 When the narcissist Stares at you when a narcissist Locks eyes with you They make eye contact It can feel Very creepy You will feel like something is not right You will feel this not in your stomach or in your solar plexus And you may feel very confused You may be wondering Why this person is staring at you What is their desired outcome or result the reality is when a narcissist Gives you this predatory stare it can only mean that they are desiring to take something from you Because they have nothing to give other than an illusion As I've said before they can only manipulate to abuse you they can't give you what you want Which as we know is love a Deep emotional connection True intimacy Maybe a long-term relationship a marriage children Maybe all of these things and yes, they may be aware that that is what you are desiring They can see it in your eyes, but they can't give that to you They can only give you manipulation and deception Lies and future faking The false character and illusion That's all that they can give Because they're not about it for real You can only be about these things if you're operated in the higher frequencies And you will know when someone is about that for real you will see it in their eyes You will sense it have to say the truth and the truth is that that is actually very rare especially in today's world It is something that I have experienced myself Where I have crossed paths with another empath and when you get by empathic stare It's like someone actually sees the real you They can read into your soul and it's like you feel like something is being healed inside of you it may also stir up a bit of Desire as well But it's more in a high vibrational way because that desire quickly turns into love and Peace as well in that moment. It just feels right Because you recognize you understand that this person is Desiring to uplift you rather than desiring to take something away from you but with narcissists No It's not going to be like that with them When a narcissist makes eye contact with you It's all about what they can take from you That doesn't mean that they actually see you or recognize you they can't see you Because they lack empathy so they cannot connect to you they cannot share your feelings or understand your experience What actually happens is when they make eye contact with you They are projecting this idealized version of themselves onto you That's all that that is and when they devalue you and they give you that narcissistic stare Then they're projecting everything they hate about themselves onto you And then they're using that to justify the abuse In some cases further manipulation of deception or even gaslighting as well But that's just it I've said it before and I will say it again as well Narcissists they live in this world with a population of one All they see when they interact with other people. It's not your either a reflection of This idealized version of themselves in their minds Or you're a reflection of everything they can't stand about themselves You're either one of the two and maybe sometimes you can be both I'm not completely sure about that That's something I need to look into further before I can explain that to you but as far as I know You're either going to be this projected Version of their false character everything They wish and they've been waiting for or you're going to be everything they can't stand about themselves But they're never going to be able to look into your eyes and See and identify the real you Because to do that you need to have empathy You need to have this desire and need to raise the vibrations on this planet Which of course narcissists They don't care about that But what they do care about is using people for their own needs That's what's important to a narcissist And yes, it won't feel good when they make eye contact with you When they look into your eyes Because no matter what they say to you No matter how they try to portray it you already know exactly what is going on You know that they are desiring to take your energy away from you Which is why whenever you get around them Your vibrations go down you feel confused Some of you may even feel Lower vibrational emotions of desire maybe even pride Anger shame fear guilt You will feel all of these things Because they're pulling you down They can only give you what they've got They can't give you anything different Sometimes they may be able to disguise it for a moment Sorry about all the noise As you know, I do try to get away, but unfortunately Wherever I go, there are a lot of lorries and cars waiting Bikes So not too much I can do about that But yes, they will give you this very cold stare And in that moment in that process, they are sucking the life and soul out of you That doesn't mean that your soul is gone or dead Because they are actually can't take it away from you It's something where you're like sharing a moment together They're consuming a part of you at that time, but it doesn't completely go away Because they can't really participate and consume it They have to pull you in their direction Into their vibrational state Because that's the only way that they can feel like they're alive They can't do that any other way and yes, it is very sad If you tune into your empathy When you're around them You will feel Very bad for them because that is often what they will try to project onto you, but if you are Very aware of your empathic abilities, you will be able to Disidentify From whatever they're throwing at you when the old you you may have Owned it yourself and thought that there was something wrong with you You would have taken on that fear anger guilt or shame But now what we tend to do is in past when we are aware we're intuitive in past We send it right back to where it belongs You project it right back to them and they don't like that Because then that allows you to remain in a high vibe state And that's what you really need to do when you're around them Because their power comes from getting you to resist Because when you resist certain things that they're throwing at you then You begin to feel the shame You begin to feel like something is wrong with you Which is exactly what they want because they want a trauma bond to you and leave you dependent on them for validation sad reality is that I certainly believe that narcissists do not have souls So to feel like they're alive they have to come around like come around people like me or you and Feed off our energy It sustains them It makes them feel alive The problem is they cannot Get your energy if you are being yourself If you are grounded in your body and mind And not in a manipulative or receptive state Where you are susceptible to them revelation If you're not in that state Then they cannot extract this energy from you So they have to pull you out of that state by feeding into your ego and Projecting this idealized version of themselves on to you Or by devaluing you Or another thing they will do is triangulate you with other people They will compare you to someone else and it could be in a good way or in a bad way But either way what they do it is they're trying to pull you out of your body They're trying to detach you from your soul So that they can jump into it And then they can partake in the fruits and the benefits of that And they will even take some of that and run off and Enjoy it with someone else Because they can't generate it on their own theories about it But yes, they do find it very sad That God or some higher power Allow these people to come down to this world without this Incredible ability that we have to generate This energy and these positive emotions from within yes, I actually find that very sad and I am very Compassionate towards those people Despite everything that I have been through with them in my life I can practice forgiveness and compassion from afar Of course, I don't like to get too close to these types of people Because as I've said all they're going to do is take And destroy They don't have the power or the energy to build you up Even when they try to take it from you because it only lasts for a very short period of time Which is why a lot of them become very obsessive they get addicted They become trauma bonded themselves And they develop these unhealthy attachments to you They become stalkers And once they've seen it in you they may see it in someone else and they'll already be ready They'll be ready for that next person with that predatory stare Ready to suck the life out of them too. Unfortunately. Yes. This is what these people will do It's very sick and twisted. Perhaps it is even demonic. I Mean it is the typical Narrative that you would expect Of something Dormonic from hell where these creatures these energy vampires come around people like us Solely to suck the energy and the life out of us Because they have nothing of their own They don't have it Which is why I will typically lack empathy for you as well They won't have any compassion for you Because they have no sense of self. It's like there's no person inside of them The lights are on but no one is home. So how can they give anything to you? But many of us we fall for the lies and the future faking You remain stuck for many years of your life And you're just waiting for something Thinking that one day they're going to change they're going to replenish you After all of the energy and emotions that you've invested in them, but I can tell you that that is never going to happen They don't have it to give to you. They're not even real people If they were real people they would have empathy They will be able to share your feelings and understand your experience But all they can do is take Your feelings and experience away from you That's the only way that they can experience it They don't experience it through you But it's almost like they embody you In that moment, it's like they steal your soul for a moment and you may even begin to dissociate as well You may feel detached from your body as though a demon has just entered you You may have out-of-body experiences when you are dealing Which is why when they come around you you will start to feel these intense negative emotions You will feel desire pride anger guilt and shame and You will feel this not In your solar plexus in your stomach. I can actually feel it right now as I'm talking about this But yes, you will feel it It will be there and that is your gut instinct your intuition It's this empathic ability that you have And you need to be aware of it. You need to pay attention to it Because This empathy it can be a gift but also a curse as well because with so much empathy But you're sharing other people's feelings and perspective and their experience You're tapping into them and just like you're Almost coming out of your body as well In order to please them to satisfy them to make them happy Because yes, they need your body your mind your soul your energy and emotions You could even say that they want to be you and Sometimes you may feel like you want to be them Just to please them just to make them happy because you can sense it empathically And even from the words that they tell you the things that they do the actions of behaviors a Lot of them just want to be you They just want to jump into your body and take control of it, which is why a lot of times. Yes, they will turn you Into this puppet where they're pulling the strings where they can control you And it may seem like at times they just give up on their lives And they dedicate and devote their life To controlling you they may even isolate you so that they become the your only source of influence Where they are then brainwashing you because there's an empath you share their feelings and perspective And it becomes even more important than your own and you can sense it when you're around them you can sense the shame But yes, they have literally given up on themselves They see no power in being themselves They have completely given up on that They want nothing to do with it at all And I believe that they gave up on it a long time ago, but many of us we won't Know that because we weren't around so we don't know exactly What happened there? Although some of you may know it depends on who the narcissist in your life is But the reality is that as an empath everything All of the people you're dealing with Are always going to be a reflection of You as I've said before they do not exist They are not real The power comes from you and you may even find that the things that you like your ideals your virtues all of these things These things that mean something to you It may not always be who you actually are as a person Maybe you like certain music Movies you like certain foods, whatever it is and no one told you to like these things It's just something that means something to you They will go and steal those things as well as your energy and emotions And they will run off with that and create their own identity When it never meant anything to them to begin with but they will use it to create an identity for themselves While fooling everyone in the process as crazy as that sounds that is exactly what they will do And a lot of them. Yes, they already know they're already aware, but it is them They know that they have all of these things mixed up in their heads But even knowing that they will never tell you They will hide it from you sometimes your entire life because they don't want you to know who you are They don't want you to be you Narcissists is that Because of their narcissism and they're self-absorbed and they lack empathy Once they've abandoned their true self There is no going back for them Because everything is projected outwards They don't deal with the shame inside So it's all over for them once they've abandoned their identity For us empaths, it's very different They may have stolen your identity. They may have erased you But luckily for us empaths we can start again whenever we like You can come back All of your passions and interests everything you lost You can get it back And you can bring it back a lot of times with your empathy Because you might come across other empaths who desire for you To be your true self And then all of these ideals and virtues these values that you had before you met the narcissist All of those things can come back as well But it all comes from you validating yourself as an empath no one can actually validate you Even when it seems like you're receiving validation You're watching this video right now, and you may feel like I'm validating you The truth is the power lies within you You're giving me permission to validate you So really you're just validating yourself And that's just how it works with empaths. It doesn't work that way with Narcissists, but guess as I said when you do come up come across a real empath It is a really amazing experience When they make eye contact with you And that is something they may not do often as well Because empaths are often very protective of their energy empaths tend to have very strong boundaries While narcissists are completely boundary-less They will step all over you But as empaths we tend to cherish life We care about animals nature Even insects some of us wouldn't even hurt a fly else It's because we have a strong sense of self, but it doesn't matter how strong of a sense of self you have Narcissists they will not be able to see it Doesn't matter what they do They will only see a projection of Their idealized false self For a projection of everything they hate about themselves They will never be able to connect with the real you it's impossible They can see you but they can't see you You can see you and you know that you're there But they can't see that and many of them they will Try and wait forever Hoping that one day they will be able to connect to the real you, but it's impossible They will never know you They will never be able to see that side of you even if it's right in front of them And the reason why is because they lack empathy When they come around you that only desiring to take So whatever you have it goes away when you're around them And then they start to believe that they're real and you're fake Because when they come around you they Take parts of you and you will never see the real them as well, but there's this Thing that we share that we both have in common as empaths and narcissists But narcissists when they have the narcissistic rage When you cause an injury There's like the split second and you can see it in their eyes and that is when they experienced the rage There's a small window When you can see the real them in their eyes you can see this a scared Child and that is when they will lash out at you But with us as empaths because of their narcissism they can never see the real us and less Because they bring us down to the lower levels of fear guilt and shame They can't really sense the higher vibrations. They're not even attracted to that at all They're only attracted to the lower vibrations So they can sense when you feel desire When you want something or when you want something to change And that's as deep as it gets for them They can't sense any of the higher vibrations But they can sense your desire and when a narcissist Is make an eye contact with you They also see that small window But they see the real you They see who you actually are Just for that split second And then they see it they see What you want They know it and then they will create illusions of What they think you want to see Well at the same time creating A false narrative which they were late to use for smear campaigns Networks to destroy you But the reality is that yes, they knew exactly what you wanted all along They could see it in your eyes Just as you can see it in their eyes when they rage When you cause an injury You can see exactly what they want Now that I can see it as well When you see the narcissist rage You see in their eyes I think we all know what do they want Destruction They want to destroy you When you cause that injury And there's no discipline, no self-control No empathy or compassion You see it in their eyes they want to destroy you They want to destroy Everything If it means that they can get to you If you were both on a ship they would sink the ship And drown you with them They would take down their own lives Just to get to you They would destroy everything Because yes you can see it in their eyes when they rage That's what they want Destruction And what do we want to impasse We all want the same thing And you can see it in our eyes They see it They can see that in a child that we have Only for a split second When first they make us feel a lot of Fear Anger, guilt, shame And then they present An illusion, revelation And if we're susceptible to it There will be that brief window where they can see it in our eyes Exactly what we want And what we want is Peace Love Joy That's what we all want as impasse Well Narcissus You can see it in their eyes they want destruction They want to destroy anything real Anything good They want to be the source of its destruction And yes that does give them a lot of supply It really does Knowing this information It should leave you better able to protect yourself By knowing that yes this is what they want And if you didn't know that before then I think I've just confirmed that to you And it's sad but this is just the way that they are And I could get into that as well But that's really for another video I can go very deep into that too But yes that's really it That's what they want is destruction Because at some level they do recognize Your power, your value They recognize that you are a good genuine person Who just wants to Experience peace, love and joy And share that with other people And they will only decide to take that away from you And from anyone else who it might otherwise come into contact with I know this may be quite a disturbing video for a lot of you But for me by this point I've experienced it all And all I want to do is just share this truth with you So I hope it is helpful Just came down here in the BMW To see this amazing view and share it with you So you can see it in their eyes No matter a person says or does to you It doesn't make a difference And it's never going to change No matter how much abuse or manipulation you've been through People will always see your intentions in your eyes They will know exactly what you want Typically with narcissists It is when you cause that injury Because all other times it can be difficult to see the real them Which when they're seeking something from you And then you see that narcissistic stare But with us it tends to be When they make us feel fear, guilt, anger or shame And then they present us with manipulation or an illusion And then we feel desire for something But whatever it is we tend to desire good things Peace, love and joy We tend to just want to give out That's just what we like to do And I could go deeper into it as well I think that's enough for this video I mean sometimes empaths do tend to have larger eyes Larger pupils Like almost like an innocent look in their eyes Where they seem receptive And they're receptive because they're trying to Figure something out They're trying to solve a situation They're trying to help, they're trying to give So they're not looking to take They're not trying to receive And we could argue Narcissists may have smaller eyes, smaller pupils This may not always be the case of course But that's typically what I have seen in my experience With narcissists They do tend to be squinting Like they're trying to send something in you Like they're trying to see what you want so they can manipulate you They're trying to take something from you But this is just my theory from my own experience It's not something that I've researched So if you believe that you have smaller eyes or smaller pupils Please don't take this as an offence or anything Because this is just based on my own experience And it may have been a different experience for you But yes I think it's something to be aware of as well Because we think of children as innocent And they tend to have larger eyes, larger pupils They're not looking to take so much They tend to be more higher vibrational And as well when your eyes are open It means that you're more receptive When you have larger pupils You're able to absorb the energy But as we know narcissists seem to have a lot of difficulty When it comes to energy They can't generate it from within And also they're not typically attracted to high vibrational people But they will still come around you Because they desire to take to leech off your energy Which is why a lot of times you may find That they just come in with a love bombing They steal your energy and then they ghost you Then they're gone And then sometimes again they may come back with a hoover Just to take some more But they'll always take it back to where they know they belong Which is typically around their enablers or flying monkeys Which might have been you at one point And when we're around them We do sink down to the lower vibrations as well We take on their fear, their guilt, their shame Even their desires at times And we think that these emotions belong to us But when you get away from them and you go no contact You spend some time by yourself to heal Then it feels amazing You feel like you finally found peace And even love for yourself Because you have Because you can But narcissists No They can't do any of that But this is something that we can do And we should Continue to do it Of course it's very difficult to do when you're around them It's something that I've been practicing It's not easy to do at all I'm not 100% sure if it is possible But to maintain Because I consider myself to be very high vibrational To maintain This high vibration Around narcissists It's something that I've struggled to do myself I'd love to know if it's worked for you So you can let me know about that in the comments down below But typically what works for me Is If I'm not around Narcissists At the current time Self-reflection Meditation Spending time in nature with animals These types of things could be very effective at replenishing Your energy But if you're doing these things around narcissists That actually opens you up It gives them Greater access to your energy Which is why whenever you're doing something Where you seem distracted You're focused You're learning You're receptive to something You're giving energy out So then it'll come around you And take it And you'll feel depleted Which can happen Even if you're around them And you are Watching high vibrational content on your phone Or you're listening to music Or even if you go to a park or a beach together You won't be able to experience the full effects of it Because although you're open You're aware You're receptive to it It will push you off that frequency And while you're receptive in that moment They will be able to steal your energy So you do need to be very cautious of that If you think that it's helping you sometimes When you're playing music When you're around them And not saying that it can't Of course it does depend what type of music Because they will tend to use it against you as well And distort the meanings and interpretations of it It gives them an opportunity to project their negative energy onto you So these are all important things to be aware of They will filter Their Values, beliefs, perspectives and experiences through you And then you will begin to take on that energy And of course it will never be anything good It will always be something negative from them And of course they will always come up with some reason or excuse Some justification It will always be because of something you've done Maybe you don't have enough money You're not attractive enough They will always Pitch this Goal or something you have to obtain In order to finally please them and make them happy But no matter what it is, it cannot be achieved Even if you strive to achieve it And one day you finally get it They will move the goalposts Or they will see something wrong with it They will use the double bind You can never achieve their impossible expectations Because even if one day you did manage to do that Then that would mean that they'd have to give something to you And what can they do? Just not be a narcissist anymore It wouldn't work So all they can do is move the goalposts They can't do that for you It's not possible Narcissists are takers They're not looking to give or share And many times when you're around them You're isolated and they're your only source of influence They will project their desires onto you And you will find that you're taking that on And because you feel depleted, you've been neglected You may start to think that you want that as well And it's really crazy But they can actually get you to believe certain things About yourself that you desire and want And you may actually start to believe it And they can gaslight you and bring up things from the past To make you believe that it's true for you And it can drive you insane And sadly even in some experiences The victim or target can move on and still think that that is what they want When they wanted something very different Before they got around the narcissist So yes, that's something important to pay attention to as well And to remember to just trust your gut instinct, your intuition And when you're around them ask yourself What are they trying to get me to think or believe? What are they trying to get me to do? Once you become aware of it, you break the spell It destroys the illusion Because you're no longer being pulled into that frequency When they pull you into these frequencies It's typically at your expense You're not willingly doing it So they're pulling you out of yourself and out of your own character And into whatever they want you to be Which typically has something to do with them It has nothing to do with you Yes, I know I've gone really deep on this one A lot of important information But I hope it vives with you I hope it will help you in your situation And as always you can show your support by giving this video a thumbs up down below Let me know your thoughts in the comment section Hit that subscribe button To receive the notifications for my future videos And if you'd like to book a one on one with me You can do that from my website It is NarcSurvivor.co.uk And also there is my Instagram I have new pictures and videos of my travels on there Every day So follow me on Instagram, it is NarcSurvivor YouTube Alright, that's it for this one But I will speak to you in another video very soon I'd just like to thank you all for joining me And you all have a great day