 Hi, she was seven. I'm bad. How are you? Okay? So today I want to talk to you guys about looking pulled together. Okay, this is a very important factor when you are Single and you're trying to find a man who's financially stable or wealthy You have to look pulled together. You can't look like a hot mess Okay, if you go out looking like a hot mess if you turn into a hot mess after You know, you've been out and about keep some things with you to kind of freshen up look nice and whatever whatever You know, they make portable and travel-sized things now so that you can keep looking your best when you're out and about Okay, for example a few things you can kind of use To keep your look in place or you know yourself looking pulled together for a long period of time You know certain makeups waterproof makeups use primers Powder and like lipsticks with staying power that don't come off That way, you know every time, you know, you step out after you eat after you drink something You're still looking really pulled together. Okay? Another thing is your hair, you know a lot of women they have a hairstyle and when it gets hot or when they You know are doing a lot of activities it gets messed up So try to find a haircut or a hairstyle or something that stays Pretty much in place or that it can easily be put back in place after you know a lot of activity You know curls are easy because all you got to do is spray them with some You know leaving conditioner or some sheen or whatever and you know put some water on it and they're back in place You know Hair that's straight pretty much you just call it and brush it and it's done But if you have like us, you know some type of hairdo That's that needs a lot of maintenance and upkeep and it just looks crazy if you don't curl it or if you don't flat iron or whatever Try to carry some type of portable Device with you that have the little mini flat irons and the little mini curling irons now that are battery operated You can just get in your car and spruce yourself up. Okay, and before you go to the next Place, you know what I'm saying? So keep those things with you. I have a bag in the backseat I mean the in the trunk of my car that Has all my stuff in it that I need if I you know if I'm caught and I have to get ready real fast or if Like I need extra shoes or something like that if I'm wearing flats And I'm invited to somewhere where I have to wear heels. I have heels on my back Back of my car. I have you know Perfume like stuff like that a brush. So just keep like a little emergency kit in your car For things like that because if you're going out and someone invites you out You don't have time to drive all the way back home or you don't have time to go shopping buy you a pair of shoes You have heels in the back of your seat. Okay. Keep saying seat. I have like an SUV So the trunk is like the in the back. Okay, whatever So in the back So, yeah, you want to keep that? Back down. Okay. Also to stay pulled together. You need clothes that fit Okay, don't keep buying clothes that are a size too small if you're afraid You know to buy that your current size or a size even bigger sometimes buying a size bigger It doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna look bad. It means you're gonna look more classy and Things aren't pulling and you don't see all these bulges and stuff like that if you're you know If you're a little bit bigger so buy things either one size up or That actually fit you and don't try to squeeze into stuff because that looks cheap and trashy Okay, so stop trying to squeeze into stuff It does not look good. Okay, and people do not approach Women who look uncomfortable in their clothing. Okay, so That's another tip. Okay, and Also, you know your nails already talked about this, you know, clean nice nails, you know, simple is always best I Know a lot of men say that they like their women to have their Toes done so a get a pedicure if you're gonna be wearing sandals put on some lotion And you know dress nice Don't go out the house looking bad, I know I've done this video, but it is very important I see when I go out I see men I see what they look at they don't look at certain women because they're too much or They're not pulled together and they just don't get the attention that they're looking for because they don't They're not dressing for the role, you know what I'm saying when I'm at when I met my husband I was dressed really classy Because I was going to work and I was you know, I worked in a funeral home And you know when you work in a funeral home, you got to wear nice clothes That's why everyone thinks funeral directors are rich because they're always dressed up But honestly, it's just like you have to wear nice clothes because you're always either going to a funeral Or a wake or something like that. So you're always pulled together. So You know, he approached me. I was very pulled together, you know, very nice looking had makeup Black little skirt suit on a really cute top necklace, you know Small earrings just very pulled together and professional and he just came right up to me You know, he was actually talking to another girl and I walked in and he he just stopped talking to her Mid-conversation and just made his way over to me. Okay, because when I walked in I looked successful I look like I had myself in order. I look like, you know, I was wife material So and when you go out, you don't look like whole material Don't look like sleep with me tonight material look like wife material because that's what the man are going to see you know, uh, If you're a man if the man that's out is looking for a hoe He's gonna go for the hoe if the man who's looking for a wife is out there He's not gonna pay attention to the hoe. He's gonna be attention to the wife type lady So you want to come in looking like If you wife me, you're gonna be Very happy People are gonna give you compliments, you know, you're gonna look good with me You know, our kids are gonna look good and pull together, you know When you dress clean and nice and you look very pulled together People automatically assume you're clean. You're high. You're hygienic. Your car is clean. Your house clean Your body's clean. You have your life in order. You have goals People automatically associate that with how pulled together. You look okay so They also Feel like you're classy and you don't come with a lot of drama. So they're automatically attracted to you So we have to get out of this You know too trendy too tight clothes showing everything look okay That's for teenagers and that's for young adults who are just about clubbing when you get over a certain age You got to dress to impress you have to dress classic You can't you know, you can't just throw on anything and roll up the house and expect men to drool over you Okay, you gotta you got to put in the effort and if you don't you're gonna see a lot of men pass you by Or only talk to you for the wrong reasons and then you know They might they might hit it and quit it and then not call you back and then maybe next week You find out there with a new girl and oh, oh, they're getting engaged. Oh Well, he why he break up with me and then all of a sudden get engaged to this other girl Because they were wife material and you weren't you were saved this place until my wife arrives That's why when a man meets a woman whose wife material and he's messing with someone who's not wife material He will cut that off and go and be with the other girl quick And they'll probably be married sooner than you ever thought because when a man sees that in quality and a woman He doesn't wait for other men to take her away from him He knows that there's lots of competition and he tries to seal the deal as soon as possible If your man is not trying to steal the deal as soon as possible You know after you've been together at least at least a year or two then He probably is like holding out, you know, I Say never to wait more than five years to get married if you've waited over five years It ain't happening Unless you like force him so, you know be Wife material when you go out the house if you are looking for a husband Always be wife material now I know there's gonna be some days you can't dress up and you're like I'm just I don't feel good I'm not putting on all that stuff today I'm not doing it. Okay. Well when you do walk out your house Make sure your clothes are cleaned that they fit and they're not too tight If you're gonna wear sweats or something like that get you some nice sweats that are classic or classy you know, maybe something from pink or Victoria's Secrets or You know, just a really nice set of sweats so that you just don't look like you rolled out of the back, you know Of someone's truck, you know, or you just got through walking You know your dogs and sweating and stuff like that Look pulled together, you know, you're comfortable your classy put on some nice sandals or some nice flip-flops that are like pretty Make sure your sweats are clean and classic and like maybe a name brand or something like that Throw you some nice sunglasses on put some lipstick on and you're good You know, you don't have to look like some of these ladies in the grocery store look house shoes on hair bonnets and I Don't know what they I don't know clothes that come in their size, but that don't mean you need to wear Okay, don't go out of the house looking like that. Okay, I know a lot of people just don't care But people will judge you on your appearance, you know, they will treat you totally different than they treat the next person I mean, you might have money you might have a good job But if you walk out the house looking like that, you're gonna get treated the opposite, you know There is this There's this thing called the halo effect Now if you want to be liked and if you want to be noticed and you want men to be attracted to you Your appearance always has to be a one when you go anywhere you get special treatment You get free stuff you get discounts you get coupons you get You know everything when you're attractive and appealing pull together looking good. Okay, rather than looking trashy Ashy and a hot mess. You don't get nothing but ignored, you know, so the halo effect is basically a psychological Phenomenon where people are going to give more To those who are more pulled together and attractive rather than someone who's less attractive or doesn't put a lot of effort into their appearance they've done a study that attractive people or pull together people get less time in You know when they're sentenced they also have done a study where they're People who are more attractive and well put together get raises and promotions faster than those who don't and they also earn more money so You know, they get married faster in life and you know, they're taken more seriously they're more likely to get alone, you know things like that so Pull yourself together like don't leave the house looking a hot mess Wondering why this person doesn't talk to you anymore doesn't want to be with you anymore because they found someone Who fits the characteristics of the qualities that they want and a wife, okay? Men are mostly about looks and how you look and how people perceive you and how good you make them look So if you're looking trashy, you know, just at any time even around the house You know when they come home, they don't want to come home to something ugly and trashy or Looking like you just rolled out the bed fix yourself up. Okay, that is very important. I guarantee you If you fix yourself up or it looked good every day that you walk out the house For a month straight, you will see the difference and how you're treated Free stuff that you get men who are attracted to you the type of man that will will approach you, okay? You will see you dress classy and none of them tight clothes, you know look good You'll see that certain man won't even try to approach you anymore Only financially stable man will approach a woman who looks financially stable because they figure Okay, she's on my level and that's another thing about halo effect When you're on the same level as someone or you have the same interest as someone or you're in the same Circle as someone you're even more attracted to them than you are of somebody who is not Okay Mentally, you know spiritually and physically, you know when you're not on that same level There's less attraction and there's less You know interaction so you like they say dress for the job you want Dress for the position you want dress as a wife, you know And that is the kind of attention that you will receive You're not going to be getting attention from people that are going to waste your time Only serious men will approach a woman who is very well put together. You know what I mean? so y'all remember that and You know y'all just you know have fun when you're dating have fun when you're going out, but remember if you're over 25 You know and you're looking to get married soon or looking for that long-term relationship Make sure you your wardrobe reflects that, you know, I know a lot of girls who are you know They they turn, you know 30 and they're still dressing like they're 21 You know it, you know, you can look good in the face You can still dress young and classy, but once you reach a certain age and you're looking for a husband He's not going to wife someone who has breasts hanging out or who's showing everything because he already knows that you Your body is for everyone to see And a husband and men are very territorial So they're not going to wife the woman with stuff hanging out. They're going to wife the woman with stuff covered up because He can bring her to his mom's to meet him You know her he can bring her around his family He can bring her around his friends and boobs aren't hanging out for his friends to you know Oh my god, you know to get aroused by so when you dress like that You're attracting only men who want to sleep with you When you dress classy, you are dressing for men to get to know you better Okay up here Because there's nothing up down here to look at, you know, you guys stay up here Okay, and they they will take you more seriously They will trust you more, you know things like that. So y'all remember that A lot of guys have told me That um, they wish I wasn't married because I would make the perfect wife and I'm like you just don't know You can I say well Thank you. That's a compliment, you know Um, they they say oh you just look so nice and you know pretty and You know like everything is, you know Happy in your life. You just look so good. You just look so nice and it's not in a sexual way. It's like I admire how you take care of yourself type of way, you know what I'm saying And they never believe how old I am like when I tell them my age they think I'm like way younger And I don't dress trashy and you know full of trendy stuff showing off my body either Um, they think they they automatically think I have some type of career or I'm a professional something something because I'm always pulled together Um, but really I'm you know, I just do this But I look Successful and I look attractive and that's what I'm going to attract when I go out, you know So ladies remember You know, you don't have to be rich you don't have to break the bank Just buy things that look nice on you that fit you and that you know Makes you look more valuable. Okay as a as a wife. All right, so I'll see you later. Bye