 Like I said earlier, when we look at where men are going to when they leave this country to find wives, they're not going to places with curvy women. If men were going to South Africa, I'd be like, you know what? You got it. Men are going to Thailand. Yeah, tiny. Petite women. So you're a very rational person, right? Do you feel like you're a brethren? Your fellow counterparts would think the same way. And to kind of give context to the question, we see a lot on podcasts or even in the comments of some videos that women over 25 who are still single, they're kind of like the leftover women. Something has to be wrong with them. And so they're already coming in with this stigma of what a woman is or is not based on her age. So going back to the question about women who are 28 plus, do you think that is something that is a legitimate concern that we should have, that we have a negative perspective? And I'll explain why. The fertility thing aside, I think the main concern, and I'm speaking as somebody who primarily, shoot, other than my daughter's mom, every woman I dated was older than me. What tends to happen with older women is they tend to be stuck in their ways. They tend to not be as malleable. They tend to not be as agreeable. Because it's one thing for you to be younger than me and think by default that I ain't shit. It's a completely different thing for you to be older and wiser than me and think I ain't shit. And I think in a lot of men's experiences, after women cross a certain age threshold, they're not as receptive to critique. They're not as willing to get on your program. She has her career. She's not about to follow you with yours. So when men are thinking from a long-term standpoint, do I want somebody who is going to be my help me? Or do I want somebody who's going to be like my older sister, or we're going to clash? So I think from that perspective, I think if you're under 35, you're still good, but you just have to do a little bit more to prove to men that you're not this beyond reproach, you can't tell me shit, you're a little boy as woman. Because our default assumption is going to be that. And I think there's some default assumptions, like I talked about earlier, that women have a man that we as men need to care to. So similarly, yeah, most men are going to be like, okay, what's going on? Let's go, nobody, nobody tried that, you know what I'm saying, what's going on? So in understanding men's perspective and appreciating men's perspective, not necessarily you have to prove yourself, but you have to be mindful of it. Let's go ahead and have questions. You look good, and you did. What's going on? What's happening? Right? And I know women like that where honestly, it's just that she doesn't want it. That's the only reason it hasn't happened. I know other women, and I think this is the majority is they want to want it, but they don't really, really want it. They want to want it. They want the aesthetic, they want the benefits, but they want any of the responsibility that comes along with monogamy or long-term relationship. That's the only reason. And to your video, she's a woman, she's a treasure. So it comes with self-awareness and being able to articulate it to yourself and to the guy, because he deserves to know, it's a fan, it's a fan. If you've been outside, it's fan of why you look good, and you 35, and nobody, like you're strong. Yeah. Yeah. It's like wanting the wedding, but not wanting the marriage. Come on out. They say. I think it's so much more layered than that though, and it's like, I understand that I think those are valid things that happen. Let's peel them back. Let's peel them back. Let's go. You talked about my video, and so, I mean, I think abandonment issues are a very valid thing, right? And I think what is happening with this generation of women, millennials, maybe even a generation before that is that we're seeing the full after effects of having a broken family dynamic. And so that's different than some of the things that we compare to in the past with our grandparents and things like that. And so one of the characteristics of women who have abandonment issues is that they subconsciously seek men who are emotionally unavailable. So going back to what you were saying about wanting the six-figure guy who's the asshole versus the nice guy, and you kind of overlook him, I think a lot of that is rooted in what we're seeing as well. So it can't just be discounted as she doesn't really want it. Maybe she does, but she needs to uncover the reason why she's moving in that way. I agree completely. From the perspective of the guy, especially the guy who, like most of us isn't a psychology nerd, they're going to stop it. She doesn't really want it, right? Especially if I have an alternative woman that does want it and is willing to, because my biggest thing has always been its value, right? Because black women at scale understand who they need to become to get a job at Google. They understand who they need to become to get into corporate America, get into HR, get into entrepreneurship, whatever the case may be. And they're willing to contort and conform themselves to the requirements of the industry that they're interested in. But when it comes to a man, it seems to be the case that no, that industry should conform to me. The man should conform to me. And a lot of dudes are saying, like, you know, I've done the work, I can't conform to this shit. Because at the end of the day, why would I conform to you when if somebody pulls out a gun, I'm supposed to jump in front of it for you? So if you're not willing to listen to me, I can't protect you. And it seems to be the case that women who are over a certain threshold are less willing to listen. So for a man who's done all the things to get all the sixes, it doesn't look like a good proposition, so let's use the job analogy. It's part of the reason why some companies now are moving away from hiring 10-year people. And they're going towards like college students, because they're more maleable. You know, I don't have to. But this is what I worked in banking. The company I was working for started an initiative to actually train people on how to become mortgage loan officers. And one of the instructors told us that some of the more seasoned people in this industry, people who were loan officers in 2008, they're jaded. And they have a lot of baked in bad habits that they're unwilling to part with because they worked for them at some point. But you guys are a fresh, brand new slate, and we can actually shape you in the way we want you to go. Men see women this exact same way. So if you see value in the men and understanding men, you must be willing to compete in, you know, so you can still get a job as a loan officer being old, but you have to show that you're not jaded. Yeah, you know what I mean? And you can only do that if you see value in that job. Okay, so what are some of the ways that a woman can and should compete for a man? I think number one, you have to identify the type of man you are. And you have to identify why you want him, right? And it some of it can be superficial. Sure, it can't all be superficial because the superficial shit won't last. Same with men, right? Like she's bad, but like as somebody who's dated bad women, after a while, she just looks normal to you. Like she, I remember like one of my boys, he's got a Mercedes GT, the nerds and who are watching, they know that car, that shit, fine. And he was telling me, he was like, man, the last time I remember that I had this car was when my homeboy asked me to drive it around the block. And I was like, oh, shit, that's, that's what I'm pulling up here. But he's been driving it so long, you forget. So like, you know, to take it deeper, it's called the Hedonic Treadmill, Hedonic Adaptation. We are going to get used to how you look. Similarly, the woman, you're going to get used to his beardedness and the whole nine. So are you prioritizing the things that are going to last past that phase of being infatuated with his aesthetic? So yeah, so once you do that, and once you consolidate your list, your long ass list, consolidate your list, you know what I'm saying? Then number one, I think you will start opportunities that you might have entertained before might not, you might not identify them anymore and opportunities that you might have overlooked before you might now be able to identify them. There are a lot of women, a good man could be standing right in front of them, they will know they don't even see him because he's not at least my height or taller, right? Or he's not wearing whatever the fuck, right? So so I think after that is just a matter of continuing to do the work and just power these men. That's it. That's that's that's really it. Because to your point, you have a Steve. She has a Steve and maybe Steve is for you. Maybe he's not, but there's some other steams that you've been overlooking as well. Maybe there's a Steve you went into with a coffee shop that you look at and him like this nigga short. Oh, yeah, this is that. And you just blacked your blessing. OK, get that 100 percent. You don't think men do that too, though. And I understand that you got physical apparent. Absolutely. But that's the same thing if a woman is to overweight or if she isn't as curvy as you like, she could be a woman of value in so many other ways. And so I think it's something that we both struggle with. I would say women were so the men only because. Like I said, early when we look at where men are going to when they leave this country to find a watch, they're not going to places with curvy women. If men were going to South Africa, I'd be like, you know what, you got it. Men are going to Thailand. Yeah, tiny, a T2 of it. Men are going to Taiwan and shit like that. Yeah, we have to. And, you know, that goes back to gaining an understanding of men. In my gaining an understanding of women, I've realized over the years what women say they want and what they actually want are necessarily the same thing for men who a man would more quickly sleep with versus who he's going to marry. Not the same thing, right? Not the same thing. And I think one of the things that we're failing at as a community is. I think our women are prioritizing being chosen first instead of being chosen last. That sounds counterintuitive as a motherfucker, but like you want to be chosen last, not first. Like there was a woman, I think on Tiktok, she she made a video talking about why do men always settle down with like playing games. Like the gas, I was thinking of, yeah. Talk to men, they'll tell you. I'm looking for a grandmother to my future grandchildren. Not the baddest bitch on the block. I've had the baddest bitch on the block. I know what that comes with. I don't want that. That's cool to finish. You make my dick hard, but that's not what I want. So again, like, are you playing basketball or are you playing handball?