's the middle of the day and they're on their Lunch break at the restaurant Unless they own their own business Or something like that, you know, you have to kind of look at what a guy guy is wearing You have to look at his wardrobe If he doesn't have a suit if he doesn't have any type of clothes That looks like he has a job or a business then you have to you have to kind of think about that too uh so Yeah, a lot of times men spend more money on their outward appearance than their home to get to their house If you don't see furniture If you see like cheap furniture If he's slacking everywhere else Except for what people see on the outside, then you know, he's fronting If you go to his house and he has art Like real art He's got money. Okay um If You know If you're in the nice neighborhood or in the nice area of town where people Are financially stable You're seldom gonna see a faker out there Because the fakers like to hang out with people that have less so they can look like they have more So try to stay on the nice part of town and not the bad part of town because If you go into like a bar or a club on the bad part of town where everyone's broke And you see this balling flashy guy and Chains and jewelry and nice cars He's there to stick out like a sore thumb to get attention to get women's attention because He can't hang with the big boys. Okay, so he goes to The lesser so he can have his pick Okay, tell him like if you see someone like that And he's trying to holla at you Tell him let's go and name like some fancy place where you know a lot of rich people hang out and see what he does If you get scared if he looks crazy Keep it moving. Okay Because real Real ballers hang out with real ballers. They don't try to show off in front of poor people. Okay That's how you know. Have you ever seen a basketball professional basketball player or professional football player in a place where Well, I'm sure they're always going to be the richest person in the room, but have you ever seen them like, you know Going to like a place where They can't You know fit in with everybody else Do you see them going to the worst parts of town or the nice spots? You know, I'm sure there's some that will venture off to the hole in the walls But for the most part these people are hanging out getting, you know, five star treatment at places So you have to you have to understand that if if you got a lot of cash of you paying nothing but cash that means you know Be careful Um Also, there's a lot of guys who front by uh, I'm sorry. I'm looking at the time And there's a lot of guys who front by maxing out credit cards Renting cars and stuff like that to get the women's women's attention So to spot these type of people, you know, off the bat, you know, just, you know They're gonna volunteer information to you. You don't even have to ask them. They're not you're they're not going to Wait for you to ask them. They're gonna be like, oh, yeah. Well, I drive a this this and that, you know They're gonna kind of throw it into the the conversation or yo, yeah, uh, I have a five bedroom house in the separate They're gonna throw it in there voluntarily, okay Most people with something They're not going to volunteer that information until they trust you or they're Comfortable with you, you know Fakers will throw it out there. You know, I got this. I got that, you know You need to get with me When I met my husband, he didn't tell me nothing and the questions that I asked him were very rude Because I was I was basically tired of dealing with broke men. So I get approached I got approached every day y'all. So for me blowing off somebody was no big deal. Okay, so He comes up to me and I've already like Decided in my brain. I am not dating. Nobody broke I am not dating anybody unless they can do this this this and that that's it So whoever coming up to me, I'm gonna shoot them down quick because I'm not wasting no more time That was my attitude and so he comes up to me. He's like, hi I'm like, okay, he sounds like he's smart. He's got a good job or something. You know He's a speak ignorant And then so I was like, okay Like I heard it all before and I'm like, so I asked the rude questions Because that's how you that's how you can tell a real You know Person from a fake person. I asked her. I asked the rude questions. I said, you know what? Especially if you look better than them, go ahead. Ask the rude questions because they're already expecting it anyway So I said, so what do you do? And he's like, oh I work for uh, I own uh, no, what did he say? I own a multi-million dollar uh Revenue making he says some crap. I didn't understand back then because I was young y'all. So He was into technology so I I was like clueless on what he was saying. He was speaking a foreign language, but it sounded like it made a lot of money So I was like, okay. Do you have a card? Yes I pull the card trick ask for a card whenever they tell you what they do for a living Ask for a card if they don't have a card or they can't get you no card Oh and fresh out. Do you have some in your car? Well, what's your email never give me your at don't ever give them your phone them first If they don't have a card Give them your email address. Um, not your facebook, but your email. Okay. Anyway That way you can see where he emails you from if he emails you from a work email Or his company's email or or a damn, uh, google or yahoo duck And and with that email you can get a lot more information online to y'all Okay, anyway, I asked all the rude questions. So I said, well, what do you do for a living? He gave me his card. I said, oh, that's good. That's nice And then I said, okay Because anybody can get a business card and put ceo on it, right? Because this is ceo. I'm like, mm-hmm, whatever So then I said, well, what kind of card do you drive? Because I was trying to get rid of him y'all I was really sick and tired of dealing with broke guys and this was this is the fastest way to get rid of a broke guy Ask him the rude questions Oh, well, I drive a convertible uh bends. It's right outside. I'm like, okay Check one check two. Okay. Then the third question I ask is, you know, well So, you know What are you why are you approaching me? You know, what do you want? I want to get to know you I want to spend time with you. I think you're beautiful You know, listen to their reasons why they want to be with you or why they want to date you Or why they want to talk to you or get to know you better Listen to their reasons if their reasons are like You're so fine that you know If their reasons are you seem very interesting, you know, if their reasons are intelligent reasons and don't sound like game Yeah Go for it. That's how I met my husband. I asked the rude questions. I swear to god. I said, you know what? I'm tired dealing broke man. I I took my power and I said What do you do for a living? Give me a card. What kind of card do you drive straight up? And he and he thought I was just And he was proud to say what he had because he did have it, you know But he didn't volunteer none that information to me. He came he was trying to get by on his good looks He actually was talking to another woman And then when I came in and sat down, he left her mid conversation to come walk over to me and The lady was just like Yeah, and so He didn't volunteer no information. I had to pull it and I had to ask him, you know If you got a pull answers and stuff like that It's a good thing because only broke fake rich people volunteer their their information like that and So, yeah, basically that's how you tell uh, I also look at the jewelry rich people don't wear a lot of jewelry Like especially men rich men do not wear a lot of jewelry unless they're rappers So if you see all his jewelry on on a man If he's flashy this this and that unless he owns a jewelry company Then you know, you know, he's flashy for a reason, you know, um That's just how it is. I think jay-z said it best. He says no chrome on the wheel. I'm a baller for real Okay, that means he's not trying to show off He's not wasting money on rims and tigers. He's investing. He's got money. He's got a company. He's got businesses He's not wasting his money on flash Okay The less flashy a man is The more legitimate he is. Okay. He's not gonna spend his money on crap when he can invest it and make more money with it Okay All right y'all. I will see you guys later. Thank you for watching thumbs up And also if you have any more video requests, you can either send them To my facebook if y'all are um On my facebook page or you can put them in the comments And I will try to get to some of them if they are good topics And You know Always be honest with yourself and what you want because if you don't How is anybody supposed to give it to you? Okay All right, I'll see y'all later. Bye