 We're getting married soon and he has just told me that his family is into family sex. I got really overwhelmed in the beginning when he said this and I said I just can't do it and then I try to become and say I will think about it but from where I come it sounds very weird to me. Is this normal? What should I do? So if by family sex he means incest where family members have sex with other family members I'm afraid I am not actually qualified or trained to deal with incest issues so I can't advise you on what you should do about the incest. On a personal level I have to say however that like you I get really freaked out about it and the only thing I can tell you to do and I think this is very important talk to somebody not just to friends who know as little as you do about this not even to somebody like me who's on the other side of social media platform go and talk to somebody that you can talk face to face with preferably speak to your parents about this because this is a huge thing and I know that people think oh my god talking to parents about sex you know they'll freak out you'll be amazed to know you'll be amazed to see how much parents can actually take and how clear and cool thinking they are about things like this so go and speak to your parents this is a very big step that you're taking and if you are marrying the guy it is something that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life so even if you don't take part in it to know that everybody else is doing it around you it may not be something that you're comfortable with so please on this take my advice and go and talk to your parents go and talk to somebody professional and actually understand how you're going to deal with it