 Hi y'all, she was sitting yes, I have all my antlers because it is December and I just Feel like wearing some antlers. Okay so Yes, I have my Christmas tumbler Okay Spending the holidays if you're single how to spend the holidays if you're single, okay? because I know a lot of People are single and they start feeling bad this time of year. So I just want to tell y'all it's okay I remember when I was single during the holiday season. I had so much fun. I didn't even realize I was single You know why? Because all my friends were single my sister was single Well, some of the years And we just used to hang out and have fun go to movies go to dinner parties Christmas parties Clubs, this is when I was younger y'all and I would just not even think about being single because I would be having so much fun Meeting so many people. I will be dating because I wasn't really attached to anyone so I could go out on dates I could go walk around the mall for hours Try on stuff You know stuff like that and it was just I didn't get stuck in that moment thinking oh, I'm so single I'm so single. I'm so single. I Wish I had this I wish I had that party on me adjust this lighting because there we go so If you're starting to feel that holiday drag Go do something fun. Go get some champagne and invite your girlfriends over and have ladies night and watch movies Like if you're not a club person like you don't like going out Or if you don't have a lot of money to spend or you just not in a part of the city where you know stuff like that is available Have a girl's night in and do like You know Play truth or dare Get some good chick flicks Maybe Like a lot of women know how to do nails some know how to do hair Y'all could have like a spa hookup party and it's like one girl who knows how to do nails would do everyone's nails and One girl who knows how to do hair. Well, well, that's a lot of work, but Maybe she could like help someone do one of their hair So and then just you know trade secrets and say, you know what works for you What works for me because you would be surprised at how much you can learn from other women what works and what doesn't work Okay, and if you have it like that and you have some money that you can spare Like you could hire someone to come in and do like manicures and pedicures just for the little spa party And make it like a holiday theme spa party So you won't even be thinking about a man You'd be like so wrapped up in yourself and your friends and Looking cute and stuff like that and you'll start to feel a lot better about yourself And you won't even be feeling like you're lacking anything because you're really not You are you were born with everything that you need, you know We just feel like we need a partner because it's pushed so much in society, but really you don't really need a partner You just want to share your world with someone and you want to you know Be With someone who appreciates you who spoils you and all that kind of stuff But you really don't need a person, you know a lot of people just want a person and that's fine But if you're not in the place right now where you're going to have a boyfriend this season focus on your friends focus on yourself focus on your Beauty focus on you know fun things and These will be in your memory forever because if you ever do settle down and get me or you're gonna be Remembering back on the past and all the fun you had when you were single now if you can't do that then It's not gonna be any fun to sit there reminisce. We have nothing to reminisce about so make your single life fun Don't make it all about I need a man. Oh, I'm looking for a man. I'm so Tired and sad and bored make it fun make it memorable make it so that when you get with your sisters or your girls or Whatever y'all can see remember that time when we had that party and we watched like a marathon of Girlfriends or sex in the city and it was so funny and we got drunk and we were laughing and We did our you know nails and woke up with you know Nail polish all over our hair, you know something stupid, you know But it will be a memory to cherish and you would see your single life not as a time of lack But as a time of fun and you know good times So if y'all are gonna feel those holiday blues and like you're all alone and blah blah blah blah Have a party throw yourself a party. Who cares, you know, I I'm not one to do that But my sister is y'all she would throw herself in a party in a second But you know when she was single she would be the queen of throwing parties She would just throw a party just because it was Thursday, you know And it wasn't just a you know a party. It was like she had you know nice champagne food Music it was it was like It was cool. So you also would be into, you know, planning a party your mind would not be on anything. Okay, so Try that if y'all are getting those single blues get together With a bunch of other girls who you think feel the same way and just throw yourself a big party And guys, I know y'all can like throw a lots of parties this time of year because there's lots of sports, you know Guys get together with your with your guy friends and go watch sports at a sports bar Invite them over order some pizzas or if y'all can cook in the kitchen cook or whatever Have everybody bring some drinks and y'all just party to y'all don't need to worry about all the stressful things This time of year this time of year is is for enjoying So if you're not hooked up if you don't want to get hooked up if you're in that place right now Or you're just not gonna have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and you just want to chill and not have the pressure of the holidays on you And having a girlfriend or a boyfriend then just throw a big party and party and Absorb all that good holiday energy through your friends You don't need to be attached romantically romantically to anyone to feel like you are someone okay Now I know all of my videos. I say, oh, well you need to do this You need to do that to get a man or get a woman blah blah blah. Yeah, that's fine Everybody knows that but this time of year, let's just chill and relax and enjoy. I mean If you don't have a man by now, it's almost Christmas a you're probably not gonna get one cuz he's gonna save that money on his Chris on buying a Christmas gift or B, he's gonna come at you right after Christmas. You might get them for New Year's if you're lucky, okay? And I know a lot of the side chicks out there are being very neglected right now Don't lose hope y'all The holiday season is a lesson for side chicks It puts things into perspective as to why you don't want to be a side chick for the rest of your life Okay, because it's gonna be a lonely lonely holiday season year after year. Okay? Believe me when I say if you're a side chick And you've accepted your side chick status. You can't be mad You can't be mad this time of year you got to go and find something to do With your friends go to the movies go shopping do whatever you need to do but don't get depressed about the decision that you made Okay Because you know you're a side chick don't be mad if The man doesn't want to spend his holidays with you because you are the side chick He doesn't spend holidays with side chicks. He spends holidays with his family Now I don't have anything against side chicks for real like I really don't I'm just saying y'all can't get mad when you Chose that lifestyle, you know, if you want to have the man for the main holiday Then get a man who's not going to ask you to be a side chick. Okay? I think most women have been a side chick once in their life, maybe I don't know I know I have once and I Didn't know I was and then I found out I was like Side chick. Oh, I'll get it. I guess I get it. Get me a side, dude. I Was already I was already corrupted back then y'all so don't even bother and The funny thing is my side dude became my boyfriend and I dumped The guy who had me as the side chick. It was crazy. Okay. This is back before I met my husband So I was dating this guy and he was fun And I don't I don't know if he had a side chick. I think he did but I'm not sure I don't know if I Know I'm getting all these people confused. Okay Okay, I was dating this guy and I felt like I was a side chick because He was his family was really well off and he was like pot say And How much time do I have let me see I can tell the story. Okay. Yeah, he was fancy. Oh, he was fancy He was gorgeous. This is one of the guys you go for for the looks. Okay, this guy was like a male model Okay, and his family was rich I'm not gonna say what his family did because it might be too easy to figure out but Yeah, I think I was his side chick for a little a little second and it was around the holiday season, too And I was like, you know what I Don't think I can do this anymore. And we had just started dating, too. He was like, what do you mean? I was like, I Just don't feel like This is real. He's like, what do you mean? It's not real. I was like, I think I'm a side chick He looked at me crazy. I was like Because I I Just felt that I'm very intuitive and so it ended up being true. So I kind of dumped him and then He kept calling me and calling me and I was like, I didn't answer and I deleted them off of you know my phone and everything and It was it was so funny because you wouldn't expect a woman to dump someone that rich and that Attractive but I don't do side chicks stuff. Like I'm not such a I would never be the side chick ever ever ever ever that was I Insulting to me like I couldn't do it because I I think too highly of myself and the reason I'm laughing is because He was actually surprised because I guess he has a lot of women that will just be his side chick because he had money And he was cute, but I was like, mm-hmm And I'm stuck here with you being your side chick I could be missing out on somebody with more money than you and that looks better than you and that's gonna make me the Main chick. I'm not I'm not gonna waste my time being a side chick for you The side chick does not get the benefits. The wife gets the benefits. So I said bye-bye and Now fast forward what 15 years and I don't have to worry about any of that kind of stuff anymore But if I had stuck with him, who knows I might have never met my husband Would have never met my husband if I was stuck with being a side chick, okay? So y'all have to remember remember that so happy holidays to y'all throw y'all self-suffer party And Y'all have fun, you know, this is not the time of year to be down Okay, a lot of people suffer with depression this time of year. Don't fall into that trap take your vitamins Drink you some hot chocolate get you some coffee Go out walk around the mall. So get some fresh air and just have fun y'all, okay? I'm gonna see y'all later and If y'all have any video ideas for topics or questions, please put them in the comments So I could try to answer them. I'm gonna be trying I'm going to be trying to answer more questions Since I have a lot of questions in my comments. I was gonna do like a whole video of just all questions and answers But those can get pretty long. So I'm just probably gonna try to cover two questions per video so if y'all can ask a Question I might do two per video Starting with the most wild question, okay, so I'll see y'all later. Bye