 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأوله الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وأشد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وأشد أن سيدنا ونبينا محمد صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بحسانين إلى يوم الدين أما بعد نحن نتحدث about أكثة طريقات في التي أكثرة أكثرة أكثرة أو أكثرة أكثرة أكثرة إن شاء الله يتعالى today we're going to go into the ninth which is الإشتغاله بما لا يعني والإنصلافه عما يعني تفهم إيجاد مؤتمر إمكاني مضوك إمكاني أن يتعلق ذلك ويطبق إيجاد ذلك يتعلق ذلك أنت تجد م許 amount of people they are very concerned and they're dwelling and discussing and talking about that which does not concern them and they leave off that which does concern them that is important for them that they should be doing they leave off those things and this is مظهر من مظاهر دنو والهما يظهر أن هذا المخصوص يوجد مخصوص بشكل جيد لأن مخصوص جيد هو أن تفوك في مواجهة أخبارك و يجد أن تكون مخصوصاً منك مخصوص جيد هو أن تكون مخصوصاً مع أخرى حيث تصميم و حيث تصميمك يجب على المكان وهذا العمل وهذا العمل هو فبولون يضيع به الإنسان وقته مت rank the most valuable thing that a person has given which is his time you're destroying that you're getting rid of time just like that and it's one of the greatest things wealth, goals and comes money you can get it if you lose it like in time that goes you can never get it back it's gone done and dusted you are no longer going to receive and get that time again so wasting it is wasting a part of yourself because all you are is time that came together that's what you are so when you waste your time in those things that don't concern you you're really in essence destroying yourself and lady who are hired to walk through the most important thing for you is your own time this shows that this person who's concerning himself with that which does not concern him and leaving off that which does concern him it shows that this person has low aspiration it shows that this person is deficient in his intellects it shows that this person has desire it does when a person is lazy from feeling his time with that which is important for him and that which will benefit him that which does concern him he goes about doing feeling his time with that which is a concern from the things that show this is that اندلجing into لحون ولعب playing around too much laughing around too much going on social media and watching small clips what they call vines the person watches a 30-second vibe or whatever seconds it takes the person is on instagram the person is on snapchat the person is on twitter persons on facebook watching all of those things all day one after the other one after the other one after the other and hours go by and if you ask him what did you do you say i i don't know i was just chilling i mean what do you mean i'm just chilling what did you do today he doesn't know لذلك this subhanallah i used to think before when someone has asked what did you do he says yeah nothing i used to think to myself what do you mean i didn't do nothing but it's true he didn't do nothing but لذلك there's a كتاب called a very important book i encourage you all to read it إن شاء الله تعالى it's beneficial it's beneficial it's written by شيخ حسين العوائشة it's one of the students شيخ الباني i don't know how his last name is mentioned or read ايهز كتاب كولد المضحرية الجوفاء وقطروها في دماري الامة فوكس him on your outer appearance and giving so much importance to that the evil effect that he has on the uma he wrote a book on that even though we spoke about that our previous episode some matters related to it when i mentioned it today as well again from the things he mentions أنه يتكلم أنه هو شخص يتكلم أنه لا يتكلم واشتغال الإنسان بما لا يعنيه له أو شبه بل إنه لا يقف عنده كونه مضيعة للوقت بما لا ينفع وفحسب ربما زاد على ذلك فكان ضرر على صاحبه في جسمه أو عقله أو ديني أو عرضه أو نفسه بعض الناس ليس فقط مجموعة with that which does not concern them but rather he wasted his time in that which does not benefit him rather he may even go overboard in doing things that will physically harm him or intellectually harm him or even harm his religion or his honor or his nefs they'll do things like that and from the things that fall under here واشتغال بما لا يعنيه busy yourself with that which is not concerning you is واشتغال بما لا يعنيه you sit down and you just gossip about people's personal life you're backbiting one person from another person to another person you're always just you have nothing else in life so you have to find yourself a job you have to find yourself on something to do so what does a person do? he sits about and he gossips talks about people you know have you heard us also? yeah this person yeah this person this person yeah this person this person what about you like that? and he busy himself with محطم Ifsad go on one person and say do you know what he also said about you? you don't know you never had skin he spoke about you he spoke about you I don't know where to start from and he goes goes again goes after that and speaks and says I don't wanna cause any problem between you two but like all I'm trying to say to you is you need to get your right do you mean I don't want to cause any problem and you say you need to get your rights أنت تساعد المساعدة لأنك تساعد المساعدة إلى المساعدة لذا هذا هو ما يفعله تلعب في مجموعة أن تكون لديك سنسية ومحاولة يعني المساعدة وكذلك يجب أن تفهم هذا as a principle as a Qa'ida أحد يأتي إلى أن يحدث عنك وكذلك يتحدث عن أشخاص أخرين يقول أنه أخي أخي أنه أخي فهم يتحدث عنك أيضا أعلم أنه as a principle as a Qa'ida هناك أخي هناك أخي يقول أن يحدث عنك يقول أنه أخي يقول أنه أخي أعلم أنه سيحدث عنك وكذلك سيحدث عنك كما يقول الأشخاص أخرى يقول الأشخاص أخرى عندما تلعب علىه لذا لا تكون شخص whose time is so irrelevant أنت ترد فيه مهمة أنت تفضل مع أخي هناك أكثر من the people that do that لأنهم يستطيعون أن ينقوا لأي لفتاة They want to live other people's lives they're looking at other people's lives I call them the backseat drivers yeah they want they want to control everything but they don't want to go forward you know so-and-so yeah he shouldn't have said that he shouldn't have done this why does he and actually you busy yourself with your أمور and your عائل and your family maybe you have a father who's not a muslim or you have a uh uh and some of your family members are not practicing the dean your own children are probably on the streets your own wife is متابرجة for example your own house is not in order you have internal problems just focus on that not just busy yourself with that and leave of these people you're gossiping about and you're talking about you yourself don't know how to pray the salah properly like the man who walked into the masjid of the professor الله عليه وسلم and when he walked into the masjid he gave the salams to the professor الله عليه وسلم after he prayed and the professor said to him ارجع فصلي فإنكلم تصلي go back and pray you haven't prayed the man went and he prayed and he came back to the professor السلام عليكم the professor عليكم سلام ارجع فصلي فإنكلم تصلي again second time go back and pray you haven't prayed the third time the man came and he said السلام عليك يا رسول الله and the professor إرجع فصلي وفإنكلم تصلي سلام عليكم سلام go back pray you haven't prayed and then the man said to the professor الله عليه وسلم يا رسول الله after three times he said يا رسول الله والليدي بعتك بالحق نبي لا أحسن غيرها هدافة علمني I swear by the lord who set you out as a messenger I can't pray better than this teach me and then the professor عليه وسلم I educated him taught him how to pray there are many people who are gossiping about other people's personal lives talking about it this this this this this they have never finished the Quran and the people they're talking about have finished the Quran they're talking about people who are holding on to their religion personally in private and public they're holding on to their religion with their families they're trying to nurture their children and they're trying to keep good relationship with their parents they're trying to take care of their neighbors and those who are closest to them you're not doing half of that you gossip about them you go online you say this you say that about them you have to just remember that what are you going to do يوم القيامة when you come and you become a muffless a muffless means a person is bankrupt the professor الله عليه وسلم said to this حابس he said اتدرون من المفلس do you know the person who's a muffless and they said يا رسول الله المفلس the muffless is the one who has no dinner or he has no the professor الله عليه وسلم he said المفلس who the muffless in my umma is the person who comes he insulted so-and-so he has slundered so-and-so he has hit so-and-so he's taken the wealth of so-and-so and the day of judgment he's going to come and those people he's wronged are going to be standing there waiting for him they take all of his good deeds all of the hard work that he put in they're just going to be taking it you see and then when his good deeds finish those people are not going to forgive you what are they going to do to you they're going to start giving you their sins they're going to say يا ربي I still have more he's been he's been back biting me even longer than that يا ربي I still need more but you have nothing to offer them because all your righteous deeds has been taken from you so what happens they give you all of their sins if that's the amount or they give you some of their sins are you able to do that brother are you able to do that sisters and this is something very common amongst the women it's a matter that's very common amongst women that they sit down and gossip about another sister and I remember one time a sister came into the mess street she came to do a ministry what's the benefit she wants to learn the dean of الله but she has a history she has a past things that she's done in the past but she's repented and a person who repents in islam what does the dean believe regarding a person who repents the one who repents has never done that sin in islam the one who repents is like he's never done that sin before you can't hold the person account for the past if he says to I repented and if people have to understand his brothers if a person says to I did that in the past that is the past I am the children I'm from the project of Adam I'm a sin I doomsyns and I repented you then come and you say I look sister didn't you say this and this and this but she says to our the brothers is to I repented hold your person account for something they repented from والله he shows how evil you are as a person if the person repented from that mistake الله is saying to you the messenger saying to you that that person's sin is forgiven cleared of the record you have no right to bring that up again you're not allowed to bring it even in the Qur'an when الله تعالى talks about the man speaking to his wife when she when she's when there's a conflict between the two of them and she's in the wrong for example and the husband speaks to the wife and tells a fear of Allah the wife then she repents from a mistake she says you know what I realized I was wrong I wronged you honey I wasn't meant to say this to you I wasn't meant to she repents she asks her husband for forgiveness and she says I'm I've come back to my senses and I should have never done this and I should have never said this and I should have never acted in this way you see الله سبحانه وتعالى he says in the Qur'an that the man should never come the husband should never come and bring back the past to that woman and say hey listen every time he feels the need to flex his energy or strength he reminds her of that moment and says you know what as an anchor you know are you not you know the person who said this that's why الله says in the ayah فَإِنْ أَطْعَنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبُّواَ عَلَيْهِ الْنَسَّبِيلَةَ ما معنى فَلَا تَبُّواَ عَلَيْهِ الْنَسَّبِيلَةَ if they obey you فَلَا تَبُّواَ عَلَيْهِ الْنَسَّبِيلَةَ don't use this issue of the past against them and that's what tends to happen from so many so many people so the sister she came to the message she wanted to practice the deen she had a past she repented no one has a no one كَا إِنَّ مَنْكَانَ has any rights to bring that past back we're happy we want gender for everybody is that not the case this person repented we're so happy we're joyful that a Muslim today walked into the message is is taking the deen serious we should be so happy and over the over the moon so the sister comes in and she sits down and she comes we have ill sick minded individuals in the community and it's always something you'll see they started to gossip about her they started to mention things about her they started to يعني all around her they're talking but they're never coming to her they all talk about how gossip this that that that they're even passing on some of the past things that she did in our past they're passing on in groups what's up groups and the sister just because it can't keep up with it anymore so she takes she lives off and the place where she should have felt home she should have been welcomed she should have been shown حمد لله we're happy you're part with you're with us those people what are they going to say to الله يوم القيامة when they start in front of him when they've sped غيبة النميمة and if sad another example and I'm mentioning these things لانة the situation calls for it another example is لانة and her husband for example they have a conflict and the husband is committed a sin in the past for example and the sin for example gets exposed to this community okay the husband repents the wife acknowledges that our husband repented she acknowledges it the wife and the husband they saw out their problem the sin is now rectified by repentance and الحمد لله everything is reassured the husband repented he mentioned that this is not going to happen from him again and guess what the community are bringing it up who are they truly going to hurt they're going to hurt the wife because our husband his sins and his shortcomings you're destroying a family they have kids for each other gossiping about this issue they've repented I mean the man has repented from that sin he's with his wife now he's left that sin he's left that wrong doings يعني it reminds me of the hadith of the woman who came to the prophet ﷺ and she repented and she committed zina before that and she had a child from the wedlock in the time of the prophet ﷺ and this woman when she committed the zina and the prophet ﷺ prayed on her the janaza okay he prayed the janaza on her ﷺ عمر رضي الله عنه he said يا رسول الله تصلي عليها وقد زنت are you gonna pray on this woman and she committed zina and he and this woman can she mentioned that she committed zina it's not that عمر it's just saying that she acknowledged that she came to the prophet ﷺ she told the prophet that she committed zina this woman the prophet is praying janaza on her he wants to pray janaza on her عمر said اتصلي عليها وقد زنت are you gonna pray صلاة on this woman and she's committed zina the messenger then said عمر انها تابت this woman repented توبح a repentance لو قسمت على سبعين من أهل المدينة لو سأتهم this woman repented a repentance that if that repentance was dispersed and divided among 70 people of مدينة she would overcome it upon the here and contemplate 70 people of مدينة if the repentance of this woman was divided amongst them she would overcome it how she repented the type of repentance that she came with so many people today don't understand that concept sometimes some people in their lives it's the sin that they do that brings them brings them close to الله سبحانه وتعالى a sin that they did became a turning point they repented a repentance that turned them around in their life that brought them closer to الله سبحانه وتعالى is it fair then you keep bringing it up the true sinner would not be that person who repented the sinner would be the one who is still mentioning and talking about it فتق الله يا عباد الله fear الله in what you say about others and the way you speak about others and the people's honor that you talk about والله it's gonna be it's not gonna be دينار and ديرحمي the day of judgment it's not going to be penny and pounds that's going to be taken from you يوم القيامة it's going to be يوم القيامة it's going to be حسنات people are going to take your righteous deeds people are going to say يا ربه he backbiting he spoke about me i want my deeds he spoke about me i want my deeds there are times in the religion that now what we mentioned six times when backbiting is permissible anything other than those six times in the شريعة you're not allowed to backbite you're not allowed to speak about people if you have high aspiration your life is not about other people's lives your life is about yours you live your life you're gonna be questioned in your grave not about اللان and فولان you're gonna be questioned about you and what your position in the religion is مرربك ما نبيك وما دينك you're gonna be asked about yourself it shows you have low aspiration ومن ذلك ان يشتغل نفسه بالقيل والقالي بيزين yourself with so-and-so said this and so-and-so said this some people they are masters they know everything that's happening in the community they know everything that's happening in the community they're they mastered it yeah so-and-so said this yeah yeah another another وكثرة السؤال asking too many unnecessary questions why are you asking a person about their life why do you why are you so concerned about other people's lives والإغراق بالمرائي والجدالي indulging and plunging into debates and argumentation that some people just everything is a debate actually just listen and take it why are you always arguing for you were told is حران خلاص you haven't got the knowledge to understand the discussion that the scholars are having in this matter stop using خلاف as a way out you don't understand the خلاف أصلان the evidence that this person brought to you just take it and stick to that stop arguing stop يعني arguing and debating is not for you you are a person who hasn't got any understanding of the religion okay you have no understanding just blind follow listen to what the imam is telling listen to the sheikh what he's telling you خلاص just take it and go home stop arguing the stop debating with him it was mentioned that نجد الحروري used to come to always debate with him every time would come to him and say ibn abbas i want to debate with you or ibn abbas would say something and he would come and he would debate with him and ibn abbas hated him and he was one of the figurehead of the خارج scholars they mentioned that if نجد الحروري was to leave of argumentation and debating and just listen to ibn abbas he would have benefited a lot from it one of the things that prevented him from benefiting from ibn abbas was the concept of it was excessively debated that was debates loves argumentations have you not seen a group have you not seen people group people just when you say something always turns out into a debate always an argument you don't you sometimes think how did i how did we get into this argument again just turns out to be an argument that's their character like in the person who has high aspiration the truth for them is a lost property they're going to take it they listen and say hey repeat that again let me hear that again well you've got a point which is like الله خير and i'm going to take that on board they don't argue too much that doesn't mean everybody who tells you something just listen and take it on board of course question them if you feel like you need to know more about it and if you have the ability to discuss the issue of course you've got the rights to discuss it keeping in mind who the person is if he's a teacher maybe it's another way to talk about it if he's a friend and a colleague of yours and you're discussing it in a healthy healthy manner and you're trying to benefit from one another or what you're trying to see is that this person can give you more benefits from it there's no problem لكن المراعي والجدال every time you just want to argue and have غالب عن سيطرة this really shows that there is a there's a in this person to know him low aspiration because all it is for you is me and me and there's some people who always like that whenever you come to them and you say حبيبي بارك الله في ا份 الله قنيه أهل always one thing in your life i think you should rectify this particular thing they have what is known as the victim syndrome is a group of people they suffer from what is known as the victim syndrome what does that mean it means every single time they are corrected they play the victim card yeah m Thr sciencesية you're gonna be someone just likes to bully me الناس لا يعرفون سفرانا ، أمامهم لا يعرفون كيف أمام هذا يجب أن تحدي في كل مكان ، يجب أن تحدي في كل شيء ويجب أن تأخذوا أول يوم لا تلعب في القرارة الملكة في كل مكان ويجب أن أمسك ويجب أن أمسك في هذا ويجب أن أتعلم بالأمر والله هذا الشخص يعمل معي ويجب أن تسأل ويسأل نفسك يمكنني أن أفهم يجب أن يكون في المخطل. هذا الناس يفتح شيء مكتب. يأخذ مكتب. يأخذ مكتب. في كل مكان ، يجب أن يستخدم هذا المكتب لأن هذا يوجد طريقك في كل شيء. هذا هو طريقك لتحديد مكتبك. هذا هو كيف يتحدث عن الأشياء. يظهر أنك يقوم بشكل مخطل من مقاومة. لا توجد أولول هم. يجب أن يكون أولول هم. يجب أن يأخذه. إذا كان يأخذه أكثر من المكتب ، يأخذه. يأخذه. أنا أخذه على محطة. أعلم أنه أنا. ويأخذه منه. يأخذه ، أخذه. سأعمل علىه. لكن إذا كنت تقوم بشكل مكتبك ، كل مرة ، مقاومة. أولاً عندما يأخذ مكتبك ، أنا المقاومة من هذا. أنت أنت من who's never going to lift their head up. والأول أهمي الذي توجد هو أنك أنت. وكذلك أنك تسأل على أن تقوم بشكل مكتبك. وإذا كنت تقوم بشكل مكتبك ، تحصل على أنك تستعمل. وكذلك أن تأخذ مكتبك على إصدارك. تأخذ مكتبك على إصدارك. أنت تساعدك على ما تفعله وكذلك. ثم تعمل إلى أجل المستوى التي تتعلم أخرى. أنت سكسس now. أنت سكسي. أنت سكسيك. لا تقوم بأخذه. أنت سيكون أحد الذي تنسى فايلة. لا تكون في أي طريقا تقوم بأخذه. أحد يريد أن تكون بسيب. بسيب. كل مرة أنك تقوم بشكل مكتبك. وكذلك أنت تعتقد أنك هي مكتبك. ومرد الله أنه يقول حاسبوا أنفسكم قبل أن تحصل. وزروها قبل أن توزنوا. تقوم بشكل مكتبك. الله تعالى سنة القرآن. يقولين أعملوا التقلّها والتنظر نفسهم مع قدمة لغد. وتقلّها. تقوم بشكل مكتبك. تقوم بشكل مكتبك. تقوم بشكل مكتبك. تقوم بشكل مكتبك. أنت تفعله لديك. قبل أن تفعله لك. يوم في دلوقة. بسيب. تفعل ذلك. ستوزن في حياة. وكذلك. ترى أن ترى الوضع في نهاية. إن شاء الله. سأتوقف. إن شاء الله. أخبر. يوم في دلوقة. يوم في دلوقة. ويوم في دلوقة. يوم في دلوقة. سبحانك الله ومحمده. أشدو الله. أستغفروا كواتو بيلي. السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته. كيف يمكنك تفعله؟ اعطي الآخر. الآن سوف تقوم بشكل مكتبك بشكل مكتبك. على هذا الشيط. سب.