 a lot of guys think that they're doing the right thing by asking the women what they want but women sometimes they like that the men can make decisions and it shows that they actually have character and they actually you know gives them that trust to be like hey you know this this guy could actually like protect me I guess in a certain way like people women like to see men that are sure of themselves so baby top tip for keeping our marriage hot hot hot hot hot hot what do we do that keeps it hot baby well I think you've mentioned many many many times that we have sex every day just one but I think when we really started doing that you started doing some things that kind of helped out with little things like loading the dishwasher putting the kids to bed doing the little things that kind of took care of me I guess and then it was almost like you realize that that really paid off so I really started you know yeah so what she's saying is that mama was ready to hand out treats when dad started helping out around the house had simple reinforcement that went a long long way guys listen to me it took me a long time I really didn't help out around the house I'd go and throw my shoes in I didn't want to do the dishes and literally I went in I started doing these things putting the kids to bed making sure that the sink was clean letting her go take a good shower boom I would come into the bedroom and oh shoot the magic was happening is that what you said yeah pretty much and the thing is and now you're looking for stuff to do which is really crazy I'm looking to get everything dirty yeah yeah you get reinforced so yeah it does help actually a lot of people take that for granted and they don't really really can appreciate that but as women we take on a lot of like the dirty little tasks that people overlook so if you want her to get super dirty get clean yeah that's a good one I like that actually all right babe so obviously we got a lot of families out here what is the the top parenting rule that me and you have well I think we made a lot of mistakes as young parents and we fall in love with our kids so much that we tend to defend them in the wrong way so when kids get very confused because they might come to one parent and they get one reaction that's a big deal to one and not to the other so they kind of like to play us so we would always like be against each other in the very beginning so we came up with a very simple rule that was like you need two yeses for a yes and you only need one no for no and if we disagree with something that our kids say we don't show them that we disagree we have a conversation about it and then we come together yeah you can never disagree in front of your kids yeah because they play you yeah yeah that was a big one so somebody would come and ask jack one of our son or a daughter would come and ask jackie and she would say no and that means we're done okay but if she says yes that means you got to come to me and also get a yes and two yeses equal yes but one no is done it also helps with the favoritism because when you have multiple children you know we have one son and two daughters you know they might get a different reaction the girls get one from dad they're like oh daddy this or that like when you have to get the two yeses they play of course you can have whatever you want and then they go to mom she didn't let that happen then our son goes to her and then she's like oh whatever you want son and then i'm like no dad says no but for my little girls yeah yeah so that rule definitely helps with the favoritism it doesn't make your children feel like they can get whatever they want and they don't play you that way but also it maintains a good relationship yeah so two yeses for a yes one no for a no all right so i wanted i want my wife to explain what were the first impressions that you had of me like what's the first thing you thought like damn like is that is that kind of what you were thinking actually no it wasn't it really wasn't because back then you had frosted tips you were very very bulky and unhealthy looking you over tanned did i have a sex back i'm just kidding no you were you were just thick and very like bulky and in big i was in bulking season is what she said but you did trick me because you did used to wear a tie and slacks all the time even though you had your frosted tips and all that but you did dress up really really nice and then you got the girl me and then you started wearing shorts and ripped stuff and all that so you did trick me four-inch inseam right here t-shirts and you were extremely cocky so it took me a little while to really understand that the real andi elliott was actually a nice guy he's very thoughtful in all of that but but yeah my first impression was not like oh yeah like it wasn't like oh my gosh like i really want to talk to andi elliott but don't let her fool you she wanted it okay i was the first girl that ever rejected you for the record that's right that was weird but it worked out really nicely and i love the new and improved andi elliott and he was worth waiting for he was worth waiting for for sure all right so a lot of people always say andi how'd you build this bad business right and actually i didn't build it my wife's actually the one that built it and by the way she looks because my wife doesn't like to take credit for anything but she actually deserves the credit because number one the culture that we have my wife has allowed us not to walk on eggshells and be around people we don't like and that was something that she put in place because as me as a sales person we've been around high achievers our whole life and some of them we liked some of them we didn't she said we're not going to be around people who aren't who we want to have around us that was something that she said that's why our culture is so amazing she had the courage to make that decision when i didn't have it hey guys what's going on it's andi a lot of you leave comments telling me that you need help do me a favor i'm gonna take the best way to get a hold of me shoot me a text message right now 918 210254 918 210254 i'll help you with whatever you need i got your back for life let's get back to the video also um how we spend our money we reinvest every dollar that we make back into our business and continue to build it right like it's just crazy jackie's actually the entire backbone of our company um she has these standards i mean literally when i say jacklyn could be in the cartel she could be the mafia she has these standards that even men don't carry and i mean like the way that she does business it's like dude we're going to do this this way we're going to run this hard we're not going to cheat we're not going to go to bed at night you know without doing the right thing and there's a reason we always talk about in cartel movies right like the men always die because the men are always like one more ride one more deal we'll see what we do jackie knows when to call it you know jackie will push it she knows when to call it yeah she's got this and i call it a motherly instinct but it's this woman instinct that's dangerous and uh anyway so that's the reason why our whole company has grown so awesome is because of her she's the ceo um she's everywhere with me everywhere we go she runs sales meetings every day but the crazy thing is the camera's always been on me but it hasn't been on her but she's actually the one doing it so if you want to know why i got so good i've got a good coach right here yeah making decisions based on money is one of the things that have uh has separated us and changed and because of it i think that we have made money because we don't make those decisions based on money we don't jump into things we actually would rather be around those good people that have the right you know intentions that actually are coachable that are good to be around that actually care about the company that actually want to be a part of a growth that actually want to pour into people in the same exact way and everything that's why i think that we have grown hasn't been because of me but that's a standard that we've allowed for sure all right baby so we got a question so what standards should should the women have for dating i think a lot of times a lot of women you know they they try to show a side of people that they aren't really or they try to just please the wrong people like they might hang around certain friends that that do certain things i think a lot of times you know as women we don't realize that what the guy is really attracted to is really who you are like being simple and really understanding who you are and what you like to do like you don't have to go and try and press everybody or try to fit in with the crowd like they're looking for somebody that's different i mean people like diversity they like different so what you're saying is whoever the hell you are like bring that to the table because being like you're everybody else it's like you're just everybody else why not choose her her her her her or the girls when they go like and have a meal sometimes they go and they order a salad because they go well i can't order a salad because i don't want to you know make my lipstick get messed up or i want to don't want to show that i eat the certain way jackie has a big cold beer and a steak i don't drink beer i'm just that's what i was but i will order the steak maybe two but i'm just saying just be who you are and the thing is that the right person is going to be attracted to who you are you don't have to pretend like you're anybody else and that'll show that other person that you have that confidence in that you love yourself because nobody can make your own decisions and you are who you are and and dude i think it's attractive when you don't need someone else right to be your identity you have your own damn identity exactly have your own identity and show that you are actually in love who you are and people are going to love people that love themselves and own because so many people once they see that somebody else likes something else my dad went 10 years eating onions with his wife without saying anything what a dumbass he should have said i don't eat onions i don't like onions but he didn't do that and after 10 years he finally told his wife i don't like onions and she would have been okay with not giving him onions that's the problem and the thing is that a lot of people don't be a don't be a pushover yeah definitely don't be a pushover well i think men a lot of people forget that you know men have to lead and sometimes like it's good women like to see men actually pick places to go like a restaurant oh we're going to go to this place they're surprised you you know like going somewhere not necessarily what would you like to do and a lot of guys think that they're doing the right thing by asking the women what they want but women sometimes they like that the men can make decisions and it shows that they actually have character and they actually you know gives them that trust to be like hey you know this this guy could actually like protect me i guess in a certain way like people women like to see men that are sure of themselves especially women that are confident they want another confident guy i think a lot of times people like think that we don't want a weenie nobody wants a weenie or maybe they do that kind of weenie and if you call it a weenie then it's not the right thing that's not yeah so andy what is one thing you can do to have a deeper connection with your spouse hot damn i've been waiting to answer this all day long all right so rule number one men women everybody listen it up all right if you want to have a deeper connection with the person that you love go get two you'll get two wine glasses get a get a big bottle of wine put it right in the middle of the table a little for her a little for you smash that fill it again or we do tequila and then and then you're going to ask your girl a simple question to say babe i need to ask you a question i need you to tell me the truth hey but you got to do it a little more central oh yeah yeah my bad hey babe i should look at me when you're telling me i need to ask you a question you can ask one or two ways am i your fantasy or or you could say babe tell me the truth because i know i'm not your fantasy because i listen to me there's lots of options it's like a buffet in this world listen to me do you have the courage to tell me let's let's get close closer than we've ever been what your fantasy is tell me i want us to trust each other and get closer let it out yeah now listen i want to tell you something right number one listen to me if you and your girl truly want to be best friends if you do that means you must know something about each other that you don't currently know okay a lot of women talk to their friends they're their best friends or husbands not but a lot of guys talk to their friends they say say things that they can't say to their wife you want a deeper connection this is your best friend me and you are best friends so we're going to i'm going to say hey babe tell me your fantasy i'm going to rephrase what you're saying because i think people can really understand take it so many different ways i think what you're trying to say is that you need to have that vulnerability with each other that you can share even the darkest deepest secrets about try you trust each other and you trust each other to do it that's how you get deeper relationships is by trusting each other so you have to tell each other something that again makes you vulnerable that makes you a little bit scared something that you probably have never told them but also you trust them not to judge you that's in case it is something crazy which i'm just saying right ideally it's allowed it's allowed to be crazy it is but it's just between you two and once you guys put that down on the table you guys take another drink and then you know what you guys do you guys sit there yeah you go have some sex and you role play no and then you laugh about it and you become best friends and you have a deeper relationship that's just one of the rules that i would tell you that's a way to get it