 Hello everyone Welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. Just checked into this room Two big birds, but it's just me. So if anyone wants to come and enjoy this Jungle view out here. I think you can hear the crickets outside Just been doing some traveling I'm going to explore the National Park tomorrow But yeah, let's talk about this This is something that I've witnessed quite a few times already When Narcissists They always end up destroying themselves in the end And I know a lot of you you look at the Narcissist in your life. It looks like they just swooped in They took everything they wanted from you They robbed you They used and abused you They kept you in a trance. They kept you under a spell for all of this time Where you were constantly catering to them When you were quite clearly overqualified for that You were far too Great far too capable To be submitting to that role You were well above that But they wanted to maintain this authority over you But they could tell you what to do and in actuality by doing that They just ended up shooting themselves in the foot Because you will you should have been the one who was holding the reins You should have been the one who was in control many of you. I know You're attractive people You're successful You've got a lot of experience in your life. You've achieved a lot of things And if you look at it, you were actually far superior to the Narcissist in knowledge, experience In your success and achievements So you should have been the one who is in control of them and they should have been the ones who were submitting to you especially as You may be an empath Empaths are excellent leaders because they're not all about themselves Which means they can guide other people to the right direction So if the Narcissist had just stuck with you and listened to you Things would have turned out very differently And I know that I can see it in my own life Every Narcissist that I've dealt with If they just listened to me If they just followed my instructions They allowed me to have the leadership role if they just did that Everything would have been very different Not just for myself, but especially for them their lives would have been far greater They would have been a lot happier and I know that that is a guarantee in every situation Where I've dealt with Narcissists It would have changed their entire lives But they threw it all away Because of their ego Because of their arrogance and entitlement their competitiveness Their envy and jealousy And all of these things all of these exaggerations. They just let it get to their heads They got to a head of themselves and by doing that they managed to ruin everything for their own lives the very people who Try to bring me down They try to destroy me If they had just come at it a different way And they were prepared to listen to me and to acknowledge my authority Based on my knowledge experience success and achievements I could have led them to a favorable result for both of us. I have no doubt in my mind that I could have done that And it would have changed everything It would have changed their entire lives And yet they just threw it all away Because they don't value relationships. They don't value connection. They look at it like What's the point of them being Under someone else's authority They may be paranoid. They may think that you don't really mean well for them Or they may assume that Because they've just cheated their way through life. They've relied on their manipulation They don't actually have any abilities or skills So under your authority and supervision There isn't really much that they could do anyway Because what are they going to do for you? Yes, you may have the knowledge, the experience, the success and achievements You may have evidence of your capabilities But regardless of that What are they going to do for you? In reciprocation In an equal exchange Because otherwise what is the point in you being with them? If all they're going to do is just Live off your success, your work But what about you? What are you getting out of it? And that is why they just see you as something temporary An object, an extension of them The possession, just something they use And then once they've gotten what they wanted They just take a little bit They settle for the crumbs rather than the loaf And then they just take off and they leave you alone Then they're done with you and they're on to the next But guaranteed they will never find anyone like you again They're not going to find someone who is on your level Someone who did all of the things that you did for them Someone who could have changed their entire future If they just remained with you and listened to you Instead of always arguing and fighting with you They were constantly fighting over control They wanted to be the ones who told you what to do But if they just listened to you things would have been very different While for you things will improve They will steadily get better Despite whatever you had to deal with with them Because unlike them you can take accountability You're emotionally mature So you can accept that you've made mistakes You gave chances to the wrong people And then you can look at yourself and make the necessary changes So that you do better in the future While for the narcissist as we know they never take accountability They got very lucky with you You went too hard on them You gave them so many chances You took care of them They managed to evade accountability for a lot of things with you But with someone else It might not be so easy for them Because all of these things they're doing They're strengthening certain circuits of the brain Every time that they do certain things and they get away with it Or they have a favorable result Or they manage to evade accountability In their minds that tells them That they're okay to do that As though next time it's going to be the same Their manipulation is effective They can get what they want But at some point they may do that to someone Who is not going to tolerate it in the way that you did Because if you look back You were very calm You were very tolerant You were very accepting and understanding Because you had empathy You have the ability to share their feelings While someone else in that same situation I mean just think about that for a moment All of the times that they used and abused you They manipulated you They gaslighted you They spun you in circles They messed with your mind They archaged you with you They got in your face All of these things they did to you You were very accepting and tolerant They stepped in and tolerant Someone else in that same situation They might have knocked them clean out They might have just completely put them away in hospital They might have completely destroyed them So just think about that for a moment And realise that yes they did target you for a reason Because they know that you are very kind, caring and understanding You're willing to give people a chance If they did those same things to someone else Who knows what would have happened It would have really costed them And yet that's the thing Because from dealing with you They learn that they can get away with certain things That they can still have a favorable result From manipulating and deceiving people So then they go on to another situation And they assume that they can do the same thing again While people are starting to educate themselves on this They're starting to understand what is going on So their success is going to start to dwindle They're not going to have the same success as they did before Because I don't know about you But I don't really enjoy being manipulated and deceived I don't enjoy being gaslit and abused And then tossed aside Blamed for everything I don't think there's many people out there who enjoy that But as we know that's exactly what narcissists do They don't play a fair game And of course at some point they are going to run into someone Who is probably not going to play a fair game with them They're going to recognise them at relation They're going to see them come in from a mile away And they are going to be ready for that ass They are going to be ready to jump right on that And they're going to tear them to pieces And even if the unlikely case that that doesn't happen As a result of their arrogance, audacity and aggressiveness Even if that doesn't happen to them The other thing that will most definitely happen Is that they're going to experience failure after failure As a result of their inability to take accountability Because that's really it, accountability is the key to your success When I look back at my own life What helped me to become successful Was the situations where I took accountability For where I found myself in life But narcissists, they are like big babies They go around just blaming everyone else for their situation It's always everyone else's problem, it's never theirs And by doing that They're actually just giving their power away They're giving their power away to other people And if you look at it, the relationships that you were in with narcissists Every time that they did that, they evaded accountability They blamed you for everything What happened? It ended up empowering you in the end It always does, it always ends up empowering the victim When the narcissist evades accountability And I've seen that myself in my own life Every time that they avoided accountability and they blamed me for everything My life just got even greater I became even happier I empowered myself, I became independent I had so many more new experiences without them Well as for them I don't know all of their situations, I mean I have dealt with quite a few narcissists now But for the ones I do know Their lives got progressively worse And I already know that if they had just listened to me And followed my instructions and advice Things would have turned out very differently for them They would have had a completely different future, a completely different life And it's all because they didn't want to listen They couldn't accept While It doesn't really make any sense at the same time Because if you look at it, they target us Because they deem us to be the best of the best They see us as being greater than them A narcissist does not want to be around someone who they think is less than them They want people who are attractive People who have money, power and status People who at least look like they're going somewhere And yet as soon as they get that person They want to put them under a spell, they want to put them in a trance They want to pull the wall over their eyes So that they don't see who they're actually dealing with Even though you are meant to be the captain of the ship You're meant to be the leader in that relationship Because you are the one with superior qualities and skills And yet they want to take on that role And by doing that, the relationship always goes south It goes under They end up destroying it They destroy so many good connections in their lives Due to their own arrogance and audacity Because they want to take on that role And audacity Because they want to be the ones who are in charge They want to be the boss But just look and see where that gets them Because this is common knowledge among professionals Who study this disorder I've seen on many videos on YouTube already By various psychologists But yes, narcissism is self-destructive Which means that Their narcissistic behaviour It just ends up destroying them in the end While the whole point of why they inherited this disorder And engage in the manipulation It's because they intended to deceive people To get one over on us To gain something at our expense When in the end all it really does is affect them They just end up destroying themselves in the end When if they had just worked with you, they cooperated, they listened to you Their lives would have been very different But a lot of them, it's like they can't even see the forest for the trees They're just thinking about it in the moment And they look at it like if they were around you long enough After they exposed themselves and showed you who they really are You wouldn't want anything to do with them anyway Because you would just look at yourself and then look at them And you would just think, what am I even doing around you? And that's the whole point, that's why they have to manipulate you That's why they have to pull the wool over your eyes They have to blame you for everything And get you so that every minute of your day Is constantly focused and directed to them Because you never look at yourself and realise That they're no good for you anyway They've got nothing to bring to the table They can't lead or direct you to a better place So a more progressive or desirable result All they can do is bring you down All they can do is trick you So even if they showed you who they are And they intended to be in something long too You would just end up getting rid of them You would just end up leaving them high and dry And I think a lot of them already know this It's why they rely on their manipulation And their illusion And they don't spend too much time around you So yes it is Accepted now that Narcissism Narcissism It is self-destructive They do just end up destroying themselves in the end Because they destroy all of their connections They blame everyone else instead of taking accountability And by doing that they just end up disempowering themselves Because there is nothing more empowering Than taking that accountability And then responding to the best of your ability Because when you look at it It's really Whatever you're attuned to Are you attuned to working on yourself And becoming the best version of who you are Because that pattern of behaviour is inevitably Going to lead to something good But if you're constantly blaming everyone else You're holding everyone else accountable You're expecting everyone to fix things for you By doing that you become dependent on them You're expecting them to fix and change everything for you When it's an impossible task It's unrealistic They're only going to end up burning themselves out And what are you going to do then? How are you going to empower yourself? How are you going to move on to something greater or something else? And of course what they do Is they just go from one relationship to the next Taking what they can get And blaming the other person But the last thing they want is for anyone to realise That yes it is them They will blame other people until the end of time They will always point the finger at everyone else They will say that it was your fault or someone else Because they're emotionally mature, they're children In adult bodies They don't want to respond to anything They don't want to improve anything Because they already know that they lack the skills and abilities to do that They've relied on their motivation for such a long time On tricking and deceiving people Of deluding them Of their true ability Which is why You get with them and they sell you a dream They make you believe in this fairy tale Of how things are going to be so much greater than what they actually are And then six months when you're down the line You've given everything you've got You've invested all your time, energy, money And then you start confronting them They lied to you, they future faked They never reciprocated There was never an equal value of exchange And then they're ready to leave you Or it's either that or they're blaming you for everything They want to get a divorce They take you for alimony, child support, whatever they can get And then they're out, they're off onto the next But it's self-destructive It doesn't lead anywhere good So when you look at it, what would lead them somewhere good? It's quite clearly If they did the exact opposite If instead of bringing you down, they empowered you It's clearly clear It's clearly they didn't target you for nothing They targeted you because In that moment they believed that you were the best option for them They believed that it wasn't going to get any better than that So if they had just stuck by you and empowered you They had supported you, they had nurtured you They had been there for you Then you could have become A much greater version of yourself Things could have been so much better for you And what they don't understand a lot of times Is that if things are better for you, things are better for them Except they can't even see that because Deep down they know they don't deserve to be around you anyway They already know they're going to end up weighing you down They're going to be burning you out And then you're going to get fed up Or maybe they just might get bored So they don't really see any point in doing that When in actuality if you look at it That would be the best option for them And it's the best option for anyone If you really want to be around someone Who is on a higher level than you They're greater, they're superior in performance Then you need to be prepared to listen to them Yes, you have to submit to their authority And let them lead you Because they know better They've been there, they've done it And I know that myself and my own experience Of course I didn't just learn everything about narcissism overnight I researched, I studied From people who are far more intelligent Far more educated than I am And that's how I became who I am today From watching other YouTubers From studying and researching From the psychologists That's just the way that things are supposed to work Otherwise things never would have worked out for me on YouTube If instead Of listening To what the doctors and psychologists have to say about it I just went and started making things up on my own But then aside from that Of course I have my own personal experience as well So that counts for something too But what I'm really talking about is Relationships and how you should be working as a team You should be cooperating But because they're so competitive They're so envious and jealous They're very insecure They think they can be better than you When they just have to let go of their ego And accept why they targeted you They targeted you because they believed you were better That's why they put you in a pedestal in the beginning So of course you should have had the authority You should have been the leader I'm not saying that you should have seen them as any less For a person Or not treated them as your equal But you've just got to accept That when there's two people together Or even a group of people And one person Is superior in qualification Abilities, skills, knowledge and experience Yes that person needs to be in charge That person needs to be dominant They need to be the leader They need to make the majority of the decisions Otherwise it's not going to lead anywhere good Some people just don't want to accept that And if you don't want to accept it You're not going to get much out of it You're going to have to settle for the crumbs Rather than the loaf But this is just how it is Narcissists they have too much ego and pride This false sense of satisfaction in themselves This is exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance To where they don't just want to sit down and listen When the reality is that yes that is exactly What they need to do Not just so they can be a better person for you But also so they can create a better life for themselves Because I know that I've seen it in my own experience so many times And it's not just in my own past relationships I've seen it in family, I've seen it in friends I've even seen it in the workplace Some people they lack the knowledge, the skills that they experience The ability And they just don't want to listen They don't want to follow anyone else's lead And it's because they have too much ego and pride And that never leaves them anywhere good in the end They just end up destroying everything around them And in the end they even end up destroying themselves And yes this is known By many psychologists This is commonly Accepted to be true By people who are professionals, experts in narcissism We know that yes Narcissism is self-destructive It is not self-empowering It never leads to long-term success It never does I've never seen a single situation where it has And I don't think anyone else has either And not only that but anyone Who follows a narcissist's lead They follow their dominance, their authority They submit to their will I've never heard of any situation In my five years of research And a lifetime of experience Not even one situation where that has led The target To a more favourable or beneficial result Their lives always deteriorated It always got worse Every time There is no one who has ever come on my channel With 165,000 subscribers Over 40 million views There is no winning with a narcissist With someone who's only thinking about themselves There is no winning with a narcissist With someone who's only thinking about themselves Someone who lacks empathy They're not thinking about the future They're not thinking about a family or their children There is no success in that There never is There never was, there never has been So there's not going to be any success in that now And we only have to look back to see that It's always been that way Any form of narcissism Any form of conflict Where there's no resolution, there's no understanding Every time it leads To A great deal of loss and destruction And you would think that by now this would be common sense And no, it's not just loss and destruction to the victim or target It's to the narcissist, the perpetrator is as well And it has always been this way But I actually believe that some of them already know Yes, they know that they are destroying themselves as well Because a lot of narcissists, they just don't care They don't even care about themselves They will destroy themselves just to get to you It's like a suicide bomber They will come in with an explosive They will blow up themselves just to harm you Or you could be on a ship together And they will sink the ship, drown themselves Just so they know that they've drowned you That's just how crazy they are And that is what makes them very dangerous It's the fact that they don't even care about themselves So when you're around them You should know that if they don't care about themselves They will come to put you in danger and to cause you harm Because they don't even care about what happens to them They see it as though If anything goes wrong They've got their insurance plan They could just blame you They could just hold you accountable and expect you to change or fix it Which again is narcissism And whatever happens is going to be self-destructive It's going to destroy them in the end anyway So when you look at it, yes there really is A clear lack of not only empathy But emotional intelligence as well A lot of them really are stupid Because if they were smart they would not do that They would be thinking about the consequences, the future They would be realising that Holding everyone else accountable And not taking accountability themselves And responding to the best of their ability Yes of course that immediately puts them at a disadvantage But this is just what narcissists do It is self-destructive It will destroy them in the end It may look like they're winning now It may look like they've moved on They got away with it They got one over on you They manipulated, they lied, they future faked They used and abused you They gaslit you But it will all affect them in the end It always does every time And they never learn They just go around doing the same things To everyone they encounter And just that lack of accountability It's what destroys them in the end Or they treat you a certain way And they think they can do that to someone else But not everyone responds the same way Not everyone will tolerate and accept the things that you did So yes All very important things to be aware of It's really what they do They shoot themselves in the foot They hang themselves And sometimes they don't even see it coming They don't even see what they do Because they're so fixated on you They're just so envious and jealous and competitive It's all about just trying to destroy you They don't even see what they're doing to themselves But there really is nothing you can tell them There really is nothing you can do All they're ever going to do is just think about themselves And whatever they think is going to put them in a better position Not realizing that Yes, there's lack of accountability and empathy That is what sets them up to fail It is what destroys them in the end Which is why I do and as I have always done I do always promote empathy and compassion I promote for people to be considerate Of other people's feelings and needs Instead of only thinking about themselves Because that's what I really want for the world Is to be more empathic Because by doing that it makes it a better place for all of us And do you realize this if you have emotional intelligence Do you know that this is true? Unfortunately it is something that narcissists Will never learn or never care about They will just keep doing the same thing And one day it will really affect them As for us What I recommend and what I continue to promote Is that Despite what you go through Despite what they do to you You don't just lay down and give up You take accountability for where you find yourself You continue to respond to things that are within your control You can't control everything outside of you You can't control what other people do But that's just it Life Is 10% of what happens to you And 90% how you respond to it So respond to things in a way that Protects and empowers you And prevents you from getting caught up in the same situations again It's really the key to success Accountability Responding to the best of your ability I mean all you've got to do Is look at anyone Who is living a difficult life Anyone who is going through a lot of things They're not where they want to be They're not happy Do you really think those people have responded To the best of their ability? Do you really think that those people Didn't have opportunities In their past Where they could have achieved something great They could have established a meaningful relationship With someone Of course yes We've all had opportunities in our lives And at times maybe we didn't respond To the best of our ability Or maybe we got manipulated We got deceived Because of course yes that happens as well We think we found something good And we do respond to it efficiently But then we ended up getting tricked Used Deceived Is the problem with a lot of people today They think the world is unfair They blame everyone else While they may have had all of the opportunities In the world They didn't choose those opportunities though They didn't respond To the best of their ability And if they did Then maybe they wouldn't be In the same predicaments and circumstances That they are now in And that's not just me Picking on people Because no I'm saying this to educate people And not only that I'm saying it because of course I can recognise that myself In my own life Of course there were situations Where I had choices And I made the wrong choice There were situations Where I did not respond To the best of my ability And then I had to deal with the consequences So yes this is something We all need to educate ourselves on We all need to be aware of it Because a lot of times yes That is what we do We could have picked a completely different situation A different opportunity But we chose to Go along with the narcissist We gave them a chance We overlooked the red flags When there could have been A much better situation for us But it's because we follow these patterns Of behaviour from our childhood That's what led us into it So yes I know it's not always something That people want to hear Of course I understand that as well If you've been through it You might be going through it right now They're doing all of these things to you Maybe the last thing you want to hear Is for someone to come around And say You just need to look at yourself You need to take accountability Because of course I know That's not going to change them We can't control other people Or what they do But remember yes we can Hopefully we can control How we respond to it Because yes I understand A lot of narcissists They engage in black magic Witchcraft Mind control So not only in those situations You can't control what they do It's like at times You can't even control yourself It's like you don't even have free will Because you're under their control You can't even make your own choices And decisions And the odds are that yes In a lot of situations If they were not present If they were not there You may have made a very different choice And it may have led you to a better result So yes But just understand Narcissism it is Self destructive The way that they're self absorbed They lack empathy They're just all about themselves All about these ideas in their minds These delusions Which they're constantly trying to project On to other people All of these things They don't lead them anywhere good They just end up destroying themselves And I hope that does bring people some comfort In knowing that In being aware of it They don't just get away with it It doesn't matter what they do to you They may do all of these things But it always catches up with them in the end These actions These patterns of behavior Yes they do lead them somewhere And it's not anywhere positive or good And I'm not just talking about in the next life I'm talking about in this one as well I can hear the crickets' own side You know I do love the sound of nature It's very peaceful out here I just enjoy being alone with myself My own thoughts and ideas That's what's very empowering for me But yes I do hope that you got something out of this video I hope that it brings you Come forth Come forth It brings you Comfort in knowing That they don't just get away with what they did to you It does catch up to them in the end Well for us We can take accountability We can recognize that At least maybe some of us We could have made a different choice or decision There could have been some other alternative Something else that we could have done A way out of the situation Of course yes I know I understand That is not the case for all of us Those of us who are under Extreme control You're condensed, you're contained There isn't really Too much you can do in those situations All you can really do is be aware If you can Just stay down Lay low And then just make your exit plan And leave at the earliest opportunity But yes I do hope this video was helpful And if it was you can show your support down below By giving this video a thumbs up You can leave your thoughts in the comment section as well I do read your comments every day Share the video Hit that subscribe button down below as well And the bell icon to receive All of the notifications for my future videos And if you'd like to talk to me one on one That service is 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