 Hi, I'm Matthew Coase from commitmentconnection.com, and today I have a question from a woman in our community who says, men need to understand that because some of us women are strong and independent doesn't mean that that should scare you. It doesn't mean that we think we're better than you are. It's who we are and what we have had to do for ourselves. Please help. So, you know, I get this complaint a lot that women feel like they're intimidating men. And let me just share a story with you real quick. When I first got into the dating industry, I came in as a client and one of the things that I learned kind of right off the bat, I think it was probably in my first serious relationship that I got into was my girlfriend used to come up to me and she would like do this thing where she would like rub her hand like on my skin like really gently and lightly and she would rub it all over my back, you know, rub her fingers on my back and stuff. And I always remember thinking like, what are you doing? Like, why are you doing that? And one of the things that I ended up figuring out from just doing a lot of studying and research on the whole topic is that we typically try to attract people to us using the methods that we like to be attracted to. So, in that case, it turned her on from when I would gently rub her skin like that. And she thought that maybe you would do the same thing to me. And it just, it didn't, it wasn't a turn on at all. How that relates to being a strong independent woman is that a lot of times strong independent women seem to think that these traits that they have as a strong independent woman as a strong independent woman should be attractive to men. It's rarely the case that a guy is scared off or intimidated by you because you're a strong independent woman. It's more likely the case that he's just not attracted to you for it, you know, whereas you might be attracted to a guy who is a strong independent guy who wants to, who has his life together and, you know, is very masculine and has all that kind of stuff going on. Men might respect the fact that you're a strong independent woman, but he's not going to be attracted to you for it. Men are attracted to women for other reasons. There are a few guys that are kind of intimidated and scared off by women who are strong and independent, but those are guys that you don't want anyway. You know, the whole point here is that if you want to be attractive to a guy, you need to, you can be a strong independent woman, but you need to pull out the feminine part of yourself, you need to connect with a man on a deep emotional level. That's what will attract him to you. Being a strong independent woman has no bearing on that whatsoever unless you try to use that to attract a guy or think that a guy should be attracted to you for that, which he probably won't ever be unless he's a weak feminine guy. So that's it. If you are a strong independent woman, you know, don't worry about it. You know, there's lots of guys. Men that I talked to out there want a woman who's strong and independent, but they also want a woman who is connected to their feminine, to her feminine side, and can connect with him in that way because that's what attracts a man to a woman, not being strong and independent. That doesn't matter either way, although a lot of times it's looked at as a cool plus to who you are and that you do have some things together, which is awesome. So if you want more advice on how to attract a man into a committed, lasting relationship, make sure you subscribe to my channel. And I'm Matthew Coast and I'll speak with you again soon.