 When you're really kind of here, but you're not quite there you're gonna be kind of between its incongruent social behaviors now in this one Off on the friend zone. It's sexually based, isn't it? People in the friend zone are not comfortable with their sexuality projecting themselves escalating understanding and receiving IOI's It's gonna be kind of creepy when they try stuff. All right, and we know it. We've all felt it interestingly enough down here with fuck buddies They exist too We're not nearly as Cognizant of it, but if you if you are in and around that area, you know people that are like that One night stands all of a sudden awkward. Do you leave before you stay do you wake up with them? Do you dare ask what do you want for breakfast? It's gonna be fucking awkward. All right, because you haven't done your homework. You haven't prepared yourself It's in between. They haven't had a whole lot of social things. Those things haven't been covered All right, and this this is a harsh place a lot of people live here a lot of people live here and don't know it a Lot of people live here and don't know what to do This is a realm of women's magazines, how do you like that one? This is the realm of women's magazines This is the market. They're selling to Women that can't find a decent guy and don't understand why here's a pacifier At first glance we're gonna be doing three things I have two examples here somebody stuck in the friend zone somebody that's a fuck buddy. All right identify where you're at That's the first thing we're gonna do the second one in both cases We're gonna actually pick a single point. This is where they want to end up All right smack dab in the middle of the dating zone. That's fucking awesome. It's a sweet area. All right We're gonna investigate it later, but this is where they're wanting to end up now The simple process is between two points the shortest distance is a straight line. All right for these people over here All they have to do is amp up the biological factors You just take this area right here from here to there is a straight line This is telling you vector-wise you need to add biological factors these traits to this level Likewise this individual here needs to add pro-social behaviors to that degree To get there You know where you're at where you want to go and to how much and how degree Not only that based on our destination We have a kind of a sense of how long it's going to take us to get there You should be able to do this calculation really quickly in your head It's not particularly hard. You don't have to be super accurate. You just kind of know All right Now let's look at the guys in the friend zone specifically. What can we really look at this again? These people are here for a reason They're lacking all the biologically indicators that would make them a successful and Appropriate mate. All right. They score low on the physicality They physically are not representative of somebody you want to be in a relationship with Socially they don't have standing they lack confidence. All right. Everybody talks about confidence Let's talk about the opposite. How about uncertainty? How fucking sexy is uncertainty? You want to invest your resources in that you want to engage in that are you cool with being uncertain? I'm not First rule of business if you're uncertain about yourself, I'm uncertain about you All right, they like that second one is the last one is sexually They don't believe they believe they don't believe they belong over here They're being held back and they're holding themselves back intentionally so Because they're not developing the skills they're gonna put them here sexually They don't know how to it to receive or send sex Signals of interest indicators of interest. They also don't know how to escape. These are skills that can be taught and taught rather well All right now. We also have to realize we have an obstacle stand in our way. That's creeping this factor Okay, you're gonna have to plow through that one way or another is going to have to be a considerable energy to go through that This isn't just a planar element. This is an obstacle. You're gonna have to prepare yourself and in our journey When do we come across that are? At the very fucking beginning there it is right at the beginning if You are gonna go on this change if this is where you're at and you're gonna go into the dating market Understand your biggest obstacle starts immediately. You've got to go through this mountain pass. All right prepare yourself develop the momentum Motivate yourself, but recognize you're gonna have to do this All right Now on the flip side we have this folks these folks here These are people that are stuck being rotated out These are people that are sexually active and cannot maintain relationships and they're suffering for it They want to get to the same place the other folks that are the prime spot of the dating market. Okay, they too face the same challenges It is going to be awkward for them to start initiating Human contact and developing rapport to expressing intimacy to do developing those bonds. It is foreign to them They don't have practice Okay, their challenges begin immediately as well And by the way the work they have to do will be as much as the other side Okay, it's the same amount of workload just in a different direction Okay We also recognize that narcissism reigns here. Okay, we talked about psychopathic and sociopathic narcissism reigns here Why why does narcissism reign here and not somewhere else? I'm gonna tell you it's because it's a biological factor Narcissism is a short-term mating strategy. I already told you short term mating strategy And it's a highly successful Nature fucking doesn't care Okay, that you're a narcissist Nature doesn't care that you're self-centered self-interested nature just wants you to breathe nature just wants you to replicate any way possible murder rape infecite cuckolder cheating Nature doesn't care What else we know about narcissism? Naturally it peaks at adolescence The most narcissistic individuals you'll come across naturally will be teenagers and it's natural The problem is in our society. We've delayed adolescence We've promoted it and by such we've also promoted and fueled How's that reflected in our society? Why does narcissism system exist? Why is it in adolescence not somewhere else? That's your peak fertility This is when nature wants you to breed Nature wants you to breed when you're most selfish and it has that as a tool Understand you're gonna be fighting nature. These people are doing something the people in the friend zone or not People in the friend zone are fighting social levels. These people are fighting biology Keep that in mind. All right, maybe these people deserve a little more compassion than we go All right, but beware of the monsters they exist Okay What's fearful for me about a lot of this is that not only is narcissism peaking in adolescence Okay, and it's a short term mating strategy But most people's social skills stop at this period of time as well People at the high school education have how high the social skill level Not pretty high Even if you go into school college or university and further on how much social skills are you getting? very little People don't know what most of the social skills are they don't work at them They definitely don't work on management ability. We avoid it. We avoid what we don't like we avoid the things that make us uncomfortable We don't have a culture of embracing the things that challenge us that make us uncomfortable to challenge the comfort zone Because that's where growth occurs. It's when you're challenged. All right, so keep that in mind as well All right that the apex for this is at a very low level for social skills It's why I believe that you need to be continuously improving your social skills. Here's why Now this let's analyze this for a moment. All right, and we're gonna we're gonna divide this based on genders Women live here primarily. Okay. We know this culture. That's kind of a myth, but it's true Not quite true. This is a hot or not scale. All right This is why I know that hot or not isn't the only criteria All right, we have four different individuals lined up here and their sole response for getting a relationship for finding what they want marriage in this case they apply what skills if Your only game you have is how hot or you are you're gonna be pushing this vector Right here That's awesome. They're gonna be hotter. They're more desirable everything else promise only these individuals are actually relationship potentials This is when you're getting tempted to date these people these people here Nobody wants to be in relationship with them and they're not All right, there's a harsh reality here in the market set the markets are responding If you're not in relationship and you're just focused on it on beauty and attraction You're not gonna get here You can't get there by doing this You have to develop social skills to get there All right That's harsh. We also know that people actually go through a cycle of failures It's not working for replace the guy You heard a couple other speakers already talking about that all they do is a revolving cast of characters and in response It's not just a revolving cast of characters. These people here develop lists The next guys got to do this the next guys got to do this at no point Do they ever take in consideration what they're bringing to the table their faults? There's no agency here They're not taught agency. They're not expected to understand that they're not supposed to be accountable Now I said that initially that these people here are mostly women It's not true That's not the dangerous one. It's annoying. It's annoying as fuck. It's not dangerous one Men live here, too Because this isn't just a hot or not scale This is the alpha scale You're either dominant or you're not You're there alpha or you're not What happens when we live on the scale? What happens when men have only a single response socially to the conditions in which they're facing? We've seen these guys. They're monsters. They're physical. They're prime specimens You sit down and say this is the human ideal physically not only that they know it they present themselves that way Sexually they're all over it. These are guys that will cross the room bust up a gaggle of women and grab the chick that he wants Okay We know these guys they actually manifest that they project it these are the guys are gonna have the tattoos on their neck Okay, these are the guys that alpha is an alpha enough Okay, you know, you think I'm kidding you think I'm kidding you think I'm kidding. I'm not Every response to these guys is more fucking alpha Where does that get you? It gets you way over here It will But what happens in society when alpha is not enough? Yes How about how about an example and I'm gonna put myself out there because this guy ever gets released from jail He's coming at me come on the stage my man Awesome Introducing you and I can't wait to watch what you got My name is Socrates and I am here to champion a cause It is a cause and also a pathway that has been terribly degraded and Demised in recent times. It is also a pathway and a destination that I hope Changes in our society, but at this time in life in where we live it is immensely a dangerous environment And I don't mean it facetiously. I mean it is terribly a risky endeavor I'm not talking about a we know somebody who's out of control. Okay, we know somebody who's just not Physically a specimen of the human species. We want to put forward they know it Okay, not only that honest on a social level. They don't have the social skills available as well They are not projecting those elements of worth and value and standing within our society That's true. Not quite true. This is a hot or not scale All right, and this is why I know that hot or not isn't the only criteria All right we have four different individuals lined up here and their sole response for getting a relationship for finding what they want marriage in this case They apply what skills? If your only game you have is how hot are you are you're gonna be pushing this vector Right here That's awesome. They're gonna be hotter. They're more desirable everything else Problem is only these individuals are actually relationship potentials. This is when you're getting tempted to date these people these people here Nobody wants to be in relationship with them and they're not All right, there's a harsh reality here in the markets at the markets are responding If you're not in relationship and you're just focused on beauty and attraction You're not gonna get here You can't get there by doing this You're gonna be highly amplify your physical presence All right, think about that for a second. You're gonna highly amplify your physical being Then you're gonna act in a hyper dominant way Traditionally this is the traditional form not only that you're gonna get aggressive sexually Let's put all that together really quick Over amplify your physical presence getting socially dominant and aggressive and sexually domineering With people that are not dialed in socially Anybody see a problem happening here? Anybody see a train wreck? Are sure as hell do All right, it's not just a train wreck. Let's talk about their clientele What are you going through because that's the only thing you guys really care about you really don't care about that What ends up happening there? You actually care about your experience. What are you gonna go through? You're gonna go through initially a very creepy phase You put in a little bit of effort. You're gonna be a creepy fucking dude You only put in a small amount of effort you are gonna be creepier than fuck Okay Just being honest now nice. There's a there's a degree of a preview here. See that enjoy it That is beautiful You're good enough the way you are you just need to be more beautiful remember that sliding bar You just need to be more beautiful not virtuous more beautiful. What are the women magazines push? Beauty or virtue Product that's right. They're not pushing virtue This sucks if you're a woman in your average it sucks to be you talking to you All right, what do you do? You better woman the fuck up Really you need to focus on virtue and learn those skills and apply those skills Otherwise You're here. Let's take it a step further. Let's talk about the guys now average guy