 Here's a couple of good self-check questions when you're in some kind of conflict with someone. I'll give them to dispute. Number one, am I carrying something from somewhere else into this conversation that doesn't belong here? Does hijacking and contaminating the clarity we'd have otherwise if I stopped carrying something from somewhere else into this space? Secondly, am I transferring a frustration and energy from someone something else into this moment here that's also artificially complicating this conversation with someone that I care about now? Those two things, am I carrying something from somewhere else? Am I transferring a frustration and energy from somewhere else to here? And if you can catch yourself doing that, it will really simplify your disagreements with people. Make them far simpler. Hope that helps to you.